For last month’s 50 Sexy Questions post I began with a summer holiday memory from my favourite beach, longing for the damp and grey skies of January in the UK to be over as quickly as possible!
And with the first hints of spring, those thoughts seem appropriate again, especially as Question 16 from the wonderful “Corrupting Mrs Jones” blog meme of “Thirty Dirty Questions” asks for thoughts on “nudity” … a subject always close to my heart!!!
So … this morning’s post follows-on from my answers (to questions 11 to 15 … having re-titled my own version as Fifty “Sexy” Questions rather than the “Dirty” connotation … because I’ve always wanted to push the view that sex is not “dirty”. I’d rather think of sex as just … well “sexy”, sexy AND fun!!!
I’m not sure how far-along I’ll get in keeping-up with my answers … but I thought it might be interesting to try … and would certainly re-kindle some lovely memories.
So … here are my answers to Questions 16 to 20:
Question 16: How do you feel about being naked?
Well, I absolutely love being naked … as you will probably already know if you’ve visited my Holiday Videos page … and I think I always have. After-all, we were born naked, so it’s just a completely natural feeling!!!
But of course, as we grow through childhood and enter into all the “norms” of family life and what’s accepted as “normal” behaviour, we are taught that we must always wear clothes, we must always “cover up”. And that becomes the “natural” way we should always be.
And I do feel that as we progress through our early teens, those “norms” become instilled and embedded in our nature. Almost unconsciously we somehow become “ashamed” of displaying our natural bodies … to siblings, family, friends.
And those feelings carry-over as we first begin to develop an interest in clothing, and swimwear in particular. In my early teens whilst bikinis may have been “just about acceptable” to wear at the beach, those strapless-tops and g-string bottoms were most certainly not! And to have even thought about going “topless” on one’s family seaside holiday, would have been too “disgusting and depraved” to even think about, It just wasn’t the done thing, it would have cast shock and shame upon the entire family.
But, of course that notion of “shock” … and rebellion … has always intrigued and inspired me to explore and investigate. And those “coming of age” moments of my teens, inspired by the music and fashion rebels of the punk explosion, sparked my imagination and exploration into loving challenging the “norms” of everything that had gone before.
And then I met Hubby … and suddenly there was no shame in being different. And no shame in enjoying fun holidays abroad where suddenly the beaches with the most appeal, were those where swimsuits were entirely “optional”. And it’s been that way ever since.
So much so, that on the few occasions where we now feel obliged to wear swimsuits (such as family get-together’s, or where a naturist beach may not be available), we both actually feel uncomfortable, clammy, sticky and restricted by having to put on a swimsuit.
We are members of a local naturist club and spend as much time as we can there where we can be amongst other like-minded people who, like us, just love the unrestricted freedom of being naked and natural … and unashamed to be so.
Questions 17: What’s your favourite way to be seduced?
Like so many things in life, seduction is completely different amongst every individual. So much so that I don’t believe there is any specific or perfect way that seduction can be defined.
The way I might be sexually attracted to an individual, or couple, or a even group of people, depends on so many different factors and moment(s) at any given time.
The people involved, the occasion, the place, the surroundings … what has led me to be in that particular place, or frame of mind, at that particular moment … so many things have to align, or fall into place, to make that spark, that point from which the adventure begins.
In the early days of my experiences, before our swinging and fun meets began, my first “flings” (as is my preferred terminology instead of the word “affairs” which most people would probably describe them as), were actually quite slow to develop. Work-place flirtations, or after-hours office drinks etc. All involved just natural conversation and mutual interests … and slowly smouldering teasing and testing of what could possibly happen, before it actually did. Nothing planned, not even necessarily “spur of the moment” drunken unconscious abandonment. Rather they were more just building passion and excitement … but always knowing each others boundaries and expectations.
And then as they developed … and I had confessed my “indulgences” to Hubby … the absolute joy and freedom that those flings brought to our own marriage, led us to our first swinging clubs and events.
And then of course, the element of “seduction” changed.
But … there still had to be the basic starting points of interest for me, and for Hubby, that would lead to the “sparks” for us to wish to proceed.
Which always must be: a mutual interest and respectful approach and polite, patient and sincere and interesting conversation. Short one-liners and insincere and over-confident flattery and egotistical assumptions, are always an immediate and definite turn-off.
Rather fresh, and interesting communication and introductions are always the most rewarding approach to allow things to naturally progress.
And then, even as we became aware of or were invited to join, several online swinger-connection sites, we would always first insist on meeting people with “interesting” profiles at a neutral bar or pub for get-to-know-one-another drinks.
So … as always … different strokes for different folks.
Question 18: Do you have any trust issues surrounding sex or your sexual relationship(s)?
Trust can only be gained from good and honest communication, and mutual discretion … and should always be given and expected … for any relationship, sexual or otherwise.
Question 19: What do you look like, and sound like, when sex feels good for you?
Lol … I hope I look happy and joyful. And thankful and fulfilled.
And I’m told that everyone present always knows when that is the case, because I am extremely loud and expressive. Both verbally … and physically.
Question 20: What is the most sexually daring thing you’ve ever done?
Oh goodness … I’m not sure I can think of any specific occasion or event. Especially as everybody probably has differing opinions as to what constitutes “sexually daring”.
Possibly with one of my earliest lovers, having sex on a park bench after one thing led to another on an after party midnight stroll. Would that be considered daring?
So … if you’ve read this far … perhaps you would like me to continue? Let me know your own thoughts … and opinions. Because, I do truly believe that “great or awesome” anything comes from great or awesome communication.
Xxx – K
P.s. If you’ve read my “Modestly Returning” post at the beginning of April 2024, you will know that most of my content here was lost, or corrupted, at the beginning of 2022. We are slowly working on re-instating that lost content, and repairing the broken links, so please bear with us. I hope this won’t dampen your enjoyment here.
Xxx – K
