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December 31, 2014 · 11:04 am

Marvellous Year #wickedwednesday

ModestyAblazeCollar3This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is ushering in the New Year . . . so it seems fitting to look back on the last twelve months as well as looking forward to the year ahead.

2014 really has been a busy . . . and simply marvellous year!!!
A year in which I’ve made many new friends . . . and continued to have marvellous times with existing ones.

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A year in which I have had a number of new . . . and fun . . . videos released at my favourite entertainment site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, including more of an exhausting but sexciting session with Lover No.36, a wonderfully spontaneous, special moment with She Lover, and a return to the Dungeon for more bondage fun with Lover No.14.

I really do love MakeLoveNotPorn.tv . . . and I love being part of it . . . (I try to explain just why in my YouTube video above).

DiamondDream2I was also delighted to be asked to review a number of new sex-toys during the year including items from Lelo, Lovehoney, Nomi Tang, Uberkinky and A Touch of Glass.

So I wanted to say a special “thank you” to those people who sent me those items for review. My Toy Reviews page has more information on these . . . and you can view my video reviews for The Infiniti Dual-Stimulation Vibrator >here< or The Diamond Dream Glass Dildo >here<.

The Perfect SubmissiveThis year was also very exciting for me as it marked publication of the second and third instalments of my all-time favourite erotic read “The Perfect Submissive”, written by my all-time favourite Erotic Authoress, Kay Jaybee. Kay writes the most erotically charged, and arousing, collection of words I have ever read. Every chapter of “The Perfect Submissive Trilogy” left me wanting more but just having to put the book down to . . . well you know why!!!

And, STOP PRESS, even more sexciting news! Xcite Books announced just last month that they have asked Kay to write one final instalment in the series. Due to be published in 2015, I am tingling already!!!

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2014 was also the year in which I really began to enjoy the fun and excitement of my BDSM and Femdom experiences.

Largely of course from the encouragement of Lover No.14 and our wonderful time at The Hoxton Dungeon Suite.

Since that first dungeon-night I’ve been lucky enough to have had several more dungeon sessions booked for me in order to indulge in, and expand on, my Domme experiences. I’ve also enjoyed visiting a number of BDSM and Fetdom club nights around London . . . and I certainly hope to be exploring these fun “alternatives” even further in 2015.

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And, of course, 2014 was also the year I managed to meet-up with the wonderful Curvaceous Dee, in her home town, and indulge in some fun Two-For-One posts at one of my favourite pastimes >Scavenger Hunt<!

Not only is it great fun, but it is also a celebration of expressing ourselves and our sexuality. I truly do encourage you all to join in and Dare to Bare!!!

Polaroids PastAnd 2014 was also the year of “outing from my wardrobe” our photo-album collection from years gone by.

Lot and lots of naughty-but-fun photographs from the past 30 years, which Hubby has been laboriously scanning into his computer and turning into my occasional Polaroids Past archive.

It’s been fun re-living the memories, but also reminding myself that we all have to accept the way our body just naturally changes and develops throughout the course of our lives.

But from sharing all of that fun and excitement of the past year here on my blog,  I truly hope that I have also been able to have given you all lots and lots of good reasons to smile and giggle and feel some sense of fun as well.

Because that is why I blog . . . just in the hope that my posts may bring a smile to peoples faces, make them feel happier . . . and perhaps even inspire someone to open-up and express and share their own desires and expectations within their own day-to-day lives and relationships.

Modest Thank You’s – 2014

My End-of-Year, Must-Visit Blogs List has been so difficult to compile this year. Just as I’ve discovered new interests (LOL!!!) and new friends, I’ve also discovered new bloggers and new blog pages.

So I thought I would just simply list, in no-particular order of preference, the pages that have given me the most fun and giggles . . . or most inspiring moments of 2014.

A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind Bobbie Morgan’s site is packed full of fun and interesting as well as educational stories, images and links.

Curvaceous Dee . . . home of the Scavenger Hunt, but many more fun and interesting posts besides.

Girl On The Net . . . irreverent, funny, opinionated, enlightening . . . and always entertaining.

Beck And Her Kinks  .  . . toy reviewer, inspiring meme contributor, and surely the busiest sex-blogger ever.

Penny For Your Dirty Thoughts . . . Always amazingly creative, and naughty, photography . . . and wonderfully informative toy reviews galore.

Rebels Notes . . . Curator of Wicked Wednesday, Kinky Submissive, Erotic Writer . . . I’m in awe of her daily posts.

Molly’s Daily Kiss . . . Creator of Sinful Sunday, Host to The Pussy Pride Project and E-Lust Memes, Erotic Photographer extraordinaire, Erotic Writer . . . and more!

