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Modesty Ablaze reviews Stainless Steel Ring @Sohimi_Official

Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring 1

It’s always nice to receive a big parcel in the post isn’t it. Especially when that parcel rattles and clinks … and especially when you open it up to find …
 a Stainless Steel Restraint Ring inside !!!


So you can imagine my delight on being sent this wonderfully new and different device from Sohimi … a new, to me at least, sex toy manufacturer.


The company website has a reasonably extensive collection of products encompassing the usual range of vibrators, dildos for both women and men, as well as anal toys, male masturbators and sex dolls. But it was of course this Ring that caught my eye as something rather unusual … and something I could certainly put to good use in my FemDom adventures as I hadn’t come across anything like it before.

Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring 2

So … let’s get my two cons out of the way first, before I get to my pros !!!

Firstly, that interesting rattling and clinking did have a downside in that, apparently, the postman was clearly intrigued and observed “don’t know if it’s still in one-piece or not?” As actually one corner of the box had suffered a little crush-damage that, whilst it hadn’t split or opened, did appear to be pushed-out a little from the inside. So the internal packing would certainly benefit from additional wrapping (perhaps with crushed brown paper balls or something similar).


And secondly, the locks (more later*) are in my opinion too small to make for easy attachment.


But, as with all the items at Sohimi, the Ring is actually very, very reasonably priced …

Now … with my favourite chambers closed during lockdown I have been unable to do any proper “field-testing”.

But luckily I always have a resident “fall-back” so-to-speak … Subby1 … of course.

Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring 3

As you will see from my photos here the ring is supplied as three curved sections and one straight bar. Made from high-quality, ¾ inch diameter, Stainless Steel, the curves easily push together, secured by a push-button rivet which slots into a hole on the adjoining ends of each section.

There are actually two holes about an inch apart which allow for a slightly wider overall diameter of the final ring. Using this wider setting, the overall diameter of my Subs ring, makes 23 inches across.

The idea of the horizontal restraining bar, with a welded triangular D-ring at each end, is that the ring is placed over the submissives bare-bottom, and the bar is secured in position under his, or her, stomach by locking each end to a corresponding D-ring on the outer section.

Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring 4

Now this procedure does take some practice … and was somewhat frustrating and difficult to achieve with my initial excitement … and Subby1’s nervous discomfort.

*It was finally achieved though, as you can see from the photos below. And, as you can also see, it did present a fun target for me to begin my spanking. However, as that spanking intensified and Subby1’s jerking and twisting increased, one of the locks actually came apart. 


But, as you can probably imagine, I do have lots of locks in my collection … all of them bigger. And that proved to be the saviour of our interrupted session.
The longer shafts of my bigger locks made it much easier and subsequently much quicker to fit.

And that meant our session was able to continue successfully … to my satisfaction, if not Subby1’s.


A small black, leather-look, hand whip is also included with the Ring. Though my preference is for larger, heavier implements, it is actually well made and more than suitable for gentle teasing and arousal.

So … I am so looking forward to further “field-testing” in the near future hopefully. With my bigger locks of course!!!

Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring 5

The Stainless SM Ring with Whip
Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: Strong Stainless Steel elements. Fun design. Very reasonably priced.
Cons: As noted above the packaging could be improved for delivery. In my view, the locks are not large enough, nor strong enough for ease of use.
Ring Material: High-quality Stainless Steel.
Ring Measurements: Tubes are 3/4 inch in diameter. Overall ring diameter when constructed is 23 inches.
4 small Brass/Steel Locks: included.
Black Hand Whip: Leather Bound Handle 6 inches length, leather-feel strands 9 inches.
Supplier Product Link: Stainless SM Ring with Whip
Supplier Website: Sohimi
Twitter: @Sohimi_Official

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The Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modestly On This Day – March 8th

Mistress Modesty Celebrates International Women's Day

A serious post for once
 March 8 is International Women’s Day.


And this post is simply to celebrate this day … the theme of which is:


To challenge and call out gender bias and inequality. We can all choose to seek out and celebrate women’s achievements.
Collectively, we can all help create an inclusive world.
 From challenge comes change, so let’s all choose to challenge.

Xxx – K

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Modestly Surreal #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Surreal Exposure 1

Even with things as they are for us all at the moment, time still seems to fly by more and more quickly with every passing year.

Modesty Ablaze Surreal Exposure 2

I just can’t believe these images are from a wonderful evening over three years ago now … it’s quite surreal!

Modesty Ablaze Surreal Exposure 3

As are the tingles … and the dreams … I still have about the fantastic fun and amazing memories!

For much more creative and artistic surrealism this Sinful Sunday,
just brush the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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A Gift Netting #Boobday Friday

Gifted White Net top

This lovely surprise from a forgotten Wishlist arrived yesterday, and whilst I certainly couldn’t wear it out-and-about at the moment … it’s turned far too cold again for that … I thought it would make for a lovely Boobday Friday.

