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The Uberkinky Strict Leather Locking Collar reviewed by Modesty Ablaze

If you are a regular visitor to my pages here you will know that over the past year I have been exploring my “Fetish” tendencies more and more.

I’ve always LOVED the fashion aspect of course and I’ve always adored the look and feel of latex and leather. So as my interest in my Fetish clothing . . . and toys . . . has developed, I have begun adding more items to my “special cupboard and drawer”.

During several switching-sessions . . . initially with Lover No.14 and then at some of our local dungeons . . . I’d collected a small collar or two. But imagine my delight to receive the Strict Leather Premium Locking Collar from Uberkinky for a product review.

I had seen pictures of this collar on the Uberkinky web-site, but it’s not until you actually unwrap and slide the collar from it’s plastic bag, and feel it in your hand, that you realise just how substantial and strong this collar really is.

It is constructed of three (yes three) thick layers of strong leather. Two for the body of the neck-piece itself and the outer one for the strap. Each layer is 4mm thick, with strong sewn edges. The two inner neck-piece layers, which are 58mm wide . . . or deep if you imagine the way it is when strapped around one’s neck . . . are sewn firmly together. The inner one being slightly padded so as not to chafe against the neck. Then the narrower (27mm) outer strap, for the buckle attachment and slots, is secured to the two neck-piece layers by eight steel rivets in such away that the steel fixes only to the outer neck-piece layer. In other words, the rivets are visible only from the outside of the collar and cannot be seen, or more importantly felt, on the side of the collar which touches the skin of the wearers neck. (You may be able to see what I mean by clicking on the picture gallery below for a more close-up view).

This outer strap is 61 cm in length, 11cm longer than the two inner straps, with an impressive chrome-silver steel buckle (almost 4cm square) at one end and eight securing slots cut into the leather at the other end. These rectangular shaped slots, each about 10mm long and 4mm deep, and equally spaced 1cm apart, accept the prong of the buckle itself, allowing for a reasonably tight fit I would imagine no matter how thick or thin the neck of the wearer. The prong has a circular end rather than the pointed end you would associate with a “normal” belt-buckle. This makes it easy to attach a thin padlock to lock the collar in place . . . if you so wish . . . see below!

Modesty Ablaze Uberkinky Collar1In addition there are three quite large steel D-Rings attached to this fixing strap. They each stand 25mm proud of the strap, the middle one being exactly half-way between the buckle and the end of the strap, with the other two fixed 75mm on either side. They can easily be folded back flat against the strap or used to attach additional restraints such as rope or a leash to the collar (see the picture gallery below!).

As well as the initial weight of the collar in my hand I was certainly impressed by the obvious strength of manufacture of the collar. And, I would imagine, it’s durability . . . even with long and regular use. LOL!!!

Although I can enjoy both a submissive or a dominant role . . . depending on my mood AND my company . . . just opening and feeling and examining this collar in my hands immediately brought out my domme side and I couldn’t wait to buckle it around the neck of my No.1 Slave. The stiffness of the new leather does make it a little difficult to adjust at first. Finding the correct wrap-around position and the right slot for the most comfortable fit took a little practice. But the look of the collar . . . and that lovely intoxicating leather smell . . . made the slight fiddling, and pinching, more than worthwhile.

No.1 Slave pronounced it being difficult to “look down” as the width reached directly below his chin. “Good, that’s exactly how I like it!” I replied to his complaint. “Now where did I put that padlock!”

In the interest of objectivity of course . . . and experiencing those nice little mood-swings later in the evening . . . I tried it on myself for the first time. And I did see what he meant about not being able to move one’s head up or down with any ease. But actually it is reasonably comfortable to wear . . . you certainly feel you are being “collared” . . . but after all that is just as it should be.

No.1 has now worn it for several hours at a time at two recent events without complaint, well not about the collar at least! LOL!!! And I have loved leading him around . . . with leash attached . . . so much so that I made him buy two matching wrist-cuffs we came across whilst browsing at a recent Fetish Fair. And the cuffs have those D-rings as well, ideal for fixing with a short rope to the corresponding D-rings on my Uberkinky Collar!!! Ooohhh I’m getting all over-excited just thinking about it again now . . .

So . . . if you are looking for a strong, secure, collar with which to restrain your submissive, improve their posture and acknowledge their place in your presence, I would highly recommend you visit Uberkinky from the >Buy Link< below. And I’m confident you’ll spend quite some time browsing their extensive range of other extremely interesting items as well! LOL!!!

You can also find them on Twitter @UberKinky.

Modesty Rating: 8 out of 10
Pros: Strong and very well made. Lovely to look at both off . . . and . . . on!!!
Cons: Quite stiff and the buckle stem is fiddly the first few times to put on. Definitely a 2-person activity to achieve the best fit initially. But if you do wish to put it on alone, with practice and the aid of a mirror, it becomes easier the more often you try.
Material: Leather with steel buckle, D-rings, and rivets.
Size: 61cm (24 inches) long x 5.75cm (2.25 inches) wide
Weighs: 0.240 kg . . . so substantial to hold in your hand, but actually not uncomfortable at all to wear.
Ease of Use: See cons above!
Available Colours: Black
Additional Play Options: The buckle-tongue makes it easy to attach a lock (not supplied), and those D-rings are ideal for securing ropes or a slave-leash (not supplied either, but I’m sure you’ll have your own!)
Waterproof: You wouldn’t want to wear it at the local Lido . . . would you???
After-care: I’d recommend you wipe after use with a soft dry cloth to remove your submissives excited sweat. Normal leather cleaning products afterwards.
Storage: Out of sight of the in-laws! Perhaps in the loose plastic-bag it arrived in.
Manufacturer Product link: Uberkinky Bondage and Slave Collars.
Buy Link: Strict Leather Premium Locking Collar.

 

Xxx – K

The Strict Premium Locking Collar was sent to me, free-of-charge, by Uberkinky for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

 

 

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The Diamond Dream from “A Touch of Glass” reviewed by Modesty Ablaze

ModestysDiamondDreamOver the years I’ve collected all sorts of sex toys and vibrators and dildos . . . of all sorts of shapes, sizes and colours!

But I’ve never had a Glass Dildo before . . . at least not until The Diamond Dream arrived in the post two weeks ago. It was sent to me by “A Touch of Glass” . . . at theglassdildoshop.com.

It arrived, discretely packaged as you would expect of course, in a strong cardboard box with ample internal protective foam-chip packing and encased in bubble-wrap.

DiamondDream5 I expectantly unravelled the wrapping to find a lovely velvety pouch holding the dildo itself. As soon as I slid it out . . . and peeled off the protective vacuum-plastic covering it was wrapped in, it just looked and felt wonderful to hold. Stylish and classy, firm and strong!

