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In grey, damp January … my thoughts always turn to warmer, sunnier days. And usually to the thought of wishing I was back standing on my favourite, summer holiday, beach!!!

And this morning my thoughts have also turned to continuing with my homage to the wonderful “Corrupting Mrs Jones” blog page of “Thirty Dirty Questions” which can be found from her blog header bar >here<.

So … this morning’s post follows-on at the very end of the year with my own answers to questions 6 to 10 … having re-titled my own version as Fifty “Sexy” Questions rather than the “Dirty” connotation … because I’ve always wanted to push the view that sex is not “dirty”. I’d rather think of sex as just … “sexy”.

As I said then, I’m not sure how far-along I’ll get in keeping-up with my answers … but I thought it might be fun … and would certainly re-kindle some lovely memories.

So … here are my answers to Questions 11 to 15:

Question 11: Would you ever visit a sex therapist? What would be the reason and what do you think their advice would be for you?
I am grateful that I’ve never had the need to even think about visiting a therapist. So my answer to this question is definitely a “no”. However, as I’ve said in one of my earlier answers here, I do believe that “great sex always begins with great communication”. So if anyone should ever have doubts, or worries, or questions, in their mind about any aspect of their “private life”, then I think they certainly should seek professional help and guidance. (What’s that old saying? “A problem shared, is a problem solved!”

Question 12: Is there anything about sex that embarrasses you, causes shame or fear or makes you nervous? And what is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you during sex?.
LOL !!! No, nothing about sex embarrasses me!
And whilst there are probably many embarrassing moments … I can’t remember any that caused anything more than just loud bursts of laughter … and a momentary pause before continuing!!!

Question 13: What do you tend to fantasize or dream about when it comes to sex? What kinds of porn or kink are you drawn to?
We all have sexual dreams and fantasies don’t we. And if not, then you absolutely should … because I always have, since as long as I can remember. And although in my earlier pre-teen days I know I felt guilty and ashamed about those fantasies, meeting Hubby when I did, soon allowed me to release and let-go of that shame and guilt. And begin this amazing journey!!!

And as to what kinds of things I am drawn to … well all kinds obviously!!! Depending on the circumstances, and my mood at the time … and as long as it’s always entirely (and obviously) completely consensual … then I’ve always enjoyed exploring almost everything in the sexual and kink spectrum.

Question 14: If you were to create a sexy playlist intended for a hot date at home, what would be on it?
Again it depends on the circumstances … and my mood at the time … and the person, or persons, involved.
And to be honest, once I begin to immerse myself, and get “lost-in-the-moment(s)”, the background noise and environment always gets lost and muted, and definitely becomes the last thing on my mind.

Question 15: Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?
Oh, yes, on many, many occasions.
The first occurred quite spontaneously sitting at the bar of our favourite Swingers Club, talking with the lovely, lovely chaperone who always greeted “newbies” and showed them around the club, and explained the rules and “etiquette” of how to conduct oneself and what to do should either of us feel uncomfortable.
We became very friendly with this lovely lady, and as we soon became regulars (every Saturday night in those first few months lol !!!), and were normally among the first couples to arrive (the club was very, very local to us!!!), we would always sit and chat until it became busier and she would begin doing her “meet and greet”. And on probably, our third or fourth visit, as we were sat at the bar, she began gently stroking my forearm and then just lent forward and began giving me the most wonderfully passionate kiss.
I’d never kissed a woman before, certainly not in that way, and it was just the most deliciously soft and wonderful … and dizzying … experience. Then she stopped, and without a word, stepped down and led me round into the main playroom … where we just continued!!!
Needless to say, Hubby followed to sit across the room and watch … and told me it was one of the most sexually arousing things he’d ever seen or felt.

As it certainly was for me as well.

And as you can imagine, it certainly wasn’t the last!!!

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So … if you’ve read this far … perhaps you would like me to continue? Let me know your own thoughts … and opinions. Because, I do truly believe that “great or awesome” anything comes from great or awesome communication.

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Xxx – K

P.s. If you’ve read my “Modestly Returning” post at the beginning of April 2024, you will know that most of my content here was lost, or corrupted, at the beginning of 2022. We are slowly working on re-instating that lost content, and repairing the broken links, so please bear with us. I hope this won’t dampen your enjoyment here.

Xxx – K

I’d like to take this moment to wish you all a happy, healthy, and fun New Year’s … let’s hope that 2025 will be a huge improvement and bring better times FOR EVERYONE across the world, than has been the case during the last 12 months.

I also thought it was time to continue with my homage to the wonderful “Corrupting Mrs Jones” blog page of “Thirty Dirty Questions” which can be found from her blog header bar >here<.

