No, not that sort of “Swinging” silly . . . that’s possibly for later this evening!
But, still with my feet raised in the air, swinging of a more relaxing, less energetic, kind . . .
. . . from a lovely, and relaxing, southern summer earlier this year.
Visit this week’s Sinful Sunday . . . to see just how lots of other people have been relaxing recently!!!
Xxx – K
As this week’s Food For Thought Friday so correctly says . . . “the type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.”
I couldn’t agree more . . . so my responses to the following questions, would be:
When you are in the mood, do you initiate sex, or do you wait for your partner to do so?
I’m a great believer in letting things just develop, or happen, naturally. Quite often the best, and most fulfilling, of liaisons occur quite spontaneously without particularly planning or desiring something in particular. And if the chemistry, and the situation I find myself in, is right . . . then lovely things often just happen of their own accord.
What are your preferred means of letting your partner know that you are in the mood?
For me it is always through laughter and subtle touches . . . suggestive comments and recalling previous fun situations. And then probably reaching out for the others hand, stroking their arm or a gentle squeeze or cuddle.
What methods of foreplay do you most enjoy?
Kissing . . . it must always start with a kiss. Casual and teasing at first, slowly becoming more and more passionate . . . and then !!!
What methods of foreplay would you like more of or more often?
Well . . . once those passionate kisses have got me going, I tend to forget about foreplay!!!
What was the most daring/risky quickie that you have ever had, and how did it come about?
I had to really think about this question as I’m not a fan of a “quickie”.
I much prefer to not rush things, but to take ones time and relax into those special moments of togetherness.
But I suppose the most “risky” liaison I have had, was some years ago on a
night-out for “just for a drink” with one of my lovers. We’d decided to take a detour through our local park . . . and pause for a “rest” on a bench on one of the pathways. As was usually the case, I’d gone without knickers, so was able to easily sit astride his lap . . . and quickly get carried away with myself, thinking about how much Hubby would enjoy me telling him all about our “rest” . . .
as soon as I got home!!!
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Xxx- K
I know I’ve admitted before that I can be a greedy girl when the moment takes me . . . and I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who helps me indulge in those moments from time-to-time.
We hadn’t played for sometime but . . . of course . . . I always like to keep my profiles updated on our fun “friend finder” sites and so regularly receive messages and “invites”.
Often those messages don’t inspire me, but one “invite”, from what we’d found to be our best hook up site, included an unusually well composed response to my profile status and several photos that certainly piqued my interest!!!
And that interest grew as our fun exchange of teasing messages continued over the course of the next few days.
Often the young men from whom I receive those initial invites are quickly put-off once they realise that my “Mature lady seeking energetic young play-partners for occasional cuckolding fun” actually means always having Hubby present and involved (if not physically . . . or at least, not always physically! LOL!!!).
So, once I’d made that perfectly clear, it would be the last I would hear from many of them. But this young man was different.
His responses were just as teasing as mine, and the nature of his banter intrigued me more and more. Especially as he assured me that Hubby’s presence would be exciting rather than off-putting!
And then there were those photos !!!
Of course, meeting someone “in-the-flesh” is completely different to chatting with them on-line. So we now have a fixed routine of agreeing to meet any potential play-partners for a “first-off chat just to see how we get on”, at a
quiet-ish downtown bar that we . . . by now . . . know very well.
Unbeknown to them, we will have already booked a hotel just around the corner, in the event (hope), that I will be happy for our “chat” to progress further. There have been times when I’ve decided that I actually didn’t feel comfortable enough to progress, and I have politely had to say “it’s been lovely to meet you. Hubby and I will talk about things and let you know how we feel about perhaps meeting again in the next few days”.
Pre-booking is never wasted of course, as it’s always lovely fun . . . in a different, indulgently-decadent way . . . to frolic ourselves on those crisp, freshly pressed, white hotel sheets.
But, on this occasion . . .
We arrived early, as always, in order to get one of our favourite tables with a view of the entrance in from the street. But, shortly before our agreed time, my young man texted to say he was running late! “Not a good start !!!” I texted back.
So, by the time we did see him arriving, I was already on my second glass of wine. But within minutes of his welcoming hug . . . and confident looking handshake with Hubby . . . I knew we would definitely be sharing our pre-booked room!!!
