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Modestly Grown Up @F4TFriday

The questions at this week’s Food For Thought did make me giggle when
I saw them. The first of which I hadn’t thought about for years, the second of which I think about all the time.

1) What did you want to be when you were little?

I wanted to be either, an Astronaut . . . the first woman in space . . . Yes,
I really, really did!!!

Modesty Ablaze in Space

But the closest I came to that, was a visit to The Space Observatory a few years ago with the lovely Curvaceous Dee.

Modesty Ablaze The Nurse

Or . . . I wanted to be a Nurse . . . helping people relieve their aches and pains
. . . which I have had much more experience with over the past few years!

And that second question?

2) As an adult what would you most like to get paid to do?

Well the answer to that is easy. I’d like to be paid to be . . . permanently
on Holiday !!!


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Xxx- K

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Modestly Spreading a Little Love #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze reading The Big Penis Book

This week’s Food 4 Thought Friday is about highlighting five blogs within theSex Blogging Communitythat we particularly enjoy . . . and therefore by definition . . . that we find inspiring.

Pick five blogs that you follow at random and tell us what it is about them that you particularly enjoy. How did you find out about them?

Well, as you may have gathered from my occasional postings here, I am definitely more “visual” in the way I approach . . . well, life in general really . . . and that is usually reflected in not just my own posts here, but also in the blog sites I follow and most regularly visit.

And I don’t know about you, but for me everyday life just seems to actually get busier and more and more hectic as every year passes. So that often makes it difficult to keep up with, and visit, everyone’s posts as regularly as I’d like to. And there are simply so many wonderfully exciting, entertaining and insightful blog pages within the “community” that it seems almost churlish in a way to single-out just five. But, I do like rules . . . usually making them, and often breaking them . . .

So . . . I always take enjoyment from the following wonderful websites:

Rebels Notes – Marie’s blog was one of the first “sex-blogging” sites I came across when I started wondering about, and joking with Hubby about, “publishing” my own experiences in the form of a blog page of my own. The honesty, sincerity and directness of Marie’s writings about her journey, and lifestyle, immediately struck a chord. And the more I read, the more in awe I became . . . and have remained ever since. And not just of her posts, but also of her regular photographic updates of her tattoos and piercings.

And it was through following Marie’s Rebels Notes that I soon discovered . . .

Sinful Sunday – Now as I said, I am a “visual” person so discovering Molly’s weekly home for “sinful” photo-erotica was an absolute joy. And it has since become one of our weekly highlights to browse through the collection of fun, clever, beautiful and artistic photos and pictures. And as well as the exciting tingles, and the fun giggles and gasps, it is the expression of positivity about our bodies and our sexuality that resonates so strongly with my own feelings that brings me so much joy at Sinful Sunday every week.

And on the subject of beautiful and clever photo-erotica . . . Sinful Sunday guided me directly to Exposing 40.

Don’t you find that sometimes you know immediately, on seeing that first photo, on hearing that first song, that you will just love everything that person does. Always. Well that is how I felt on my first viewing of Exposing 40 . . . and that is how it has remained. She just seems to have a natural eye for capturing her subjects so perfectly, every time. And yet it is not just her photos that inspire, or have me nodding in agreement, it is the insight and commonsense-ness of her posts that I so enjoy as well.

Another linking click-through from Sinful Sunday sometime ago, led me to If Sex Matters the home of the wonderfully cheeky and exciting May More.

At first it was her gorgeous, and fun, photos that drew me in. But soon, in much the same way as the connection I felt with Marie’s Notes, I felt an empathy and admiration for May’s writing and openness of her experiences and background. And, more recently, an almost voyeuristic attraction to her erotic stories . . . and I am sure that you will find the same!

And finally, but never ever last-ly !!! . . . you know how I keep saying I’m more “visual” and how much I love the erotic in photo-erotica and it is usually the photos that capture my eye before the words? Well that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy erotica in my reading time as well.

And there is one person, one website, that always inspires me to make special reading time . . . because “Everyone Needs a Bedtime Story” and Kay Jaybee is certainly the most erotic, and exciting, writer I have ever read.

