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April 24, 2019 · 7:52 pm

Modestly Getting Things Going #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze biting the sheets

As this week’s Food For Thought Friday so correctly says . . . “the type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.”

I couldn’t agree more . . . so my responses to the following questions, would be:

When you are in the mood, do you initiate sex, or do you wait for your partner to do so?

I’m a great believer in letting things just develop, or happen, naturally. Quite often the best, and most fulfilling, of liaisons occur quite spontaneously without particularly planning or desiring something in particular. And if the chemistry, and the situation I find myself in, is right . . . then lovely things often just happen of their own accord.

What are your preferred means of letting your partner know that you are in the mood?

For me it is always through laughter and subtle touches . . . suggestive comments and recalling previous fun situations. And then probably reaching out for the others hand, stroking their arm or a gentle squeeze or cuddle.

What methods of foreplay do you most enjoy?

Kissing . . . it must always start with a kiss. Casual and teasing at first, slowly becoming more and more passionate . . . and then !!!

What methods of foreplay would you like more of or more often?

Well . . . once those passionate kisses have got me going, I tend to forget about foreplay!!!

What was the most daring/risky quickie that you have ever had, and how did it come about?

I had to really think about this question as I’m not a fan of a “quickie”.
I much prefer to not rush things, but to take ones time and relax into those special moments of togetherness.

But I suppose the most “risky” liaison I have had, was some years ago on a
night-out for “just for a drink” with one of my lovers. We’d decided to take a detour through our local park . . . and pause for a “rest” on a bench on one of the pathways. As was usually the case, I’d gone without knickers, so was able to easily sit astride his lap . . . and quickly get carried away with myself, thinking about how much Hubby would enjoy me telling him all about our “rest” . . .
as soon as I got home!!!

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Xxx- K

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March 26, 2019 · 7:31 am

A Modest Hook-Up

Modesty Ablaze on the phone

I know I’ve admitted before that I can be a greedy girl when the moment takes me . . . and I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who helps me indulge in those moments from time-to-time.

We hadn’t played for sometime but . . . of course . . . I always like to keep my profiles updated on our fun “friend finder” sites and so regularly receive messages and “invites”.

Often those messages don’t inspire me, but one “invite”, from what we’d found to be our best hook up site, included an unusually well composed response to my profile status and several photos that certainly piqued my interest!!!

And that interest grew as our fun exchange of teasing messages continued over the course of the next few days.

Often the young men from whom I receive those initial invites are quickly put-off once they realise that my “Mature lady seeking energetic young play-partners for occasional cuckolding fun” actually means always having Hubby present and involved (if not physically . . . or at least, not always physically! LOL!!!).

So, once I’d made that perfectly clear, it would be the last I would hear from many of them. But this young man was different.

His responses were just as teasing as mine, and the nature of his banter intrigued me more and more. Especially as he assured me that Hubby’s presence would be exciting rather than off-putting!

And then there were those photos !!!

Of course, meeting someone “in-the-flesh” is completely different to chatting with them on-line. So we now have a fixed routine of agreeing to meet any potential play-partners for a “first-off chat just to see how we get on”, at a
quiet-ish downtown bar that we . . . by now . . . know very well.

Unbeknown to them, we will have already booked a hotel just around the corner, in the event (hope), that I will be happy for our “chat” to progress further. There have been times when I’ve decided that I actually didn’t feel comfortable enough to progress, and I have politely had to say “it’s been lovely to meet you. Hubby and I will talk about things and let you know how we feel about perhaps meeting again in the next few days”.

Pre-booking is never wasted of course, as it’s always lovely fun . . . in a different, indulgently-decadent way . . . to frolic ourselves on those crisp, freshly pressed, white hotel sheets.

But, on this occasion . . .

We arrived early, as always, in order to get one of our favourite tables with a view of the entrance in from the street. But, shortly before our agreed time, my young man texted to say he was running late! “Not a good start !!!” I texted back.

So, by the time we did see him arriving, I was already on my second glass of wine. But within minutes of his welcoming hug . . . and confident looking handshake with Hubby . . . I knew we would definitely be sharing our pre-booked room!!!

Xxx – K

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February 6, 2019 · 8:30 am

A Very Social Relationship . . . #wickedwednesday & #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze reads "Behind The Blinds"

The theme this Wicked Wednesday is “Social” . . . which seems to go hand-in-hand, with this week’s Food For Thought Friday questions, so . . .

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

I have been incredibly blessed to have been with the same partner for over 38 years, and over the course of our wonderfully loving relationship, I have been able to indulge in and enjoy . . . and in fact still enjoy . . . all of the experiences mentioned above.

