I do so like to be “hands-on” . . . in absolutely everything I do !!!
And on this occasion, it was even more fun watching Luscious’s own hands and fingers twitching . . . and hearing her rising moans . . . as my probing stirred us both to a lovely session finale !!!
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Xxx- K
I am often asked if I have ever been “caught” during one of my regular
Scavenger Hunt excursions.
Well . . . I am sure that I have been noticed from a distance, and have certainly had people glance interestingly as they’ve passed by . . . but I’ve never actually been “confronted” by anyone during one of our photo-opportunity stops.
But I will admit that it is that “fear”, of being seen that gives me that extra special thrill of the moment and fulfills the exhibitionist streak within!
To discover lots more about “Fear” at this week’s
Wicked Wednesday simply click the button below.
Xxx- K
I had hoped on our return to The Botanical Gardens this year, that we could take some photos in front of, and inside, the Greenhouse as we had done in 2014. But there was a huge wedding party taking endless group poses, which would have been most inappropriate for me to join in with.
So I had to make do with just one photo with my favourite Statue at the
garden entrance . . . before we moved on to the lovely Fernery.
There is sure to be lots of other fun visits and memories at this week’s
Wicked Wednesday by clicking the button below.
Xxx- K
This week’s Wicked Wednesday asks “If I was taking an erotic photograph
of you, I would ask you to… ???”
Well without the skill . . . or patience . . . to do very much with my photography, my basic criteria would always be that the photo should have been fun in the taking, and bring back happy memories.
And, for me, this photo does both of those things!!!
And as it is Valentines Day tomorrow, it seemed entirely appropriate with which to post my “heart-felt” Valentines wishes to all.
For more thoughts on “Erotic Photographs” just click the
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Xxx- K
The theme this Wicked Wednesday is “Social” . . . which seems to go hand-in-hand, with this week’s Food For Thought Friday questions, so . . .
Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?
I have been incredibly blessed to have been with the same partner for over 38 years, and over the course of our wonderfully loving relationship, I have been able to indulge in and enjoy . . . and in fact still enjoy . . . all of the experiences mentioned above.
They didn’t all happen immediately, nor all at once of course, but even in the first few months of our marriage we were able to talk-about and express our desires and fantasies.
I did find it awkward at first to overcome those feelings that we all have in our early years that one should feel “guilty” about having sexual thoughts. That sex should be “lights-out and private” and only to procreate and certainly not to admit that it was actually enjoyable!
But, to be honest, and perfectly clear about putting this post into true perspective, it wasn’t until I unexpectedly and unexplainably, “strayed” into an office affair . . . and Hubby’s reaction to that . . . that I was suddenly, and completely, able to release myself from all of those shackles and fears and become true to myself . . . and to our marriage.
So, to answer the question above specifically, our open and honest lifestyle has allowed us to enjoy all of those experiences to the full.
And yes, on the one hand, they are all different . . . and yet all based on the same (for us) principle of just talking to each other, expressing our “interest” and both agreeing that each of us is completely happy with the situation(s) we find ourselves in.
What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?
Apart from that earliest office acquaintance, we have met most of our friends at Clubs or Party Events . . . so all of them have been “interesting” in one way or another.
Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?
Whilst a lot of those experiences have been one-off adventures, we have been incredibly lucky to have formed several long-lasting regular relationships with a number of people whom have become friends in every sense of the word, not just in the sexual context. And those sort of friendships only evolve if one feels totally at ease and comfortable with each person involved.
How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?
Whenever, or however, I am approached . . . whether singly or by a couple . . .
I always immediately tell people about my relationship with Hubby and that everything is always completely open and straightforward, and I explain exactly what my expectations and “rules” are.
Over the years I suppose I have grown into the more dominant role in our own situation, (particulary since discovering, and enjoying, my FemDom fun), so now I will only switch, just occasionally, with one long-standing, friend.
As I mentioned earlier, our relationship just seemed to naturally evolve from one adventure to the next . . . and it still continues to do so . . . with new people we meet and new experiences we share.
And that is what makes it so wonderfully fulfilling.
If your relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?
I would describe our relationship as “open and fun” and the principal dynamic is that, nowadays, we always play together.
We do have small circle of reasonably regular friends . . . and whilst they may not all personally know one another, they will all know of each other.