The Glass Dildo shop have 16 different dildos available for ordering from their on-line shop. All of different shapes and sizes. The Diamond Dream is almost 20cm from the tip to the flat base**, with an insertable length of 17cm.

The diameter of the shaft is just over 3cm and almost 4cm at the tip (or “head” LOL!) and I particularly love the way the shaft curves, which I hope will be apparent in my pictures here (or in my video review below!). The curves, and the lovely little ridges running all the way around the shaft give lots of different possibilities and different sensations of their own when you move the Dream in and out, and over one’s lips . . . or as I particularly like . . . rubbing them over my clit.

Like all of the products from “A Touch of Glass”, The Diamond Dream is hand-crafted from premium quality, medical-grade Borosilicate Glass . . . that’s really, really, high-quality tough and strong glass to you and me. The sort of glass that can withstand extreme stress, temperature changes and lots and lots of use-age . . . over and over again! LOL!!!

The dildos are hand-crafted and baked and cooled at a factory in Germany . . . and you know what they say about German Engineering! Each one is visually checked microscopically with a Polariscope (which sounds rather like a nuclear submarine doesn’t it) . . . but I can tell you that just looking at . . . and feeling and stroking this dildo is so addictive . . . that I’m sure it has been looked at very carefully, and probably lots and lots of times, before it is packaged up and posted off to your mailbox. I know I can’t stop looking at, and stroking it!

And you can simply tell, just by holding and feeling it . . . that the Diamond Dream simply OOZES quality and style . . . and there is absolutely no-way could you ever think of it being one of those mass-produced sort of items that you often suspect is the production process of most of one’s other sex-toys. In fact this feels so good . . . I wouldn’t really call it a “toy” at all !!! It is much too lovely for that !!!

My Diamond Dream arrived with a very informative
3-paged letter introducing the dildo and suggesting half-a-dozen different techniques to try. But the first thing you will want to do after you’ve removed the vacuum-wrapping is to wash it in warm soapy water . . . and, after swooning at the way it felt in my hands as I washed it back and forth, I quickly noticed how the temperature of the glass warmed quite quickly under the water . . . more on that in a moment . . . and that’s the thing you then immediately notice about this glass, even though you might imagine it will feel quite hard, and perhaps quite foreign inside you, but it actually adjusts to one’s body temperature quite quickly and doesn’t feel “alien” at all . . . in FACT it feels rather nice!!!

As I mentioned, the accompanying letter, suggests several different techniques and ways to insert and use the dildo . . . but I’m sure you will be like me and quickly work-out the different sliding and stroking . . . and twisting and turning thrusts that are best for you.

We are all different of course . . . and I even like different positions and different “intensities” depending on my mood at the time . . . so I’m sure you’ll enjoying experimenting for yourself.

If you need a lubricant, being glass I suppose you can potentially use any sort of gel, but the ladies at “A Touch of Glass”, recommend a water-based lube . . . and that’s the one I have been using as well, especially if one is using it anally, as I just think it applies much better to the smoothness of the glass than an oil-based lube would.

DiamondDream3Now . . . remember I mentioned the way the glass adjusts to temperature? Well, one of the things I was dying to try was feeling the glass inside me . . . really, really COLD !

I would NOT suggest putting the dildo in your freezer . . . especially as you wouldn’t want your children to come across it whilst rummaging for a pizza. And, anyway, you don’t want to risk getting “freezer-burn” and having your private bits stuck to the glass. So, what the ladies at The Glass Dildo Shop suggest is to immerse the dildo in a glass of iced water, or an ice-bucket, for a few minutes

Again, we are all different, but when I tried that I just loved the first feeling of the coldness sliding inside me . . . it just takes your breath away . . . a real “ooohhh” moment . . . that I really loved.

And I love the way it feels heavy and, obviously, nice and really firm inside, especially when you contract your Inner Pelvic Floor muscles . . . it gives an exquisite feeling as you slide it out.

One of the things that I have discovered during my play times with the dildo is that it does make you have to work at bringing yourself to orgasm. Sometimes with a vibrating clittoral stimulator, or a wand vibrator, you can get a bit lazy and I find can sometimes “cum” too quickly, and then feel numb and unresponsive afterwards. With the Dream I have to move and manoeuvre . . . twist and turn . . . and “find” my g-spot, slide it out and over my clit, and then push and pull, explore and twist and thrust again, over and over, to reach that lovely explosion.

But in a way, that’s what makes this dildo special for me . . . that and the stylish feel and weight of it in my hand, has always made me feel a bit “special” each time I reach for it.

So if you desire that sort of feeling, or have ever been curious like I was, about trying a glass dildo . . . I can thoroughly recommend you visit A Touch Of Glass . . . for that “touch of class” . . . at their website at theglassdildoshop.com . It really is wonderfully stylish website (just like the Diamond Dream!) with lots of information on all their product range as well as lots of useful hints and helpful User Guides. You can also find them on Twitter @EroticGlass.

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Just so stylish, weighty and firm.  So different to any other toys I’ve tried. No gadgetry or buttons to push and adjust. It makes one “think” and “work” . . . and I love the temperature play!
Cons: I haven’t discovered any yet (but I will keep trying! LOL!!!)
Material: Medical-grade Borosilicate Glass
Phthalate Alert: None
Size: 193 mm long (168mm insertable length)  x 37mm diameter at it’s widest
Ease of Use: Easy . . . and fun!!!
Available Colours: Clear crystal glass
Waterproof: Yes of course!
Lube: Water-Based recommended.
After-care: Wash with warm soapy water, dry and store in it’s accompanying velvet pouch.
Manufacturer Product link: The Diamond Dream
Buy Link: The Glass Dildo Shop.

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To watch my Video Review of The Diamond Dream >Click< the screen below!!!

**And, going back to that flat base??? Well I’ve found it very useful for standing it upwards on my chair . . . and sitting down on it . . . gently . . . and then perhaps, not so gently !!!

Xxx – K

The Diamond Dream was sent to me, free-of-charge, by A Touch of Glass for an honest and un-biased review.

 

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The Infiniti Vibrator from Nomi Tang reviewed by Modesty Ablaze

It’s always nice doing new toy reviews . . . but even nicer when you are approached by a company and asked to review one of their newest products.

And that’s just what happened recently when I was asked to review Nomi Tang’s newest sex toy . . . The Infiniti Rechargeable Dual-Stimulation, Water-proof (see my video review), Vibrator.

ModestyInfiniti2x400x300I had not heard of Nomi Tang before but was immediately impressed by their professional approach and well laid-out product catalogue.

Nomi started working on her sex-toy designs in 2008 and all of her products look so stylish and classy, that I wish I’d discovered Nomi Tang much, much sooner.