They didn’t all happen immediately, nor all at once of course, but even in the first few months of our marriage we were able to talk-about and express our desires and fantasies.

I did find it awkward at first to overcome those feelings that we all have in our early years that one should feel “guilty” about having sexual thoughts. That sex should be “lights-out and private” and only to procreate and certainly not to admit that it was actually enjoyable!

But, to be honest, and perfectly clear about putting this post into true perspective, it wasn’t until I unexpectedly and unexplainably, “strayed” into an office affair . . . and Hubby’s reaction to that . . . that I was suddenly, and completely, able to release myself from all of those shackles and fears and become true to myself . . . and to our marriage.

So, to answer the question above specifically, our open and honest lifestyle has allowed us to enjoy all of those experiences to the full.

And yes, on the one hand, they are all different . . . and yet all based on the same (for us) principle of just talking to each other, expressing our “interest” and both agreeing that each of us is completely happy with the situation(s) we find ourselves in.

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Apart from that earliest office acquaintance, we have met most of our friends at Clubs or Party Events . . . so all of them have been “interesting” in one way or another.

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

Whilst a lot of those experiences have been one-off adventures, we have been incredibly lucky to have formed several long-lasting regular relationships with a number of people whom have become friends in every sense of the word, not just in the sexual context. And those sort of friendships only evolve if one feels totally at ease and comfortable with each person involved.

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

Whenever, or however, I am approached . . . whether singly or by a couple . . .
I always immediately tell people about my relationship with Hubby and that everything is always completely open and straightforward, and I explain exactly what my expectations and “rules” are.

Over the years I suppose I have grown into the more dominant role in our own situation, (particulary since discovering, and enjoying, my FemDom fun), so now I will only switch, just occasionally, with one long-standing, friend.

As I mentioned earlier, our relationship just seemed to naturally evolve from one adventure to the next . . . and it still continues to do so . . . with new people we meet and new experiences we share.

And that is what makes it so wonderfully fulfilling.

If your relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

I would describe our relationship as “open and fun” and the principal dynamic is that, nowadays, we always play together.

We do have small circle of reasonably regular friends . . . and whilst they may not all personally know one another, they will all know of each other.

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

My ideal relationship is most definitely the one I am already in. And it often looks . . . and always feels . . . like fun !!!

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Xxx- K

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September 22, 2018 · 5:59 pm

Modest Swats #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Fly Swat“Well I don’t care how I look . . . at least I’m trying to do something about getting rid of them”. I shouted at Hubby’s guffaws.
“Perhaps if you’d not left the balcony door open, these bloody midges wouldn’t have gotten into the room in the first place”.
“And well you may laugh . . . because just as soon as they’ve gone . . .
you’re fucking next!!!””

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September 5, 2018 · 7:00 am

A Modest Lifestyle #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Smells the flowersI’ve been incredibly lucky to have met some wonderful people, and enjoyed some amazing and wonderfully fun interactions, over the past 30-or-so years of my “Modesty Ablaze adventures”.

Some people I have met time and time again, some less frequently . . . some have become life-long friends, some just one-off acquaintances.

But whether I’ve met those people through my swinging, blogging, fetish,
or femdom experiences, there has always been one common thread, one common bond.

And that has been that we are all respectful and accepting, of each others lifestyle choices . . . no matter, how different we may be, no matter whether or not our “interests” overlap or merge. (Some of our swinging-friends are horrified at the thought of fetish-play, whilst many of our fetish friends are strictly, and happily, monogamous and will always remain so).

And I often think that that sort of acceptance is what is so sadly lacking in a lot of so-called “normal” or “mainstream” lifestyles.

People always seem so quick to judge others who do not conform with their own views or culture, or the way they live their own lives . . . too quick to label those lifestyles as strange, perverted, or just plainly “wrong”.

I am wonderfully happy . . . in fact empowered . . . by the choices I have made, the fun times I have enjoyed, and the love and affection I have experienced and have shared. Because, of course, sharing is caring!

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Xxx – K

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July 29, 2018 · 2:02 pm

Modesty Ablaze “Giggling Persuasion” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

Modesty Ablaze introduces "Giggling Persuasion" #realworldsex videoI’ve called my newest #realworldsex video at Make Love Not Porn, “Giggling Persuasion”, because . . . as you will see . . . it features lots of giggling, and lots of gentle persuasion!!!

It is from Day 2 of an amazing weekend visit to Lover No.14’s lovely hotel and carries on directly from my “Sticky, Wet and Sweet” video, featured here on my Make Love Not Porn pages recently.

We’d had a short break, re-energising ourselves after our earlier exertions, with some “unusual” chocolate treats.

