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July 4, 2020 · 5:03 pm

My Name is Modesty #sinfulsunday

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My name is Modesty … Mistress Modesty … Licensed to Thrill !!!
I will infiltrate your mind and … penetrate … your very soul.

This weekend’s Sinful Sunday prompt is to re-brand one’s favourite movie! Now I must confess that I haven’t actually watched Quentin’s film … I much prefer to make my own … so obviously I couldn’t say it is a favourite.

But so many of my followers have mentioned it to me over the years that,
I just couldn’t resist!

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Discover much more movie news and reviews this Sinful Sunday by pushing gently on the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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June 29, 2020 · 6:14 pm

Modest Floggers #KOTW

Mistress Modesty Flogging Submissive

As I mentioned in my “Modest Surrenders” post recently, I receive a really wide range of requests for lots and lots of different kinks, for my London Dominatrix Mistressing sessions.

But the first things I pack when preparing for a session … no matter what the specific theme of the request … are my floggers.

Because, some initial impact-play and warming-up, is almost always the way I begin each session … whether with one of my regular subs, or a new attendee visiting for the first time.

That’s because some gentle teasing and stimulation, normally beginning slowly across the back or bottom, is I find, the perfect way to break the ice and set the mood for what is to follow. Even if my visitor has not actually asked for any impact-play at all.

Now, all of my favourite chambers have their own array of floggers hanging on display and ready to use. But I prefer to choose from my own collection that I have accumulated over the past five years of my fun hobby.

Partly because I know they have been meticulously maintained and cleaned after each session. But also because one becomes familiar with the weight, balance (most important for longer use) and feel … and which will best fit each particular scenario as required.

Mistress Modesty Thin Brown Leather Flogger

I have over a dozen different favourites hanging in my cabinet. Each of a different size and material to suit a specific purpose.

I prefer wooden handles for a firm and comfortable grip, and full-length full-bodied falls (strands) in hard leather. But I have several floggers in rubber, suede, flex, knotted rope and even plastic falls … as well as two smaller cock-and-ball floggers (one in soft leather, one in a firmer plastic).

Mistress Modesty Barbed Wire Flogger

I purchased my first three floggers, at different times, from the excellent once-a-month (pre-covid) LAM Fetish market here in London. But subsequently I’ve been very privileged to have had a number gifted to me by manufacturers as review items, and also by subs themselves.

Mistress Modesty's flogger across Subs bum

But if you are thinking about buying a flogger for the first time, I would seriously suggest you either visit LAM upon it’s return, or from a reputable high-street shop. (I can recommend several in London if you’d like to send an email or DM).

And as always, I’d just say have fun … start slow and build the rhythm to suit both flogger and floggee !!!

For much more information and thoughts on Floggers just
swish the KOTW lips below.

Kink of the Week

Xxx- K

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June 26, 2020 · 1:47 pm

Modesty Ablaze “Stand To Attention – Pt.2 – The Entrée” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

Modesty Ablaze Introduces Stand To Attention Part 2

Following my “Stand To Attention – Part 1” Real World Sex video with Lover 83 at my Make Love Not Porn pages recently, I received lots of questions asking what happened next?

Well … I’m thrilled to say that “Part 2” … of my teasing, flicking, slapping … and gentle kicking fun … has just been released at my Make Love Not Porn profile.


And, as I’m sure you can imagine if you have viewed “Part One”, his very obvious excitement continued to get me very aroused … and very excited too !!!


So much so, that I just had to lie back on the dungeon bed, remove my leather basque and command him to worship my very, very wet and tingling … lady bits.

And he certainly didn’t need a second invitation when I told him that I wanted that worshipping to come from his mouth and tongue, all over my … well, you know just where 
I mean don’t you ???


“Eat me … devour me!” I teased, as I lay back and spread myself wide for him.

And yes, there is much more to come from what turned out to be an amazing domination and submission session … for the BOTH of us.

But one has to keep things in their proper order and sequence, just as they happen. So, I’m commanding you all to watch, enjoy and savour this whole video, before I upload Part Three shortly.

Modesty tapping Lover 83's erect cock

“Standing To Attention – Part 2 – The Entrée” is my 72nd Real World Sex film and as always, if you watch the Introductory Video directly from my profile page at Make Love Not Porn, you can see some “Free Peek Clips” from the video itself.

You can view my introduction to “Standing To Attention – Part 2” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

As I said above, “Standing To Attention – Part 2 – The Entrée”  is my 72nd video released on Make Love Not Porn with more to cum soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

The lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn have labelled
“Standing To Attention – Part 2 – The Entrée” with tags such as:

# afternoon / #chatty / #clitastic / #communicative / #dressy / #flirty / #footsy / #giggly / #happy / #impactful / #intense / #inthedungeon / #intimate / #kinky / #lickjob / #passionate / #playful / #rainyday / #roleplay / #sony / #spirited / #yummy!

So . . . I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what they mean.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my Seventy-Two #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

Make Love Not Porn

Xxx – K

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June 24, 2020 · 11:31 am

Modest Surrenders #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Human Furniture

When I first began my Femdom sessions in earnest five years ago … goodness doesn’t time fly-by when one is having fun … I was initially surprised with the huge variety of “specific” requests I was receiving.

Some wanted only to worship my feet, some my bottom, some my pee.

Some wanted to receive my cane, some my floggers, some my strap-on, some my pee (lol !!!).

Some wanted just bare-handed over-the-knee spanking, some verbal humiliation, some face-slapping.

Some wanted to be locked in chastity, some to be locked in a cell, some to be suspended upside-down … some to be human-furniture !!!

And despite my initial reservations about many of these, unusual for me at the time, activities … I soon began to enjoy, and feel absolutely empowered by, the one common-denominator in all of these requests.

