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Five Hundred Strokes #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty The London Dominatrix

I discovered Sinful Sunday shortly after setting my alter-ego ablaze, for the first time on-line, early in 2012. But, of course, I was far too shy to join-in back then … until my first Sinful posting in February 2013. But I quickly became addicted and haven’t missed very many Sundays since.

Because it’s been such a lovely stepping-stone for me to discover and explore so many wonderfully exciting and powerful images … and so many wonderful and inspirational people.

So huge kisses and congratulations Molly … to have reached 500 weeks of Sinful Sunday and to have touched and inspired so many people over all those years … is an amazing achievement.

And it is something for which Molly should be rightfully proud … and we should all be gratefully thankful.

So let’s celebrate, and pray (and play) for 500 Hundred MORE,
by kissing the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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A Modest Vault-aire … #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Vaultaire

I do feel at home in a good Vault … though sadly this one was devoid of wine-racks … but there is just something refreshing about the aire isn’t there?

That feeling of freedom and release … expressing one’s inner rebel … I wonder if you might note the connection !!!

For more enlightenment and fresh-aire, take a sip from this week’s
Sinful Sunday lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Excited … #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Topless Purple and SissyBoy

“No you may not !!! … I know you’re excited, but we have at least another hour yet, and I have a lot more in mind for you!”

“Perhaps if you’re a good girl … and if I feel that you really deserve it … then
we shall see”.

There is bound to be much more excitable fun at this week’s Sinful Sunday to be discovered from tapping the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews the 8-inch Dong Premium Starter Kit at Cloud 9

Modesty Ablaze Dong Review 1

“But, but, it’s massive Mistress” he stammered nervously.

“You told me you could take much bigger the last time!” I reminded him as I pushed him back onto the bench. “In fact, as I recall, you begged me. ‘Bigger, deeper Mistress’ you said. So . . . now we shall see, won’t we !!!”

The Cloud 9 – 8inch Premium Starter Kit – had, co-incidentally, happened to arrive in my postbox just a week or so after that last time. So . . .

Well, it is rather large actually. Larger than it looks on the Cloud 9 website page. In fact, I did struggle to attach it into my strap-on harness at first. But once clipped into place it does feel fun to wear. Much heavier than my “normal dick” and I love the swing of it as I swivel my hips, and walk across the floor.

But, first things first. The purpose of this post is to actually tell you all about the Cloud 9 Premium Starter Kit . . . and then, after that, how it felt for me.
And of course for my, not-so-willing, assistant.

Modesty Ablaze Dong 2

So, the 8 inch Dong Starter Kit is supplied in a triangular shaped, clear plastic fold-out holder. The sort of packaging made to hang in rows from those wall racks at your local toy shop. (Well possibly not your “toy-shop” down the road, but you know the sort of wall display racks I mean). The plastic is shape-moulded to perfectly contain the 8 inch dong itself, as well as the accompanying Medium Butt Plug and the two Power-Stretch Cock Rings. (Which my assistant insisted “look too small” when he first saw them.
But they are super-stretchy and do work just fine! LOL !!!)

Modesty Ablaze 8 inch Cock Rings

The base of the pack contains a small “use and care” folded leaflet and, thankfully, a black fabric travel-pouch. I say thankfully because I did find the pack itself rather difficult. Not difficult to open or close, because it does open and snap back in position quite easily . . . but rather difficult to easily store in one’s wardrobe or cabinet. So the pouch is certainly a welcome accessory, though it would benefit from being a couple of inches deeper as, when pushing the Dong inside, along with the Butt Plug as well, it’s difficult to pull the draw-string of the pouch completely closed without showing a little of the base of the Dong itself. (Or the head, depending which way you insert the items into the pouch).

Modesty Ablaze Dong Travel Pouch

Now, I must confess that on first touch I found the Dong, and the Plug, rather sticky and yucky to pick up and hold. I love, and am most used to, silicone for most of my usual toys. So the PVC plastic of both toys, but particularly the Dong, probably because of it’s size and weight, feels rather . . . well “tacky” . . . I suppose is the best way of describing it. However a liberal coating of lube when applying a condom, which of course is always necessary with any insertable, soon overcame that first reaction. And I actually do like the feel of the veined-shaft when I rub the palms of my hand over it. So, coupled with the way the weight of it “hangs” in my harness, I have come to enjoy the feel of my 8-inch Dong.