Xxx – K
The theme this Wicked Wednesday is “Social” . . . which seems to go hand-in-hand, with this week’s Food For Thought Friday questions, so . . .
Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?
I have been incredibly blessed to have been with the same partner for over 38 years, and over the course of our wonderfully loving relationship, I have been able to indulge in and enjoy . . . and in fact still enjoy . . . all of the experiences mentioned above.
They didn’t all happen immediately, nor all at once of course, but even in the first few months of our marriage we were able to talk-about and express our desires and fantasies.
I did find it awkward at first to overcome those feelings that we all have in our early years that one should feel “guilty” about having sexual thoughts. That sex should be “lights-out and private” and only to procreate and certainly not to admit that it was actually enjoyable!
But, to be honest, and perfectly clear about putting this post into true perspective, it wasn’t until I unexpectedly and unexplainably, “strayed” into an office affair . . . and Hubby’s reaction to that . . . that I was suddenly, and completely, able to release myself from all of those shackles and fears and become true to myself . . . and to our marriage.
So, to answer the question above specifically, our open and honest lifestyle has allowed us to enjoy all of those experiences to the full.
And yes, on the one hand, they are all different . . . and yet all based on the same (for us) principle of just talking to each other, expressing our “interest” and both agreeing that each of us is completely happy with the situation(s) we find ourselves in.
What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?
Apart from that earliest office acquaintance, we have met most of our friends at Clubs or Party Events . . . so all of them have been “interesting” in one way or another.
Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?
Whilst a lot of those experiences have been one-off adventures, we have been incredibly lucky to have formed several long-lasting regular relationships with a number of people whom have become friends in every sense of the word, not just in the sexual context. And those sort of friendships only evolve if one feels totally at ease and comfortable with each person involved.
How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?
Whenever, or however, I am approached . . . whether singly or by a couple . . .
I always immediately tell people about my relationship with Hubby and that everything is always completely open and straightforward, and I explain exactly what my expectations and “rules” are.
Over the years I suppose I have grown into the more dominant role in our own situation, (particulary since discovering, and enjoying, my FemDom fun), so now I will only switch, just occasionally, with one long-standing, friend.
As I mentioned earlier, our relationship just seemed to naturally evolve from one adventure to the next . . . and it still continues to do so . . . with new people we meet and new experiences we share.
And that is what makes it so wonderfully fulfilling.
If your relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?
I would describe our relationship as “open and fun” and the principal dynamic is that, nowadays, we always play together.
We do have small circle of reasonably regular friends . . . and whilst they may not all personally know one another, they will all know of each other.
What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?
My ideal relationship is most definitely the one I am already in. And it often looks . . . and always feels . . . like fun !!!
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Xxx- K
Have a Happy, Fun . . . and Peaceful . . . New Year everyone!!!
And wishing you all more fun and frolics for 2019 !!!
There’s bound to be many more New Year wishes to be found at this week’s Sinful Sunday by kissing the lips below!
Xxx- K
Part 5 of my personal diaries, “My Cougar Moment”, along with my earlier
“A Naughty Surprise” (Part 4) . . . are both still available for a limited time, to download from my Gumroad profile at the amazingly “modest” cost of just $1.
Simply click here to visit my Gumroad profile page to view these, and my other available Diary stories.
An extract from “My Cougar Moment” . . .
Normally when Hubby and I have a night out at our Swingers Club we will spend the first hour or so sitting at the Bar chatting to staff or to other couples, or singles, that we have met previously.The atmosphere is always very friendly and relaxed and it is really just very nice to unwind in a different, and far more exciting environment, than we would on a normal evening out with normal friends.
And, of course, I love being able to wear something sexy and naughty. And Hubby enjoys me dressing like that and watching me take an occasional stroll away from the bar to investigate what may be happening in the play areas, or viewing rooms . . . and then walking slowly back . . . “strutting my stuff” as he calls it.
There have been occasions when we’ve not met or played with anyone at all during the evening. Or perhaps we may have just chatted and exchanged numbers with a couple, or interesting single guy . . . but for one reason or another, we’d not indulged with further.
But on one of our recent visits, I did something I’d never, ever done before . . . and it turned into one of the most exciting evenings we’ve ever enjoyed there.
