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Modesty Ablaze reviews the Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager @Sohimi_Official

Sohimi Wand 1

After my Stainless Steel Rings review last month, Sohimi very kindly asked me for my thoughts on their Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager.

Now, as I’m sure you can imagine, I have accumulated quite a collection of clit sucking vibrators over the years, so whilst I wouldn’t say I have become unenthusiastic about adding more to my toy drawer, I was prepared to be rather unimpressed by another.

And certainly when it arrived, I must confess that the very plain packaging … a plain white, outer cardboard box and thin white moulded plastic container inside, cradling the wand itself with the charging cable loosely inserted beneath … did leave me feeling a little underwhelmed.

Sohimi Wand 2

However, as you will discover from browsing the Sohimi website, all their products are remarkably low in price. So is this low-pricing a sign of low-quality products … or is it because they have chosen to keep costs down by plain, unpretentious packaging???

Well … let me tell you !!!

The wand itself certainly felt lovely to the touch when I lifted it from it’s cradle. Made from “body-safe & skin-friendly silicone” it is smooth and soft and actually quite light and comfortable to hold given it’s 9-inch length. And the feel of it, in the palm of my hand, did make me impatient to begin my “product-testing” straight away.

Sohimi Wand 3

But, firstly of course, I needed to follow my normal ritual of a thorough cleaning with warm soapy water and drying-off … before attaching the charging cable and leaving it to fully charge.

The USB cable actually magnetically “docks” to the charging points on the stem, or handle, of the Wand and I left it for the 2-3 hours suggested in the manual.

Now, I’ve already mentioned the plain packaging. And actually despite normally feeling that colourful, imaginative and strikingly designed packaging always implies a high-quality product inside, there have been many occasions when, for me a product, hasn’t lived-up to the promises of it’s packaging-presentation. So it definitely is always the case that what the product does, is obviously more important than how it is packaged.

However, I do like to be able to easily read the instructions and specifications supplied with my new devices (of any kind, whether it be hair-dryers, hoovers … or “toys”). So, I do have to say, that I was disappointed with the small specifications leaflet supplied with the wand. For a lady of my “maturity” and slowly, and depressingly, fading eyesight, I don’t really want to have to be reaching for my reading glasses in order to determine the operational sequence of the buttons and vibrations! But moan over … and now fully charged …

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As it’s name implies the Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager is both a clit sucker and vibrating massager in one. The bulbous head, which actually bends in any direction on it’s flexible neck, supplies the vibrations whilst a hole on the base of the stem handle supplies the sucking.

Sohimi Wand 5

Discarding my reading glasses I soon, intuitively, discovered just how easy it is to operate either function of the Wand. Both buttons are easy to find, and to press into action by holding down for a second to turn-on and then applying a further short press to cycle through the available vibrations and pulses. Each button has six or seven levels of power or pulse, though of course the pattern path is upwards only, so if you find your next push has taken you onto a setting you don’t enjoy as the previous one you just had, then you must hold the button down to turn off, then turn on again to progress back to your preferred choice. But this is no different from most of the vibes in my collection, so once I know which setting is for me I can quickly find it again.

Now for me, I almost always prefer a steady, constant vibration rather than a pulsing or sucking sensation. But we are all different of course, so although the clit sucker on the base of the handle doesn’t do anything for me, even at it’s strongest power setting, it may well be heavenly for others. (I do find though that the handle is perfectly shaped and sized for some gentle in-and-out teasing probings during my play).

So it is the head, and the top-button, of the Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager that I find most enjoyable about my new Sohimi toy. The head because it is just perfectly shaped to move and rub around and over myself … and the button because I know just how many pushes I need to make to take me to my spot … to lift off, to rub teasingly away and upwards, and then slide it back down again !!!

As I mentioned, the head can bend in any angle on the neck of the wand, but it is definitely not floppy or wobbly. Rather it is strong … and firm … and very powerful. Very powerful indeed! And although it is not exactly silent, it is actually quite quiet given the power and strength of its lovely buzzing.

So … do I like the Sohimi Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager ?