I hope you all agree … and it’s such a nice fit too !!!

BoobDay is about celebration and support. ‘Boob’ is a term that is intended to be gender neutral and it includes the chests and breasts of all sorts of folks. BoobDay is not limited to cisgender women.
Basically, if you want to celebrate the beauty of boobs and join in with like-minded, body-positive, people who are embracing their curves or lack thereof, this is the link-up for you!

Do let me know if you would like to join-in and add your own celebrations here too, from my Contact Modesty page >here< !!!

And . . . if you would like to see what has gone before, you may
>tweak me here<

Xxx – K

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Pour Me A Glass Members Newsletter – March 2021 #PMAGW

Modesty Ablaze Pour Me A Glass Members Newsletter March 2021

Welcome to my Pour Me A Glass of Wine Modcast Newsletter for March 2021.


And with Spring just around the corner, let’s hope the coming month will bring warmer weather, longer days and lots more fun and enjoyment than many of us have been able to experience over the past six months or so.


But my first Members Video this month certainly does bring back memories of some warmer times I was very lucky to have during my summer escape last year. And yes it is the conclusion that so many of you asked for, to my Cooling Cucumber Me-Time fun in our holiday apartment. I’ve called it The Banana Climaxand you will see why when you watch the video.


Now … as you can probably imagine … I do have lots more video clips from that magical holiday. So let me know if you would like to see more for my mid-month video-updates. Or … if you would prefer to see more of my FemDom sessions … or perhaps more from my Hotwife archives.

And I say “archives” because having been in lockdown for almost all of the past year, it has … unfortunately … just not been possible to meet with any of my lovers, or my submissives, for any real-time, one-to-one, fun.


But I do have lots and lots of videos … and photos … in my archives, so I am sure that I will be able to find some content for whichever type of fun I receive the most requests for.


So, as always on my Members Page, the choice is yours to make … all sensible requests considered.


For this months Members Photo Gallery though, I have chosen some photos from last summer that I haven’t posted here before. Just because that “Banana Climax” video I mentioned earlier, brought back so many lovely, warm, memories of that fabulous late August / early September vacation.


So … looking back at my most popular posts over the past month here at Modesty Ablaze Dot Com …


Modesty Ablaze Boobday Friday Posts 2021

… I was happy to be able to post a Boobday Friday post each week during February. Starting with some Make-Up Mirror images from our holiday apartment, as well as some special Valentines Sprinkles, a Modestly Distracted post and finally ending with some Spring Tulips.


Boobday posts are probably my most often-requested picture requests … and I hope to be able to add four more during the coming weeks.
>>> Read more >>>


Modestly Cryptical

I also often receive requests for more “Scavenger Hunt” postings … but, of course … it has been rather difficult finding new locations during Lock-Down. However, I was lucky enough to stumble across a rather interesting Crypt during our July “Stay-cation” which I included in one of my “Sinful Sunday” posts during the month >>> Read more >>>


Modestly Passionate about Cocktails

I only managed ONE “Wicked Wednesday” post during February … I shall have to do better in future … but I couldn’t resist talking about one of my simple Passions for the first prompt of the month.
>>> Read more >>>


Sinful Textures

And that was a theme I carried on with … for my contribution to the Sinful Sunday prompt ofTextures … on the first Sunday of February.
>>> Read more >>>


Modest Workout Part 3

But my final post of the month is for one of my most enjoyable of passions of all … sharing my #realworldsex adventures at Make Love Not Porn.


You will just have to viewA Modest Workout Part Three to see how passionate that particular adventure, really was !!! >>> Read more>>>


So … thank you again for spoiling me here and helping me to keep my wine glass full.

I do hope you will all enjoy this month’s Members Videos, and Photo Gallery … and let me know your own suggestions, for new clips or photos you would like to see in the future from the comments box at the foot of THIS post, or by emailing directly if you prefer.

If you are already a “Pour Me A Glass” Member, just log-in with your
New Password . . . >here< . . . or, if you are not a member, there is more information on how to subscribe from the link at the foot of each of my posts, or from >here<.

Bye for now !!!

P.s. – For over 18 months now, I have been reading this newsletter out aloud and I keep being asked to carry on reading . . . so, if you wish, you can listen to this month’s “Modcast” from the screen below . . .

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze “A Modest Workout – Part 3” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

Modesty Ablaze introduces "Modest Workout Part 3"

After receiving so many lovely messages about my two previous … “Modest Workout” videos … I’m delighted to tell you all 
that “A Modest Workout Part Three” is now available for viewing at my pages at Make Love Not Porn.


The film is from a simply amazing evening with Lover 36 and begins not long after I’d just collapsed on to the bed from sheer exhaustion from the most incredible fucking I think I’d ever experienced.


But Lover 36 is not only the most “energetic” of my Lovers, but also the quickest at being ready to start all over again, seemingly just a few minutes after he’d just filled his second condom of the night.