Modesty Ablaze Dong and Strap On Harness

I’m not quite so keen on the testicle-shaped moulding at the base of it though. I know it is supposed to convey the notion of realism but it neither feels, nor looks, realistic in my view. So that part of the design doesn’t do anything for me . . . though it may appeal to others of course.

The dong is not exclusively a strap-on appendage as it’s suction-cupped base is designed to also be used for solo-play, (more of that later). So this base, and the make-believe balls, make the dong 9.5 inches in length. The 8-inch in it’s name refers to the actual “insertable” length, so with a circumference of 6 inches (1.9 inches in diameter) it certainly is an impressive toy.

The accompanying Butt Plug has, as you can see from my photos, a flat-flanged shaped base to ensure it’s 1.5 inch diameter, and 5 inch insertable length, doesn’t get lost inside the wearer’s bottom. I found it quite useful as I “warmed-up” my assistant. And he certainly found it quite manageable . . . and the tapered shaft comfortable . . . and quite enjoyable as well apparently.

Modesty Ablaze Dong Butt Plug

So . . . I hear you asking, how was the dong? . . . in practice so to speak?

Well I always get rather excited on first receiving a new toy in the post. So, notwithstanding those first feelings of “yucky-ness”, I was soon experimenting with my lube . . . and that suction-cup base. No . . . not anally . . . that’s just not my thing. Well, not normally anyway, and certainly not for something as big as the 8-inch Dong. Rather I wanted to try to sit down, gently gently, front ways on . . . if you know what I mean.

Well, the suction-cup certainly works on my bathroom floor . . . but as much as I wanted to, I found that I wasn’t able to achieve the depth I had thought I would . . . or wished I could!!! So it was a quick retreat to the bedroom and a more comfortable position of laying back and, re-affirming my confidence and control.

But, as I say, the suction-cup did affix easily and firmly to my tiled floor, so if that sounds a fun and workable position for you, then I’m sure you will have a lot of fun. Just have a lot of lube close to hand and . . . don’t lose your balance!

So, a few days later, how would my assistant fare once the Dong was carefully inserted into my strap-on . . . and with a different point of entry?

Modesty Ablaze Dong Strap-On

“No . . . Red Mistress. Red. It’s too wide!” he whimpered, and twisted and turned. And pleaded! Despite all my own twisting and turning . . . and coaxing and commanding . . . it was just not going to work for him. It really is just too big, and too tight a fit for him at least.

However all is not lost for keeping the 8 inch Dong attached to my harness, at least not in the long-term, because I have several more “assistants” whom I suspect may well wish to offer themselves to . . . “assist” in the future. (As I mentioned in myModestly Packedpost at Sinful Sunday recently).

And yes you can be sure that I will be then be adding updates to my pages here just as soon as I have those opportunities.

The Cloud 9 – 8-inch Dong Premium Starter Kit
Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: The Dong itself is impressively Big (lol!!!) and fun to hold and tease with. The cock rings are easily stretchable and when applied to Assistant No.1 are pleasant to look at and certainly have the desired affect!
Cons: I find PVC is always sticky and “tacky” to the touch.
Material: PVC. 100% phthalate free
Dong Measurements: 9.5 inches long (8 inches insertable), 1.9 inches diameter, 6 inches circumference. 1.1lb weight. Colour: White.
Butt Plug Measurements: 5.5 inches long, 1.57 inches diameter, 4.9 inches circumference. .34lb weight. Colour: Black.
Batteries: None required.
Waterproof: Yes.
Lubricant recommendation: Water based pvc friendly.
After-care: I would always clean before and after use with warm water and mild soap, and dried with a soft, lint-free cloth.
Supplied with: Black fabric, drawstring, travel pouch.
Supplier Product Link: The Cloud 9 – 8inch Premium Starter Kit

Additional Supplier Links: www.cloud9novelties.com

The Cloud 9 – 8-inch Dong Premium Starter Kit was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modestly Cleaning-up #KOTW

“Now look . . . I did tell you that if you made a mess you would have to clean it up immediately! . . . didn’t I !!!”

“Well then . . . with that tongue of yours . . . lick it up. Every last drop!!!”