The Infiniti is Nomi’s newest vibrator and my first impression on opening the outer box was how wonderful the packaging is.
I really do think that a nice presentation makes such a difference . . . not just when opening for the very first time, but in fact every time I go to my toy drawer. It just makes that particular toy seem so much more “special” to be able to immediately see the box I’m looking for, rather than having to rummage through plastic bags or plain containers. It’s almost calming, and soothing, in a way . . . part of my mood . . . knowing I’m reaching for a special companion, making me smile and giving me a warming expectation, and excitement, when I lift it up in my hand.

The internal box housing The Infiniti itself slides out of the glossy outer sleeve and is strong and sturdy and made of a fabricky-feeling cardboard. On lifting the lid the Infinti sits snuggly in it’s own satin cushion . . . with it’s USB-charging lead, and small (very small) manual tucked in the side. It’s actually not just that the manual itself is small, but also that the type is very small and, for my eyes at least, difficult to read in the usual “atmospheric-mood lighting” in which I normally play.

Modesty Ablaze and The Infiniti Vibrator at Nomi TangThe toy itself though feels absolutely lovely to the touch. It is completely covered in a seamless, FDA Grade Silicon, (so is perfectly safe for all your private bits!!!) It has that sort of wonderfully smooth “velvety” feeling and you instantly know, when you squeeze and caress it, that it is definitely a high-class, quality product . . . I just can’t stop stroking it !!!

You’ll first need to charge the Infiniti with the supplied USB cable and because the toy is waterproof . . . more on that later!!! . . . the tiny hole for the charging pin is a little difficult to find at first. You can plug the Infiniti into the USB port on your computer, although I found the excitement of having it sitting next to me whilst I was trying to tap-away on my keyboard was just too distracting. So I now prefer to plug it into a USB connector plug and discretely plug it into a wall socket . . . out of sight, out of mind !!!!

The bottom charging light glows red whilst it is charging . . . I found it took about four hours for the initial charge . . . so you musn’t get too impatient!!! The light will turn-off when it is fully charged.

I much prefer my toys to be re-chargeable, rather than battery powered as there’s nothing more annoying than batteries suddenly running out in the middle of one’s special moment. (But, of course, you should always remember to recharge it after a long session, or if you haven’t used it for a while). Nomi says the Infiniti will run for up to one and a half hours after charging, but in my play sessions so far I haven’t been able to last anywhere near that time! LOL!!!

Modesty Ablaze and The Infiniti VibratorThere are two buttons that operate two independent motors, one at each tip. Being under the silicone skin, they are quite subtle in appearance but finding them will soon become second nature. When you first turn-on after charging you have to hold down both buttons until they glow, to unlock the power-saving mode. They have 5 vibration cycles, the last two giving pulsing motions . . . I actually prefer the third setting !!!

The two buttons work independently so you can control the speed and vibration-patterns for different settings at either end. I found them a bit fiddly at first, but you’ll soon find which settings work best for you. Even at it’s highest setting, the Infiniti is quite quiet . . . and YET manages surprisingly strong and powerful vibrations!!! In fact, on my favourite setting, they are strong enough to bring me off quite quickly just by holding, and sliding the shaft back and forth, over my clit.

But being a “greedy girl” I was also anxious to try inserting the lovely, vibrating, shaft to see if it would have the same effect internally, as it did externally. I was rather hoping that I would be able to feel the Infiniti throbbing over my “G-Spot” whilst the smaller tip buzzed orgasmically again over my clit.

Unfortunately though, my body-shape doesn’t seem to quite match the proportions, or positions, of the two vibrating points. It’s not that the Inifiniti is too long, or too wide . . . I don’t normally have any problems accommodating length or girth (LOL!!!). It’s obviously just that my shape, doesn’t coincide with the Infiniti’s. I did try twisting or turning, or pushing further inwards and upwards, to try to bring the external point to reach my clit, but it became a little uncomfortable and I lost my concentration. But the fact that this part of the design doesn’t work for me, doesn’t mean it couldn’t work for you. After-all, we are all different shapes, and have our sensitive bits in different places . . . and, of course, we don’t all get-off on the same things, do we?

I know some ladies can’t come without penetration, whilst others can only come from clitoral stimulation and don’t need penetration at all. And the Infiniti certainly does give “wonderful” stimulation to my clit !!!

To turn off one of the tips you just push and hold down for a few seconds . . . or if you do want to turn them both off at the same time, you . . . rather obviously . . . hold both buttons down together.

So, despite the internal fit problem, I’ve really enjoyed my play sessions with The Infiniti so far. AND, unlike some of my other newer toys, I have gone back to reaching for Infiniti on numerous occasions since, especially as it is waterproof (you’ll have to watch my video below!)

Modesty Rating: 8 out of 10
Pros: Quiet and surprisingly powerful, wonderful for clitoral stimulation, stylish ergonomic shape, waterproof.
Cons: Tiny manual in very small type (so difficult to read in “atmospheric mood lighting”). Didn’t quite fit my-shape for complete internal stimulation . . . but that is possibly just me, it might fit you like-a-glove.
Material: FDA Medical grade Silicone
Phthalate Alert: None
Size: 200 mm long x 78 mm x 36mm diameter
Weight: 180g
Batteries: None. The Infiniti has an internal rechargeable battery and can be charged via the USB port on any USB-capable device, or via a mains USB-adaptor plug (not supplied).
Internal Battery Life: 1.5 hours
Cable Supplied: USB charging cable supplied.
Intensity: Surprising powerful on it’s highest setting.
Volume: <45dB apparently . . . which translates for me to comfortingly quiet, so could be used without arousing adjacent rooms.
Ease of Use: Easy after initial practice with power buttons and intensity adjustments.
Speeds: 5
Available Colours: Red or Violet
Offers: Escalating speeds & different pulsing.
Waterproof: Yes (wonderfully!!!) up to one meter apparently!
Lube: Water-Based, or Silicone-Based only.
After-care: Wash with warm soapy water after use or with Nomi’s Cleaner.
Manufacturer Product link: The Infiniti
Buy Link: Nomi Tang Distributors Worldwide.

**The Infiniti was sent to me, free-of-charge, by Nomi Tang for an honest and un-biased review.**

The Infiniti Vibrator from Nomi Tang

Modesty Ablaze reviews Nomi Tang's Infiniti Vibrator

To watch my Video Review of The Infiniti >Click< on the picture below!!!

Modesty Ablaze Video Review of The Infiniti Vibrator

Oh, and P.S. On October 11th !!!

Last night we just made a “private” video of me using The Infiniti (not in the bath, LOL!!!) If you are one of my Private Balcony Members and would like to see me and my Infiniti in action, just complete the (confidential) form below, and I will send you the link as soon as we upload it to my Balcony Members Page.

