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It’s always nice to receive a big parcel in the post isn’t it. Especially when that parcel rattles and clinks … and especially when you open it up to find …
 a Stainless Steel Restraint Ring inside !!!


So you can imagine my delight on being sent this wonderfully new and different device from Sohimi … a new, to me at least, sex toy manufacturer.


The company website has a reasonably extensive collection of products encompassing the usual range of vibrators, dildos for both women and men, as well as anal toys, male masturbators and sex dolls. But it was of course this Ring that caught my eye as something rather unusual … and something I could certainly put to good use in my FemDom adventures as I hadn’t come across anything like it before.

So … let’s get my two cons out of the way first, before I get to my pros !!!

Firstly, that interesting rattling and clinking did have a downside in that, apparently, the postman was clearly intrigued and observed “don’t know if it’s still in one-piece or not?” As actually one corner of the box had suffered a little crush-damage that, whilst it hadn’t split or opened, did appear to be pushed-out a little from the inside. So the internal packing would certainly benefit from additional wrapping (perhaps with crushed brown paper balls or something similar).


And secondly, the locks (more later*) are in my opinion too small to make for easy attachment.


But, as with all the items at Sohimi, the Ring is actually very, very reasonably priced …

Now … with my favourite chambers closed during lockdown I have been unable to do any proper “field-testing”.

But luckily I always have a resident “fall-back” so-to-speak … Subby1 … of course.

As you will see from my photos here the ring is supplied as three curved sections and one straight bar. Made from high-quality, ¾ inch diameter, Stainless Steel, the curves easily push together, secured by a push-button rivet which slots into a hole on the adjoining ends of each section.

There are actually two holes about an inch apart which allow for a slightly wider overall diameter of the final ring. Using this wider setting, the overall diameter of my Subs ring, makes 23 inches across.

The idea of the horizontal restraining bar, with a welded triangular D-ring at each end, is that the ring is placed over the submissives bare-bottom, and the bar is secured in position under his, or her, stomach by locking each end to a corresponding D-ring on the outer section.

Now this procedure does take some practice … and was somewhat frustrating and difficult to achieve with my initial excitement … and Subby1’s nervous discomfort.

*It was finally achieved though, as you can see from the photos below. And, as you can also see, it did present a fun target for me to begin my spanking. However, as that spanking intensified and Subby1’s jerking and twisting increased, one of the locks actually came apart. 


But, as you can probably imagine, I do have lots of locks in my collection … all of them bigger. And that proved to be the saviour of our interrupted session.
The longer shafts of my bigger locks made it much easier and subsequently much quicker to fit.

And that meant our session was able to continue successfully … to my satisfaction, if not Subby1’s.


A small black, leather-look, hand whip is also included with the Ring. Though my preference is for larger, heavier implements, it is actually well made and more than suitable for gentle teasing and arousal.

So … I am so looking forward to further “field-testing” in the near future hopefully. With my bigger locks of course!!!

The Stainless SM Ring with Whip
Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: Strong Stainless Steel elements. Fun design. Very reasonably priced.
Cons: As noted above the packaging could be improved for delivery. In my view, the locks are not large enough, nor strong enough for ease of use.
Ring Material: High-quality Stainless Steel.
Ring Measurements: Tubes are 3/4 inch in diameter. Overall ring diameter when constructed is 23 inches.
4 small Brass/Steel Locks: included.
Black Hand Whip: Leather Bound Handle 6 inches length, leather-feel strands 9 inches.
Supplier Product Link: Stainless SM Ring with Whip
Supplier Website: Sohimi
Twitter: @Sohimi_Official

The Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

We could all do with some joy and enlivenment at the moment couldn’t we! Something to motivate and invigorate us from the uncertainty and unease which currently seems to burden our everyday lives.

Well, I think I have the perfect suggestion to brighten up our days, and nights, and it comes from a new, to me at least, company called www.tantalizeme.com

Now, as well as offering a wide range of high-quality sex toy products, from some of the most well-known manufacturers in the world, Tantalize Me specialise in Adult Subscription Boxes and Sexy Gift options.

I’m sure lots of you are familiar with subscription boxes delivering everything from books, arts and crafts, fashion accessories, beauty products and food and ready-made meals.

But for me, none of the above have inspired or excited me as much as when I recently received my first Tantalize Me Gift Box.

Now, Tantalize Me, offer 12 Adult Toy and Lingerie Collection Box options, including a Ladies Solo Box, Gents Fleshlight Box, Ladies & Gents Couples Box, BDSM and Kinky Boxes and Lelo and Coco-de-Mer Boxes. Or, of course, you can choose the Build Your Own Collection Box.

I chose the Lelo Couples Gift Box …

As you would expect, the package arrived discretely packaged in a plain, strong cardboard, outer delivery box. But, as I hope my photographs will show, the Tantalize Me box itself is anything but plain.