I had randomly picked a book from the shelf on my first visit to Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium in Hoxton, and knew instantly as I read one, then two, then three paragraphs on the page I had flicked to, that I needed to take it home with me. “Buy me this, now!” I whispered hoarsely as I thrust ‘The Perfect Submissive’ into Hubby’s hand.

And I’ve had the same, tingly, reactions with every one of Kay’s books since. Always exciting, always imaginative . . . and always, always erotic . . .

Pick five posts/pages from your own blog that you are particularly proud of and include the links in your post.

As I always say, my pages here have grown from a joke and a dare to just indulge in a little bit of “anonymous exhibitionism” about my lifestyle and experiences, to suddenly feeling that we all have a right, a need . . . a duty even . . . to express our beliefs in one’s sexuality and freedom to choose.

So, although neither myself, nor Hubby, have the artistic skills for photography as displayed every week at Sinful Sunday, I am happy and ever hopeful that my occasional Scavenger Hunt adventures, and our memories of Polaroid Pasts, go someway to illustrate how important I feel it is to accept ourselves, for who and what we are. And, to have as much fun as we can as we naturally change and develop throughout lifes’ journey!!!

Similarly, I hope that by sharing my enthusiasm for the “Real World Sexual Values” of fun and adventure, at my Make Love Not Porn pages, will show how important I believe it is to embrace and be proud of our sexual desires and fantasies . . . and to communicate those feelings about what we like, or might like to try, to our partners-in-life.

And, although I can never, ever write erotica in the way that Kay or May can, I do hope that by sharing some of my own lifestyle experiences from the Diaries that I have kept for years and years (and years!), it may possibly help others accept that sexual feelings, attractions . . . and desires . . . are not only normal but one’s personal right to explore and enjoy . . . without guilt or shame !!!

But whichever pages, or posts, people visit here, or at any of the Five websites above . . . or indeed any sites in the “Sex Blogging Community” . . . I’m sure we all share one thing in common. The hope that all our visitors will be able to smile and feel better than when they arrived !!!

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Swinging #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Swinging 1

No, not that sort of “Swinging” silly . . . that’s possibly for later this evening!

But, still with my feet raised in the air, swinging of a more relaxing, less energetic, kind . . .

Modesty Ablaze Swinging 2

. . . from a lovely, and relaxing, southern summer earlier this year.

Visit this week’s Sinful Sunday . . . to see just how lots of other people have been relaxing recently!!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modest Print News #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Newsprint

“Well I did tell you not to lie there and wallow in it!” I told him. “What do you expect from wet newspaper on a marble floor!!!”

An outtake photo from later in the evening of my Mopping Up last year . . . though this wet wasn’t from the rain!!!

“Outtake Photos” is the theme at this week’s Sinful Sunday . . . so slide over the lips below, to read more news and view more prints!!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Getting Things Going #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze biting the sheets

As this week’s Food For Thought Friday so correctly says . . . “the type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.”

I couldn’t agree more . . . so my responses to the following questions, would be:

When you are in the mood, do you initiate sex, or do you wait for your partner to do so?

I’m a great believer in letting things just develop, or happen, naturally. Quite often the best, and most fulfilling, of liaisons occur quite spontaneously without particularly planning or desiring something in particular. And if the chemistry, and the situation I find myself in, is right . . . then lovely things often just happen of their own accord.

What are your preferred means of letting your partner know that you are in the mood?

For me it is always through laughter and subtle touches . . . suggestive comments and recalling previous fun situations. And then probably reaching out for the others hand, stroking their arm or a gentle squeeze or cuddle.

What methods of foreplay do you most enjoy?

Kissing . . . it must always start with a kiss. Casual and teasing at first, slowly becoming more and more passionate . . . and then !!!

What methods of foreplay would you like more of or more often?

Well . . . once those passionate kisses have got me going, I tend to forget about foreplay!!!

What was the most daring/risky quickie that you have ever had, and how did it come about?

I had to really think about this question as I’m not a fan of a “quickie”.
I much prefer to not rush things, but to take ones time and relax into those special moments of togetherness.