And that was the absolute “release” and “surrender” that all of these gentlemen were craving for.

The fact that they could, for just a few hours at least, leave their normal world and normal situations behind, and surrender themselves completely. And the pleasure they so obviously feel in their surrender, gives me pleasure as well!!!

‘Surrender’ is this week’s topic at the wonderful Wicked Wednesday so just tap below to explore more!

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Xxx- K

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June 17, 2020 · 3:30 pm

Modestly Multilingual #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Kissing the Pink

I’ve always admired friends and colleagues who are multi-lingual … and the way they can engage in conversation in a language other than their own.


But I am happy to say that over the past decades of Modesty … and before …
I have developed what I feel is quite a strong, and intuitive, grasp of that most enjoyable, and widely experienced, language of all … Body Language.


And there are occasions, I’m sure you will agree, when body language can
be simply magical !!!

This week’s theme of ‘Magic’ … at Wicked Wednesday and ‘Body Language’ at May’s new meme of 4 Thoughts or Fiction, will have much more comprehensive thoughts on both subjects I’m sure, so click below!

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Xxx- K

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June 15, 2020 · 4:45 pm

Pour Me Again … June #PMAGW

Hoxton Dungeon Hook Part Two

My first Members Bonus video for this month, follows on directly from Part One of my “Hoxton Hook” fun with Lover No.14. And, as you will see, it was becoming very intense indeed . . . I hope you will enjoy it from a more comfortable position than I found myself in. Lol !!!

There is still more from that same playtime-fun session, so let me know from the comments box below, if you would like to see how No.14 continued!

And don’t forget that I always love receiving your suggestions for next month’s Videos and Photos . . . so if you have a particular theme, or fetish, you’d like me to search my archives for, just let me know!

If you are already a “Pour Me A Glass” Member, just log-in with your
New Password . . . >here< . . . or, if you are not a member, there is more information on how to subscribe from the link at the foot of each of my posts, or from >here<.

And once again, thank you so much for spoiling me here, and helping me to keep my glass full. I really do hope you will enjoy and have fun watching this month’s new clips and photos.

Bye for now !!!

P.s. – For the past few months I have been reading this newsletter out aloud and lots of you have requested that I keep doing that, so . . .

Xxx – K

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June 14, 2020 · 10:28 am

Modesty Ablaze “Stand To Attention” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

Modesty Ablaze introduces Stand To Attention

I’m so delighted to tell you all about my newest #realworldsex video at my profile pages on Make Love Not Porn.


Because, after my last meeting with Lover 83 … he had asked if we could meet again at my favourite dungeon … as he really wanted to experience one of my “spanking sessions” that he’d heard all about.


As you will probably already know from some of my previous Make Love Not Porn videos … I do enjoy some kinky-fun from time-to-time … and, of course, I always enjoy fulfilling any special requests or fantasies that my lovers may have.


So when No.83 arrived at my chambers with a lovely bottle of chilled champagne … AND some proper champagne glasses … we sat and sipped and chatted for a while … as I always like to do … to discuss what he would most like to experience from all of the fixtures and accessories at our disposal.

But as I was relaxing and enjoying the wonderful bubbly he had brought me … I noticed the rather large bulge protruding from beneath his pants.

And when I asked him to stand, and present himself before me, I began feeling more and more aroused … and more like reaching for HIM … rather than for my floggers or canes.

Especially when I instructed him to step out of his straining thong !!!

Modesty Ablaze flicking Lover 83's balls.

“Standing To Attention” is my 71st Real World Sex film and as always, if you watch the Introductory Video directly from my profile page at Make Love Not Porn, you can see some “Free Peek Clips” from the video itself.

You can view my introduction to “Standing To Attention” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

As I said above, “Stand To Attention”  is my 71st video released on Make Love Not Porn with more to cum soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

The lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn have labelled
“Standing To Attention” with tags such as:

inthedungeon / #afternoon / #chatty / #communicative / #dressy / #drinkresponsibly / #flirty / #footsy / #happy / #joyful / #kinky / #playful / #roleplay / #sensual / #spirited!

So . . . I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what they mean.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my Seventy-One #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

Make Love Not Porn

Xxx – K

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June 10, 2020 · 5:15 pm

A Modest Feministicity Conundrum #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty London dominatrix feminist

“I think you’re confusing ‘Feminist’ with ‘Mistress’ … and I’ve told you before, you shouldn’t be speaking with your mouth full !!!”

“I shall expect you to research the two more carefully this evening … and prepare a thorough report for me before your next session!!!”

I am sure you will find much more sensible thoughts and opinions on ‘Feminism’ … as it is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday
… by scratching the rainbow below.

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Xxx- K

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May 17, 2020 · 8:25 am

Modest Cane Shoes #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty Cane Shoes

I’m so, so looking forward to being able to lace these up again!!!

But in the meantime I’m sure I will get some relief at this week’s Sinful Sunday posts, from tapping on the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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May 3, 2020 · 10:55 am

Modestly Packed #sinfulsunday

Mistress Modesty London Dominatrix Strap-on

“It’s been photo-shopped!” SlaveJR replied almost instantly to my text and picture attachment.

“It hasn’t actually” I texted back “and you did ask ‘How can I best serve you when this is all over Mistress’ didn’t you?”


“Yes, but you must have had it super-imposed! It can’t really be that big can it?” he responded.


“It’s completely un-edited” I texted back, “and … it’s a pre-requisite if you’re serious about booking the first session once play-time is resumed.”

“Let me know” I quickly texted again, “because there’s lots of others lining-up
if you’re not able!!!”

Whilst I’m awaiting his reply … and for my favourite Chambers to re-open …
I will be keeping myself busy by browsing this week’s Sinful Sunday posts,
by tapping on the lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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