Tiny Nibbles . . . Violet Blue’s blog is THE most comprehensive Sex and Erotica news-site you could ever wish for. Links and stories of sex and scandals, and rights and wrongs from all over the world.

A Sexy Woman of A Certain Age . . . I’ve only come across Erica’s wonderful blog in the latter half of this year. But her classy and stylish blog features so many inspiring posts that always seem to resonate for me.

And I could go on . . . and on . . . as there are of course, so many other inspiring and delightfully fun and entertaining blog pages I try to visit as often as I can . . . far too many to add here.

But that’s part of the fun of exploring isn’t it . . . and if you would like to recommend a blog or website that inspires and motivates you and would like to recommend it to others, please do let me know!!!

Finally . . . I would like to thank everyone who has commented on some of my posts during the year . . . or especially taken the time to email me personally with thoughts, comments and questions. I really, really do appreciate all of your messages and I hope I’ve been able to answer everyone who has contacted me.

I wish you all a Happy, Healthy, Fun
and of course . . . Sexy . . . 2015.
May all your hopes and desires be fulfilled!!!

For more thoughts and hopes and desires for the New Year, just stroke Marie’s Wicked Wednesday  button below.

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Xxx – K

 

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December 17, 2014 · 9:18 am

Hair to Bare #wickedwednesday

Hair . . . or Bare? It is of course a matter of personal preference . . . and certainly back in 1985 it had never crossed my mind as to be anything other than “au naturel”!!!

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Polaroids Past . . . Modesty au naturel in 1985.

And yet as soon as my “personal hair” had started growing, I’d always shaved my armpits . . . because as mother had told me “nice girls do”!!! But there was never any mention of shaving “further down below”.

It wasn’t until I discovered Nina Hartley, and her wonderfully fun and liberating movies, that I was tempted to shave my pubic hair.

Both Hubby, and my regular lover at the time (No.1), declared they loved it.
The smoothness of the “look” . . . and the smoothness of the “feel”. And so I continued.

But as time went by, I found the daily maintenance required to be tiresome . . . and time-wasting! So I began booking regular waxing appointments . . . and have just continued to do so. All of my lovers over the past years have seemed to comment approvingly . . . and so I remain . . . bare below.

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Bare kisses from Modesty Ablaze – 2012

But, as I say . . . I know it is really a case of personal preference and I am sure you will find many diverse, and interesting, opinions on the subject at this week’s Wicked Wednesday from the button below.

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Xxx – K

 

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December 10, 2014 · 8:45 am

Exorcising Modesty’s Skeleton . . . #wickedwednesday

WomenBehindWordsI’m sure we all have “Skeletons in the Closet”, some so personal and private that we would never wish for them to be disclosed.

But opening up my own skeleton (this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday) led to the most wonderful, emotional release that changed my life forever . . . and for the better!

I left home and moved in with my husband-to-be at just 19, not long out of school . . . but swept off my feet. Life was fun and fulfilling and we married two years later. Pre-children, and with Hubby working seven days a week starting a new business, I slowly began finding myself bored with my evenings-alone home-making and decorating our new flat. And with more and more time on my hands

. . . a new job of my own gave me new interests and new friends, one of whom was rather dishy! Lunchtime coffees, turned into after-work drinks. And after-work drinks turned into after-work meals . . . and, somehow, after just a few weeks, I suddenly found myself involved in an extra-marital affair.

It wasn’t that I’d fallen out of love with Hubby, it wasn’t that our own sex had become unfulfilling or routine . . . it was just that someone else desired me, flattered me, interested me and I found that interest, and flattery exciting and entrancing . . . and I just couldn’t resist.

Of course I felt terribly guilty after each meeting . . . telling myself each time that it would be the last. But I couldn’t stop myself and the affair continued. After all, it wasn’t as though I expected, or even wanted, a permanent relationship with my new lover. I didn’t want to change my life, or his. We both knew the times we were together were just something different and exciting and just-for-the-moment. And the fact that sex with Hubby immediately after a meeting with my lover, seemed to reach new heights of lust and passion, just added to the excitement of my secret life.

But . . . as time passed and the excitement of our lover-liaisons began to assume almost a normalcy of their own . . . those nagging feelings of guilt began to return. I was cheating on someone I truly loved . . . I was living a lie. I knew it wasn’t right, it wasn’t how it was supposed to be.

I can still remember the evening I told Hubby I was having an affair . . . still remember the song he was playing on the stereo as I sat down beside him on the sofa . . . still remember his question “Well, do you want to tell me something?”

I blurted out my “confession” . . . thinking all the while that it would shatter our world, that he would explode with feelings of betrayal and that it would be the end of our marriage. But INSTEAD Hubby told me he’d suspected it for months, not knowing the who or where, but suspecting the when and how often.

