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Modest Exercise #KOTW and #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Exercise 1

“If you thought I’d lost my swing during lock-down, you’re in for a big surprise!” I told him as I began to warm to the task in hand.

Mistress Modesty Exercise 2

“It may be my first session back” I said as I began quickening my swings, “but I have been working-out every day to make sure I kept my strength up!”

Mistress Modesty Exercise 3

“And anyway, swiping bare asses like yours is like a sixth-sense to me!” I said
as I really began to enjoy the sounds … and sights … of the increasing
intensity of my flogging!

For more Exercising motivation and Sixth-Sense experiences simply swipe at the KOTW lips and Wicked Wednesday Rainbow below.

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Modest Deportment #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Sissy Training 1

“We are going to begin by improving your deportment I told him.

“One can’t have ones Sub slouching and drooping their shoulders!

“Now, let’s have you walking down to the end of the room and back … with poise and grace!!! I said.

Mistress Modesty Sissy Training 2

“There will be five strokes for each attempt … until I’m completely satisfied you can accompany me to purchase that lovely outfit you’ve promised me!

As you might imagine, it was a rather long and painful afternoon before we set off on our shopping expedition!!!

To discover what sort of exercise everyone else has been getting up to this Wicked Wednesday … gently smack on the button below!

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Gazing #4Thoughts_Fiction and #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Gazing

For as far back as I can remember, I’ve always enjoyed sex. Not just the physical act itself, but all the mystique, eroticism, taboo, danger and excitement that even the very mention of the word itself brings to mind.


My intrigue and questioning … and then joyous abandonment … as I discovered for myself, the senses of touch and emotion, and power and release, just intensified as my own experiences and relationships grew and evolved.


And so the current themes of both “Gaze” at 4 Thoughts and “Closed Doors” at Wicked Wednesday, immediately made me think back to those first adventures and just how much has changed practically … and yet in my mind’s eye, hasn’t really changed at all.


Long before Modesty Ablaze, I was enjoying the explorations and sexciting adventures that my curiosity … and my wonderful lifestyle … allowed me to indulge in.


And the discovery that I actually really enjoyed “the gaze” of watching … and being watched … fuelled the exhibitionist streak within me even more. Because in every other aspect of “normal life” I considered myself to be shy and lacking in self-confidence. And yet here in the taboo and secret shadowy world of sex and sinfulness, I was embracing the explosions of every gazing, exhibitionist, opportunity I could.


And of course Modesty Ablaze gave me the perfect platform to indulge that exhibitionism through my photos and videos. 


So … those questions at 4 Thoughts ???


1) At the most basic level, how do you feel about watching sex, or being watched whilst having sex?


2) Would being watched make any difference to what you did, or how you did it?


3) Is there a difference between intentional and accidental watching; for example, being invited to watch someone have sex versus accidentally viewing someone who was having sex outdoors?


4) If you are into sex outdoors, what part does both intentional and accidental viewing play in that? And similarly, what do you think are the ethics around having sex outdoors with regard to potential accidental viewing?


And … my answers???

1) Yes, I love both the watching and the being watched.


2) Other than the fact that just knowing that others could be watching always enhances the passion and desire, it wouldn’t make any difference to the what’s or how’s of the occasion, because that will always be determined by the person(s) involved and the exact situation and circumstance at that moment in time.


3) Actually YES … being invited, or in a situation where everyone present is aware of, and fully consents, to the presence of others watching, or potentially watching, will always be for me far more arousing and fulfilling. Because it is that consensual nature of the situation that makes it fun … and exciting.


4) I must admit that sex-in-the-outdoors is not one of my major kinks … I much prefer the comfort and potential for a relaxing recovery and re-charging, before carrying-on where one has just left off. That’s not to say that I haven’t indulged, because there has been several, spur-of-the-moment occasions … but they were never my most enjoyable. So whilst I acknowledge the thrill and intensity of one of those heat-of-the-moment situations, I would never purposefully try to expose passers-by to our fun. Because … in my view it is completely unethical to cause upset or offence to people who may not share the same views, or interests … and that is something I believe should be true in everything we do, not just in the context of sex.


Some people prefer to keep their sexual preferences and desires private, and behind closed doors, and I think we should always respect those views completely and without question.