For more Cleaning and Domestic Servitude just lick the KOTW lips below.

Kink of the Week

Xxx- K

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A Modest Twist #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Twist 1

“Fads may come and fads may go . . . for some!”

Mistress Modesty Twisted 2

“But I have always felt that Twisting is such fun!”

Mistress Modesty Twisted 3

And I’m so looking forward to when we can all . . . “twist again . . .
just like we did last year!”

Visit this weekend’s Sinful Sunday for more fun reminiscences,
by gently twisting the lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews the 8-inch Dong Premium Starter Kit at Cloud 9

Modesty Ablaze Dong Review 1

“But, but, it’s massive Mistress” he stammered nervously.

“You told me you could take much bigger the last time!” I reminded him as I pushed him back onto the bench. “In fact, as I recall, you begged me. ‘Bigger, deeper Mistress’ you said. So . . . now we shall see, won’t we !!!”

The Cloud 9 – 8inch Premium Starter Kit – had, co-incidentally, happened to arrive in my postbox just a week or so after that last time. So . . .

Well, it is rather large actually. Larger than it looks on the Cloud 9 website page. In fact, I did struggle to attach it into my strap-on harness at first. But once clipped into place it does feel fun to wear. Much heavier than my “normal dick” and I love the swing of it as I swivel my hips, and walk across the floor.

But, first things first. The purpose of this post is to actually tell you all about the Cloud 9 Premium Starter Kit . . . and then, after that, how it felt for me.
And of course for my, not-so-willing, assistant.

Modesty Ablaze Dong 2

So, the 8 inch Dong Starter Kit is supplied in a triangular shaped, clear plastic fold-out holder. The sort of packaging made to hang in rows from those wall racks at your local toy shop. (Well possibly not your “toy-shop” down the road, but you know the sort of wall display racks I mean). The plastic is shape-moulded to perfectly contain the 8 inch dong itself, as well as the accompanying Medium Butt Plug and the two Power-Stretch Cock Rings. (Which my assistant insisted “look too small” when he first saw them.
But they are super-stretchy and do work just fine! LOL !!!)

Modesty Ablaze 8 inch Cock Rings

The base of the pack contains a small “use and care” folded leaflet and, thankfully, a black fabric travel-pouch. I say thankfully because I did find the pack itself rather difficult. Not difficult to open or close, because it does open and snap back in position quite easily . . . but rather difficult to easily store in one’s wardrobe or cabinet. So the pouch is certainly a welcome accessory, though it would benefit from being a couple of inches deeper as, when pushing the Dong inside, along with the Butt Plug as well, it’s difficult to pull the draw-string of the pouch completely closed without showing a little of the base of the Dong itself. (Or the head, depending which way you insert the items into the pouch).

Modesty Ablaze Dong Travel Pouch

Now, I must confess that on first touch I found the Dong, and the Plug, rather sticky and yucky to pick up and hold. I love, and am most used to, silicone for most of my usual toys. So the PVC plastic of both toys, but particularly the Dong, probably because of it’s size and weight, feels rather . . . well “tacky” . . . I suppose is the best way of describing it. However a liberal coating of lube when applying a condom, which of course is always necessary with any insertable, soon overcame that first reaction. And I actually do like the feel of the veined-shaft when I rub the palms of my hand over it. So, coupled with the way the weight of it “hangs” in my harness, I have come to enjoy the feel of my 8-inch Dong.

Modesty Ablaze Dong and Strap On Harness

I’m not quite so keen on the testicle-shaped moulding at the base of it though. I know it is supposed to convey the notion of realism but it neither feels, nor looks, realistic in my view. So that part of the design doesn’t do anything for me . . . though it may appeal to others of course.

The dong is not exclusively a strap-on appendage as it’s suction-cupped base is designed to also be used for solo-play, (more of that later). So this base, and the make-believe balls, make the dong 9.5 inches in length. The 8-inch in it’s name refers to the actual “insertable” length, so with a circumference of 6 inches (1.9 inches in diameter) it certainly is an impressive toy.

The accompanying Butt Plug has, as you can see from my photos, a flat-flanged shaped base to ensure it’s 1.5 inch diameter, and 5 inch insertable length, doesn’t get lost inside the wearer’s bottom. I found it quite useful as I “warmed-up” my assistant. And he certainly found it quite manageable . . . and the tapered shaft comfortable . . . and quite enjoyable as well apparently.

