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Modesty Highlights @EroticonUK #wickedwednesday

At Eroticon March 2013.

January marked the fifth year of my blog pages here at modestyablaze.com
. . . so it seems only fitting to celebrate my 5th anniversary as part of this week’s Wicked Wednesday theme of “Highlights”.

Especially as early next month (March 4th and 5th) the Eroticon UK conference takes place here in London.

Because attending my first Eroticon back in 2013 was not only a highlight of the past five years, but one of the contributing factors in encouraging me to develop and continue my on-line adventures as Modesty Ablaze.

Up until that point I’d been a shy (modest) wallflower, occasionally posting excerpts from my “lifestyle” diary archives, curious . . . and cautious . . . and wanting to learn more!

Attending that conference not only changed Modesty Ablaze . . . but was empowering and motivational personally on so many different levels as well. Meeting like-minded people, with so many different experiences and adventures, and with such a sharing sense of “community” was simply wonderful.

It was at Eroticon that I learnt about the wondrously fun Scavenger Hunt, discovered Yes, (the world’s greatest lubricant), saw the brilliantly creative photography of John Tisbury, and viewed and listened in awe to an inspirational video-link-address by Cindy Gallop and her amazing #realworldsex vision of MakeLoveNotPorn.

And of course . . . meeting so many wonderfully open and welcoming . . . fellow attendees, (as I mentioned in my post-Eroticon 13 post from March 2013).

So it truly was a highlight of my years as Modesty Ablaze !!!

Now, I’ve . . . rather inconveniently . . . been abroad on vacation on every occasion Eroticon has been held since that first visit. So I am SO looking forward to attending once again this year.

Oh, and – I’m still rather shy of course . . . so if you should see me there . . . please come-up and say hello, because I’d love to hear all about your experiences and highlights too !!!

And if you tap on the lovely Marie’s Wicked Wednesday button below, you’re sure to discover Highlights from other people . . . some of whom I look forward to meeting at EroticonUK 2017!


Xxx – K


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A Modest Shirt #Boobday Friday

I don’t know about you, but I find something quite sexy about slipping
into someone else’s shirt!

And this morning I’m even tempted to wear it into the office . . . buttoned-up
of course!

But I rather suspect there will be lots of unbuttoned shirts and blouses at Hyacinth’s, Boobday Friday today, because as she says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K

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Modest Bra-relief #Boobday Friday

Quite often I don’t wear a bra into work at all! But sometimes it is simply
a necessity isn’t it?

But, oh the relief, when I can rush home at the end of the day and
“unclip and release”. Particularly when I look in the mirror and realise that perhaps my newest bra hasn’t quite worn itself in yet!

Still, I generally have someone quite quickly offering to
“massage those strap marks away”!!!

  And I’m sure there will be lots more unclipping and releasing at Hyacinth’s, wonderful Boobday Friday today, because as she says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K


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Modestly Stepping Out #sinfulsunday

I recently mentioned how excited I’d been to discover this lovely pair of shoes at a charity shop. Well last night I stepped-out in them for the very first time.

And I’m delighted to say they were very well received . . . in fact, I was told they made an immediate, and lasting, impression!!!

There are bound to be lots more people to be found stepping out by prodding the Sinful Sunday lips below.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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A Modest Bouquet #Boobday Friday

Today is the first Boobday Friday of the year. It’s a little too early in the morning . . . even for me . . . to raise a glass to wish for lots of fun and laughter for the months ahead, so I thought it would be more appropriate to raise a morning, blossoming, bouquet instead.

So here’s hoping that we all have a budding and blooming 2017 . . . full of happiness and love for everyone!!!

Because, as Hyacinth, the lovely hostess of Boobday Friday says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K


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Modestly Coy #sinfulsunday

I haven’t been able to post every week this year at my favourite weekend Hotspot . . . but I simply couldn’t miss this first Sinful Sunday of 2017 . . . especially as the prompt this week is for “Something Beginning with C”.

Because . . . you cee . . . if we have already met, you will know that I am normally very shy. Which is why, by-the-way, if you are attending the Eroticon Conference in March then please come up and say hello, as I will probably be too shy otherwise. (Well at least until my second glass of wine).

So anyway, this photo from my summer holiday seemed the perfect choice for a shy, and coy, start to the New Year.

I’m not normally one for making resolutions, but I will try to manage a
Sinful post every Sunday for the coming twelve months . . . just to spread some fun smiles and giggles . . . which is all I have ever hoped to achieve here at
Modesty Ablaze.