I began my own version earlier this month with my answers from 1 to 5 … though I preferred to re-title my own version as Fifty “Sexy” Questions rather than the “Dirty” connotation. Just because I’ve always wanted to push the view that sex is not “dirty”, I’d rather think of sex as just … “sexy”.

As I said then, I’m not sure how far along I’ll get in keeping-up with my answers … but I thought it might be fun … and would certainly re-kindle some lovely memories.

So … here are my answers to Questions 6 to 10:

Question 6: What are your thoughts on foreplay? Favourite types, Best Experiences, Wishes?
On a personal / emotional level … if I have become sufficiently interested in a potential partner to develop the relationship “further” … then foreplay is always hugely important, and an essential part of every meeting. Even with SubbyHubby!!!
And for me that could just start as cuddling and kissing … leading to teasing and tantalising … leading to fondling and stroking. And then usually to oral and physical stimulation which always heightens the arousal and desire for “more”.
Having said all that, I must admit that in our early swinging-club days there were certainly many occasions when just the general “atmosphere”, or perhaps what had gone on earlier in the evening, had left me aroused and excited enough to forgo the necessity for any foreplay at all!!!

Question 7: What parts of your lover’s body are you most drawn to? If you don’t currently have a lover, consider past or future lovers.
I’m not ashamed to say that I love cocks. I love observing all the different shapes and sizes and skin textures and colouring. And it doesn’t have to be just that of a lover … just seeing a naked man, any naked man, it is always the first thing my eyes are drawn to. Even when we may be on one of our naturist beaches, or club events. Even if I have absolutely no desire to engage with them physically, or emotionally, in any way what-so-ever … I just can’t help but look. I simply love to watch the way it may move, or jiggle, as they walk or move about.
And, of course, when it is in a more physical, personal and sexual encounter … then I love to watch, and feel, the way it grows as it becomes aroused.
So … as you can tell, I have absolutely no shame in admitting my enjoyment of, and interest in, the male penis!!

Question 8: Consider a moment in your life of great sensuality, eroticism or sexuality. Then answer the questions that Mary Oliver does in her poem “Gratitude” as they apply to that moment? For those unfamiliar with the poem, her questioning points are those in italics below)
If I had to think of one specific moment in my experiences … and as I was just mentioning our swinging-club days in Question 7 above … it would possibly be remembering my first “unexpectedly explosive” evening at the Club. Because it was so unexpected … and certainly sensual, erotic AND most definitely sexual!!!
So … What did you notice?
Everything about the environment, the people, and the situation as we first began to explore and wandered into the “main open play” area to witness a mass of bodies on a huge padded mattress in the centre of that room.
What did you hear?
The sound of sex … and enjoyment … and release … of people enjoying their bodies, and each other.
What did you admire?
Everything about what was happening in front of us.
What astonished you?
How amazingly aroused I instantly was.
What would you like to see again?
I saw those situations … and joined-in with them … on many occasions in the months that followed.
What was most tender?
I’m not sure it could be described as “tender” in a physical sense … but it was certainly tender and special for me in every other way.
What was most wonderful?
The obvious passion and enjoyment and sexual release of every person involved.
What did you think was happening?
Oh … it was quite obvious what was happening for all those involved at that moment. For myself, I was just amazed at how instantly aroused and overwhelmed with sexual desire I was.

Question 9: If you were to recreate the early days of your favourite sexy relationship, what would they look like? Would you change anything?
As I say, that moment was recreated … and indulged in … on many occasions over the next few months. And I certainly wouldn’t want to change anything about that occasion and the many empowering moments it gave to me from that moment on.

Question 10: What would you want more of in your sex life?
I have been incredibly, amazingly, lucky to have enjoyed some wonderfully exciting and empowering experiences over the last two decades or more. And have met some wonderful, and life-long, friends in the process. But as we change and “mature” over the years … (and I mean “mature” in a more physical sense as our bodies change and age, because I hope I never “mature” emotionally or personally!!!) … then much of those particular moments may now be in the past. BUT I know I could certainly never ask for anything more in my sexual life. And I certainly will never regret any of those wonderful experiences.

So … if you’ve read this far … perhaps you would like me to continue? Let me know your own thoughts … and opinions. Because, I do truly believe that “great or awesome” anything comes from great or awesome communication.

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Xxx – K

P.s. If you’ve read my “Modestly Returning” post at the beginning of April 2024, you will know that most of my content here was lost, or corrupted, at the beginning of 2022. We are slowly working on re-instating that lost content, and repairing the broken links, so please bear with us. I hope this won’t dampen your enjoyment here.

Xxx – K