What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?
My ideal relationship is most definitely the one I am already in. And it often looks . . . and always feels . . . like fun !!!
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Xxx- K
One of the lovely things about being part of this community is the comfort and empowerment one feels from viewing and reading so many sex-positive, and body-positive posts each day from so many fun and creative people.
People from all over the world with a wonderfully diverse mix of interests and ideas about sex and sensuality, fashion and lifestyle, writing and erotica, all sharing their thoughts and experiences through their websites and blogs.
And over the past eight years of my journey here as Modesty Ablaze, I know that my own explorations and experiences have been made all the more complete and enjoyable from knowing that I am not alone in my “kinks” and “desires”.
Knowing that others share similar experiences, means feeling even better about one’s own lifestyle choices . . . and more determined with every passing year, to promote fun and sexuality and being relaxed in mind and body.
And I hope that by sharing my own posts and photos . . . and thoughts and videos . . . that others may feel that same comfort and empowerment that I have.
After all, exploration is all about discovery and enlightenment isn’t it?
Discover many more “Explorations” at this week’s
Wicked Wednesday from the button below.
Xxx- K
I have never been very good at Technical things . . . I always seem to forget numbers and codes. And combination locks in particular always give me problems . . . so I much prefer to use keys instead!
The problem is though, I tend to have so many keys, that I often forget which key unlocks which lock!
Still, it does give me time to have my shoes cleaned whilst I try to remember!!!
Find out how others handle their “Technical issues”
by unlocking this week’s Wicked Wednesday from the button below.
Xxx- K
Being on holiday is relaxing in itself of course . . . but I simply love strolling along the beach collecting stones . . .
. . . and patiently balancing them, one on top of the other, into my own modest rock sculptures.
They often seem to end-up looking quite “phallic” though!
But as always with any “erection”, I do feel a sense of satisfaction in taking a step back and admiring my handiwork!
And I’m sure there will be more examples of “Before, During and After”
to admire at this week’s Wicked Wednesday.
Xxx- K
This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “If you had to start a porn site, to what would it be devoted?”
Well . . . you just knew that I couldn’t resist, didn’t you???
Because, if you have visited me here at my Modesty Ablaze pages before, you will probably know that although I don’t specifically have a porn-site of my own, I am a huge supporter of the wonderful #realworldsex website www.makelovenotporn.tv
We’ve all probably watched porn at some time in our lives. In fact my first viewing experiences were from the days when one had to watch from those big video-cassette tape thingys and the content mostly seemed to be in Dutch or German . . . and the men all kept their socks on.
Things have obviously moved on, and the internet has completely changed the way videos are viewed nowadays. But for me, I quickly began to find the “new generation” porn videos actually quite annoying . . . and quite worrying.
Back in the days of those awkward cassette tapes, the videos at least seemed to have a hint of a story-line, socks or not! And the likes of Nina Hartley and Jeannie Pepper were, in my eyes, wonderfully strong-willed and empowered ladies who certainly seemed to enjoy themselves.
By contrast, the new on-line porn, X-streaming videos, seem to be not only just wham-bam, straight into a mass of impossibly writhing contortions or robotics, but more disappointingly to my eyes . . . derogatory or in fact even insulting . . . in the way that most of the participating women are portrayed.
False and overly exaggerated in every way, like plastic doll-like Stepford Wives, body-part extras with no input and no real enthusiasm . . . and certainly no respect for their involvement. And for me, that is a turn-off not a turn-on.
Now, I realise that many people want the pure fantasy, the pure wham-bam straight-to-the action sort of porn like that. But that is not the sort of “porn” that I want to see. I enjoy fantasies and role-play as much as anyone, but even in my Mistressing sessions, I want it to be fun and obviously consensual, and something that I can relate to on my own, personal, level.
And that is why I enjoy being part of MakeLoveNotPorn . . . realworldsex,
for and by realworldpeople just like you and me. And more and more in
today’s world, I think being by-the-people, for-the-people, is how life should really be.
So, although I know I posted earlier this year on my videos at MLNP . . . and used the same image and the same link to my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” video from March 2014 . . . I make no apologies, because although I know it will not be to everyone’s taste . . . if I had to start my own porn-site it would be just like MakeLoveNotPorn !!!