And to hope for a peaceful and happy 2017 for us all!!!

Please kiss the lips below for more from this Sinful Sunday.

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2016 from @Mollysdailykiss

Just where did it go? 2016 I mean! So many appointments to keep . . . so many people to see!!! I’m sure I said the same thing last December . . . but every year seems to pass by quicker than the last.

But, one thing I do enjoy about the end of the year, is to spend some time visiting lots and lots of links from Molly’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers List.

Now, anyone who posts web-blogs and diaries of any kind, will know how much time and effort is required just to keep one’s own postings up-to-date. So I am completely in awe of the patience, dedication and resolve that is required to research and compile such a list as Molly does. And as well as admiration and awe, I am also so grateful for Molly’s list for introducing me to new, fun and interesting bloggers and websites that I would never have discovered without it.

But what is, in my mind, even more important about the Top 100 Sex Bloggers List is that it is the perfect starting point for discovering a hugely diverse and inspiring community of people discussing, promoting, and celebrating sexuality in a way that it is rarely ever approached in mainstream media. And possibly more than ever these days, I think it is so important to enlighten, educate and hopefully help to remove all of the stigma, shame and guilt from what is, after all, the most basic and empowering of all of our natural emotions and instincts.

Anyway, that’s enough preaching, from me . . . I would just like to wish you all a Happy, Peaceful and FUN 2017 . . . and I command you (and I will be cross if you ignore my command!) to read and indulge in the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2016 reproduced in it’s entirety from Molly’s Daily Kiss below.

Finally it is here; The Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2016 list.

Please make sure you have read the pre-list post that was published yesterday; The Bit Before. It might just answer any questions you have about the list and most importantly of all is full of very important thank you’s and some words from the sponsors of the list Kink Craft.

Also lets not forget the past winners of this list who are: Sinclair SexSmith (2008) Coquitten (blog no longer available. 2009) (No #1 winner in 2010) Guy New York (2011) Molly’s Daily Kiss (2012) Lady Pandorah (Blog no longer open. 2013) Girl on the Net (2014) A Dissolute Life Means… (2015)


This year the list has been sponsored by Kink Craft who have donated prizes for all the blogs in the top 10. A gold, silver and bronze hand crafted flogger will be winging its way to the bloggers in the top 3 spots respectively and the rest of the top 10 will be receiving a set of Kink Craft nipple sticks.

New Voice of the Year Award

This award goes to a blog(s) that is new this year and therefore have not been around long enough to qualify for the Top Sex Bloggers list. Like last year I could not settle on just one so we have joint winners

A Couple of Kinks – There really are a lot of exceptional sex toy review blogs around but these guys have caught my attention with the variety of content that they are writing. Definitely ones to watch in 2017.

Pain and Pleasure – This blog is an interesting and unique take on kink because it is written by someone who gets their kink fix by paying professional sex workers for it. Despite most of it not being my particular kink I have found his excellent writing engaging and thought-provoking.

And now for the main attraction….

1. Domme Chronicles

I will be absolutely honest with you here when I reordered the list after scoring all the sites I was not in the least bit surprised to find Ferns at the top. She was No.10 on the list last year but in my opinion her rise to the number one spot is well deserved. She has been producing fantastic content for 8+ years and her writing continues to go from strength to strength. To be quite frank not many of us can say that. Even though her kink and mine are the direct opposite of one another her exceptional work always captures my attention and I think that is a huge testament to her writing which is frank, raw, gritty, intelligent and sexy as fuck. I hope you will all join me in congratulating her on the No.1 spot.

2. Dangerous Lilly

As I said last year Lilly is all the things you want in a sex toy reviewer; honest, smart, dedicated, and knowledgeable. Like Ferns she too has been blogging for 8+ years and the quality, quantity and variety of her content is exceptional. If you look back through her blog you will see that she has truly evolved over the years into the blogger she is now who has a genuine passion for what she does and I think that shines through in her work.

3. Rebel’s Notes

I have long been a fan of Rebel’s blog, after all we share a very similar relationship dynamic and so her writing often speaks directly to me but this year she seems to have really blossomed. Her blog is well designed, it looks fantastic and is easy to navigate and both the quantity and quality of her writing is excellent, perhaps even more so when you consider that English is not her first language.

4. Malin James

Malin is an extraordinary, talented writer in my opinion. Her fiction continues to be some of the best around, in fact I would go so far as to say that the erotic fiction on her blog is the best on this list. However she is not just a fiction writer, far from it in fact, her non fiction writing shows a highly self-aware woman who is a deep and intelligent thinker.

