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Speaking Out of Turn #KOTW #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Speaking 1

“Did you think I wouldn’t hear about your idle gossip??? … You must be sillier than I thought!”

Mistress Modesty Speaking 2

“We Mistresses talk to each other you know … just because it isn’t all over social-media, doesn’t mean I wouldn’t learn of it!!!”

Mistress Modesty Speaking 3

“Mistress Modesty is too-nice and too-lenient” … “Isn’t that what you’ve been saying??? … Bragging how you always leave unmarked and without set-tasks for your next session!”

“Well … we’ll have to see about that now won’t we !!! … I think we shall just stick to this one position for your whole 3 hours today !!!”

“I think you will choose your words more carefully next time … won’t you !!!”

NB: In my rush to pre-schedule this post, (prior to several weeks without WiFi),
I completely mis-read the theme requirements.
So … it turns-out that I am also guilty of “Speaking-out-of-Turn” … however, for more correct forms of Social Speaking, simply swipe at the KOTW lips and Wicked Wednesday Rainbow below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Exhibitions #KOTW and Naughty Peeks #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Exhibitionist 1

People are often surprised when I say that I’m actually very shy by nature … especially when finding myself in new situations, or when meeting people for
the first time.

But I’ve always been interested in those things that normal society tells us are “naughty” or “taboo” … or “weird” or “kinky”. I suppose one could say that I have always had a secret rebel within.

So … losing myself in being Modesty here, has allowed me to cast-off those natural inhibitions and to have some wonderfully fun, and totally empowering times … indulging myself in many of those naughty and taboo experiences that some people may say I shouldn’t.

And one of those rebellious stirrings from within that Modesty seems to just love to indulge, is an exhibitionist streak that always thrills … and often tingles.

Modesty Ablaze Exhibitionist 2

And exhibitionism just happens to be the current theme at Kink Of The Week.

So … steps or stairs, hills or hollows, inside or out … as long as I’m sure that I won’t upset or offend … my philosophy has always been to never take things too seriously and to always try to make everything fun … fun for me and fun for those around me.

For more Exhibitionist stirrings … or Naughty Peeks simply swipe at the KOTW lips and Wicked Wednesday Rainbow below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Exercise #KOTW and #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Exercise 1

“If you thought I’d lost my swing during lock-down, you’re in for a big surprise!” I told him as I began to warm to the task in hand.

Mistress Modesty Exercise 2

“It may be my first session back” I said as I began quickening my swings, “but I have been working-out every day to make sure I kept my strength up!”

Mistress Modesty Exercise 3

“And anyway, swiping bare asses like yours is like a sixth-sense to me!” I said
as I really began to enjoy the sounds … and sights … of the increasing
intensity of my flogging!

For more Exercising motivation and Sixth-Sense experiences simply swipe at the KOTW lips and Wicked Wednesday Rainbow below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Floggers #KOTW

Mistress Modesty Flogging Submissive

As I mentioned in my Modest Surrenders post recently, I receive a really wide range of requests for lots and lots of different kinks, for my London Dominatrix Mistressing sessions.

But the first things I pack when preparing for a session … no matter what the specific theme of the request … are my floggers.

Because, some initial impact-play and warming-up, is almost always the way I begin each session … whether with one of my regular subs, or a new attendee visiting for the first time.

That’s because some gentle teasing and stimulation, normally beginning slowly across the back or bottom, is I find, the perfect way to break the ice and set the mood for what is to follow. Even if my visitor has not actually asked for any impact-play at all.

Now, all of my favourite chambers have their own array of floggers hanging on display and ready to use. But I prefer to choose from my own collection that I have accumulated over the past five years of my fun hobby.

Partly because I know they have been meticulously maintained and cleaned after each session. But also because one becomes familiar with the weight, balance (most important for longer use) and feel … and which will best fit each particular scenario as required.

Mistress Modesty Thin Brown Leather Flogger

I have over a dozen different favourites hanging in my cabinet. Each of a different size and material to suit a specific purpose.

I prefer wooden handles for a firm and comfortable grip, and full-length full-bodied falls (strands) in hard leather. But I have several floggers in rubber, suede, flex, knotted rope and even plastic falls … as well as two smaller cock-and-ball floggers (one in soft leather, one in a firmer plastic).

Mistress Modesty Barbed Wire Flogger

I purchased my first three floggers, at different times, from the excellent once-a-month (pre-covid) LAM Fetish market here in London. But subsequently I’ve been very privileged to have had a number gifted to me by manufacturers as review items, and also by subs themselves.

Mistress Modesty's flogger across Subs bum

But if you are thinking about buying a flogger for the first time, I would seriously suggest you either visit LAM upon it’s return, or from a reputable high-street shop. (I can recommend several in London if you’d like to send an email or DM).

And as always, I’d just say have fun … start slow and build the rhythm to suit both flogger and floggee !!!

For much more information and thoughts on Floggers just
swish the KOTW lips below.

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Cleaning-up #KOTW

“Now look . . . I did tell you that if you made a mess you would have to clean it up immediately! . . . didn’t I !!!”