No … I LOVE it !!! … Perfectly sized, perfectly shaped, perfectly powerful, perfectly lovely … and perfectly priced. (Oh, and by-the-way, should you be tempted to order the wand for yourself, and I highly recommend you do, simply use the code “MODE” for 10% OFF !!!)

The Sohimi Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager
Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Smooth, light and easy to hold and operate. Very powerful and very, very reasonably priced.
Cons: For me the type-size of the supplied, specifications leaflet is far too small for easy reading.
Material: Body-safe Silicone.
Measurements: Overall length = 9 inches. Bulbous head = 2 inches, circumference = 6 inches. Handle length = 6 inches, circumference at it’s thickest point = 5 inches.
Charging: Re-chargeable. USB cable supplied.
Power Level: Impressively powerful given it’s size.
Noise Level: Reasonably quiet given it’s power.
Waterproof: Yes.
Cleaning: As normal, wash before and after use with warm soapy water. Use with water-based lube.
Supplier Product Link: Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager
Supplier Website: Sohimi
Additional links: Clittoral Vibrators
Twitter: @Sohimi_Official

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I’m always interested to hear “second opinions” from one of my Submissives … and yes, he enjoyed it too !!!

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The Sohimi Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modestly Strapping-in #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Sinfully strapping in 1

“It’s so lovely to hear that you’ve missed me. And there’s simply no need to worry about being a little out of practice …”

Mistress Modesty Sinfully strapping in 2

“Because … I rather feel it’s a bit like riding a bike really. One just has to start slowly and build-up a gentle rhythm!”

To discover lots of others strapping-in and saddling-up this Sinful Sunday, just push gently on the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Tipped #BoobDay Friday

Modesty Ablaze Tipped at BoobDay Friday

Shall I ? … or shan’t I ? … wear a bra into the office today???

Well, the answer to that question always depends on what else I have chosen to wear … as I would never wish to cause any discomfort or embarrassment for other colleagues, or co-commuters, that I may encounter during the day!!!

BoobDay is about celebration and support. ‘Boob’ is a term that is intended to be gender neutral and it includes the chests and breasts of all sorts of folks. BoobDay is not limited to cisgender women.
Basically, if you want to celebrate the beauty of boobs and join in with like-minded, body-positive, people who are embracing their curves or lack thereof, this is the link-up for you!

Do join-in and add some Boobday celebrations of your own!!!

And . . . if you would like to see more of my, over 200 BoobDays now, you may
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Xxx – K

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Pour Me More – April Members Update Video #PMAGW

Modesty Ablaze Mistresses Submission Cover Part 2

My first Pour Me A Glass Members mid-month update for April is Part Two of my “Mistresses Submission” which I’d posted here on my Members page to fulfill a special request from one of my longest PMAG members, the lovely Sally.
And as several of you messaged to say how much you’d enjoyed the passion, and my obvious enjoyment of our fun, I could hardly not post Part 2 now could I?

I do have more in my archives of this wonderful evening … and in fact lots more in my archives of this amazing Lover … so do let me know if you would like to see more. Or perhaps instead you may prefer some of my Femdom fun, or perhaps more of my Naked Exhibitionism excursions.

Because, as always on my Members Page, the choice is yours to make … all sensible requests considered.

P.s. – Just a reminder for returning subscribers … and several new members who have joined me here during the past two weeks … my hosting server has recently been upgraded which has allowed me to keep more of my previous Members Videos live on my page for longer. And with faster streaming speeds too!!!
Just scroll down to the foot of the Members Page for a list of links.


So thank you all once again for spoiling me here and helping me to keep my wine glass full.

I do hope you will all enjoy this month’s Members Videos, and Photo Gallery … and let me know your own suggestions, for new clips or photos you would like to see in the future from the comments box at the foot of THIS post, or by emailing directly if you prefer.

If you are already a “Pour Me A Glass” Member, just log-in with your
New Password . . . >here< . . . or, if you are not a member, there is more information on how to subscribe from the link at the foot of each of my posts, or from >here<.

Bye for now !!!

P.s. – For over 18 months now, I have been reading this newsletter out aloud and I keep being asked to carry on reading . . . so, if you wish, you can listen to this month’s “Modcast” from the screen below . . .

