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Modesty Blushed #Boobday Friday

I know I’ve been neglecting my Boobday Friday’s of late, so this is my
first of 2020.

It is from the same recent session as myMarkedposting at
Kink of the Week . . . and I think gives an indication of just how much
I always enjoy my spanking fun!!!

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

Be sure to visit . . . and why not join-in . . .  Boobday sharing, this and
every Friday, by clicking on Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!

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Xxx – K

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Modestly Marking #KOTW

For years and years marking was something that would never have entered my head during my playtime fun with Hubby . . . or any of my other lovers.

In fact as I tend to bruise quite easily, I would always be horrified at picking up even the slightest of bruising or scratching.

But since I began experimenting and developing my more “kinky” hobby four or five years ago, that has all changed. Not from the point of view of being marked
. . . but, instead, to being the “marker”.

Now initially when I began my Mistressing I would always be careful to restrict my disciplining fun to hand-spanking or perhaps using soft floggers and paddles that would only blush or temporarily redden my gentlemen’s bottoms and backs. I had neither the experience, nor the inclination, to mark them further. And anyway, my earliest gentlemen “friends” mostly seemed to be very anxious not to have any noticeable markings after leaving my chambers. (Probably for obvious reasons, but which it is never my place to ask about).

I quickly came to enjoy administering my hand-spanking sessions more and more, and soon had many gentlemen returning for “more of the same please Mistress”. It was some months though before I had my first request for a
“severe caning”.

Caning is something, if you’ll excuse the pun, not to be taken lightly, and requires practice and care . . . both for the recipient, and also for the canes themselves. (I always use my own to ensure they are properly cleaned after use).

So I approached my first such sessions with some degree of nervousness and caution, explaining that “severe” was open to interpretation and should be undertaken with gradual progression.

Since those early days however, as with my hand-spanking, I have grown to enjoy those special requests more and more.

Because if a gentleman asks and clearly really, really does desire to leave with my marks imprinted for a day, or several days, across his cheeks . . . then I take that as a compliment. A sign of his fulfilment and enjoyment of our time together.

And, I must confess, I now really do love receiving selfies from my gentlemen during the course of the following day, (or several days), of the progression and healing, of those welts and bruises.

So from my point of view, I’m definitely a “mark-er” and not a “receiver”.

For many other interesting views on “Marking” just spank
the KOTW lips below.

Kink of the Week

Xxx- K

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Modestly Throned #sinfulsunday

If you are lucky enough to be summoned . . . you had better not be late!!!

For more important instructions this Sinful Sunday you have
my permission to smack the lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Public #KOTW

Over the past year or so I have been trying . . . trying unsuccessfully for the most part . . . to compile Part Eight of my Modesty Ablaze Diaries for publication.

Following on from Modesty Ablaze Unmasked, this new edition explores my initial interest, and then enjoyment of, the fetish and dominatrix lifestyle which I’ve come to love so much.

So the current theme of “Public, Kink Play” at Kink of the Week has inspired me to re-double my efforts to complete the editing of the pages and pages of my diary notes that make up “The Journey Beyond” . . .

Although we don’t attend as many events or club-nights as we used to, for several years our visits to Torture Garden, Club Rub, etc. etc. were a regular part of our social “stepping out” . . . and the following extract from “The Journey Beyond” is from one such evening.

The music in the main chamber as we entered was blaringly loud . . . too loud for easy conversation, but I knew from our previous visits to TG that most of the crowd came not to converse, not even to dance, more to just parade. Strutting their stuff, as Hubby called it. “Let’s find the bar” I shouted in his ear, “you can buy me a drink”.

The warehouse was huge, three floors of several large rooms on each, and then a number of smaller rooms and annexes all inter-connected with corridors and treacherous narrow steps . . . at least treacherous to me in my heels as we wandered and explored!

The downstairs bar had been far too crowded, and just as noisy as the main room, but we’d been told on entry of an upstairs bar and quieter space. But finding it was proving rather difficult, especially as there were so many “distractions” along the way!

As always with TG, the array of equipment and play-areas was amazing . . . and overwhelming! Stocks, and crosses, suspension frames and spanking benches at every turn. Hubby was clearly enjoying the sights and sounds as we wandered. But I was anxious for that first calming and relaxing glass of wine, just to settle my nerves and self-consciousness that I always feel in the first hour or so.

Eventually we’d managed to find our way to the top floor . . . and a much less crowded and noisy bar area. I’d been conscious of my age as we’d wandered around downstairs, worried that my best clubbing days have long-since passed, and that I was out of place amongst all the younger and more-outlandish outfits than my own. But in this bar there seemed a more balanced, or low-key, crowd and I began to relax a little more . . . especially once Hubby passed me that first glass.

It wasn’t just a bar area though . . . at one end of the room was a cubicle-type recess with a large bed covered in black sheeting and several couples engaged in a mini orgy of writhing and swooning bodies. I was beginning to feel more relaxed minute by minute. But theirs seemed to be a closed grouping, with neither the room nor the invitation for more participation . . . other than being part of the small crowd of onlookers gathered around.

