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Top Tips on How to Meet Other Swingers

Tips on how to meet other swingers

Having exciting and satisfying sex is one of the most important things in a person’s life. Not only does it help people feel better about themselves but also increases their chances of being successful in other areas of their life. Swingers seem to understand this perfectly and that’s why they lead such an interesting lifestyle. However, men and women from the swingers dating scene sometimes have a hard time finding couples who might be interested in swinging. Therefore, if you and your lover can’t find other swingers, these top tips are bound to help you with that challenge.

Go to Swingers Dating Sites

If you and your lover are new to all this, you are probably too shy to meet other swingers in person. Newbie couples usually choose this option because they don’t know how to approach other swinger couples and because they don’t want to be seen enjoying this lifestyle in public. If you have the same problems, make sure you create an account on a dating site for swingers and thus meet other like-minded couples. Once you find an interesting couple, you can meet them in person. Don’t worry; these people are very discreet.

Visit Local Swingers Clubs

In case you are not that shy, you should probably visit some of the swingers clubs in your town. People who go there are looking for the same things as you. Therefore, it’s safe to say that visiting these clubs is your best chance to meet the perfect swinger couple. All you have to do is dress nicely, be confident, and show people that you know how to have fun. This is the best way to impress other swinger couples.

Approach the Couple Casually

The best way to approach a swinger couple is by ordering them drinks and introducing yourself. However, make sure you do that casually without even mentioning sex. First of all, you want to know what they are like and whether or not you are good for each other. If you decide that you’re a good match, you can talk about the things you want to do with them.

Know How to Respectfully Bring Up the Lifestyle

Bringing up the swinger lifestyle and sex is the most important thing in this conversation. This is why you have to do it in a respectful and decent way. You can’t just say “Hey, we like you, we want to have sex with you tonight. Are you interested?” You have to be smooth about it. Say that you are new to this and ask them something along the lines of “Are you also newbies? How long have you been in the lifestyle?” This is the best way to bring up the topic without making anyone feel uncomfortable. Then, when everyone is relaxed enough, you can talk about what you like to do in bed. Also, if you want to have sex with them, you need to ask them nicely. “Hey guys, do you want to come to our home and play?” This simple invitation usually works.


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A Beginner’s Guide to Swinging_REALSWINGERS

A Swingers Guide to Realswingers
Swinger hookups are not for everyone, but those who like the idea and believe in open relationships can enjoy sex with other people without feeling the guilt that follows cheating. Also, many people out there fantasize about watching their partner have sex with someone else, and swinging is perfect in this case because this fantasy can be fulfilled with a clear conscience. Check out our beginner’s guide before you enter the world of swinging so you get a better sense of what to expect.

Who Can Get Into Swinging?

Singles and couples alike are welcome to join a swinging community of their choice, while it’s important to note that single women are the most popular. Couples can find other couples to swap partners, but you should keep in mind that inviting a single girl to join you is also a form of swinging and the most popular one. The biggest challenge for newbies, in general, is to figure out what they like and how far they can go. Then and only then can they start looking for partners to swing with.

Soft Swing to Dip Your Toes In

A soft swing is perfect for first timers as it involves kissing and touching without going too far. You can do it with your partner present or watch him or her kiss another person or multiple people. This is a very gentle introduction into the world of swinging that is recommended as the first step before you can be sure what you’re comfortable with and what’s off the table.

Voyeurism and Exhibitionism

Lots of people fantasize about having sex in front of someone else or watching their partner sleep with another person. Swinging fulfills this fantasy and allows couples to watch each other get it on with someone else or have someone watch them in bed. The rules to these scenes are established beforehand and must be agreed upon by every person involved.

Peak Swap

Peak swap is what most people think swinging actually is – having sex with anyone but your partner. Certain variations are allowed, but the point is to engage in sexual activity with a new person or a regular swinging partner, just not your significant other.

Same-Sex Swinging

Same-sex swinging is more popular among women than men, but obviously, that doesn’t mean all gay women partake in swinging. They’re rather good at setting the boundaries and are open-minded to a point unimaginable by most straight couples.

Threesomes

So many men have this fantasy of having sex with two girls at a time, and swinging allows them to live out their dreams. This is precisely why single women are more sought after than single men, and this is the activity of choice of many couples who like to spice things up a little every once in a while. Others use threesomes to explore how far they want to go with swinging, watching as their partner takes another person. Alternatively, you can try having sex with someone else with your partner watching, and see if you feel comfortable enough to pursue swinging on a more regular basis.