Xxx – K

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Modest Grips #BoobDay Friday

Modesty Ablaze Boobday Friday White Grips

You know what it’s like when working in front of a hot oven … one needs some protection to avoid burning one’s … finger-tips!!!

BoobDay is about celebration and support. ‘Boob’ is a term that is intended to be gender neutral and it includes the chests and breasts of all sorts of folks. BoobDay is not limited to cisgender women.
Basically, if you want to celebrate the beauty of boobs and join in with like-minded, body-positive, people who are embracing their curves or lack thereof, this is the link-up for you!

Do join-in and add some Boobday celebrations of your own!!!

And . . . if you would like to see what has gone before, you may
>tweak me here<

Xxx – K

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Xxx – K

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Modesty on Courage #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty holding Chastity Cage

One of the most important, and certainly empowering, things that I have learnt from my Mistressing sessioning is to do with courage.

No … not about my courage … but instead about the courage of many of the people who have contacted, and subsequently, visited me over the past seven years.

Many people wrongly assume that the sort of person who wishes to visit a Female Dominatrix, is in some way abnormal or inferior to the rest of us … and by “rest of us” I mean what is always portrayed in general society as “normal people”.

But in my experience the majority of my visitors … and in the context of this post I don’t want to refer to them as “submissives” … are absolutely normal people, from absolutely normal, everyday backgrounds and walks-of-life.

And through the conversations, discussions, and of course the interactions that always occur around and throughout our meetings, it usually quite quickly becomes clear how much courage these people have needed to accept and acknowledge their desires and their wish to be a little bit “different”. Courage to be able to take that first step to discover themselves in a way that they really feel they can’t share with their immediate loved ones and family … or that would not be “acceptable” among their vocational colleagues, or organisations … because of the stigma and constraints that general society places on us all.

So during our meetings they can be, at least just for the two or three hours of our time together, who they really want to be. To release themselves from the “norms of the everyday” whilst recognising the need that we must all return to and uphold those norms so that others can decide their own paths, their own way, and in their own time. Naturally and equally as it should always be … for all of us.

That takes courage … and understanding … and acceptance.

For more thoughts on ‘Courage’ at this week’s Wicked Wednesday … simply click on the button below!

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Xxx- K

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Modest Legs Eleven #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Sinful Lilo Apr21

Lucky for some? … I’m certainly hoping and praying that my numbers come up again for this summer!!!

Just so I can lay back in the manner I’ve become accustomed to …
and so obviously deserve … and be pushed slowly back and forth
along my favourite beach!!!

I’m sure there will be lots more Pick ‘n Mix, Cups of Tea, Knocks at the Door and Garden Gate to Eye Spy at this week’s Sinful Sunday, by tap, tap, tapping on the Lucky-Lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modest Droplets #BoobDay Friday

Modesty Ablaze Boobday Friday April 9th 2021

I do love a morning shower … just a few moments alone (usually!!!) with my thoughts … to start the day invigorated and refreshed for all that lies ahead.

BoobDay is about celebration and support. ‘Boob’ is a term that is intended to be gender neutral and it includes the chests and breasts of all sorts of folks. BoobDay is not limited to cisgender women.
Basically, if you want to celebrate the beauty of boobs and join in with like-minded, body-positive, people who are embracing their curves or lack thereof, this is the link-up for you!

Do join-in and add some Boobday celebrations of your own!!!

And . . . if you would like to see what has gone before, you may
>tweak me here<

Xxx – K

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Xxx – K

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Pour Me A Glass Members Newsletter – April 2021 #PMAGW

Pour Me A Glass of Wine Podcast for April 2021

Welcome to my Pour Me A Glass of Wine Modcast Newsletter for April 2021 … with a round-up of my most popular posts over the past month … AND news of this months Members Video and Photo Gallery.


I’d like to welcome several new Pour Me A Glass Members who have joined me here in the past few weeks … and I’m happy to say that an upgrade to the PMAG section of my “Modest Server” … something technical I’m told, not one of my Submissives … not only means that the videos should play more quickly than before, but also that I’m able to keep more of the previous Members Videos live and available to view for longer than previously. Just scroll down to the foot of the Members Page for back-links to view.  