“Well then . . . with that tongue of yours . . . lick it up. Every last drop!!!”

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Cupped #KOTW

Modesty Ablaze Cupped

I know I’ve mentioned here many times before that there is only one gentleman whom I will switch for . . . Lover No. 14. And even then . . . only if I’m in the mood . . . and usually only for some of his lovely rope-work fun.

But for one of our meetings he brought along some plastic “suction cuppers” in his toy bag. And I must admit that we had such fun with them that I’ve added them to my own sessioning implements, as they do leave such lovely marks!

Modesty Ablaze Cupped 2

But . . . as I said . . . I only switch for one gentleman. So if you request them during a session be warned . . . they could end-up anywhere !!!

Modesty Ablaze Cupped 3

And whilst being lots of fun to “apply” – they are even more fun to pull-off !!!

For lots more “Cupping” and “Plucking” just suck on the KOTW lips below.

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Marking #KOTW

For years and years marking was something that would never have entered my head during my playtime fun with Hubby . . . or any of my other lovers.

In fact as I tend to bruise quite easily, I would always be horrified at picking up even the slightest of bruising or scratching.

But since I began experimenting and developing my more “kinky” hobby four or five years ago, that has all changed. Not from the point of view of being marked
. . . but, instead, to being the “marker”.

Now initially when I began my Mistressing I would always be careful to restrict my disciplining fun to hand-spanking or perhaps using soft floggers and paddles that would only blush or temporarily redden my gentlemen’s bottoms and backs. I had neither the experience, nor the inclination, to mark them further. And anyway, my earliest gentlemen “friends” mostly seemed to be very anxious not to have any noticeable markings after leaving my chambers. (Probably for obvious reasons, but which it is never my place to ask about).

I quickly came to enjoy administering my hand-spanking sessions more and more, and soon had many gentlemen returning for “more of the same please Mistress”. It was some months though before I had my first request for a
“severe caning”.

Caning is something, if you’ll excuse the pun, not to be taken lightly, and requires practice and care . . . both for the recipient, and also for the canes themselves. (I always use my own to ensure they are properly cleaned after use).

So I approached my first such sessions with some degree of nervousness and caution, explaining that “severe” was open to interpretation and should be undertaken with gradual progression.

Since those early days however, as with my hand-spanking, I have grown to enjoy those special requests more and more.

Because if a gentleman asks and clearly really, really does desire to leave with my marks imprinted for a day, or several days, across his cheeks . . . then I take that as a compliment. A sign of his fulfilment and enjoyment of our time together.

And, I must confess, I now really do love receiving selfies from my gentlemen during the course of the following day, (or several days), of the progression and healing, of those welts and bruises.

So from my point of view, I’m definitely a “mark-er” and not a “receiver”.

For many other interesting views on “Marking” just spank
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Xxx- K

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Modestly Public #KOTW

Over the past year or so I have been trying . . . trying unsuccessfully for the most part . . . to compile Part Eight of my Modesty Ablaze Diaries for publication.

Following on from Modesty Ablaze Unmasked, this new edition explores my initial interest, and then enjoyment of, the fetish and dominatrix lifestyle which I’ve come to love so much.

So the current theme of “Public, Kink Play” at Kink of the Week has inspired me to re-double my efforts to complete the editing of the pages and pages of my diary notes that make up “The Journey Beyond” . . .

Although we don’t attend as many events or club-nights as we used to, for several years our visits to Torture Garden, Club Rub, etc. etc. were a regular part of our social “stepping out” . . . and the following extract from “The Journey Beyond” is from one such evening.

The music in the main chamber as we entered was blaringly loud . . . too loud for easy conversation, but I knew from our previous visits to TG that most of the crowd came not to converse, not even to dance, more to just parade. Strutting their stuff, as Hubby called it. “Let’s find the bar” I shouted in his ear, “you can buy me a drink”.

The warehouse was huge, three floors of several large rooms on each, and then a number of smaller rooms and annexes all inter-connected with corridors and treacherous narrow steps . . . at least treacherous to me in my heels as we wandered and explored!

The downstairs bar had been far too crowded, and just as noisy as the main room, but we’d been told on entry of an upstairs bar and quieter space. But finding it was proving rather difficult, especially as there were so many “distractions” along the way!

As always with TG, the array of equipment and play-areas was amazing . . . and overwhelming! Stocks, and crosses, suspension frames and spanking benches at every turn. Hubby was clearly enjoying the sights and sounds as we wandered. But I was anxious for that first calming and relaxing glass of wine, just to settle my nerves and self-consciousness that I always feel in the first hour or so.

Eventually we’d managed to find our way to the top floor . . . and a much less crowded and noisy bar area. I’d been conscious of my age as we’d wandered around downstairs, worried that my best clubbing days have long-since passed, and that I was out of place amongst all the younger and more-outlandish outfits than my own. But in this bar there seemed a more balanced, or low-key, crowd and I began to relax a little more . . . especially once Hubby passed me that first glass.