Modesty Ablaze Dong Butt Plug

So . . . I hear you asking, how was the dong? . . . in practice so to speak?

Well I always get rather excited on first receiving a new toy in the post. So, notwithstanding those first feelings of “yucky-ness”, I was soon experimenting with my lube . . . and that suction-cup base. No . . . not anally . . . that’s just not my thing. Well, not normally anyway, and certainly not for something as big as the 8-inch Dong. Rather I wanted to try to sit down, gently gently, front ways on . . . if you know what I mean.

Well, the suction-cup certainly works on my bathroom floor . . . but as much as I wanted to, I found that I wasn’t able to achieve the depth I had thought I would . . . or wished I could!!! So it was a quick retreat to the bedroom and a more comfortable position of laying back and, re-affirming my confidence and control.

But, as I say, the suction-cup did affix easily and firmly to my tiled floor, so if that sounds a fun and workable position for you, then I’m sure you will have a lot of fun. Just have a lot of lube close to hand and . . . don’t lose your balance!

So, a few days later, how would my assistant fare once the Dong was carefully inserted into my strap-on . . . and with a different point of entry?

Modesty Ablaze Dong Strap-On

“No . . . Red Mistress. Red. It’s too wide!” he whimpered, and twisted and turned. And pleaded! Despite all my own twisting and turning . . . and coaxing and commanding . . . it was just not going to work for him. It really is just too big, and too tight a fit for him at least.

However all is not lost for keeping the 8 inch Dong attached to my harness, at least not in the long-term, because I have several more “assistants” whom I suspect may well wish to offer themselves to . . . “assist” in the future.

And yes you can be sure that I will be then be adding updates to my pages here just as soon as I have those opportunities.

The Cloud 9 – 8-inch Dong Premium Starter Kit
Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: The Dong itself is impressively Big (lol!!!) and fun to hold and tease with. The cock rings are easily stretchable and when applied to Assistant No.1 are pleasant to look at and certainly have the desired affect!
Cons: I find PVC is always sticky and “tacky” to the touch.
Material: PVC. 100% phthalate free
Dong Measurements: 9.5 inches long (8 inches insertable), 1.9 inches diameter, 6 inches circumference. 1.1lb weight. Colour: White.
Butt Plug Measurements: 5.5 inches long, 1.57 inches diameter, 4.9 inches circumference. .34lb weight. Colour: Black.
Batteries: None required.
Waterproof: Yes.
Lubricant recommendation: Water based pvc friendly.
After-care: I would always clean before and after use with warm water and mild soap, and dried with a soft, lint-free cloth.
Supplied with: Black fabric, drawstring, travel pouch.

Supplier Product Link: www.cloud9novelties.com


NB: Important Notification – Just as I have published my review, Cloud 9 have informed me that due to the Covid-19 related closure of all non-essential businesses by the Governor in their home state, Cloud 9 have temporarily suspended product and ordering links on their website. Things will return to normal once the current situation is over.

I will update this review, and the necessary product-links, immediately that happens. So do please keep checking back !!!


The Cloud 9 – 8-inch Dong Premium Starter Kit was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modest Nibbles #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Piercing Nibbles

I always enjoy new experiences and new sensations . . . and these lovely piercings gave a whole new dimension to my “nibbling and sucking” session !!!

And there will be many more new experiences and sensations to enjoy,
by licking the Sinful Sunday lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Touching #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Touching

It’s fun to share . . . and fun to touch . . . and fun to remember such sharing, touching moments!!!

There’s sure to be much more Sharing and Touching, to be enjoyed by pushing
the Sinful Sunday lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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A Modest Ice-Lolly #sinfulsunday

One of the many fun things I’ve learnt from the past eight years of setting my Modesty Ablaze here, is the wonderfully diverse range of sinfully
fun activities and experiences, that so many of us enjoy.


And over the course of those eight years . . . as I’m sure you can imagine . . .
I’ve had lots and lots of “requests” to share my own photos and videos of all sorts of kinky fun and quirky desires.


Such as . . . sucking on ice-lollies for example !!!

For lots more sinfully kinky fun . . . and quirky desires . . . just tap
the Sinful Sunday lips below !!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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