But I suppose the most “risky” liaison I have had, was some years ago on a
night-out for “just for a drink” with one of my lovers. We’d decided to take a detour through our local park . . . and pause for a “rest” on a bench on one of the pathways. As was usually the case, I’d gone without knickers, so was able to easily sit astride his lap . . . and quickly get carried away with myself, thinking about how much Hubby would enjoy me telling him all about our “rest” . . .
as soon as I got home!!!

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Xxx- K

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A Modest Pumphouse #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Pumphouse 1

“Actually that noise isn’t coming from this Tractor” I said to Hubby.
“It’s from inside that building”.

Modesty Ablaze Pumphouse 2

“Oh look . . . it’s a ‘Pump House’.” I giggled as we neared the doorway.

Modesty Ablaze Pumphouse 3

“It’s not the sort of pumping you’re thinking” Hubby said as he read the plaque outside. “It was the old Water Pumping Station that serviced the city in the late 1800’s. Let’s take a look.” he said excitedly.

Modesty Ablaze Pumphouse 4

“The Flywheel weighs 16 tonne and used to pump up to 13,600 cubic metres of water per day” he shouted across the viewing gallery.
“I can’t hear you properly over this noise” I shouted back. “But it’s certainly pumping out lots of hot air!”

Modesty Ablaze Pumphouse 5

“Whoo . . . I’ve come over all sticky” I said as I walked round to join him.
“Come on, let’s go back outside, this constant noise is getting unbearable.”

Modesty Ablaze Pumphouse 6

“Gosh, it’s like standing on top of a huge, shuddering, vibrator isn’t it.” I shouted out, “I wouldn’t have been able to control myself being stuck in here all day!!!”

But, as you may remember, I do like getting up-close to big equipment occasionally . . . at least for a little while.

Anyway for more pumping . . . and panting . . . at this week’s Sinful Sunday, just tap the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

P.S. – I believe there is a “Pump Station” category at Jade’s fun
Scavenger Hunt pages, so I’m hoping to add this recent visit there.

There are more of my Scavenger Hunt visits to remember at my
Listings page . . . where there are now over 120 different locations.
Most of which are on my Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!

Modesty Ablaze Scavenger Hunt pages

Xxx – K

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A Modest Hook-Up

Modesty Ablaze on the phone

I know I’ve admitted before that I can be a greedy girl when the moment takes me . . . and I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who helps me indulge in those moments from time-to-time.

We hadn’t played for sometime but . . . of course . . . I always like to keep my profiles updated on our fun “friend finder” sites and so regularly receive messages and “invites”.

Often those messages don’t inspire me, but one “invite”, from what we’d found to be our best hook up site, included an unusually well composed response to my profile status and several photos that certainly piqued my interest!!!

And that interest grew as our fun exchange of teasing messages continued over the course of the next few days.

Often the young men from whom I receive those initial invites are quickly put-off once they realise that my “Mature lady seeking energetic young play-partners for occasional cuckolding fun” actually means always having Hubby present and involved (if not physically . . . or at least, not always physically! LOL!!!).

So, once I’d made that perfectly clear, it would be the last I would hear from many of them. But this young man was different.

His responses were just as teasing as mine, and the nature of his banter intrigued me more and more. Especially as he assured me that Hubby’s presence would be exciting rather than off-putting!

And then there were those photos !!!

Of course, meeting someone “in-the-flesh” is completely different to chatting with them on-line. So we now have a fixed routine of agreeing to meet any potential play-partners for a “first-off chat just to see how we get on”, at a
quiet-ish downtown bar that we . . . by now . . . know very well.

Unbeknown to them, we will have already booked a hotel just around the corner, in the event (hope), that I will be happy for our “chat” to progress further. There have been times when I’ve decided that I actually didn’t feel comfortable enough to progress, and I have politely had to say “it’s been lovely to meet you. Hubby and I will talk about things and let you know how we feel about perhaps meeting again in the next few days”.

Pre-booking is never wasted of course, as it’s always lovely fun . . . in a different, indulgently-decadent way . . . to frolic ourselves on those crisp, freshly pressed, white hotel sheets.

But, on this occasion . . .