And to my amazement, he said he not only understood my feelings of flattery and excitement . . . and my giving-in to temptation . . . he actually wanted me to continue the relationship, to continue to enjoy the freedom and excitement of what was mine, and only mine, to give. The fact that he wasn’t jealous, wasn’t outraged or upset . . . was just the most wonderful, emotional and loving feeling I had ever felt.

That moment changed our lives and I truly believe, made our relationship EVEN stronger and more loving and more fulfilling than either of us could ever have imagined.

That day was over 27 years ago! The affair with Lover No.1 continued, with Hubby and he meeting and becoming friends. And over the years since there have been many more lovers . . . and many more wonderful and incredible adventures . . . and new chapters that still continue to open before us.

And when I often . . . very, very often . . . think how wonderfully fun, and loving, and exciting our years together have been, I thank God that I did open my Closet Doors and exorcise that Skeleton!!!

You are sure to find many more Skeletons in The Closet by gently knocking on Marie’s button below!

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Xxx – K

 

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November 19, 2014 · 9:00 am

Modesty’s Back Pages . . . #wickedwednesday

This week’s Wicked Wednesday theme is “Looking Back” and, of course,
I just couldn’t resist “looking back” with one of my Polaroids Past photographs from 1983.

But, I really, really, really don’t want to bore you all . . . so, if you are growing tired of faded, old (and hairy!) photographs from my Back Pages . . . please look away now!!!

My Modest Apron 1983

This picture is especially for the lovely She Lover . . . a picture of me modestly modelling my apron in my “brand-new kitchen” in 1983!!!

You are sure to find lots more people Looking Back by gently tapping on Marie’s button below!

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Xxx – K

 

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October 29, 2014 · 4:00 pm

First Times? . . . Keep having them!!! #wickedwednesday

MistressModestyRedWheelThis week’s Wicked Wednesday theme is “First Times” . . . remembering one’s first-time experiences in love, lust and sexual adventures.

But . . . when you get to my age . . . remembering “first-times” can often be a bit of a blur. Especially as there have been so many first times! LOL!!!

So . . . my advice . . . is to keep having First Times! Try new things, new experiences, new adventures!

I did just that this past weekend! Having a new submissive hire a dungeon, just for me, to worship (and lovingly massage) my feet, to feel my crop, to have me strap them to the Bondage Wheel (wow!!!), and to beg . . .

MistressModestyWheel1. . . for my strap-on!!!

So, as I say, my advice is to Keep Having First Times . . . it’s so much more fun that way!

And I’m sure you’ll find lots more about First Times by slapping on Marie’s button below!

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Xxx – K

 

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October 8, 2014 · 8:00 am

A sense of touch #wickedwednesday

Twisted BallsA sense of touch . . . a twist of passion . . . a shock of pain . . . a rush of blood
. . .  a blur of emotions . . . a shout of excitement . . .
the joy of success . . . the sweet smell of release.

All our senses shared . . . all our senses spent.

This week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt is “Senses” . . . and you are are bound to find more senses-shared by clicking on Marie’s button below!

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Xxx – K

 

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October 1, 2014 · 8:49 am

Flickers of Hate at #wickedwednesday

Not a poem, nor a story, on this week’s Wicked Wednesday theme “A Flourish of  Hate”. More a reflection on that little negative word we all use . . . and negative emotion . . . we all feel from time to time.

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Sharing some heart-shaped “love-instead-of-hate” courtesy of Hubby’s bum!

Despite knowing better, I felt flickers of hate on Sunday morning when I awoke to an email from YouTube. Someone had complained to them about my video review of the Doxy Massager . . . so they had “removed” it from my Channel.

“How could they do that?” I ranted to Hubby, “I’m not naked in it, there’s not even any naughty words!!!”. I hated the injustice, I hated the complainer . . . and I hated YouTube!!!

“Calm down, count to ten” Hubby replied. “It was probably just someone having a bad day, maybe even one of Doxy’s competitors. The world won’t come to an end”.

And, of course, he’s right. It was just my momentary flicker of upset and outrage that someone could have taken offence at me talking about a vibrator! The video had over 6,000 views, so some people had obviously enjoyed it. And like all of my videos, I had meant it just as a slightly tongue-in-cheek, few minutes of fun. Meant to make people smile or even laugh out loud . . . I never mind people feeling I am silly, or embarrassing, or frivolous . . . but I would never want them to take offence.

Just as I would never want anyone to “hate” me just because I may find different things exciting and entertaining . . . and fun.

So I quickly got over my momentary lapse into flickers of anger (and took out my frustration on Hubby’s bottom instead). He was right, the world isn’t going to end just because someone disagrees with something I’ve said.