Feeling enlivened and energised from my, by now, empty glass . . . and the activity on the bed in front of us . . . I pulled Hubby away, ordered him to “top me up” and told him we should continue our explorations of the floors below.

After some further, entertaining wanderings, we ended-up back in the largest room on the middle floor. A large space housing a large cage in the middle, with various benches, stools and tables around the outer walls. As we stood looking at the rope netting hanging from one side of the cage, a thin shape emerged from the shadows and bowed in front of me. “May I offer myself for a flogging Mistress” he said, pointing to my flogger I had draped over my shoulder as we’d been walking around. Hubby told me later that this young man had followed us down from the bar upstairs, though I hadn’t noticed him then.

Feeling much more at ease now, and actually more than-a-little excited and aroused by our surroundings, I nodded that he should position himself against the netting. I teased the black and red leather strands of my flogger gently across his shoulders, letting them twist and dangle down his back . . . and then brushing them in gentle swishes back and forth across the back of his legs.

Then, warming to my task, and feeling tingles rising within, I reached forward and yanked his black shorts over his cheeks, letting them fall to his ankles . . .

As I say, I hope to have more memories from this evening, and lots more of my Femdom and Kink adventures published in “The Journey Beyond” soon.

But, in the meantime, there are lots of other interesting experiences of “Public Play” right now at the current KOTW from smacking the lips below.

Kink of the Week

Xxx- K

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Modest Relief #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Queening Chair

After such a stressful and exhausting week, it’s just nice to be able to sit down with a chilled glass of wine for some relaxing . . . relief !!!

I’m sure there will be lots of other relaxing relief to be savoured by
tapping the Sinful Sunday lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Wrapping #sinfulsunday

With so few sessioning days left until Christmas . . . I’ve already started my
wrapping in earnest.

And around my table at least, “pigs in blankets” are always popular morsels!!!

There may well be other preparations already in progress this week to be discovered by squeezing the Sinful lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Boobs in Black #Boobday Friday

Mistress Modesty Boobday Friday Dress

I received a new dress from one of my Wishlists last week . . . and it does feel rather lovely against my nipples when I first zip it on.
And, when I move about in it !!!

It also seems perfect for a Boobday Friday photo as well, don’t you think?

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

Be sure to visit . . . and why not join-in . . .  Boobday sharing, this and
every Friday, by clicking on Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!

HysBoobDayLogo

Xxx – K

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Modest Knots #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Knots

Forgive me for I have sinned . . . by being very late for Sinful Sunday this week . . . but I have been rather tied-up in knots you see.

Not tied-up myself . . . because I was the one doing the tie-ing . . . but I rather like the result!!!

Anyway . . . now that I am back . . . I shall be catching-up with all the other marks, knots and burns at this week’s Sinful Sunday by tapping
the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Safe #F4T

Mistress Modesty Ablaze Safe Words

When I first decided to explore my Femdom “hobby” from just the sort of
home-play fun that I’m sure lots of couples indulge in, to a . . . shall we say . . . wider range of participants, I knew I had to properly research the etiquettes and sensible, codes of practice that would be required.

I was extremely lucky to attend a number of classes and events organised by
two of London’s most experienced Mistresses . . . the wonderfully fun and motivational Madame Caramel, and the beautiful and inspirational Miss Kim Rub.

From each of them I learnt the standard norms of safety and behaviour not just to safeguard myself, but also to safeguard those who may wish to submit to . . . my own style(s) . . . of female domination.

And the importance of safe-words and perceived, and actual, limits of all those involved was always the first consideration for organising . . . and implementing
. . . a meeting / session.

But, of course, as with all things in life, it is from the actual physical experience of participation in something, that one gains the most knowledge and feelings. And I quickly realised that for many of the subs with whom I session with, the actual sense of begging to “stop” is often all part of the huge release and extreme pleasure that they feel. They want to keep gasping “Oh, Mistress please stop” when actually they wish for the experience, and the pleasure, to continue.

So Yes, a safe-word is always necessary, and responsible for both parties, to have set and agreed upon, before a session begins. But, as well as words, I have found from my own experiences, that it is more than a word from which I can sense that enough is enough. It is often from that feeling of personal connection, communication, that leads me to slow, or stop completely, when I know that my submissive has reached that blissful summit.

And whilst at the beginning of my fun Femdom journey, I visited numerous events at ClubRub, Pedestal, ClubBlackWhip, Torture Garden et al . . . nowadays, I much prefer the experience of sessioning with just one, or two, submissives in the Chambers of my choice, rather than the loud and more impersonal surroundings of a club event.

Because it is from that more personal interaction, that the most enjoyable moments of submission and domination . . . for all of those involved . . .
can be experienced.

For more Safe Words, at this week’s Food For Thought Friday simply
smack the button below.

Food For Thought Friday

Xxx- K

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Modestly Piercing #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Red Dildo Strap On

Whilst I do enjoy the look of piercings, and am always in awe of those who have them, I am just not brave enough to have one of my own.

Instead . . . I much prefer to be the one actually giving the piercing !!!

But as “Piercings” is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday, you will find lots of information . . . and photos I’m sure . . . on wearable jewellery of just
that kind, by pushing at the button below.

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Xxx- K

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