As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE Swinging! And it’s certainly worked for me . . . LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

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5 Things You Need to Know before You Get into Swinging

5 Things you need to know before you get into swinging

Most couples, especially men and women who have been together for a long time, are always looking for new ways to keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom. Sex with another couple, better known as swinging, provides them with a chance to do exactly that. And while having sex with another couple can be rather exciting, finding the right people for this is not always easy. You can’t just go to the swingers dating site and choose the first couple that sends you a message. No, you have to get to know these people before you get into bed with them. This is why we are going to talk about the 5 things you need to know before you get into swinging.

Talk To Your Lover First

Suggesting something like this to your partner out of the blue is never a good thing. They might think that you have some problems in the relationship or that you don’t find them attractive anymore. So, if you want to talk about this with your lover, make sure you bring it up in a casual conversation. This will allow you to see where they stand on swinging. If they are okay with it, then you can suggest you try it out together.

Know Where To Look For Other Swingers

In case you and your spouse want to try out swinging, you have to know where to find other swingers in your town. You can’t just approach any couple you meet and ask them to have sex with you because this is sexual harassment. If you want to find another swinger couple, you have to visit swinger clubs in your town. There, you will find a lot of men and women who are looking for the exact same thing as you.

If One Of You Is Jealous This Won’t Work

Swinging implies that you have sex with other people and if one of you is jealous, this simply won’t work. If seeing your lover with another person makes you jealous, you won’t be able to enjoy swinging. In this case, it’s better not to try it because it can ruin what you have with your spouse.

It’s About Spicing Up Your Sex Life

One of the most important things you have to remember is that swinging is about spicing up your sex life, not an excuse to sleep with other men and women. Swinging is supposed to help you have better sex with your lover. If you are trying to find a new person to sleep with, swinging is not for you.

Be Discreet About It

You should know that most people don’t have nice things to say about swingers. So, if you don’t want to be judged in public, be discreet about your adventures.
If, however, you want to talk about it, talk, but don’t mention the names of people you are having sex with. Respect their privacy because they might not want to be known as swingers.


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but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE Swinging! LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze “Hotel Sheets” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

Over the years we’ve always made a special point of taking regular hotel nights away . . . Date-Breaks . . . we call them.

To get away from the normal, every-day routine . . . and normal every-day surroundings . . . of home.

Because every-day CAN become a habit . . . dull . . . and yes . . . boring. Whereas
. . . an occasional Date-Break away every so often . . . a night on fresh hotel sheets
. . . usually makes for a relaxing and refreshing change . . . and some loving fun, playtime.

So our latest real world sex video at MakeLoveNotPorn is from one of those recent Date-Breaks away.

And don’t you find there is something about those crisp, freshly starched, hotel sheets that just makes you feel relaxed . . . and horny ???

Well, it certainly does for me . . . and I hope you will find our unwinding . . . relaxing . . . and indulgent wet kisses . . . as enjoyable as we did.

Modesty Ablaze enjoying Hotel Sheets

You can view my introduction to “Hotel Sheets” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“Hotel Sheets”  is my 60th video released on Make Love Not Porn with more to cum soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

The lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn have labelled “Hotel Sheets” with tags such as:

ENCORE / IMPACTFUL / MESSY / SELFIE / BLOWJOB / NIPSY / TOYTIME / CLITASTIC / YUMMY / SUCCULENT / SENSUAL / COMMUNICATIVE / JOYFUL / LICKJOB / CHATTY / DRINKRESPONSIBLY / MARRIED / RELAXING

So . . . I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what they mean.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my sixty #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

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Xxx – K

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Modestly Getting Things Going #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze biting the sheets

As this week’s Food For Thought Friday so correctly says . . . “the type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.”

I couldn’t agree more . . . so my responses to the following questions, would be:

When you are in the mood, do you initiate sex, or do you wait for your partner to do so?

I’m a great believer in letting things just develop, or happen, naturally. Quite often the best, and most fulfilling, of liaisons occur quite spontaneously without particularly planning or desiring something in particular. And if the chemistry, and the situation I find myself in, is right . . . then lovely things often just happen of their own accord.

What are your preferred means of letting your partner know that you are in the mood?

For me it is always through laughter and subtle touches . . . suggestive comments and recalling previous fun situations. And then probably reaching out for the others hand, stroking their arm or a gentle squeeze or cuddle.

What methods of foreplay do you most enjoy?

Kissing . . . it must always start with a kiss. Casual and teasing at first, slowly becoming more and more passionate . . . and then !!!