Hate flickers in all of us . . . that is only natural, BUT I would always hope and pray that it should remain just a “flicker” and that hate should never, ever “flourish”.

I’m sure you will find lots more interesting thoughts and experiences on this week’s theme by clicking on Marie’s button below!

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September 17, 2014 · 7:36 am

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This week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt is “Communication” and as that was the subject of one of my posts from October of last year, I thought this would be an ideal opportunity to re-post it again in it’s entirety.

Because . . . of course . . . communication is always the key in anything we do, but most especially in our interaction with partners and our personal relationships with each other.

So . . . from October of 2013 . . .

ModestyShirtA recent comment on one of my posts mirrors several emails I’ve received recently mentioning things along the lines of “I wish my wife was like you”.

I always try and respond with “well – do you talk with them about your feelings and desires? . . . Because, deep down inside, they MAY actually want to be someone different!!!”

Any relationship, no matter how much you actually love someone, can become routine and mundane. And, particularly if one is trying to balance the pressures and stress of bringing-up ones children, running the family home . . . and very probably going out to work as well . . . it can be incredibly tiring and draining.

I know that despite the fact that we’d always had a fun and adventurous relationship, and despite my Hubby always encouraging me to express my deepest feelings right from the very beginning, I still felt it hard to completely “open-up”, or even admit to myself, the things that really excited me. Perhaps it was my Catholic upbringing. Perhaps a lack of self-confidence. Perhaps a fear of being rejected.

So I couldn’t admit to feeling flattered, and excited, and interested by the approaches of other men. And despite all the feelings of guilt and probably initially at least, shame . . . I found myself embarking on an office affair. It was an escape, a distraction, a release from my “ordinary” life. And it was a thrill and an excitement I just couldn’t deny.

And yet . . . I also couldn’t deny those feelings of guilt and deception . . . and the moment I felt I had to “confess my sins” was one of the most frightening moments of my life. But instead of exploding in fits of rage Hubby insisted he knew that I had been seeing someone else, almost from the start. He told me he loved the fact that I could experience that excitement, and difference, and fun . . . and that it simply enriched our lives.

That moment was truly life-changing. Realising that we could both share absolutely everything about ourselves, all our deepest personal secrets, desires and needs, was an incredible feeling.

Of course it didn’t change our lifestyle overnight. We still had all those normal, everyday, pressures. The work, the home . . . and the children. But suddenly that one emotional, heart-wrenching conversation meant that nothing could come between us. If we could talk so openly, and understand, and share each others sexual desires and needs, we could talk and understand anything and everything.

My affair continued and my new-found “freedom” meant I was able to meet and develop other relationships over the coming months and years. My sharing all of the details with Hubby of my “evenings out” grew and developed with an almost natural unplanned progression into him meeting several of my lovers. Then into him actually joining us . . . then into Swingers Clubs . . . then into . . .

And the more we shared, the more we talked, the stronger our relationship became . . . and it continues still !!! Our life just continues to get better . . . and more fulfilling, and more exciting . . . and more fun.

Why am I telling you all this???

Because . . . I understand how difficult it can be sometimes to just open-up and tell someone we really love, just what we really, really feel inside. Particularly about sex! Why is it that we find something so natural, so basic, so fundamental, so difficult to talk about? If we can only just put aside all those feelings of guilt, shame . . . and jealousy . . . we can unlock not only ourselves, but also those nearest and dearest to our hearts. It may not be easy, and certainly those feelings of jealousy may be the single most difficult factor to overcome. But perhaps just communicating those ideas to each other may open up new areas of fun and excitement.

So . . . communication is the key!!! Talk to your partner, your husband, your wife.

Maybe THEY want to be that someone that YOU want them to be too . . . !!!

 

For even more of this Wednesdays communications, simply click on Marie’s button below!

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P.S. – Thank you to the wonderful John Tisbury, (see my side-bar), for my photo-silhouette above.

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June 4, 2014 · 4:10 pm

Feeling stripely wicked at #WickedWednesday

Modesty Ablaze stripes at Wicked WednesdayI realise that this doesn’t follow today’s story prompt . . . but I’m just not feeling very good at words at present.

However, I was feeling very wicked at the weekend . . . so I hope I will be forgiven for just posting this picture of my wickedness instead.

You can see who else is being Wicked this Wednesday from the magic circle below!

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May 21, 2014 · 8:00 am

Modesty Considering the night ahead at #WickedWednesday

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Just checked-in and considering the fun for the night ahead . . . and sleep was a long way from my mind at this stage of the evening!!!

P.S. This picture is from last Saturday actually . . . and not from a Wednesday . . . but you can see who else is being Wicked this Wednesday from the magic circle below!

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