 Xxx – K

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Book Review: “My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” by Girl On The Net

My recent, all too short, holiday allowed me the opportunity to catch-up on some relaxing . . . and exciting . . . reading.

Whilst I do try to spend every free commuting moment to and from work each day buried in my kindle, there is something so much more relaxing and rewarding about lounging by the pool completely lost in a new book. With only the occasional interruption . . . requesting “more sun-screen please, oh and whilst you’re up, I’d like a wine top-up as well!” from Hubby, or needing an hourly, 15-minute dip, in the water to cool me down (from the book as well as the sun!!!) . . . I was able to completely finish three new books during our time away. Each different in their own right, and each certainly very, very naughty and very, very exciting!

I’d brought two books with me . . . and was surprised (and delighted) to find another, very interesting book, on the communal bookshelf in the downstairs outside-lobby of our small apartment complex (See below: Does this count as a “Library” Scavenger Hunt Dee? LOL!!!). But more on that later . . .

ModestyBookcaseFull. . . BECAUSE, now that I’ve caught your attention . . . !!!

One of those two books I’d brought with me was “Girl on the Net: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” (Kindle Edition) by one of my most frequent click-to-visit bloggers Girl On The Net.

If you have read even just a few of her always direct and often intriguing blog-posts (and if you haven’t I urge you to visit NOW!!!) you may think you will know what to expect from Carina’s autobio-so-far-ography. But actually it is so, so much more than, certainly I, and I think probably most readers, would have expected!

If I tell you that on one of the most wonderful, relaxing, sexciting, fulfilling holidays . . . in one of the most beautiful and relaxing locations, I’ve ever experienced . . . reading “Girl on the Net: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” was one of the highlights of my vacation, then you may, just may, sense a tiny amount of the enjoyment I got from losing myself almost completely in Carina’s story.

And I should also tell you that Hubby would often have to tap me on the shoulder and whisper “Sh!” as I burst out into loud giggles of laughter, or exclamations of “yes, yes!!!” . . . so much so that other guests lounging by the pool would, apparently, lift themselves off their sunbeds, or look-up from their own books (or worse, remove their headphones) to enquire “she must have a good book???” as I rolled and shuffled and wriggled in shock, delight and (most often) agreement . . . and (occasionally) “oh no” disagreement . . . of the words as they jumped, squirmed and snaked from my Kindle screen.

To say that Carina’s words are direct, honest and straight-to-the-point, would be an understatement LOL! (there you see, I’m doing it again!!!) . . . but THAT is this book’s strength, appeal and, (dare I say it???), charm.

My life is seemingly completely the reverse of her own . . . I’d never set foot in a university until accompanying my own children on their first exploratory visits, never embarked on my first “fling” with another partner until after 10 years of marriage, never visited swinging or fetish clubs until another 10 years had passed . . . and yet every word, every emotion, every up . . . and every down . . . had me nodding in understanding, wonder and, yes, in agreement.

GirlOnTheNetCoverGirl On The Net’s frank and open narrative of her journey from those first discoveries of those private-bits that we all have, those feelings of doubt, guilt, enjoyment . . . those pressures from parents and peers alike . . . are simply wonderful to see recalled and described in such a simple, emotive and REAL manner.

Through first boyfriends, first loves, first orgasms, first heart-breaks . . . all whilst still at school!!! No preaching, no cry for help, no excuses made, nor expected, as we move chapter by chapter through Girl’s lovers (and loves), gains and losses, highs and lows. Some may be shocked by the language here (and by that I mean both in it’s form and description) . . . and at times I would pause from my nodding in agreement and ask myself “we have a son and daughter not too-much younger, would I be happy . . .?”

But do you know what !!! . . . these words make me think . . . “Yes, yes, I would”. Because?

Because Carina’s words, and emotions, and experiences . . . are real. Emotions that we all feel and experience . . . and yet her directness, her honesty, show an understanding, acceptance, maturity, that far too many people (parents with far too-short memories?), will admit to.

Reading “My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” left me feeling I had been invited to share not just Carina’s story, but all of our stories, described in a way that most of us would be too introverted, worried, or “ashamed” to admit. Difficult, confusing, challenging, worrying . . . incomplete (both figuratively and literally in this case) . . . this book is all of those things and yet it is compelling reading, inspiring and questioning. It states the obvious in a very LOUD voice that demands to know why can’t we see, or admit to, the obvious! It cajoles and challenges with a wonderful sense of wit and humour, dry sarcasm . . . and yes, wisdom . . . that seems to shout “I know, I accept, who I am, but do YOU?”

If I haven’t prefaced the story, described the timeline, mentioned the principles, teased you with the climax . . . that is because I want you, challenge you, to read this book. To ask yourself if you don’t, really, truly, see at least a part of yourself amongst these pages . . . and to hope that in that realisation you, (we all), may think a little differently about how we see, accept or judge both ourselves and those around us.

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Realworld language, honest, direct, humorous & witty, yet informative & compelling reading.
Cons: I can’t think of any.
Pages: 260pp
Buy Link: Girl on the Net: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets (Kindle Edition)
Blog: Girl On The Net

 

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

 

Xxx – K

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Lovely Latex from Honour.co.uk & Lacey Lingerie @ Buttress & Snatch

I know we are all comfortable with buying clothes and accessories on the internet nowadays, but I still find it’s nice to have a personal recommendation or to physically see and touch and feel something. At least it is for me . . . and especially so when it comes to my latex and lingerie.

ModestyHonour1So I was really excited to discover two new (to me anyway) companies during my visit to The Great British Tatoo Exhibition recently.

I love latex, but for me it is just one of those items that I just have to see and feel so that I know it is right for me. It always looks so pretty and stylish in those on-line photographs with all those slim and shapely young models. But however much I may like the look,  I am never confident if it would actually be “right” for me. So it was wonderful to discover that Honour had a booth at the show . . . and this “Glamour Corselette” immediately caught my eye.

Lilly, one of the charming young Honour girls, was extremely helpful and suggested a size that she assured me would be the perfect fit. And I’m happy to say she was right . . . it just felt so wonderful to slide into and I just loved the stylish little bow-tie. Sometimes latex can be difficult for me to easily get in and out of (my bumps are not in the right places!) but with a liberal sprinkling of talcum powder, or my “special latex-friendly body moisturiser”, I’ve never had any problems when I’ve worn it since. The shoulder straps are adjustable and it has underwired bust cups which just seem to fit so comfortably and make it feel as though it could have been custom-made especially for me.