For more thoughts on ‘Gaze’ at 4 Thoughts … and ‘Closed Doors’ at Wicked Wednesday … simply click on the buttons below!

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Xxx- K

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Modest Surrenders #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Human Furniture

When I first began my Femdom sessions in earnest five years ago … goodness doesn’t time fly-by when one is having fun … I was initially surprised with the huge variety of “specific” requests I was receiving.

Some wanted only to worship my feet, some my bottom, some my pee.

Some wanted to receive my cane, some my floggers, some my strap-on, some my pee (lol !!!).

Some wanted just bare-handed over-the-knee spanking, some verbal humiliation, some face-slapping.

Some wanted to be locked in chastity, some to be locked in a cell, some to be suspended upside-down … some to be human-furniture !!!

And despite my initial reservations about many of these, unusual for me at the time, activities … I soon began to enjoy, and feel absolutely empowered by, the one common-denominator in all of these requests.

And that was the absolute “release” and “surrender” that all of these gentlemen were craving for.

The fact that they could, for just a few hours at least, leave their normal world and normal situations behind, and surrender themselves completely. And the pleasure they so obviously feel in their surrender, gives me pleasure as well!!!

‘Surrender’ is this week’s topic at the wonderful Wicked Wednesday so just tap below to explore more!

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Multilingual #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Kissing the Pink

I’ve always admired friends and colleagues who are multi-lingual … and the way they can engage in conversation in a language other than their own.


But I am happy to say that over the past decades of Modesty … and before
I have developed what I feel is quite a strong, and intuitive, grasp of that most enjoyable, and widely experienced, language of all … Body Language.


And there are occasions, I’m sure you will agree, when body language can
be simply magical !!!

This week’s theme of ‘Magic’ … at Wicked Wednesday and ‘Body Language’ at May’s new meme of 4 Thoughts or Fiction, will have much more comprehensive thoughts on both subjects I’m sure, so click below!

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Xxx- K

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A Modest Feministicity Conundrum #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty London dominatrix feminist

“I think you’re confusing ‘Feminist’ with ‘Mistress’ … and I’ve told you before, you shouldn’t be speaking with your mouth full !!!”

“I shall expect you to research the two more carefully this evening … and prepare a thorough report for me before your next session!!!”

I am sure you will find much more sensible thoughts and opinions on ‘Feminism’ … as it is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday
… by scratching the rainbow below.

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Xxx- K

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A Modest Netting #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Ablaze Cuffs and Nets

Once you are, Modestly, entrapped . . . you must beg loudly for release!!!

Visit this week’s Wicked Wednesday by snapping the button below,
to discover more Netting tales, and imagery.

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NB: The photo above was taken by the marvellous John Tisbury !!!

Xxx- K

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Modest #wickedwednesday’s Past

Modesty Ablaze Polaroids Past sauna
Modesty Ablaze – Hot tub – 1988

I’ve never been very good at numbers, and as some of you may have noticed,
I got my numbering wrong again for last Wednesday’s Wicked posting.
It wasn’t the 400th edition of Marie’s Wicked Wednesday then at all,
it was the 399th!!!

But I’m sure I have done my adding-up correctly now, which means it really is the 400th edition this week.

Now 400 editions is a massive landmark in any genre, but in the context of the Sex Blogging Community it is even more so. And Marie’s website will always hold a very special place in my heart, as her’s was one of the very first websites I discovered when I began my own tentative steps into publishing myself here at Modesty Ablaze Dot Com, and she has remained a constant source of inspiration ever since.

And, it was a Wicked Wednesday post about Polaroids, in August of 2014, that reminded me of all of my “private” Polaroid Photo Albums hidden-away on the top shelf of our bedroom wardrobe . . . which prompted me to begin my Polaroids Past series.

It was of course a great honour to have Marie subsequently add two of her own lovely photos (see below) to my “Polaroids Past” slide-show collection.

Marie at Polaroids Past
Marie Rebelle’s Splash of Red 2009

So it is always a great joy to visit Wicked Wednesday every week . . . and
I certainly hope to keep doing so for another 400 editions, and more!!!

And I urge you to do the same by pushing the Wicked Wednesday
button below.

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Xxx- K

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Trying to Manage My Modest Appointments #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty London Dominatrix

I used to assume that efficiently managing one’s life, would become easier with the passing of time. That I would become more organised and focussed in planning and arranging my day-to-day routines.