We arrived early, as always, in order to get one of our favourite tables with a view of the entrance in from the street. But, shortly before our agreed time, my young man texted to say he was running late! “Not a good start !!!” I texted back.

So, by the time we did see him arriving, I was already on my second glass of wine. But within minutes of his welcoming hug . . . and confident looking handshake with Hubby . . . I knew we would definitely be sharing our pre-booked room!!!

Xxx – K

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Guide to Finding the Best Dildos for Women

Getting a sex toy is one of the best ways to spice up your solo bedroom play, add some fire to your relationship or simply survive when your partner is far away on a business trip. For the inexperienced, shopping for a dildo isn’t going to be an exactly easy task. Luckily you have guides like this as one of the top resources online to help you find the perfect plaything.

Guide to finding the best dildos for women 1

There are a number of factors to consider when picking out a dildo. The ultimate goal is to find something that can bring you maximum pleasure. This means everything has to be spot on in terms of the shape, size, material and even the color and texture of the dildo. You also have to decide whether you want a vibrating dildo or not. Your choice of dildo should also be safe to use.

There is a plethora of options to choose from which presents exciting variety but at the same time might leave you confused as to which one to choose. Here’s a quick guide on the things to look out for when shopping for a dildo.

Shape

When shopping for dildos, you will find a lot of variety in terms of shapes to choose from. Generally, Curved dildos are considered the best for working the G-spot and hitting it right on. However, some women might just find the twisted contoured types better and a preferred option for them. If what you are looking for is something that feels more realistic, then a dildo sculpted to look like an actual penis should be your choice. Some of them even come complete with veins and ridges to further improve the look and feel.

Size: Girth and Length

The same way women have preferences in terms of penis size, the size of your dildo is also a major requirement in choosing the perfect one. If you pick something too small, it might not hit the spot the way you want it to, and you might not even be able to use the dildo at all if it is too large. 

Again, choosing a perfectly sized dildo depends both on experience and fantasy. You might judge what would be the perfect size for you based on your previous experience with an actual penis. At the same time, it can be based on partly or entirely on fantasy. You need to consider both the length and girth of the toy you are choosing.

Guide to finding the best dildos for women 2


If you have no prior experience and you are unsure of what would be a perfect size, you can carry out a small test to verify the perfect dildo size using fruits. Find out more on how to do that here.

Another innovative way to work your way around the problem of size when using a dildo is to but an inflatable dildo which can be pumped up after insertion. That way you can still get the full fill-up feeling without having to bother so much about insertion.

Material: the flexibility of your sex toy this depends almost entirely on the material it is made of. If you want something solid and rigid, then a metal or glass dildo is the perfect choice in terms of material. Silicone dildos also offer a lot in terms of flexibility but still has a solid feel to it as well making it great for hitting the G-spot. You should consider Jelly or rubber dildos if you prefer something softer. They are also easier to insert and will require you to use less lube compared to the solid types.

However, when considering the material, flexibility isn’t the only thing that is affected. You have to consider how easy it will be to maintain and clean your dildo. A jelly dildo, for example, is harder to maintain than a glass or silicone type since it tends to be permeable to water.

The material type also determines how adaptable your dildo will be to use. Glass and metal dildos, for example, can be warmed up or cooled to add extra variety to bedroom play. A silicone dildo also warms up very quickly and adjusts to body temperature than other types of dildos.

If you want something that feels as close to the real deal as possible, then a realistic dildo is a recommended choice. Not only are they shaped to look like a real penis. But they are also made with materials such as Cyberskin which give them a feel similar to that of an actual penis. However, just like jelly, realistic dildos are also hard to clean which is a downside if you are considering buying them.

A workaround for the problem of maintaining and cleaning your dildo is to always use a condom with it anytime you use it. This will reduce how often you have to clean it up and help prolong its life.

For more about picking a sex toy as a beginner, visit http://dangerouslilly.com/2010/06/ask-lilly-choosing-a-dildo-for-beginners/

The base of the dildo: many women might not give thought to this point when purchasing their sex toy but as you might come to find out it plays a part in how convenient playing with your dildo will be. A dildo with a balled end gives you greater control over the toy and helps to attain deeper thrust. One with a suction cup at the base is a recommended choice if you intend to attach your toy to a surface to use. Lesbian couples and some straight couples looking to experiment might find a strap-on dildo the perfect choice for them. You can also look out for regular dildos that are harness compatible for this same purpose.