I then wanted to give No.14 some special kisses . . . as he’d thoroughly spoilt and exhausted me with his own, very special kisses earlier.

But of course, he insisted my kisses would be far more “satisfying” standing right in front of his hotel windows, overlooking the busy railway station below . . . with the curtains still wide open!!!

He was soon quite excited though, so I was happy that we moved away from the windows and back on to the bed . . . for the sake of my modesty . . . and to rest my knees!

Modesty Ablaze embracing Lover No.14But in his excited state, No.14 wasn’t going to let me rest any other parts of my body as he slowly began to renew his explorations, and with lots of “different” kisses . . . and patient and fun persuasion . . . we were both soon locked in wonderful, passionate, and quite “energetic” embraces.

So energetic that he soon had me convulsing in another lovely, and exhausting, orgasm.

We’d been playing on the bed for so long . . . and after all that champagne earlier . . . that I was desperate for a widdle, so I hope you won’t mind that “Giggling Persuasion” ends rather abruptly as I had to dash off to the bathroom to relieve myself.

But there is still more fun to come from this wonderful evening . . . so Part Four (which I think I will call “Special Splashes”!!!) will be “coming soon”.

MakeLoveNotPorn.tv previewed “Day 2 – Starting Over” in their special Make Flourishing Love Not Porn edition as:

Modesty Ablaze had so much fun showing up at lover No. 14’s hotel suite wearing nothing but a trench coat, that she decided to do it all over again — this time with the added excitement of riding the train all the way there! Once en suite, Modesty quickly disrobes and No. 14 sets about doing what he does best — tying Modesty up and making her delirious with delight! Totally focused on Modesty’s pleasure, this video has the same charming banter we’ve come to enjoy from Modesty’s other videos with hubby and Lover No. 14. I just love how polite they all are while indulging in exhibitionism, bondage, and some intense #realworldorgasms!

You can view my introduction to “Giggling Persuasion” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean.

Modesty Ablaze in bed with Lover No.14There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“Giggling Persuasion”  is my 53rd video released on Make Love Not Porn with more (much more) to come soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my fifty-three #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

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Xxx – K

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June 19, 2018 · 9:20 pm

Modesty Ablaze “Unmasked” – Part 7 of The Modesty Ablaze Diaries

As I’ve mentioned on several occasions previously, my pages here at Modesty Ablaze started almost as a form of therapeutic release.

Celebration and release actually, because I can’t deny that it was a thrill to satisfy that exhibitionist streak within that we all have, and to be able to share . . . “anonymously” . . . some of the personal diaries that I’d been writing for years and years.

Because I often wanted to shout-out to many of my “normal” friends, that one shouldn’t be ashamed of, our sexual feelings or desires. And that if we all talked about, and expressed those more openly with our partners, it just may lead their relationships to places they’d never imagined . . . as it had for myself.

Because for years I had been meeting several different lovers . . . with the complete knowledge and acceptance of Hubby . . . and had been keeping a record of every meeting in my diaries. So sharing some of those diary entries in the early pages of my blog, made me feel as though I was sharing the joy . . . and love . . . that such wonderful relationships can bring.

And to my absolute surprise, within the first month of those initial postings,
I began receiving emails asking for more . . . and then several suggestions
that I should publish them as Ebooks.

So . . . slowly at first . . . “The Modesty Ablaze Diaries” were born.

And, as I still often receive requests for more, I am happy to say that “Modesty Ablaze Unmasked – Part 7 of The Modesty Ablaze Diaries” has recently been published at both my Amazon, and Gumroad pages.

“Modesty Unmasked” follows on directly from “Further Adventures”, with more diary entries of my personal meetings and . . . in the latter chapters . . . how those  “meetings” just seemed to naturally evolve into amazing three-some fun with Hubby as well. And then from there, into our first wonderfully sex-citing Swinging Adventures.

And . . . if you are sitting comfortably . . . you can listen to a reading from the beginning of Chapter 19 – “New Club Couple” from the audio link below.

“Modesty Ablaze Unmasked” is now available in Ebook format from my Amazon US, and Amazon UK pages . . . or in downloadable and printable PDF format at my Gumroad pages.

Visit my Ebooks page >here< for information, and links, to all six
of my previous editions of “The Modesty Ablaze Diaries”.
I hope they may bring you fun and enjoyment!!!

Xxx – K

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April 27, 2018 · 7:23 am

Modest “Medals” #Boobday Friday

No these are not from last weekend’s run through Central London. But I do enjoy regular exercise . . . the “equivalent” of at least two mini-marathon’s a week!!!

