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Modest Exposure #4Thoughts_Fiction and #wickedwednesday

Modestly Exposed at 4Thoughts

Some of you may have seen my “Update March 2021” note on my OnlyFans page here recently, so the current prompt at 4 Thoughts of “Exposed” rings especially true at the moment, and I just couldn’t resist joining in.

And … as the current prompt at Wicked Wednesday just happens to be “Two Truths and a Lie” … I thought it would be fun to tease you with my answers to the Questions being asked below:


1) Have you exposed yourselves in word or picture and did you chose to do so, as an act of exhibitionism or subservience to another’s will, or perhaps as an act of self humiliation?


2) What was behind your act of exposure? Was it something you did of your own volition or were you told to do it?


3) How did it leave you feeling? Excited perhaps? Guilty? Horny or perhaps, sadly; in some way compromised?
?


And … my answers???

1) Yes, I have … just once or twice … exposed myself in some Nude In A Public Place exhibitionism pictures.


2) Yes … I’m ashamed to say … that on each occasion it was completely of my own volition.

3) It always leaves me feeling Excited, Guilty, Horny and … Compromised.

So … to play 
Marie’s Wicked Wednesday “Two Truths and a Lie” game … can you guess the Truths and Lies amongst my answers above???

For more ‘Exposures’ at 4 Thoughts … and ‘Truths and Lies’ at Wicked Wednesday … simply click on the buttons below!

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P.s.: There are some clues to my “Truths and Lies” answers above >here<
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Xxx- K

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Modestly Gazing #4Thoughts_Fiction and #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Gazing

For as far back as I can remember, I’ve always enjoyed sex. Not just the physical act itself, but all the mystique, eroticism, taboo, danger and excitement that even the very mention of the word itself brings to mind.


My intrigue and questioning … and then joyous abandonment … as I discovered for myself, the senses of touch and emotion, and power and release, just intensified as my own experiences and relationships grew and evolved.


And so the current themes of both “Gaze” at 4 Thoughts and “Closed Doors” at Wicked Wednesday, immediately made me think back to those first adventures and just how much has changed practically … and yet in my mind’s eye, hasn’t really changed at all.


Long before Modesty Ablaze, I was enjoying the explorations and sexciting adventures that my curiosity … and my wonderful lifestyle … allowed me to indulge in.


And the discovery that I actually really enjoyed “the gaze” of watching … and being watched … fuelled the exhibitionist streak within me even more. Because in every other aspect of “normal life” I considered myself to be shy and lacking in self-confidence. And yet here in the taboo and secret shadowy world of sex and sinfulness, I was embracing the explosions of every gazing, exhibitionist, opportunity I could.


And of course Modesty Ablaze gave me the perfect platform to indulge that exhibitionism through my photos and videos. 


So … those questions at 4 Thoughts ???


1) At the most basic level, how do you feel about watching sex, or being watched whilst having sex?


2) Would being watched make any difference to what you did, or how you did it?


3) Is there a difference between intentional and accidental watching; for example, being invited to watch someone have sex versus accidentally viewing someone who was having sex outdoors?


4) If you are into sex outdoors, what part does both intentional and accidental viewing play in that? And similarly, what do you think are the ethics around having sex outdoors with regard to potential accidental viewing?


And … my answers???

1) Yes, I love both the watching and the being watched.


2) Other than the fact that just knowing that others could be watching always enhances the passion and desire, it wouldn’t make any difference to the what’s or how’s of the occasion, because that will always be determined by the person(s) involved and the exact situation and circumstance at that moment in time.


3) Actually YES … being invited, or in a situation where everyone present is aware of, and fully consents, to the presence of others watching, or potentially watching, will always be for me far more arousing and fulfilling. Because it is that consensual nature of the situation that makes it fun … and exciting.


4) I must admit that sex-in-the-outdoors is not one of my major kinks … I much prefer the comfort and potential for a relaxing recovery and re-charging, before carrying-on where one has just left off. That’s not to say that I haven’t indulged, because there has been several, spur-of-the-moment occasions … but they were never my most enjoyable. So whilst I acknowledge the thrill and intensity of one of those heat-of-the-moment situations, I would never purposefully try to expose passers-by to our fun. Because … in my view it is completely unethical to cause upset or offence to people who may not share the same views, or interests … and that is something I believe should be true in everything we do, not just in the context of sex.


Some people prefer to keep their sexual preferences and desires private, and behind closed doors, and I think we should always respect those views completely and without question.


For more thoughts on ‘Gaze’ at 4 Thoughts … and ‘Closed Doors’ at Wicked Wednesday … simply click on the buttons below!

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Multilingual #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Kissing the Pink

I’ve always admired friends and colleagues who are multi-lingual … and the way they can engage in conversation in a language other than their own.