ModestyHonour4Hubby was transfixed by lots of the other items on display . . . but I told him I WANTED “this one” . . . and I  received lots of nice compliments when I wore it out to one of our club-visits recently. It has suspender clips attached at the hem (I have them tucked-up here for these photographs) so I wore it with simple black stockings.

And then imagine my delight when just two stalls along from Honour, I discovered the absolutely wonderful lingerie and swimwear of Buttress & Snatch.

ModestyStairsSnatchBumI just LOVE clothing that is different, and fun, and stylish!!! And it’s not very often that I find all three of those elements combined. But finding the Buttress & Snatch stall was like discovering a treasure trove of all sorts of wonderfully colourful and intriguing garments that made me just want to stop and feel them all.

Buttress and Snatch Tassle Skirt Knickers

Hubby’s initial reaction was that the clothing seemed “out-of-place” at such an event and he wanted to lead me straight past. But I exclaimed that they “were all so sexy” . . . and I immediately fell in love with a pair of beautiful black lace knickers with a tassel-skirt attachment. “These are lovely, so unusual” I showed him.

Rachel, the wonderfully friendly owner, explained that the garments were all custom-made . . . normally to order, and that this was the first time she had exhibited at a show of this nature.

I was completely enthralled and enchanted by so many of the unique items hanging from her stall . . . they had an almost vintage, retro look about them, yet every item seemed to exclaim “I am a one-off, I am yours, no-one else will look like this”. Rachel explained that her company had been making lingerie for almost 15 years and that her garments had been worn by people like Madonna, Neneh Cherry, Kate Upton and Kate Moss.

But I wanted those knickers . . . before any other Kates (or Katies) came along!

And they are so lovely. They have this wonderful tassle-skirt which can be worn at the front (see my picture above) for those more “modest” moments . . . or reversed to cover one’s bottom (as in my photo below) and display the delightful sheer black lace at the front, and . . . encourage me to wiggle my bottom more!

Buttress and Snatch Lingerie

I just LOVE them . . . they make me feel special . . . and unique, whenever I wear them.

And even better for me having met Rachel, albeit very briefly, I immediately felt at ease in her company and knew I was talking to someone who has a passion for what they do. I love her story (Our Way) and the history of her Buttress and Snatch.

I’m sure I will ordering more from Rachel’s sewing machine very soon.

So, if like me, you like something a little different and unusual . . . I certainly do recommend you explore both of these exciting Latex and Lingerie companies.

Honour.co.uk

and

Buttress and Snatch.co.uk

 

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me sexy clothes and lingerie . . . and sexy toys . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

 

Xxx – Katie

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My Bondage Boutique Slim Riding Crop

What’s to review about a riding crop you may ask?

Well actually . . . despite it not having many moving or detailed parts to describe . . . this has become one of my most favourite, and most used, toys over the past few weeks. So much so, that I thought I just had to share my excitement and enthusiasm with you here.

And what has made it even more exciting is that it arrived totally by surprise as a gift from one of my followers via my “Wishlist page”.

I have owned one cane before (from a-n-other toy supplier) but it had snapped after just a few sessions, and quite mild usage really. So I’d just added the Bondage Boutique Crop from Lovehoney to my wishlist more out of mild curiosity and “when I have the time”, rather than “a must have” item.

So I was intrigued when a long, brown corrugated-cardboard box arrived at the office . . . and then absolutely delighted, and so flattered . . . when I opened it up and unravelled all the white tissue wrapping and packing, to discover a long black riding crop, in it’s sealed clear plastic bag, staring up at me from inside the box.

I just couldn’t wait to get it home and try it out. And, of course, my lovely and ever-willing Hubby, was only too pleased to submit!

Modesty's Bondage Boutique Riding CropThe crop is 27 inches long from tip to tip, including it’s strong wooden handle (5½ inches long and 3/4 of-an-inch in diameter) with a lovely-to-feel 4½ inch long and 1½ inch wide leather slapper at the “business end”. That means 17 inches of a delightfully flexible, but surprisingly strong, shaft.

The crop is just wonderful to hold as the grooved handle seems to fit just naturally (lol!!!) in the palm of my hand, giving me immediate tingles of command and being in control. There is a thin leather strap attached to the handle, where it joins the shaft, which you can slide over your wrist if you wish, although I haven’t felt the need for that because, as I say, the handle just feels as though it “belongs” in my hand. (But I have actually found the strap very useful for hanging the crop up in my wardrobe after I’ve had my fun).

Modesty Ablaze holding the Bondage Boutique Riding CropIf just holding the crop makes me tingle, you can imagine how excited I feel as I begin to administer those first few strokes (gentle to begin with of course!!!). The “swishing” sound it makes as it swings through the air is wonderful . . . and then hearing, and watching, that smacking sound as the slapper makes it’s impact on my submissives bottom is simply thrilling. I just love it . . . and watching it swat from cheek to cheek with the shaft springing and bending in time to the sounds gives me an amazing feeling. It is command, and power I suppose . . . but fun as well, as I know (from his whimpers and then rising gasps) that my submissive is also loving every stroke.

Modesty Bondage Boutique Slapper

The flexibility and strength of the shaft can, so I’m told (lol!!!), create quite an intense stinging . . . so I always pause after every dozen or so strokes to smooth my partners bum cheeks with the palms of my hand.

CropAndBumHis cheeks feel perfectly smooth and warm . . . and have a wonderfully red glow (which the picture below doesn’t really do justice too).

Modesty Ablaze Red BumAnd the slapper also seems just the perfect size and shape to teasingly slide, gently at first, and then “slap” with increasing firmness, against my submissives hanging balls as I command him to “lift your bum, come-on, up on your knees”.

In the two weeks or so since it arrived, I’ve had four or five evenings of fun which have begun with me pulling the Bondage Boutique Riding Crop from my wardrobe and ordering my submissive to “assume the position . . . NOW!!!”

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Feels wonderful to hold . . . and to use !!!
Cons: I can’t think of any.
Material: Wood, plastic and leather.
Size: 27 inches from tip to tip.
Weight: Manageable . . . and strong!!!
Noise: Depends how hard you strike.
Ease of Use: Very easy.
Waterproof: I don’t know, but I wouldn’t put it in the bath.
Lube: Not required . . . but Arnica Cream might be helpful!
Cleaning: I would imagine just a wipe over with a clean cloth.

Buy Link: Lovehoney

NB: I was sent the Bondage Boutique Riding Crop anonymously by one of my followers ordered from my Lovehoney Wishlist . . . if it was you, please email me because I just might have a special, surprise, gift for you in return**.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me sexy clothes and lingerie . . . and sexy toys . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Xxx – K

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“Knowing Her Place ” by Kay Jaybee . . . the THRILL is in the Detail !!!