So … onto my first Members Video for the month which is especially for Sally who requested “another video with one of your special Lovers”.

In fact Sally actually asked for a video featuring one Lover in particular … whom she has seen in several of my #Real World Sex videos on my Make Love Not Porn profile. I think she has a bit of a “thing” for him actually … and you know me … I’m always willing to share !!!

And watching it all over again did bring back such lovely memories … and you will be able see just which Lover it is in April’s first Video. So I hope you will enjoy it as much as I … rather obviously … did !!!

This months Members Photo Gallery is to answer a question I’m often asked about whether or not I ever “double-session” with another FemDom dominatrix … and as you will see from these photos … I occasionally do !!!

Now as I always say, I have lots and lots of videos and photos in my archives, so just let me know what sort of fun you would most like me to share. The choice is yours to make … all sensible requests considered.


So … looking back at my most popular posts over the past month here at Modesty Ablaze Dot Com …


Modesty Ablaze 200th Boobday Friday

I was happy to once again to be able to post a Boobday Friday post each week during the month . … starting with aGift Nettingphoto of a lovely Bodystocking I received from my Wishlist.
But a rather special post for me was for the second Friday of the month, when I actually celebrated my 200th Boobday posting since my very first Boobday in September 2015.
I’m not sure that I will be able to manage another 200 photos of my boobies in the future … but I will, of course, keep trying if you’d like me to !!
>>> Read more >>>


Modesty Ablaze Mouth Open Wide Eyes Tightly Shut

I posted two Wicked Wednesday postings during the month … Mouth Open, Eyes Shut and Modestly MILF … which both featured extracts from my “Modesty Ablaze London Hotwife Diaries” … of which I hope to have a new edition published on my Amazon, Gumroad and Etsy pages later on in the year. >>> Read more >>>


Modesty Ablaze Architecture

I’m always in awe of the beautiful photos that I see on Sinful Sunday each week … and whilst I could never hope to match the creativity and artistry of many of them … I was rather proud of Hubby’s Architecture photograph for the last Sunday of March.


>>> Read more >>>


Modesty Ablaze Exposure at 4Thoughts for Fiction

I don’t manage to join-in with May More’s 4 Thoughts or Fiction meme as often as I’d like to …

But I simply couldn’t resist the “Exposed” theme during the month with my Modest Exposure posting.


>>> Read more >>>


Modesty Ablaze Lunchtime Garage Quickie

And for my final post of the month I was happy to add another Real World Sex video to my Make Love Not Porn collection. MyMe-Time Lunchtime Quickie in the Garage was actually filmed during our first lock-down last year … but I didn’t really think it was appropriate to release it back then. But then recently I thought, well why not? It was, after all, just a little bit of much-needed, enjoyable, self-indulgent fun … like all of my videos at Make Love Not Porn are!!! >>> Read more>>>


So thank you again for spoiling me here and helping me to keep my glass full.

I do hope you will all enjoy this month’s Members Videos, and Photo Gallery … and let me know your own suggestions, for new clips or photos you would like to see in the future from the comments box at the foot of THIS post, or by emailing directly if you prefer.

If you are already a “Pour Me A Glass” Member, just log-in with your
New Password . . . >here< . . . or, if you are not a member, there is more information on how to subscribe from the link at the foot of each of my posts, or from >here<.

Bye for now !!!

P.s. – For almost two now, I have been reading this newsletter out aloud and I keep being asked to carry on reading . . . so, if you wish, you can listen to this month’s “Modcast” from the screen below . . .

Xxx – K

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A Mirrored Doorway #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Mirrored Door

Goodness it’s like playing Spin-the-Bottle isn’t it? … I mean this week’s Sinful Sunday!!! But instead of removing an item of clothing, one has to find a photo to fit the words where the spin stops.

Well my spin stopped at “Doorways” and “Mirrors” but … I still just couldn’t stop myself … bad habits you see!!!

For more Spinning Right Round this Sinful Sunday, simply spin
on the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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