And as they normally feel like “award-winning” occasions, I thought I would share some . . . “medals” . . . here at this week’s Boobday Friday . . . because:

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

Be sure to visit . . . and why not join-in . . .  Boobday sharing, this and every Friday, by clicking on Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!

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Xxx – K

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April 23, 2018 · 11:00 am

“Further Adventures” – The Modesty Ablaze Diairies @Gumroad

The Modesty Ablaze DiariesWhen I first began posting pages here at the end of 2011, the purpose of my Modesty Ablaze blog was almost as a form of therapeutic release.

Well . . . release AND celebration.

Release, because I can’t deny that it was a thrill to satisfy that exhibitionist streak within that we all have, and finally be able to share “anonymously” some of the personal diaries that I’d been writing for years and years.

But also a celebration, because I so often wanted to shout-out to many of my “normal” friends, that one shouldn’t be ashamed of, our sexual feelings or desires. And that if we all talked about, and expressed those more openly with our partners, it just may lead their relationships to places they’d never imagined
. . . as it had for myself.

At that time I didn’t actually have the courage to tell any of my friends that for years I had been meeting several different lovers, all over the same period of time, and with the complete knowledge and acceptance of my Hubby. And that I had been keeping a record of every meeting in my diaries . . . but sharing some of those diary entries on my blog, made me at least feel as though I had told them.

And to my absolute surprise, within the first month of those initial postings, I began receiving emails asking for more . . . and then several suggestions that I should self-publish them as Ebooks. I originally replied that my posts were just journal entries that probably wouldn’t best suit the format of a proper book, but after being assured that they surely would . . . I decided to “at least give it a try”.

It took me a little while of course . . . but eventually I had three short diary compilations on Amazon, and was amazed to start receiving regular requests to publish more.

I kept promising myself . . . and all those responders who kept asking over the following (three !!!) years . . . that I would publish more from my “archives” just as soon as I could find the time.

I did manage to publish several, short, diary excerpts on Gumroad. But despite several “starts” at compiling a longer, more complete book from my diaries, I just couldn’t get one finished. Life seemed to get busier and busier . . . not just with the normal everyday routines of work and family . . . but with new adventures and fun experiences to explore!

However last year I received a lovely series of emails, and subsequently a wonderfully flattering review on a French literature website La Bauge littéraire, that made me determined to publish another compilation of my diary entries “before the year was out”.

I failed of course! But . . . eventually and finally . . . “Further Adventures – Part 6 of The Modesty Ablaze Diaries” . . . has made it up into the ether-world of Amazon and Gumroad.

And, unlike my previous compilations which were random excerpts, “Further Adventures” is a chronological, virtually “cut and pasted”, sequence of diary entries from the same period as “Part 1 – The Journey”.

It features several of my earliest “acquaintances” . . . and how our relationships developed and “blossomed” . . . and how I shared those experiences so openly with Hubby, every evening on my return.

“Further Adventures” is still just £1.75 from my Gumroad page . . . and as well as being downloadable from there as a printable PDF file, that PDF format can also be read on your Kindle and other Ebook Readers.

I hope you will enjoy . . . and discover how these Further Adventures helped shape and define what has been, (and still is), a wonderfully fulfilling and loving open way of life for Hubby and myself!!!

Enjoy – Xxx – K

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April 15, 2018 · 6:14 pm

A Modest Cover Reveal

It has been so very flattering since the release of my “Further Adventures – Part 6 of The Modesty Ablaze Diaries” to have received so many requests for more excerpts from my personal diaries.

So I am delighted to reveal that “Modesty Unmasked”, my seventh published Ebook Diary compilation, will soon be available from my Amazon and Gumroad profile pages.

But . . . I have a dilemma for which I need some help and advice!

You see, it’s become more and more difficult as I have published each of my diary excerpts, to choose a Cover image for each book. And as “Modesty Unmasked” is perhaps the most open, and un-edited of my journals so far,
(in that it recounts my experiences evolving into three-somes, and more-somes, and fun “swingers club” adventures), I really did want the cover of the book to reflect that title.

But I realise that, in the interests of common decency . . . and despite what you may think, I really do never wish to offend, or disturb, anyone . . . I wonder if my first choice of cover photo might be rejected by both Amazon and Gumroad as displaying “too much”.

The very reason I publish both my Diaries . . . and my posts here at www.modestyablaze.com . . . is because I really do feel that we all have the right to express our own sexuality and enjoyment of who we are, and who we enjoy sharing our love and freedom with.

So I would hope that either of the above Cover images would be accepted . . . but what do you think? Which image do you think I should submit?

Any advice in comments, or emails, gratefully accepted.

Xxx – K

 

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