And even though I was used to his energy and stamina, I was still amazed to sense him putting on a third one, whilst I was still tingling and shuddering from my orgasmic climax just minutes before!

"From behind" - Modesty Ablaze with Lover No.36

So … I was lifted back up onto my knees, with my head resting on the pillow beneath me … to feel him starting all over again. And “feel” is certainly the right word, because he was soon thrusting and pumping into me with even more energy than before!!!


After another incredible, engulfing, climax … I collapsed back down onto the bed telling him that I had “floppy doll” syndrome … and didn’t know when, or even if, I’d ever be able to move again.

You can view my introduction to “A Modest Workout Part 3” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex.

A Modest Workout – Part 3  is my 83rd video released on Make Love Not Porn with more to cum soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

The lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn have labelled
A Modest Workout – Part 3” with tags such as:

#condomhot #ilubeu #joyful #loud #passionate #playful #spirited !!!

So . . . I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what they mean.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my Eighty Three #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

Make Love Not Porn

Xxx – K

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Modestly Warmer #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Spring Barbeque1

As I mentioned in my Boobday Friday post this week, I’m feeling the first warming optimism of spring … and better things on the way.

Modesty Ablaze Spring Barbeque2

Like enjoying my favourite summer barbeque once again … keeping my hat on of course, because one has to take sensible precautions against the heat!

For more optimism and warming thoughts this Sinful Sunday,
just stir the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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A Modest Spring #Boobday Friday

Modest Boobday Tulips

Can you smell the first blooms of spring? New hopes and new beginnings!

Let’s hope for an even brighter, more special Spring for this year of all years.
And what better day to start, and better way to celebrate, than on a
blooming Boobday Friday !!!

BoobDay is about celebration and support. ‘Boob’ is a term that is intended to be gender neutral and it includes the chests and breasts of all sorts of folks. BoobDay is not limited to cisgender women.
Basically, if you want to celebrate the beauty of boobs and join in with like-minded, body-positive, people who are embracing their curves or lack thereof, this is the link-up for you!

Do let me know if you would like to join-in and add your own celebrations here too, from my Contact Modesty page >here< !!!

And . . . if you would like to see what has gone before, you may
>tweak me here<

Xxx – K

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Pour Me Again – February Members Update #PMAGW

Modesty Ablaze Cooling Apartment Cucumber Members Video Pt 3

My second mid-month Pour Me A Glass of Wine Members update for February is “Part Three” of my Cooling Apartment Cucumber me-time fun as I really began to get quite worked-up with my arousing playtime!

So I hope all of you who asked me for more of this lovely afternoon relaxation in our apartment with the air-con on full blast, will enjoy this as much as I did.

And … I wasn’t finished yet, so do let me know if you would like to see my “Banana Climax – Part Four” … and you will see just how much I love my fruit-n-veg !!!

Once again this video falls into the more “candid” category of my Members postings, but I have always said that my Members Page would be where I would be sharing lots of my more “candid” moments. Photos and videos with no filters, no re-touching, no pretences. Just the REAL ME having fun and being just who I am … with all the lumps and bumps of the “mature” lady I am.
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But do let me know if you would instead prefer more of my #femdom, #swinging or #NudeInPublic style of videos for my next updates … I’m sure I will be able to oblige as I have years and years worth of videos and photos in my Modest Archives !!!


So … thank you once again for spoiling me here and helping me to regularly top up my wine glass.

And to the several new members who have joined over the past month I hope that you will all enjoy this month’s feature Members Video, and Photo Gallery … and let me know your own suggestions, for new clips or photos you would like to see in the future from the comments box at the foot of THIS post, or by emailing directly if you prefer.

If you are already a “Pour Me A Glass” Member, just log-in with your
New Password . . . >here< . . . or, if you are not a member, there is more information on how to subscribe from the link at the foot of each of my posts, or from >here<.

Bye for now !!!

P.s. – For over 18 months now, I have been reading this newsletter out aloud and I keep being asked to carry on reading . . . so, if you wish, you can listen to this month’s “Modcast” from the screen below . . .

Xxx – K

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Modestly Cryptical #sinfulsunday

Modestly Cryptical Sinful Sunday 1

“See, I told you … it did have had a roof over it!” I shouted up at him.
“It says it was originally vaulted”.

Modestly Cryptical Sinful Sunday 2

“I mean … they couldn’t all be attending chapel completely exposed to all the elements now could they!!!”

“Yes … I know I like to be … but YOU need to be more respectful to others.
We all worship differently don’t we?
Now come and lift me back up before the church warden comes by again.”

For lots more worshipful respect this Sinful Sunday,
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Sinful Sunday
Modesty Ablaze at the #naughtyscavengerhunt

I do believe that Crypt is already a category at #naughtyscavengerhunt … so I am praying that I can add this location to my Scavenger Hunt page and Gallery soon.

Xxx – K

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