But actually the opposite has been true as, certainly over the past few years, every week seems to race by quicker than the last.

That’s not to say that I’m not enjoying that racing . . . in fact I’m having more fun now in my 50’s than I did in my 25’s . . . especially as my domme play-hobby is testing my time-management skills more and more. (And lots and lots of other “skills” as well!!!)

But, consequently, my postings here at Wicked Wednesday have suffered over the past year or so as I haven’t managed anywhere near as many contributions as I used to.

So . . . as I sit down for a moment to relax between sessions . . . with a freshly poured glass of course . . . I couldn’t possibly miss this week as it marks the 400th edition of Marie’s wonderfully fun meme.

You can read many more thoughts on Time Management from tapping on the Wicked Wednesday button below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Adventures #wickedwednesday

My postings here, over the last few years especially, have grown more and more to be visual accounts of my fun adventures . . . rather than as excerpts from my personal diaries which I first started my blog with at the end of 2011.

So as Modesty approaches her eighth anniversary . . . I thought it might be fun to publish a few pages of a chapter from my Further Adventures – Part 6 of The Modesty Ablaze Diaries, particularly as it has a slightly seasonal theme.

I am continually being asked for more of my Diaries and yes, I do have (years and years) more . . . but, when one is just so busy . . . !!!

So, in the meantime, I hope you will enjoy . . .


Seasonal Sunday with S . . .

Despite him asking on numerous occasions, S and I had been unable to arrange a convenient evening to meet in the last few weeks before Christmas. We’d had to make do with texting our Christmas “wishes” back and forth to each other from our respective family gatherings (he away at his wife’s family, and Hubby and the children and I away for Christmas day and evening).

Whilst entertaining parents on Saturday evening, I received a text from S to say he was returning to London by himself late on Sunday as he had to go back to work on Monday (today as I write this), and would I like to “pop-round” as he still had a present to give me. In between topping-up drinks, cleaning off the plates and loading-up the dishwasher, I whispered S’s invitation to Hubby and asked if he’d mind. (He was also starting back at work this morning, but I have the luxury of not having to return to the office until next Monday. The first time I can remember in ages having such a long break over the Christmas / New Year period). Hubby’s immediate response of a wicked grin and nodding his head, and then a passionate kiss, meant I had little tingles of excitement as I texted back to S to “I’d like that, let me know what time”.

It wasn’t until mid-morning on Sunday (after Hubby and I had enjoyed a passionate evening after the in-laws had left) that I had a further text from S to say he wouldn’t be home until after 8, but would text to let me know. Hubby and I spent the rest of the day cuddling and kissing, with him constantly making suggestions (mostly outrageous ones) as to what I should wear and what I should “do”.

Both the children had a friend round for our Sunday meal and each would be sleeping over, and, I knew, would be staying up late, so I was concerned about how I was going to explain about going out “without Dad” late on a Sunday evening. As I lay in the bath soaking though, I did begin feeling quite naughty and excited . . . here I was on a Sunday evening, preparing to meet with my lover (whom I hadn’t seen for over a month), not at a hotel, but at his own home, and just for an hour or so!

Hubby was constantly coming back and forth into the bathroom, and then following me into the bedroom, continuing his suggestions from the night before, about what I should wear and what I should say. I told him that he was “more excited than I was” and that I didn’t want to “plan” things and just to let me to get ready in peace. I sent him back downstairs to join the kids with their DVD movies and keep them occupied.

I ignored his suggestions of wearing just my “boots and stockings” under my coat, and instead chose a new-ish grey woollen dress that I’d treated myself to before Christmas. With earrings and a necklace (both of which S had given me as separate gifts before), and my black heels, I told Hubby (when I saw the slight look of disappointment on his face), that I wanted to feel “comfortable and casual” and not “tarty” this evening.

It was gone 9 before the text came through to say he was home. I replied that I would leave shortly and then called Hubby back to the bedroom, as I finished my make-up, to get him to make sure he kept all the children occupied whilst I left, but to try and get them to go up to their rooms as early as he could. He was nodding excitedly, saying he’d be reminding them that he had work early the next morning, whilst trying to cuddle and caress me. I told him he could only kiss my neck and shoulders so as to not “spoil my lipstick”. He was stroking my bottom and asking if I had any knickers on. “Of course not” I replied. I patted him on his crotch and told him “I expect you to be waiting up for me. Get those kids in bed !!”.