But I am happy to say that over the past decades of Modesty … and before
I have developed what I feel is quite a strong, and intuitive, grasp of that most enjoyable, and widely experienced, language of all … Body Language.


And there are occasions, I’m sure you will agree, when body language can
be simply magical !!!

This week’s theme of ‘Magic’ … at Wicked Wednesday and ‘Body Language’ at May’s new meme of 4 Thoughts or Fiction, will have much more comprehensive thoughts on both subjects I’m sure, so click below!

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Xxx- K

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Modest Holidays #F4T #wickedwednesday

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Oh, how I’m longing for, hoping for, praying for … a holiday this summer.
So, so much !!!


I look forward to it every year of course … but this year even more than ever.


Family holidays were always nice of course … and over 18 years with our two children, we enjoyed some lovely vacations in lovely resorts and locations. Always somewhere different, always different activities …

But then, when our young ones had flown the nest, we had the opportunity … actually the necessity, to book an early summer break … out of school-term time … and at short (one week’s) notice.

No plans, no thoughts, no expectations, we just said to each other “let’s just do something, go somewhere where we can just chill, no responsibilities, no phones, no emails, just to relax … just for ourselves”.


So we walked into our local Travel Agents and said exactly that … “and we’d like to leave next Saturday”.

I’ll never forget it … the young lady looked up and said “well we specialise more in long-haul, adventure holidays, safaris … that sort of thing!”

Hubby said, “ok, we’d just thought we’d ask, we’ll try the other place around the corner!” (This was when there were still three Travel Agents in our high street).


“Well … wait a moment, take a seat.” she said. “Have you ever been to ……
(an island in Greece)?” she asked.


“Not that particular island” Hubby replied. “But we’d love too, we’ll take it thanks, won’t we K?”, he looked across at me and we both burst out laughing … both thinking back to our very first holiday together thirty-eight years ago.

Some things are just meant to be aren’t they!!! Because it was simply magical.

Not just the fact that our question took us back to Greece. Not just because it took us to that particular island. Not just because it took us to that particular, out-of-the-way, isolated, spot on that particular island. Not just because of the beautiful places we discovered, the wonderful tiny tavernas, the lovely welcoming local people we met.

Just because … well … because you can’t really explain magic can you?


And … as boring as it may sound … we’ve returned to that exact same spot,
every summer, ever since.


So that is why … as I said … I’m hoping, praying that I can add more special moments to my holiday memories above!!!

This week’s theme at Food For Thought is “Holidays”, which of course got me remembering … and then … Wicked Wednesday‘s “Statistics” had me counting all the months and years!!!

For more thoughts just tap the F4T and Wicked Wednesday buttons below.

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Locked #F4T #wickedwednesday

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I’m quite used to lockdowns of course. . . .

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In fact, over the past few years . . .

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. . . it’s become quite a popular request . . .

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and something that I must admit . . . I’ve come to quite enjoy!!!

But, it should go without saying that this current situation is
completely different. So I sincerely hope you won’t think I’m trying to belittle,
or make fun of things.
 Because I’m certainly not.

And I really do hope that you, and all of your nearest and dearest, are well and healthy . . . and are able to stay that way.


This week’s themes at Food For Thought and Wicked Wednesday are both about the current Lockdown we all find ourselves in. For more thoughts tap the F4T and Wicked Wednesday buttons below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Sporting Moments #F4T

We all enjoy sports of one kind or another don’t we? Even if, like me, one is never likely to become a champion. It is still fun to imagine from time-to-time. You know what I mean . . . to grasp bat and ball(s), to swish and swing a club or racquet, to stride across the green, to grace one’s local football stadium . . .

  • Modesty Ablaze at the Football Stadium

As this week’s theme at Food For Thought is all about “Sports”, I thought it would be fun to share some of my sporty-memories from the past few years.
For lots more Sporting Moments tap the F4T button below.

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Xxx- K

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Making Modest Dates #F4T

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I’ve never really got on with organising dates in any of those computer spreadsheet programs, or even on the calendar in my phone.

I realise that in this day and age it will be considered as terribly old-fashioned, but I much prefer to enter all my sessioning appointments, and important dates, in hand-written form into my diary. It’s what I always did before computers and mobile phones . . . and it’s what I shall very probably continue to do, for the foreseeable future.

So, rather than having to awkwardly scroll through my phone screen or turn-on a computer, I just reach into my handbag and turn to the appropriate page and entries in my diary. It’s quicker and easier to note my appointments and session bookings . . . and means I won’t forget.

But woe betide if you do . . . or if you are late. I can’t abide late-comers.
It makes me cross and impatient . . . and . . . over-excitable !!!

There will be lots more thoughts on “Dates” and “Dating” at this week’s
Food For Thought. Just thumb-through the button below.

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Xxx- K

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