I have felt very flattered over the past week to have received two mentions in
The Real Neat Blog Award series of posts.
Firstly by
Tami at
kinkybikermom and then by
Catherine SassyCat at:
sassycat3000.net . . . both of whom are fabulously fun and
enviously prolific bloggers from America.
In keeping with the
Real Neat Blog Award theme, they both sent me a number of questions to answer which I have set out to do as best I can below.
Tami and Sassy both: T & S:
Q: What was the reason you decided to start blogging?
A: I’ve been so lucky to have a wonderful “open-marriage” and enjoyed a polyamorous lifestyle with my Hubby for over 30 years. I’d been writing diary accounts of my liaisons with my lovers, and of our swinging experiences for almost all of that time. Initially it started as almost just a list of dates, whens and wheres . . . a way of keeping track I suppose (LOL!!!) But as time passed, and I started adding more “details” it became obvious how much both Hubby and I enjoyed flicking back through the pages from time to time. (This was before the age of home-computers!!!) It made our own next-few-nights afterwards even more fun and exciting.
But the blog itself was started almost as a joke, or dare really. Hubby and I had been idly channel-hopping on the TV and stumbled across one of those technology programs. It was all about the explosion of “normal people” using blogging sites to blog about their hobbies or interests. I joked to Hubby “I could start a blog on how much I love sex”. He said “I dare you! You could post all those diary entries you’ve been writing for years and years” . . . and a few days later Modesty Ablaze was born.
The name Modesty Ablaze came about from one of my “Cougar Moments” with an extremely energetic young man at our local Swingers Club one evening. After we emerged from the “viewing room” to a round of applause from quite a crowd of on-lookers, I blushed and giggled to my young lover “you’ve sent my modesty up in flames”. He replied “Modesty Ablaze”.
T&S: Has that reason changed throughout time?
A: I never imagined anyone would even FIND my blog, let-alone find it interesting. But within a few weeks I started receiving more and more visits . . . and some lovely flattering and sweet emails, comments and lots and lots . . . and lots . . . of questions about our lifestyle. And that really made it obvious to me just how so many people still don’t talk to their partners, or share their thoughts and desires. So I suppose I began more and more to want to say to anybody visiting Modesty Ablaze “look, it doesn’t matter whatever your age, whatever your shape, whatever your gender, whatever your relationship . . . life should be about having fun, communicating all your desires and your fantasies (especially your fantasies), sharing those moments with your loved ones and those around you”. So yes my reasons for continuing with Modesty Ablaze have changed . . . and I hope some of my posts may have helped change others (for the better!)
TQ: Are there other bloggers whose work has given you inspiration? If so, share with us the post and their post that gave you inspiration.
A: I try and follow and try to read, as many posts by as many different bloggers as I can . . . and as time allows (providing it doesn’t interfere too much with my “social life” of course! LOL!!!) . . . and there are far too many inspirational people to list here. But if you
really, really, need some clues to my most visited blogs you could see my
Favourites from 2014 List that I included in a Marvellous Year at #wickedwednesday >
here<.
SQ: What was the best and worst advice you received when you started your blog? What’s the advice you offer to those just starting out in the blogosphere?
A: Hubby saying “you can’t possibly blog like you talk!” is the best AND the worst advice!!!My advice to anyone starting out would be the same advice I give to ANYONE about ANYTHING “If you’re not having fun doing it, then don’t do it !!!”
TQ: If there was one question you could ask your favorite blogger what would it be?
A: How on earth do you manage your time so efficiently to blog every day ???
SQ: Where do you see yourself in 5 years of blogging? What is your ultimate goal for your blog?
A: If I’m not still having fun doing it, there won’t be Modesty Ablaze in 5 years.The ultimate goal for my blog is to: Make people smile, make people happy, make people feel good about themselves and . . . therefore make the people around them feel good about themselves!!!
TQ: Did you ever see yourself as any type at all blogger? (The underline is for whatever label you give your blog. Sex, kink, dating, etc.)
A: No !!!
SQ: What are some adjectives you would like your readers to use to describe your blog and why?
A: Sexy and Fun !!! (Because “If you’re not having fun doing it, then don’t do it !!!”)
TQ: What website on the entire web, besides your own, do you spend the most time on?
SQ: How important are blog stats, page ranks and comments for you?
A: I don’t have enough time to investigate or worry about stats or page ranks (what are they even?). But it is always nice to receive comments and email messages (I still try to answer every sensible one).
TQ: Gotta ask one toy question. Name your absolute favorite sex toy. (More than one is fine.)
A: Hubby !!!
SQ: Describe a typical blogging day for you. (What you do first, etc.)
A: Try to write down what happened the night before!!!
TQ: Last one is just for fun. Who is your favorite superhero and why?
SQ: What is your favorite blogging meme to take part in and why?
A: Scavenger Hunt of course! . . . Why ? . . .
It’s thrilling and FUN!!!
So, thank you so much to Tami and Sassy for asking me those questions above. It was actually quite a fun, and easy part of this Real Neat Blog Award. The difficult part is choosing who to ask some questions of my own because, as I mentioned before, there are so many blogs I love visiting to read so many arousing and erotic words . . . and . . . gaze with envy at so many lovely, arousing and erotic photographs!!!
But . . . You know I am ALWAYS curious to know from other people, two of those same questions that both Tami and Sassy asked me.
1. What made you start blogging? (Yes, I know it is a recurring question, but it is interesting to know isn’t it!)
2. Has that reason changed throughout time?
But also things I am always curious about whenever I’m scrolling through a new blog or posting.
3. How did you come about your blog name?
4. Do you share your blog with your partner / special friend before you make each post?
5. Your lifestyle obviously influences your blog, but has your blog, or reading other blogs you have discovered via your own, influenced your lifestyle?
6. How on earth do you manage your time so efficiently to blog?
And the people I’d most like to ask those questions of?
Well . . . and I realise that some of them may have already been nominated, or participated, so they may not thank me for asking . . . but I would actually like to ask those questions of:
Xxx – K
I’m often asked what I get “from having a blog” and people sometimes look surprised when I reply “It’s helped me feel better about myself”.