You must know the feeling . . . quite by some unexpected twist of fate you’ve discovered a wonderful album by a completely new (to you) musician. Or perhaps a debut movie by an unheard of actor (or actress). Or maybe a book by an author you’ve never come across before. And the surprise and enjoyment of your discovery leaves you craving for more . . . that next album, that next movie, that next book . . .

. . . only to find when it arrives in your excitedly expectant hands that your sense of anticipation as you begin to listen, watch or read, is replaced instead by a flat feeling of disappointment and let-down.

Such was my worry as I shakingly began to renew my acquaintance with Jess Sanders in “Knowing Her Place” the third book in Kay Jaybee’s “The Perfect Submissive” trilogy***.

"Knowing Her Place"

“The Perfect Submissive” had not only been my introduction to Ms Jaybee’s writing, but had quite simply been the first book I’d ever read that I just didn’t want to put down until I’d finished.

Of course I physically had to stop reading from time-to-time (from excited exhaustion!), but just couldn’t wait to resume at the earliest possible moment.

The words just jumped from the page with almost electrical emotion and arousal, perfectly expressing all those enthralling and erotically exciting scenarios that I’m sure we all desire in our moments of passion.

For me that is the beauty and power of words, more than any other medium, that they inspire and stimulate your imagination and bring them into your world . . . and yours into theirs.

That was the effect of “The Perfect Submissive” and Jess’s story. I shared her journey, her emotions and her discoveries . . . and I am thrilled (in so many ways!!!) to be able to say that far from a disappointment or let-down, “Knowing Her Place” builds on the excitement and the anticipation of The Fables of “The Perfect Submissive” and the Fairtasia of “The Retreat” to a tumultuously tingling and erotically explosive Finale.

Jess’s journey in “Knowing Her Place” begins with her departure in Scotland from “The Retreat” and continues with five erotically-charged stopovers throughout England towards her final destination. And though the different situations, and different company, she finds herself in all have that (often unstated) reference back to her previous adventures, such is the descriptive beauty and power of “Knowing Her Place” that it stands as a wonderfully exciting and erotic journey in its own right (or write, so-to-speak!)

And that beauty and power is due to the way every sentence seems to balance, so wonderfully, the ability to describe and yet ask one to imagine the story unfolding before you.

For me the thrill is in the detail . . . the detail of the surroundings, the very being (the scent, the smell) of the people my heroine encounters. The feel of the fabric of every piece of clothing. The touch, weight and proportion of the props and implements Jess is asked to endure.

And just like any adventurous journey there are many unexpected and surprising twists and turns, acts of treachery and betrayal, denial and fulfilment.

Yes, the thrill is in the detail . . . but the detail is not gratuitous not forced, it begs to be imagined, to be drawn and touched and felt by all of ones senses.

That is what sets “Knowing Her Place” and the previous two books apart from any other erotica I have read. It is that wonderful ability that Ms Jaybee seems to find so natural.

Every page seems to flow, to inspire, to stimulate . . . and excite.

So, if you’ve felt disappointment, or let-down . . . or unsatisfied . . . by any other erotica you have read, I challenge you to take Jess Sanders journey. I am sure your imagination will take a new and exciting journey of it’s own.


Buy links for “Knowing Her Place”

***As I said . . . “Knowing Her Place” is a wonderfully exciting and erotic journey in its own right . . . but perhaps to get the most fulfillment and satisfaction from following Jess’s adventures, you could first indulge yourself in even more excitement by devouring the first two instalments in the Trilogy. After all, we all enjoy foreplay don’t we???

Needless to say I loved both of them . . . you can see my 5-star post on Goodreads from last year on “The Perfect Submissive” >here< and my review of “The Retreat” in March of this year >here<. So “Knowing Her Place” just couldn’t come quickly enough for me . . . because of course you just know how much I enjoy a three-some . . . sorry I mean, a trilogy!!!

So, go on, treat yourself . . . or tantalise and tease your nearest and dearest . . . to “The Perfect Submissive” and “The Retreat” by clicking on the respective covers below.

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"The Retreat"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

P.S. –  I just HAVE to mention the cover designs for all three of these books in “The Perfect Submissive Trilogy” series . . . and I’m knot saying this just because I have a thing about rope . . . I’m saying so because the lovely and subtle graphic binds (sorry!) each book to the other in a sort of simple, but powerful theme of submission and devotion. A theme so perfectly brought to life by the magical and enchanting stories within!!!

And, once you’ve regained your composure but left desperate for more . . . as I’m confident you surely will . . . visit Kay Jaybee on-line to discover more of the most arousing erotica I think you will ever find!!!

Xxx – K

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The Lelo Ora . . . oral sex simulator

I was so excited when I was asked if I would like to review the Lelo Ora . . . as amongst the (quite extensive LOL!!!) collection of vibrators in my toy drawer, I’ve never had one designed to simulate oral sex.

And my excitement and anticipation rose even more as I unpacked the parcel and ran my fingers over that lovely Lelo silicone for the first time.

Lelo Ora Modesty AblazeThe packaging is just exquisite! The glossy outer sleeve (complete with short descriptive informative text in six languages on the side) opens at the top to allow one to slide out the luxurious inner box. The dark black, heavy matt cardboard lid lifts off almost like a jewellery box to reveal the Ora itself nestled in it’s black foam base. A neat fold-over thinner (but matching colour and feel) black card, with the Lelo logo printed stylishly in black foil, masks the white charging unit and cable neatly contained in it’s own pocket.

Lelo Ora Modesty AblazeThis Lelo toy is available in Black, Midnight Blue and Deep Rose. Mine was the Midnight Blue and lifting the intriguingly, almost sculptured, shape of the toy from the box I was almost immediately swooning at the feel and contour of it’s shape. That wonderful silicone moulding of the outer ring with a silver metallic-type casting for the inner grip (with the Lelo logo on either side) just oozes class and style. Take a look at my pictures above, and below, and you will see just what I mean . . . and it does feel just as good as it looks.

The almost circular shape is interrupted and flattened for a few centimetres . . . 4cm actually . . . not to act as a base to stand the Ora up, (although it does serve that purpose as well as I’m looking at it now sitting on my bedside table), but rather as a more flexible membrane housing the “tongue” of the toy itself.

Further around the outer “wheel” is the small, discreet, jack-hole for charging (but this toy is 100% waterproof so you don’t need to worry about trying to avoid the hole when cleaning . . . or using excess lube!!!).

And further around again, at what I suppose would be the “top” of the Ora if you imagine it “resting” on it’s base, are the three operational buttons inconspicuously and, stylishly of course, moulded into the silicone and marked by an almost-entwined, lovers knot design, type of groove.