It is beautifully constructed from strong, matt-laminated, heavy black cardboard with the Tantalize Me tastefully printed logo on the top of the hinged lid. This is delightfully secured with a fabric ribbon, tied teasingly … and tantalizingly … in a lovely bow at the front. The ribbon slides through a slot in the narrow folded-down lip of the lid which corresponds with a same-sized slot in the front of the box.

Upon undoing the bow and lifting the lid, one is presented with a black tissue-paper wrapping sealed with a tiny gold heart in the middle. Everything about the presentation exudes quality and care, a feeling perfectly mirrored in the contents of the box as well.

Tantalize Me choose only quality products and those of you who have purchased any Lelo items before will know the quality of manufacture of their products.

My selection had the Lelo Tiani 3 and the Tor 2 Vibrating Couples Ring along with a 240ml bottle of Wicked Hybrid Intimate Lubricant … and a luxurious 200pp Taschen book.

I will possibly review the Lelo toys in the future as this post is about the concept of Tantalize Me’s Subscription Box range, rather than the specific contents. But I simply have to mention the luxurious, soft-covered, book by Taschen that was also included in the box.

It’s 200 pages are filled with gorgeous soft-focussed, sepia toned, wonderfully erotic photographs and intriguing interviews with many of photographers models on their personal desires and fantasies that accompany their self-playtime moments. It came as a complete surprise to me, and something that I would never have known about had it not been included in my Gift Box.

And that is for me what is one of the most appealing and interesting aspects of Tantalize Me’s boxes. That element of surprise and intrigue, that sense of something different and new. All packaged and presented with superb quality and attention to detail.

Of course the Boxes are not just about surprise or difference because as a subscriber you can let Tantalize Me know what items you already own and so don’t want duplicates of. They will then adjust the contents of your Gift Box accordingly … even should you be ordering one of their Monthly Date Night, or Quarterly Premium Subscription Boxes.

And you can choose different themes and moods, box by box, from the Tantalize Me Collection Boxes options as well. So the perfect opportunity to try something a little Kinky, or some BDSM themed-fun, or from a choice of Lady & Gent Couples, Lady Couples, Male Couples or perhaps just for Solo Playtime indulgence.

There are combinations to suit all tastes and desires … and in fact, with that sense of difference and anticipation in mind, I think any of those combination boxes make a perfect surprise gift for a loved one, or “special friend”.

Or perhaps you have your mind set on trying a particular vibrator, wand or item of lingerie yourself from the amazing range of Tantalize Me’s accessories. All compiled with that attention to quality and detail that I mentioned earlier.

So … as I say, we could all do with some fun and excitement at the moment … and I can thoroughly recommend that by visiting Tantalize Me you are sure to find something to inspire and excite, not just for the moment, but for days and nights to come!!!

The Tantalize Me Lelo Couples Gift Box
Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Superb quality packaging, presentation and inspiringly curated Adult Sex product collections.
Cons: I couldn’t fault anything about my Gift Box … but subscriptions may be paused or stopped at any time should you wish.
Box Material: Heavy duty, matt laminated, cardboard.
Measurements: 140mm x 140mm and 105mm deep.
Supplier Product Link: Tantalize Me Adult Subscription Boxes
Additional Supplier Links: Tantalize Me Blog
Twitter: @TantalizeMe_com

The Tantalize Me Lelo Couples Gift Box was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

I’ve always enjoyed my regular “Me Time” moments … whether whilst enjoying an indulgent, relaxing, morning lie-in (and there’s been lots of those lately!) … or
instead to fulfill an urgent, must-come-quick, need from something I’ve seen
or read.


And though I do have my normal “go-to” favourite toys … which I’m sure you do as well … it’s sometimes nice to try a new “friend” for a new twist or thrill.


So I was delighted, and intrigued, when the Bestvibe Mermaid Tongue Remote Controlled Wearable Vibrator arrived in my postbox recently. Delighted because the Bestvibe website has a huge range of “Me Time” products, for both Hers and Hims, with seemingly every sort of vibrating, probing, sucking, licking and flicking stimulators that one could wish for. As well as quite a range of Bondage and BDSM products too.

And intrigued because when I removed the Mermaid from it’s packaging (standard cardboard outer box with a clear-plastic moulded bed for the vibrator, remote-control unit and charging cable), I loved the pretty look and feel of the silicone toy itself … but wondered if perhaps the “anal stimulator” element of the Mermaid, might prove a little difficult.


But, first things first: The principle of The Mermaid is to offer a wearable, wirelessly remote controlled “triple stimulation” experience … clittoral, vaginal and anal.