We’d arrived early and had been sitting at the bar on our own sipping our drinks chatting to one of the lovely barmaids. A simply gorgeous young man entered from reception and came up to the bar to order a drink. He wasn’t close enough for us to hear him ordering his drink, but our eyes met briefly as he glanced around the bar whilst he waited for his glass. As he walked off towards the main room I saw him glance briefly back in our direction, before he disappeared around the corner. Our barmaid came back to roll her eyes and tell me “Wow. He’s hot!” I nodded my agreement and asked her where she thought he was from and if she’d seen him here before. She told me he was definitely a newbie . . . and possibly Spanish or Italian.
A few minutes later he returned to the main room and was standing by the wall on the opposite side of the bar to us. “God he is gorgeous isn’t he” I giggled to our barmaid. Hubby put his arm around my shoulder to pull me closer and whispered into my ear “why don’t you go and introduce yourself and offer to show him around.” I giggled with nervous excitement at his suggestion and replied, “I can’t, I wouldn’t know what to say.”
Usually, couples or singles would approach us first and we’d chat (sometimes for quite awhile) before I would nod to Hubby that I was “interested.” And then it would be him that might make the suggestion to our new friends . . . if they hadn’t asked us first.
But now not only was Hubby suggesting that I make the first move, he was suggesting that I do it on my own.
My heart was racing and I felt my excitement levels rising by the second. “Go on, you’ve got nothing to lose. Talk to him before someone else gets in first,” Hubby was urging in my ear.
I got down off my stool and started to walk slowly over towards him. I felt like I was shaking so much with nerves that it must look as though I was about to fall off my high-heels. He wasn’t even looking in my direction as I stopped beside him and managed to stammer out something like “Hi, are you new here?” (Yes, really original, I know!)
“Yes it is my first time in London,” he replied in a wonderful deep and rich accent. I can’t remember anything of exactly what I said next. Just that conversation seemed to flow quite easily and naturally for the next few minutes . . . and that he was becoming ever more gorgeous with every word!
Just as I found myself struggling to think of what to say next, he asked if I was alone. “Oh, no. I’m with my husband. Please come and meet him,” I managed to reply with a huge sense of relief. And excitement!
I took him by his hand, not sure if I was trying to steady myself and keep my balance to counteract my excitement . . . or to parade him to the other ladies in the room! “This is J. He’s from Spain,” I gushed to Hubby. They shook hands and Hubby asked me “Shall we see if the Private Room is free?” “Oh yes . . . LETS,” I nodded excitedly.
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Xxx – K
It’s always nice receiving flattering messages and emails about one of my #realworldsex videos at Make Love Not Porn. Because, as well as making me happy knowing that others can enjoy and feel part of the love and fun of my video-diaries . . . it also brings back wonderful memories of those particular special moments!!!
And a recent message about my “A Gentle Squeeze” video with Lover No. 36 reminded me that we still had a “Part Two” of that amazing night, that we’d never actually uploaded.
Goodness only knows why . . . because it certainly was an incredibly fun . . . and fulfilling evening.
And I really do mean “fulfilling” . . . because No. 36 has the most “Ma-hoosive” member I’ve ever had the pleasure of loving with . . . if you’ve viewed “Part One” of “A Gentle Squeeze” you will know just what I mean.
And after the most amazing, pounding fucking I think I’ve ever had . . . I had collapsed and curled-up into an exhausted heap.
The May 2015 edition on the MakeLoveNotPorn-blog pages of “Make Radiant Love Not Porn” previewed “A Gentler Squeeze” (Part One) as:
“Is it just me or does Modesty just get better and better? In this video, Modesty meets up with a lover that she hadn’t been able to rendez-vous with seen since late last year. Maybe there’s some truth to the statement that absence makes the heart grow fonder ’cause once they were given the opportunity, these two sure couldn’t keep their hands off of each other! Filmed by lover no. 1, hubby, this sweet reunion is filled with all sorts of ecstatic moments and a surprising downtown adventure that you’ll have to rent to see!”
Well, “Part Two” begins with No. 36 giving me a lovely relaxing “recovery massage” (he has big hands, as well) and his soothing palms rubbing up and down my back did . . . slowly . . . bring me back to life and ready for more!
Not more pounding though !!! Because I made it quite clear that if he wanted more fun it would have to be very slow, and very gentle.
And . . . as you will see when you join me beneath his lovely smooth body . . . it was just that. Slow and gentle enough even, for me to agree to roll over and sit up on top of him . . . and ride us both to exhaustion.