There’s bound to be many more “Pornographic”, thoughts to be discovered at this week’s Wicked Wednesday.
Xxx- K
Whilst I would never consider myself as a writer, I have . . . for years and years
. . . kept personal diaries.
Diaries that were originally meant as just fun recollections for Hubby and I to browse back through from time to time, but are in fact what formed the basis of my original posts here at Modesty Ablaze.
And the questions and flattering comments that I began receiving from those first posts, led me to publish short excerpts as Ebooks on Amazon and Gumroad.
And, to my amazement, I continue to be asked for more and more.
So much so, that I am currently compiling Part Eight of my “Modesty Ablaze Diaries” for publication in the New Year.
Following on from “Modesty Ablaze Unmasked”, this new edition charts my initial interest, and then enjoyment of, the fetish and dominatrix lifestyle which I’m sure many of us are curious about.
So this week’s theme of “Writing” at Wicked Wednesday seems the perfect place to share a short extract from “The Journey Beyond” . . .
The music in the main chamber as we entered was blaringly loud . . . too loud for easy conversation, but I knew from our previous visits to TG that most of the crowd came not to converse, not even to dance, more to just parade. Strutting their stuff, as Hubby called it. “Let’s find the bar” I shouted in his ear, “you can buy me a drink”.
The warehouse was huge, three floors of several large rooms on each, and then a number of smaller rooms and annexes all inter-connected with corridors and treacherous narrow steps . . . at least treacherous to me in my heels as we wandered and explored!
The downstairs bar had been far too crowded, and just as noisy as the main room, but we’d been told on entry of an upstairs bar and quieter space. But finding it was proving rather difficult, especially as there were so many “distractions” along the way!
As always with TG, the array of equipment and play-areas was amazing . . . and overwhelming! Stocks, and crosses, suspension frames and spanking benches at every turn. Hubby was clearly enjoying the sights and sounds as we wandered. But I was anxious for that first calming and relaxing glass of wine, just to settle my nerves and self-consciousness that I always feel in the first hour or so.
Eventually we’d managed to find our way to the top floor . . . and a much less crowded and noisy bar area. I’d been conscious of my age as we’d wandered around downstairs, worried that my best clubbing days have long-since passed, and that I was out of place amongst all the younger and more-outlandish outfits than my own. But in this bar there seemed a more balanced, or low-key, crowd and I began to relax a little more . . . especially once Hubby passed me that first glass.
It wasn’t just a bar area though . . . at one end of the room was a cubicle-type recess with a large bed covered in black sheeting and several couples engaged in a mini orgy of writhing and swooning bodies. I was beginning to feel more relaxed minute by minute. But theirs seemed to be a closed grouping, with neither the room nor the invitation for more participation . . . other than being part of the small crowd of onlookers gathered around.
Feeling enlivened and energised from my, by now, empty glass . . . and the activity on the bed in front of us . . . I pulled Hubby away, ordered him to “top me up” and told him we should continue our explorations of the floors below.
After some further, entertaining wanderings, we ended-up back in the largest room on the middle floor. A large space housing a large cage in the middle, with various benches, stools and tables around the outer walls. As we stood looking at the rope netting hanging from one side of the cage, a thin shape emerged from the shadows and bowed in front of me. “May I offer myself for a flogging Mistress” he said, pointing to my flogger I had draped over my shoulder as we’d been walking around. Hubby told me later that this young man had followed us down from the bar upstairs, though I hadn’t noticed him then.
Feeling much more at ease now, and actually more than-a-little excited and aroused by our surroundings, I nodded that he should position himself against the netting. I teased the black and red leather strands of my flogger gently across his shoulders, letting them twist and dangle down his back . . . and then brushing them in gentle swishes back and forth across the back of his legs.
Then, warming to my task, and feeling tingles rising within, I reached forward and yanked his black shorts over his cheeks, letting them fall to his ankles . . .
As I mentioned above, I hope to have “The Journey Beyond” completed and published at my Amazon and Gumroad pages early in 2019.
Details of the previous six parts of my “Modesty Ablaze Diaries”, along with several audio-excerpts, are featured on my Ebook page >here<.
I’m sure there will be much more “Writing”, of different styles and subjects,
to be explored at this week’s Wicked Wednesday.
Xxx- K
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