It is only a few minutes walk to his house, and he greeted me at the door with a glass of champagne and a welcoming kiss on the cheek. He hung my coat over the banister and led me into the kitchen for my “present”. I protested that he shouldn’t keep buying me presents but he replied “it’s a tradition”.
He was playing with my necklace, “I remember this night”, and telling me how “gorgeous” I looked, as I unwrapped the small parcel. It was another necklace, and I knew, another expensive one. I protested again, but kissed him my thanks as he reached around me to try to fix the clasp around my neck. Once he’d managed to fix it on, we began kissing again, just warmly at first, but then as though we were both releasing weeks and weeks of expectation, it became a gasping passionate squeezing of our lips and tongues.

We hardly ever kiss, not really like this, not the way I kiss Hubby for instance, but the moment just seemed to carry us away and we were both embracing and squeezing into one another in a way I can’t remember us ever having done before. He was rubbing his hands around my hips and bum, and I was sliding mine up and down his back. He reached around and having not even caressed my boobs yet as he normally would, he just suddenly pulled my dress downwards off my shoulders. My nipples were both suddenly exposed and as he leant down to suck at them, I struggled my arms out of each sleeve to cradle his head into them as he sucked and nibbled from one to the other.

The weight of our embrace had pushed me backwards into the fridge and I could feel the cold of the door on my back as he pulled the rest of my dress down over my hips and then down to my ankles. He’d already slid down to his knees as I stepped each foot out of the dress at my feet, and as I felt him licking at me I was reaching out with each arm backwards against the fridge and cabinets trying to keep my balance. He is normally so calm and slow that his sudden reactions now had rather taken me by surprise . . . but at the same time had made me incredibly aroused. I was giggling and gasping as I heard some of their magnet-ornaments falling off the fridge door as I was trying to keep my balance whilst at the same time thrusting my hips forward into his mouth and tongue.

I was really wet and really excited and wanted to pull him up for more kisses, but he was resisting my attempts to lift him up, flicking his tongue around me more and then sucking hard at my lips and clit. I had to gasp out to him “I want to taste it, kiss my juices on me please!” before he lifted away and allowed me to pull him up to kiss me again. I sucked his tongue into me and could feel myself rubbing against him with my boobs and legs and pulling him against me. He pulled away for air and said “Lets go upstairs”. But I protested that “I’m the only one who’s naked. I’m not going anywhere until you undress!” I helped him unbutton his shirt and belt and then as he extracted himself from his shirt, I pulled his pants down and dropped down onto my knees as his erection slapped out of his pants against my face. I sucked him straight in, all the way in one motion, as I held him by his bum cheeks and pulled him into me. I slid my mouth back and forth on him as quickly as he’d been tonguing me, and squeezed his cheeks with my nails as hard as I could. He was gasping as much as I had been, and just let me stroke back and forth on him for a few moments more before I stopped and stood back up against him telling him “your tiles are cold”. He laughed and asked if he could take me upstairs now then. I squeezed him and nodded my approval, kissing him again as we had been a few minutes before. I don’t know why, possibly because I was so aroused, but I suddenly just wanted to kiss him and feel his tongue pushing into my mouth.

As we stepped over our clothes, he handed me my glass and then picked up his, and the huge bottle of champagne, and led me round to the stairs. As I followed him up to the bedroom I could see the scratch marks my nails had left on his bum cheeks . . . I could feel a tingly excitement, but also a slight “god what have I done” feeling as we walked. I wanted to tell him so that he could “hide” the scratches, but felt guilty and stupid at the same time. As he sat back on the bed and extended the bottle towards my glass I blurted out “I’ve scratched you”. He looked quizzically at me for a moment whilst I explained myself, but then just laughed pulling me down onto the bed telling me they “never see each other naked anyway”.

It only took a few minutes of kisses and caresses before I’d forgotten about my indiscretion and I became as worked-up and aroused as I had been in the kitchen. S was much more himself now, and was stroking and probing slowly with his fingers and tongue. He does do lovely things with his fingers . . . I just lay on my side with one leg lifted over his hip whilst he sucked and licked my nipples and slid his free hand slowly around my pussy.