And I certainly do like the shape of the Mermaid as opposed to the more usual, and larger hand-held rabbit-style, or cumbersome harness-type, triple-stimulators I’ve come across before. And, as I said, I loved the “feel” of the body-safe, silky smooth silicone that the toy is made from.


The egg-shaped, plastic bodied, remote control is less attractive in look and feel, but easy to operate with a two-button shaped controller panel. The bottom button is the standard press-and-hold for several seconds on/off button, whilst the top section controls the 9-mode “silent” (more on this later) options for the 3 vibrating motors. Whilst the Mermaid itself is charged with a USB Cable (supplied), this controller is powered by a small 23A Alkaline battery which is supplied (and already fitted).

Though, as I said, it neither looks nor feels as nice and stylish as the Mermaid itself, this controller is easy to hold and operate and reasonably unobtrusive.


The wireless function of the Mermaid is activated by pushing it’s on/off button on it’s base. It’s not really a button, rather an indentation in the soft surface of the silicone base, with the pin-hole charging port for attaching the USB charging cable.

My first impression of the vibrating motors on turning-on the Mermaid with the remote controller, was that the vibrations of the main, vaginal, shaft were pleasantly strong … though hardly “silent”. Perhaps the buzzing sound would be muffled once it was inserted, I thought to myself, as I had hoped I’d be wearing and thrilling to my new friend during my next supermarket shop.


So, now for some lube … and the insertion.

Now I don’t know about you, but I often find things are tricky with new toys. Just getting used to the buttons, the on and offs, experimenting with the different vibrations and different speeds. And because my expectations, and excitement and arousal levels, are often distracted by the practicality of the “review” process … I always, always persevere … and always, always come back to my new toy(s) several days after the first unpacking and first turning-on.


And, for this first-time insertion, my initial thought that the anal-stimulator might be awkward proved to be the case. I suppose it is always going to be a difficult balance between being too rigid to be comfortable, or not firm enough to make for ease of insertion. And I found it certainly was rather fiddly at first.
But after some … perseverance … I was in.

The vaginal shaft was much easier of course, and so with some shifting and changes of position, I turned my Mermaid on.

The product link >here< to the Mermaid’s page on the Bestvibe website has a clever image illustrating how the three motors of the vibrator actually work. But although I could feel some of those vibrations, I couldn’t quite co-ordinate my body-position to achieve more than just some pleasant tingling, rather than the engulfing orgasm I was hoping for.

And, my other disappointment for this my first trial “wearing”, was that even though I concentrated hard, and squeezed all of my pelvic muscles tightly, I couldn’t stop it from popping out as I stood and took a few steps. And pulling on a tight pair of knickers didn’t help either. Just my natural movements, and perhaps the gentle movements created by the vibrating motors, conspired to “unseat” my Mermaid quite quickly.

And with regard to the “silent” aspect? Well, even if the Mermaid were to stay in place, the buzzing vibrating noise is not quiet enough for trips outside the bedroom. But having said that, for such a small item the vibrations are quite powerful … so perhaps truly silent is too much to realistically expect.

However, as I said earlier, I often have similarly slightly disappointing results with my first experience of a new toy. So I always persevere and try again several days later …

But unfortunately during a number of playtimes over the next few weeks, I haven’t been able to achieve the complete “triple” connection orgasm I was hoping for with my Mermaid. I can orgasm from holding the flicking lips against me, on their own, or … by using the vaginal shaft against my clit, but try as I might I can’t get the anal “stem” to work for me. But then I’ve always found clittoral stimulation the best for me.


So … in conclusion … it is a lovely looking, and feeling, toy and, if vaginal stimulation combined with some anal tickling does it for you, then The Mermaid may well bring you lots of fun.

The Tongue Mermaid Remote 9 Modes Wearable Vibrator
Modesty Rating: 5 out of 10
Pros: Very pretty design and lovely to touch and hold.
Cons: Fiddly to insert the anal stem and I couldn’t keep it in place, without holding it against me with my hands. But, that may be just my shape … it may work perfectly for others!
Material: Silky Smooth Bodysafe Silicone.
Measurements: 120mm long, 95mm wide, 40mm at thickest point.
Weight: 115g.
Colour: Aqua.
Noise: Quite loud (so not discreet)
Charging: USB rechargeable for Vibrator, (cable supplied).
Battery for Remote: x1 23A Alkaline (supplied).
Waterproof: Yes.
Lubricant recommendation: Water based silicone friendly.
After-care: I would always clean before and after use with warm water and mild soap, and dried with a soft, lint-free cloth.
Supplier Product Link: The Tongue Mermaid Remote 9 Modes Wearable Vibrator
Additional Supplier Links: Bestvibe
Twitter: @Bestvibe1

The The Tongue Mermaid Remote 9 Modes Wearable Vibrator was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K