So . . . re-living our Gentle Squeezing has brought back all those wonderful memories and I hope you will enjoy watching them too.
You can view my introduction to “Gentle Squeeze – Part Two” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.
I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean.
There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.
“A Gentle Squeeze – Part Two” is my 56th video released on Make Love Not Porn with more to cum soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.
It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my fifty-six #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!
Xxx – K
I’ve been incredibly lucky to have met some wonderful people, and enjoyed some amazing and wonderfully fun interactions, over the past 30-or-so years of my “Modesty Ablaze adventures”.
Some people I have met time and time again, some less frequently . . . some have become life-long friends, some just one-off acquaintances.
But whether I’ve met those people through my swinging, blogging, fetish,
or femdom experiences, there has always been one common thread, one common bond.
And that has been that we are all respectful and accepting, of each others lifestyle choices . . . no matter, how different we may be, no matter whether or not our “interests” overlap or merge. (Some of our swinging-friends are horrified at the thought of fetish-play, whilst many of our fetish friends are strictly, and happily, monogamous and will always remain so).
And I often think that that sort of acceptance is what is so sadly lacking in a lot of so-called “normal” or “mainstream” lifestyles.
People always seem so quick to judge others who do not conform with their own views or culture, or the way they live their own lives . . . too quick to label those lifestyles as strange, perverted, or just plainly “wrong”.
I am wonderfully happy . . . in fact empowered . . . by the choices I have made, the fun times I have enjoyed, and the love and affection I have experienced and have shared. Because, of course, sharing is caring!
For more Lifestyle choices at this week’s Wicked Wednesday
just select the button below!
Xxx – K
“Did you bring your camera?” I asked Hubby as we took our seat in the bar.
“No, I thought we were just having souvlaki and wine.” he replied.
“Well you’ll just have to use your phone then won’t you!” I told him.
“Because . . . I fancy a photo in this Hanging Chair!”
“And you’d better be quick . . . before the waiter comes back with
the pitta and tzatziki !!!”
For more tasty entrées, and mains, this Sinful Sunday just
stir the lips below!Xxx- K
P.S. – Despite Hubby’s lack of preparedness, I’m rather hoping this lovely Hanging Chair may inspire a new Scavenger Hunt category
of Public Furniture !!!
There are lots of other hanging-around occasions at my
Scavenger Listings page . . . where there are now over 100 different locations.
Most of which are on my Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!
Xxx- K
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If you viewed my last video with Lover No.14 , “Day 2 – Starting Over”,
you will know that having been bound in rope and brought to an amazing orgasm, I just needed to collapse onto the bed and slowly come-down from that lovely, exhausting high!!!
And, as you will see in this video, No.14 did gently untie me and then gave me a lovely, soothing massage. But it wasn’t long before his fingers and thumbs . . . and his licking tongue . . . began exploring all over again.
So my massage was slowly turned into another, calmer, but still rippling orgasm, eventually followed by some giggling recovery-time . . . and a new way to enjoy eating chocolate!!!
MakeLoveNotPorn.tv previewed “Day 2 – Starting Over” in their special Make Flourishing Love Not Porn edition as:
Modesty Ablaze had so much fun showing up at lover No. 14’s hotel suite wearing nothing but a trench coat, that she decided to do it all over again — this time with the added excitement of riding the train all the way there! Once en suite, Modesty quickly disrobes and No. 14 sets about doing what he does best — tying Modesty up and making her delirious with delight! Totally focused on Modesty’s pleasure, this video has the same charming banter we’ve come to enjoy from Modesty’s other videos with hubby and Lover No. 14. I just love how polite they all are while indulging in exhibitionism, bondage, and some intense #realworldorgasms!
Now, this latest video . . . which I’ve called “Sticky, Wet and Sweet” . . . follows on directly from “Day 2 – Starting Over” and is still from early-on in our evening. So, as the night was still young, I’m sure you can imagine that there was lots more fun to come . . . and that will be for a Part Three which be available in the next week or so.
But, in the meantime, I hope you will enjoy . . . and feel part of . . . our “Sticky, Wet and Sweet” fun..
You can view my introduction to “Sticky, Wet and Sweet” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.
I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean.
There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.
“Sticky, Wet & Sweet” is my 52nd video released on Make Love Not Porn with more (much more) to come soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.
It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my fifty-two #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!
Xxx – K
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