What methods of foreplay would you like more of or more often?

Well . . . once those passionate kisses have got me going, I tend to forget about foreplay!!!

What was the most daring/risky quickie that you have ever had, and how did it come about?

I had to really think about this question as I’m not a fan of a “quickie”.
I much prefer to not rush things, but to take ones time and relax into those special moments of togetherness.

But I suppose the most “risky” liaison I have had, was some years ago on a
night-out for “just for a drink” with one of my lovers. We’d decided to take a detour through our local park . . . and pause for a “rest” on a bench on one of the pathways. As was usually the case, I’d gone without knickers, so was able to easily sit astride his lap . . . and quickly get carried away with myself, thinking about how much Hubby would enjoy me telling him all about our “rest” . . .
as soon as I got home!!!

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Xxx- K

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A Modest Hook-Up

Modesty Ablaze on the phone

I know I’ve admitted before that I can be a greedy girl when the moment takes me . . . and I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who helps me indulge in those moments from time-to-time.

We hadn’t played for sometime but . . . of course . . . I always like to keep my profiles updated on our fun “friend finder” sites and so regularly receive messages and “invites”.

Often those messages don’t inspire me, but one “invite”, from what we’d found to be our best hook up site, included an unusually well composed response to my profile status and several photos that certainly piqued my interest!!!

And that interest grew as our fun exchange of teasing messages continued over the course of the next few days.

Often the young men from whom I receive those initial invites are quickly put-off once they realise that my “Mature lady seeking energetic young play-partners for occasional cuckolding fun” actually means always having Hubby present and involved (if not physically . . . or at least, not always physically! LOL!!!).

So, once I’d made that perfectly clear, it would be the last I would hear from many of them. But this young man was different.

His responses were just as teasing as mine, and the nature of his banter intrigued me more and more. Especially as he assured me that Hubby’s presence would be exciting rather than off-putting!

And then there were those photos !!!

Of course, meeting someone “in-the-flesh” is completely different to chatting with them on-line. So we now have a fixed routine of agreeing to meet any potential play-partners for a “first-off chat just to see how we get on”, at a
quiet-ish downtown bar that we . . . by now . . . know very well.

Unbeknown to them, we will have already booked a hotel just around the corner, in the event (hope), that I will be happy for our “chat” to progress further. There have been times when I’ve decided that I actually didn’t feel comfortable enough to progress, and I have politely had to say “it’s been lovely to meet you. Hubby and I will talk about things and let you know how we feel about perhaps meeting again in the next few days”.

Pre-booking is never wasted of course, as it’s always lovely fun . . . in a different, indulgently-decadent way . . . to frolic ourselves on those crisp, freshly pressed, white hotel sheets.

But, on this occasion . . .

We arrived early, as always, in order to get one of our favourite tables with a view of the entrance in from the street. But, shortly before our agreed time, my young man texted to say he was running late! “Not a good start !!!” I texted back.

So, by the time we did see him arriving, I was already on my second glass of wine. But within minutes of his welcoming hug . . . and confident looking handshake with Hubby . . . I knew we would definitely be sharing our pre-booked room!!!

Xxx – K

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Modestly Hands-On #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Ablaze Fingering Bi-sub

I do so like to be “hands-on” . . . in absolutely everything I do !!!

And on this occasion, it was even more fun watching Luscious’s own hands and fingers twitching . . . and hearing her rising moans . . . as my probing stirred us both to a lovely session finale !!!

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Xxx- K

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A Very Social Relationship . . . #wickedwednesday & #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze reads "Behind The Blinds"

The theme this Wicked Wednesday is “Social” . . . which seems to go hand-in-hand, with this week’s Food For Thought Friday questions, so . . .

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

I have been incredibly blessed to have been with the same partner for over 38 years, and over the course of our wonderfully loving relationship, I have been able to indulge in and enjoy . . . and in fact still enjoy . . . all of the experiences mentioned above.

They didn’t all happen immediately, nor all at once of course, but even in the first few months of our marriage we were able to talk-about and express our desires and fantasies.

I did find it awkward at first to overcome those feelings that we all have in our early years that one should feel “guilty” about having sexual thoughts. That sex should be “lights-out and private” and only to procreate and certainly not to admit that it was actually enjoyable!

But, to be honest, and perfectly clear about putting this post into true perspective, it wasn’t until I unexpectedly and unexplainably, “strayed” into an office affair . . . and Hubby’s reaction to that . . . that I was suddenly, and completely, able to release myself from all of those shackles and fears and become true to myself . . . and to our marriage.