Sometimes my nipples get too sensitive too quickly and I have to stop them being sucked after just a few minutes, but now I was really enjoying and encouraging him “harder” and loved hearing him say how erect they were. His fingers were already pushing into me at the same time and I just lay my head back and enjoyed being able to groan and tell him how lovely it was feeling without having to worry about being in a hotel room somewhere and not being able “to let myself go”. He was telling me how he loved to hear me “talking like that” and I started to groan louder as I felt myself becoming more and more aroused.

I pushed his head away from my chest and down to my pussy, turning over more onto my back and lifting my hips up so he could slide both hands down around me now. I looked down and my nipples were really hard and standing up, I reached around with each hand pinching at them myself and saying “look at me, I want to see you looking up at me from there”. I groaned as he gasped that he loved seeing me playing with myself. I slid one hand down in front of his tongue and tried to spread my lips wider with my fingers. I felt his tongue on my clit and fingers inside me. And then as he turned me slightly over to one side and opened my legs wider, I could hear myself gasping more and groaning as his tongue slid round to my bottom. I was rubbing my fingers quickly over my clit as I felt his tongue pushing at my bottom. “I fucking love that tongue there. Fuck me with it, push it, push . . . “ I came really loudly, I could hear myself and I knew I wanted to be loud as well, as though I was letting him know what he was doing to me, how much it meant to me, how wildly intoxicating and arousing it made me feel.

I rolled over onto my side, shaking and still gasping. I pulled him up “cuddle please”, wrapping myself around him, muzzling my face into his shoulder and kissing him there and asking him to “just squeeze”. We lay tightly together for some minutes before I could relax enough to let him go and roll over onto my back. He snuggled up beside me and we exchanged kisses. Normal ones now. The pecking, friendly kind, that we would normally do. Not the feverish passionate swallows of the kitchen earlier. As we lay together we began talking about our Christmas’s . . . giggling that we hadn’t even exchanged such pleasantries, when I’d arrived. We chatted about the family gatherings we’d both had. The gifts, the food, the waste . . . and the misbehaving by various members of each of our extended families.

We must have talked for over an hour. Each occasionally sitting-up to top-up our glasses until the bottle was empty. I asked him how his scratches were, and he rolled over onto his tummy to let me “inspect the damage”. I kissed his cheeks and then the small of his back, rubbing my nipples over his bum and then turned him back over . . . to find he was now erect again, his willy standing up to meet me, almost begging me to . . . lean forward and slide him into my mouth. I do love that feeling. The warmth and hardness, and smoothness as I slide my mouth up and down. With Hubby I can enjoy scraping my teeth on him and biting at his head, but S doesn’t enjoy that, saying he is too tender, so I make do with sucking upwards until the suction makes a “pop” as I pull my mouth away, and then push forward, sucking it in again and sliding my face down to his tummy. I pull away and lick around him. S is really smooth at the base of his cock above his testicles, much more so than Hubby, and I love licking him there even though he says it doesn’t give him any increase of sensation. He doesn’t like me sucking on his balls, but I cup them with my fingers as I slide my mouth down on his willy again. I then lifted away and slide each nipple over his head before sliding further up his chest to kiss him again and start to lift myself onto him. He grasped me by my hips and wanted to turn me over, but I manage to stop him, telling him “I want to do this”, illustrating my point by rubbing my pussy over the head of his cock and then pushing down on him to slide him into me. I gasp with the feeling and lift forward looking down between both our chests so that I can see myself lifting up off him and pushing back down on him again, watching him disappear inside me.

I was really aroused again now, and continuing to slide up and down on him, I leant forward to kiss his neck and nibble and tongue his ear, telling him “I love feeling you inside me like this”. I can feel him returning my thrusts and we continue like this for several minutes as I sit up more on him and he reaches up to scrape the palms of his hands over my nipples. I can feel myself increasing my bouncing and my groans, leaning my head forwards again to kiss at his chest and shoulders . . .


Let me know if you would like me to post the rest of my “Seasonal Sunday with S” excerpt here as a future posting. Or, if you can’t wait, you can read the climax of this, and lots more of my “Further Adventures” in Kindle or PDF format from the links on my Ebooks Page.

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