It wasn’t just a bar area though . . . at one end of the room was a cubicle-type recess with a large bed covered in black sheeting and several couples engaged in a mini orgy of writhing and swooning bodies. I was beginning to feel more relaxed minute by minute. But theirs seemed to be a closed grouping, with neither the room nor the invitation for more participation . . . other than being part of the small crowd of onlookers gathered around.

Feeling enlivened and energised from my, by now, empty glass . . . and the activity on the bed in front of us . . . I pulled Hubby away, ordered him to “top me up” and told him we should continue our explorations of the floors below.

After some further, entertaining wanderings, we ended-up back in the largest room on the middle floor. A large space housing a large cage in the middle, with various benches, stools and tables around the outer walls. As we stood looking at the rope netting hanging from one side of the cage, a thin shape emerged from the shadows and bowed in front of me. “May I offer myself for a flogging Mistress” he said, pointing to my flogger I had draped over my shoulder as we’d been walking around. Hubby told me later that this young man had followed us down from the bar upstairs, though I hadn’t noticed him then.

Feeling much more at ease now, and actually more than-a-little excited and aroused by our surroundings, I nodded that he should position himself against the netting. I teased the black and red leather strands of my flogger gently across his shoulders, letting them twist and dangle down his back . . . and then brushing them in gentle swishes back and forth across the back of his legs.

Then, warming to my task, and feeling tingles rising within, I reached forward and yanked his black shorts over his cheeks, letting them fall to his ankles . . .

As I say, I hope to have more memories from this evening, and lots more of my Femdom and Kink adventures published in “The Journey Beyond” soon.

But, in the meantime, there are lots of other interesting experiences of “Public Play” right now at the current KOTW from smacking the lips below.

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Xxx- K

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A Modest Tribute #KOTW

It’s been very interesting reading through all the posts on the current Kink of the Week theme of “tribute pictures” . . . or more specifically “cum-tributes”.

Interesting because I must confess that I hadn’t thought too much . . . or possibly hadn’t thought enough . . . about the annoyance that receiving unsolicited messages and photos of this nature could have on the recipient.

I’m sure if you have visited me here before, you will know that the majority of my posts are mostly of a “visual” nature. And in the early years of Modesty Ablaze, once I had begun posting more photos of my fun and adventures, I did often receive such “tribute” photos dropping into my in-box. And I will admit to finding them rather enjoyable and flattering.

Occasionally, if the accompanying words were reasonably complimentary and coherent, I would respond with a polite “that’s very nice thank you” or a “glad you found that photo exciting”. But more often than not, I wouldn’t reply . . . but would just enjoy that moment of flattery and excitement.

I suppose I naively assumed that because I found these messages flattering and enjoyable, then others would too.

But, as over the past two or three years those incoming tribute messages became less and less frequent, (I assumed because my increasing “maturity” had lessened my “appeal”), I hadn’t really given the subject much thought.

So, as I say, it has been very interesting and intriguing reading other views and experiences of such tributes. And it has made me realise that although I do still feel flattery and excitement at the thought of someone becoming aroused from a post, or photo on my blog, it is actually the process of that arousal . . . the whys and wherefores . . . that I would most enjoy now. The reasons for the arousal and the rising thoughts during it, rather than just the end-result.

There are lots more “Cum Tributes” experiences to learn about at the current KOTW from rubbing the lips below.

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Summer #KOTW

Modesty Ablaze Nude on the Beach one

I’m sure everyone loves summer . . . and from reading other posts at the current Kink of the Week page, I know I am not alone in enjoying that lovely feeling of sun on my naked skin.

But for me it is this particular beach that symbolises summer.

I immediately fell in love with it when we first came across it seven years ago. As far as we knew, it was not specifically a “nudist beach”, it was just very secluded. Apart from one other intrepid and lovely couple who were always there before us and always still there when we left, we had the beach virtually to ourselves.

Sometimes there would be a cooling breeze, sometimes not. Sometimes the waves would roll and tumble onto shore, sometimes the water would be as calm as a mill-pond.

Occasionally other people would pass by, walking along to the longer, more sandy beaches, past the rocky outcrops to the right or left of us. But they would never stop.

In the mornings we would see the volunteers from the local turtles trust marking out nesting spots in the sand where turtles had hauled themselves up across the beach during the night to dig and lay their eggs. They’d chat and on occasion, show us the depth of the nests . . . and the eggs . . . and explain how they were dug and that the mother would never return.

But for most of the days we would be in our own small world of peace and tranquility, sun and sand, with just that lovely sound of waves and lapping water.

Over the past three years though our sanctuary has begun to get a little busier, with a few other couples stopping and setting down their mats and umbrellas. On most days there may be five or six other couples on the beach, all of similar age to ourselves . . . and just like us, naked and happy to have found such a wonderful, tranquil, relaxing place.

Modesty Ablaze Nude on the Beach Two

And so this beach . . . even if no longer exclusively “our beach” . . . simply means Summer to me !!!

There are lots more “Summer” excursions to discover at the current
KOTW from kissing the lips below.

Kink of the Week

Xxx- K

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