There is no stereotyped guide or fixed rule for choosing a dildo. At the end of the day, your choice depends largely on your personal preferences. You might not always get it right the first time, but with time and experience, you will get better at choosing a dildo on your own.

As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE dildos
. . . for women AND for men! LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

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A Modest Cable Car #sinfulsunday

Hubby simply doesn’t have a head for heights . . . but whenever I’m on holiday,
I feel almost obligated to visit the local attractions, so I insisted we take the
Cable Car to the top of the mountain.

Modesty Ablaze takes the Cable Car

And . . . to try take his mind off just how far above the lake we were,
I did my best to distract him on the journey!

Modesty Ablaze Gondola 2

Especially as the “clunks” were quite loud as we passed through
each pylon point!

Modesty Ablaze Gondola 3
Modesty Ablaze Gondola Four
Modesty Ablaze Mountain View

Well, at least I felt quite exhilarated . . . and thrilled with the beautiful view!

And I’m sure there will be more beautiful views on display at Sinful Sunday today, from tapping the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

P.S. – I’m hoping that Hubby’s nervous journey will be rewarded by qualifying for the “Cable Car” category at Jade’s fun Scavenger Hunt pages.

And there are certainly lots more Scavenger Hunt excursions at my
Listings page . . . where there are now over 120 different locations.
Most of which are on my Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!

Modesty Ablaze Scavenger Hunt pages

Xxx – K

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Modest #realworldsex Make Love Not Porn #wickedwednesday

Make Love Not Porn Graphic

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “If you had to start a porn site, to what would it be devoted?”

Well . . . you just knew that I couldn’t resist, didn’t you???

Because, if you have visited me here at my Modesty Ablaze pages before, you will probably know that although I don’t specifically have a porn-site of my own, I am a huge supporter of the wonderful #realworldsex website www.makelovenotporn.tv

We’ve all probably watched porn at some time in our lives. In fact my first viewing experiences were from the days when one had to watch from those big video-cassette tape thingys and the content mostly seemed to be in Dutch or German . . . and the men all kept their socks on.

Things have obviously moved on, and the internet has completely changed the way videos are viewed nowadays. But for me, I quickly began to find the “new generation” porn videos actually quite annoying . . . and quite worrying.

Back in the days of those awkward cassette tapes, the videos at least seemed to have a hint of a story-line, socks or not! And the likes of Nina Hartley and Jeannie Pepper were, in my eyes, wonderfully strong-willed and empowered ladies who certainly seemed to enjoy themselves.

By contrast, the new on-line porn, X-streaming videos, seem to be not only just wham-bam, straight into a mass of impossibly writhing contortions or robotics, but more disappointingly to my eyes . . . derogatory or in fact even insulting . . . in the way that most of the participating women are portrayed.

False and overly exaggerated in every way, like plastic doll-like Stepford Wives, body-part extras with no input and no real enthusiasm . . . and certainly no respect for their involvement. And for me, that is a turn-off not a turn-on.

Now, I realise that many people want the pure fantasy, the pure wham-bam straight-to-the action sort of porn like that. But that is not the sort of “porn” that I want to see. I enjoy fantasies and role-play as much as anyone, but even in my Mistressing sessions, I want it to be fun and obviously consensual, and something that I can relate to on my own, personal, level.

And that is why I enjoy being part of MakeLoveNotPorn . . . realworldsex,
for and by realworldpeople just like you and me. And more and more in
today’s world, I think being by-the-people, for-the-people, is how life should really be.

So, although I know I posted earlier this year on my videos at MLNP . . . and used the same image and the same link to my Why I Love Make Love Not Porn video from March 2014 . . . I make no apologies, because although I know it will not be to everyone’s taste . . . if I had to start my own porn-site it would be just like MakeLoveNotPorn !!!

There’s bound to be many more “Pornographic”, thoughts to be discovered at this week’s Wicked Wednesday.

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Xxx- K

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