Modesty Ablaze and her Lelo OraAs I connected and plugged-in the charger I almost swooned again as those lovers-knot grooves began to blink with a pretty neon-blue light. But I resigned myself to the practical necessity of noting from the product information that it would require 2 to 3 hours for a first full-charging . . . but that would then allow for a full hour of “user time” . . . and I surely wouldn’t need a “full hour” would I ???

Now . . . I love almost anything sexually and I’m still finding new things that are exciting and enjoyable and satisfying. And I have certainly ALWAYS loved oral sex. And yes, I can climax just from being lovingly licked and kissed around those lips . . . but !!!

But, actually, the most erogenous of all my erogenous zones is not anywhere on my body, but inside my . . . head!

You see, I just have to be in the right frame of mind, the right environment, the right mood to be able to really enjoy, really let myself go, and really, really indulge ALL of me in that special moment in time . . .

And something I have discovered since trying to write about, or “review” my feelings about a certain toy, is that it can be a bit like baking a cake for the first time. (Yes really!!!) Just following that recipe for the first time, preparing all the right ingredients, reading and following all the instructions. By the time the cake is baked it just doesn’t seem to taste as I’d hoped, or expected, it too.

And so it proved with my Ora !!!

I lay back, confident in how lovely the Ora felt to hold with my fingers curled perfectly through the grip-hole, and began experimenting with the plus button (for increasing the vibrations) and the minus button (for, obviously, slowing down the intensity). I pushed, and held that middle button (for “3 seconds” – so I counted 1-2-3,1-2-3) for the 30% increase in the intensity of the vibrations that I’d read about in the information sheet. I paused to apply more lubricant (water-based only please!) and turned it off and on again to slowly push (but not hold) the middle button to scroll through the quoted “10 different simulation modes”. I lifted it away intermittently to check what pattern, or rhythm, the nodule, or “tongue”, beneath that thin membrane was actually doing . . . what direction, or rotation, it was performing. (It has a complete circular stroking motion or a back-and-forth, sort of car-windscreen-wiper type motion).

Unfortunately though, whatever the setting I was choosing, it just wasn’t happening for me. The sound of the vibrations (and it is actually quite quiet compared to most of my other vibrators) began to distract me. I couldn’t concentrate on the matter in hand (so to speak!). I wanted to slide my fingers inside, feel something pushing, probing, stroking. After 15 minutes of frustration and worry, I reached across the bed for Hubby saying “I think I need something else”.

But . . . and this is the moral of not ONLY this story/situation . . . but probably for me, the moral of all situations . . . the next morning!!! . . .

. . . I was awakened, far too early for a Sunday morning, by Hubby’s alarm. He was getting up to watch “the rugby” from the other side of the world. I cursed at him “at least bring me up a cup of tea at half-time!!!” . . .

And, as I turned over . . . cursing still . . . my tired eyes spied that beautifully shaped Ora staring back at me from my bedside table.

I reached over and swooned again as I ran my fingers over that lovely silky silicone. I picked it up and slid my fingers through the grip. It felt smooth, almost welcoming and enticing, in my hand. I pushed the “plus” button. The gentle vibrations that had seemed to upset my concentration the night before, suddenly seemed to empower me. I wanted to “feel” that tongue on me, feel the sound of the vibrations “touching and licking” at me.

I slid the Ora down over my tummy . . .

. . . and suddenly last night didn’t exist, hadn’t happened!!!

Modesty Ablaze with the Lelo OraAnd did the thought that this wasn’t Hubby’s tongue (or anyone else’s tongue for that matter!) swirling around and around over my clit enter my head??? YES it did enter my head, it WAS in my mind. In fact, the very fact that I KNEW this was the Ora flicking itself over me was arousing me more and more . . . and it’s vibrations driving me to that wonderful, lovely, twisting, turning explosion. In only a few minutes my cake had not only been baked, but well and truly eaten and consumed!!!

So, can I say that either of my (so far) two experiences with the Ora would happen for you??? No of course I can’t. Rather like cakes , we all like different things at different times . . . and sometimes we won’t enjoy the taste of the same cake tomorrow that we loved so much last night.

But what I can tell you is that I’m sure I will be reaching for my Ora again!

The Lelo Ora has all the quality of manufacture that you would expect from a Lelo product. It is absolutely beautifully packaged, with a satin storage pouch if you don’t want to place it back into the custom-cut-out shape of that lovely box. It is 100% waterproof and comes with a 12 month Lelo warranty.

The Ora may not suit all tastes (LOL!!!) and certainly for those who only enjoy penetrative sex this toy will not do it for you. But if, like me, you do enjoy different sensations on different occasions . . . or sometimes different sensations on the same occasion . . . you may find yourself curling your fingers through the Ora from time to time.

Modesty Ablaze with the Lelo OraTechnical information on The Lelo Ora is as below:

Modesty Rating: 5 out of 10
Pros: Wonderful shape and lovely to feel and hold. Beautifully packaged and so, so stylish.
Cons: Operation makes it difficult to use in conjunction with any form of penetration at the same time.
Material: Silicone (FDA approved body safe) / ABS Plastic
Size: 75 x 43 x 80mm / 2.9 x 1.7 x 3in.
Weight: 117.5g / 4.1oz.
Powered: Mains re-chargeable
Noise: Reasonably quiet
Supplied with: Charging cable and mains plug, Satin Storage Pouch, Instruction Manual, 1 Year Warranty
Ease of Use: Takes practice and patience to find the right setting for you.
Waterproof: Yes
Lube: Water-based
Cleaning: Hand-wash with warm water and mild soap.

Buy Link: Lelo.com

 

NB: I was sent the Ora by Lelo, free of any charge, for my honest and unbiased opinion of the product.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me sexy clothes and lingerie . . . and sexy toys . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Xxx – K

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Addressing recent complaints . . .

Complaints? Well, perhaps more a case of lots of email messages asking why I hadn’t posted a video review of my recent toy-review-post . . . about my Diogol Jewelled Butt Plug.

It has actually been, on the one hand, quite flattering to be asked . . . and on the other hand, almost worrying . . . LOL???

Holding the Diogol Jewelled Butt Plug

But I do love my Diogol and because I myself felt more . . . comfortable . . . in looking at, and seeing the Diogol, in-the-flesh, so to speak, I thought it might actually be useful to make a review video after all . . .

So . . . if you are of a similar mind, please email me directly and I will see if I can send you your own exclusive video!!!

In the mean-time there are several of my video-reviews (if you are interested) at my Toy Review page.

 


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Xxx – K

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Modesty at the Hoxton Dungeon

If you are a regular visitor here you will know that I have always been interested in erotic fetish and bondage art and photography. But over the past year or so I have gradually discovered that I actually enjoy some of the physical aspects of fetish and bondage as well.