So, to answer the question above specifically, our open and honest lifestyle has allowed us to enjoy all of those experiences to the full.

And yes, on the one hand, they are all different . . . and yet all based on the same (for us) principle of just talking to each other, expressing our “interest” and both agreeing that each of us is completely happy with the situation(s) we find ourselves in.

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Apart from that earliest office acquaintance, we have met most of our friends at Clubs or Party Events . . . so all of them have been “interesting” in one way or another.

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

Whilst a lot of those experiences have been one-off adventures, we have been incredibly lucky to have formed several long-lasting regular relationships with a number of people whom have become friends in every sense of the word, not just in the sexual context. And those sort of friendships only evolve if one feels totally at ease and comfortable with each person involved.

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

Whenever, or however, I am approached . . . whether singly or by a couple . . .
I always immediately tell people about my relationship with Hubby and that everything is always completely open and straightforward, and I explain exactly what my expectations and “rules” are.

Over the years I suppose I have grown into the more dominant role in our own situation, (particulary since discovering, and enjoying, my FemDom fun), so now I will only switch, just occasionally, with one long-standing, friend.

As I mentioned earlier, our relationship just seemed to naturally evolve from one adventure to the next . . . and it still continues to do so . . . with new people we meet and new experiences we share.

And that is what makes it so wonderfully fulfilling.

If your relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

I would describe our relationship as “open and fun” and the principal dynamic is that, nowadays, we always play together.

We do have small circle of reasonably regular friends . . . and whilst they may not all personally know one another, they will all know of each other.

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

My ideal relationship is most definitely the one I am already in. And it often looks . . . and always feels . . . like fun !!!

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Happy for 2019

Modesty Ablaze Happy New Year Hat

Have a Happy, Fun . . . and Peaceful . . . New Year everyone!!!

And wishing you all more fun and frolics for 2019 !!!

There’s bound to be many more New Year wishes to be found at this week’s  Sinful Sunday by kissing the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

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Modest #realworldsex Make Love Not Porn #wickedwednesday

Make Love Not Porn Graphic

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “If you had to start a porn site, to what would it be devoted?”

Well . . . you just knew that I couldn’t resist, didn’t you???

Because, if you have visited me here at my Modesty Ablaze pages before, you will probably know that although I don’t specifically have a porn-site of my own, I am a huge supporter of the wonderful #realworldsex website www.makelovenotporn.tv

We’ve all probably watched porn at some time in our lives. In fact my first viewing experiences were from the days when one had to watch from those big video-cassette tape thingys and the content mostly seemed to be in Dutch or German . . . and the men all kept their socks on.

Things have obviously moved on, and the internet has completely changed the way videos are viewed nowadays. But for me, I quickly began to find the “new generation” porn videos actually quite annoying . . . and quite worrying.

Back in the days of those awkward cassette tapes, the videos at least seemed to have a hint of a story-line, socks or not! And the likes of Nina Hartley and Jeannie Pepper were, in my eyes, wonderfully strong-willed and empowered ladies who certainly seemed to enjoy themselves.

By contrast, the new on-line porn, X-streaming videos, seem to be not only just wham-bam, straight into a mass of impossibly writhing contortions or robotics, but more disappointingly to my eyes . . . derogatory or in fact even insulting . . . in the way that most of the participating women are portrayed.

False and overly exaggerated in every way, like plastic doll-like Stepford Wives, body-part extras with no input and no real enthusiasm . . . and certainly no respect for their involvement. And for me, that is a turn-off not a turn-on.

Now, I realise that many people want the pure fantasy, the pure wham-bam straight-to-the action sort of porn like that. But that is not the sort of “porn” that I want to see. I enjoy fantasies and role-play as much as anyone, but even in my Mistressing sessions, I want it to be fun and obviously consensual, and something that I can relate to on my own, personal, level.

And that is why I enjoy being part of MakeLoveNotPorn . . . realworldsex,
for and by realworldpeople just like you and me. And more and more in
today’s world, I think being by-the-people, for-the-people, is how life should really be.

So, although I know I posted earlier this year on my videos at MLNP . . . and used the same image and the same link to my Why I Love Make Love Not Porn video from March 2014 . . . I make no apologies, because although I know it will not be to everyone’s taste . . . if I had to start my own porn-site it would be just like MakeLoveNotPorn !!!

There’s bound to be many more “Pornographic”, thoughts to be discovered at this week’s Wicked Wednesday.

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Xxx- K

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