Lover 14 was the first of my lovers to talk quite openly about his interests and experiences in the lifestyle and my curiosity and my own desire was immediately aroused by his encouragement . . . and ever present bag of tricks!

Initially Hubby wasn’t quite so keen to indulge as I was, but after watching and videoing those first few experimental occasions he surprised both of us by becoming more and involved as time went by. And we were soon enjoying our own spanking and bondage sessions at home alone!

At first I was the submissive in my adventures with Lover 14, but I soon found I also enjoyed “switching” and playing the dominatrix role as well. So much so, that after meeting Madame Caramel late last year I instructed Hubby to book the Hoxton Dungeon Suite for an evening . . . and invited Lover 14 as a special guest.

So, late in February, for my Valentines gift, we booked ourselves in . . . and the three of us had an absolutely amazing, and exhausting, fun time!!!

The Dungeon Suite is a little difficult to find, but then “you would expect it to be that way” I chastised Hubby as he struggled with the chattering and confused Satnav directions! However, a quick phone call to the contact number we’d been given quickly resolved our problems.

We were pleasantly surprised to be welcomed by Madame Caramel herself and she gave us a short tour of the rooms . . . and an explanation of some of the quite incredible array of implements and toys.

The suite itself comprises of a “normal” bathroom and small kitchen area with microwave, hob and oven, and a well-stocked fridge . . . and a bedroom with a comfortable double-bed. But it was, of course, the playrooms that we were most interested in!!!

Modesty Ablaze at Hoxton Dungeon

Welcome to The Red Room!!!

Madame described the The Red Room as “Mistresses waiting room” where the submissives should begin their worship and attending to their preparations. We glanced across at the Standing Cage already thinking of possibilities . . . and then with incredulity at the glass cabinet full of clamps, weights, screws and apparatus of all shapes, sizes and materials. The Red Room also has an exciting selection of garments and outfits, from rubber suits, maids outfits and dresses that had me making a mental note to return to browse further!!!

We were then, excitingly, led through to the dungeons Main Room . . . a jaw-dropping panorama of the sort of bondage equipment, whips, chains, restraints and toys, the like of which I had probably imagined, but never expected to see, or touch or feel!!!

Madame explained the “house rules” and the safety aspects of some of the more unfamiliar toys and equipment, pointed out the condom containers (we had brought our own, but “just in case we run-out”) and explained how we must place all the toys we used into a large container so that they may be properly cleaned after our departure. Then with flourishing kisses and farewells . . . we were left to our own devices.

Oh, and what devices!!! . . . there were so many choices it was difficult to know just where to start, but of course, it didn’t take us too long at all . . .

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The St. Andrews Cross

I’d often fantasised about a St. Andrews Cross but never thought I’d have the opportunity of trying the real thing. But over the next few hours, all three of us found ourselves strapped in position, for varying lengths of time (LOL!!!) and experiencing the delights (???) of being both master and submissive.

I was chosen to be the first though! Gently teased with soft strokes from canes and paddles . . . feeling the tightness and grip of nipple clamps and weights, and then the rising crescendo of a flogging whip. Before being caressed and stroked . . . and then pumped and pounded . . . to the first of countless orgasms.

After which I needed time to recover the feeling in my arms and legs . . . and what better way to unwind than by sitting on the Queening Box and ordering my submissives to enjoy and share in my relieving relaxation! (And guess who was the first???)

Modesty's Queening Stool

Resting, relaxing and unwinding on the Queening Box . . .

Then it was Lover 14’s turn to be strapped to the Cross so that I could enjoy administering some fun of my own. Of course he coped admirably! By the time we released him I was glowing and tingling almost as much as he was and couldn’t wait to offer myself to be strapped over the whipping bench for the next round of pampering, teasing, spanking and fucking from both of my attentive and willing dommes.

Over the course of the next few hours we indulged in just a tiny few of the available ropes and chains, cuffs and restraints, canes, paddles, whips and masks. We moved from the bench, to bondage chair and then onto the top of the padded cage and suspension frame . . . playing, with various rest and recovery breaks of course, until well into the early hours of the morning, each of us collapsing exhausted but completely satiated.

Until the morning! When, after refreshing and revitalising croissants and juices, we returned to the Main Room for several more hours indulgence and discovering new toys we’d missed the night before.

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Browsing one of the racks in the Main Room!!!

And we STILL didn’t even scratch the surface of all the things that are available. Not that everything there was of interest of course! It is always a case of personal preference isn’t it . . . and there were some instruments on display that looked positively scary and definitely not for us.

But if you have even just a passing interest in bondage and fetish you will know that it is often the expectation and the anticipation of trying something new that can be the strongest and most exciting emotion. And just being sensible and respectful of each of our interests and desires . . . and ones “safe words” . . . is the most important point to remember amidst all of the excitement.

Modesty Ablaze at Hoxton Dungeon

Ooohh . . . Spoilt for choice!!!

I hope our pictures will give a flavour of just how much we all enjoyed ourselves . . . (and there will be some more private pictures at my Balcony Members page in the next few days) . . . but there is also a plethora of information on the Dungeon and a complete list of all the equipment and toys, including a floor-plan and Picture Gallery at their excellent website. All the equipment is professionally made, clean and maintained to the highest standard . . . and the sheer number and range of toys and accessories simply has to be seen to be believed.

So, if you’ve ever dreamed about exploring the wilder side of your bondage fantasies, or wondered what it really feels like to be strapped onto a St. Andrews Cross, or locked into a submissives cage . . . or indulge in almost any naughty play you could possibly imagine . . . then I am sure you would love The Hoxton Dungeon Suite. We will definitely be returning . . . just to try all the things we didn’t have the time to experience on this occasion!

There is more information about the Dungeon Suite from the official link below . . . and just so you know . . . I actually ordered Hubby to pay for our booking . . .  so my review is based completely on my own, unbiased, experiences!!!

July 2014 Update: I do now have a new video at MakeLoveNotPorn featuring just some of the fun, and some of the toys, at the Hoxton Dungeon. More information at my MLNP page (just scroll down to Video  No. 10) . . . plus I have a little video teaser >here<!!!

Modesty Rating: 9 out of 10
When: February 2014
Pros: The perfect place to actually experience all of your wildest fantasies.
Cons: Completely exhausting!!! (So glad we booked a Friday evening as I couldn’t possibly have worked the next day).
Location: London
Transport: Close to overground rail and London Underground Tube stations. If travelling by car (as we did) you can request a parking permit for close, localised parking.
Official Website: The Hoxton Dungeon Suite

P.S. You can find out more about me at my Mistress Modesty Ablaze page >here<.

Important Rider:  Please play Safely and Responsibly !!!

Xxx – K

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