5. The Drew Duality

Drew’s blog was a new but happy discovery for me on last years list and one I have continued to visit regularly since then. He has a really engaging writing style that draws you in. His kink is pretty much not my kink and yet his writing, a bit like Ferns makes that absolutely irrelevant to me as the reader. Yep, consider me hooked.

6. Not So Sex in the City

One of my favourite things about compiling this list is finding new blogs to read and when they are as good this one that discovery is even more delicious. I really like her blunt forthright style and the way she writes about things in such an open and honest manner. I have never met this person before but I already find myself rooting for her in her new(ish) relationship. That is the mark of a good blog in my opinion.

7. The Big Gay Review

Another happy discovery of mine from last years list that has continued to go from strength to strength this year. The design and functionality of his blog is absolutely excellent and I really do like the ‘at a glance summery’ in the form of the little dial that he uses on all his reviews. He is a skilled and thoughtful writer and his blog is always a pleasure to read.

8. Tabitha Rayne

Artist, Photography and author, Tabitha is one very talented lady and as such totally deserves this spot on the list. Her content whilst hugely varied is always of a high standard. She really is one kick arse writer when it comes to short flash fiction and her mixture of drawings and photography create a blog with a really strong visual aspect.

9. My Dissolute Life

Nlikes pens a blog that is raw, frank and apologetically himself. His writing comes from a place of honest self-awareness and as a result at times can be a challenging read but in my opinion that is exactly what makes this blog such a great one. This is a sex blog with a capital S!

10. Temperature’s Rising

Mrs Fever’s blog is yet another one that I discovered from compiling last years list and damn can this woman write. Her blog is intelligent, sassy, sexy and passionate. She has a style and way with words that just draws you in and in my experience will turn you on even if her kink is not your kink. That is the mark of a great writer.

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11 Hey Epiphora @epiphora
12 Innocent Loverboy @innocentlb
13 Girly Juice @girly_juice
14 Sexual Destinies @VictoriaVista1
15 Pandora Blake @pandorablake
16 Stranded in Toronto @stranded_in_to
17 Modesty Ablaze @ablazingmodesty
18 Holden and Camille @holden_cammie
19 Love Hate Sex Cake @LoveHateSexCake
20 Penny for your Dirty Thoughts @pennysblog
21 The Other Livvy @theotherlivvy
22 Ann St Vincent @annstvincent
23 Speak With a Suggestive Tongue @Suggestive
24 Denying thumper @thumperMN
25 Teachers Have Sex @teachershavesex
26 Exposing 40 @exposing40
27 oh, that phi @OhThatPhi
28 Melina Greenport @melinagreenport
29 Steeled Snake @steeledsnake
30 Cara Sutra @thecarasutra
31 Ninja Sexology @ninjasexology
32 Goddess Erryn Embers @erryn_embers
33 Domina Jen @DominaJen
34 Miss Scarlet Writes @MissScarletUK
35 Understanding Flutterby @WissPeasel
36 Marvelous Darling @marvydarling
37 BD Swain @RedSwain
38 Happy Come Lucky @ht_honey
39 Chasing Me Chasing you @CollaredMom
40 Horny Geek Girl @hornygeekgirl
41 A Sexual Being @KaylaLords
42 Miss Pearl @OMissPearl
43 You Won’t Tame this Sassy Cat @sassycat38
44 Lady Laid Bare @JillyBoyd
45 Formidable Femme @FemmeReviews
46 The Redhead Bedhead @JoEllenNotte
47 Confessions of a Sex Toy Rep @maryqconfesses
48 Poison Pen Dirty Mind @OleanderPlume
49 Exhibit A @EA_unadorned
50 Sex Is My New Hobby @SexIsMyNewHobby
51 Toy Meets Girl @dizzygirl812
52 A to sub Bee @sub_bee
53 Ella Dawson @brosandprose
54 A Femme Cock @AFemmeCock
55 Sex Death Rock’n’Roll @violetfenn
56 Diary of a Married Woman N/A
57 Emmanuelle De Maupassant @EmmanuelledeM
58 Scandarella @ella_scandal
59 A Slave to Master N/A
60 Illicit Thoughts @Kats_my_Name__
61 The ins and outs with Erika Lynae @erika_lynae
62 My Tickle Trunk @mytickletrunk
63 F Dot Leonora @fdotleonora
64 Vanillamom’s Blog @swirlednilla
65 The Chaste Cyclist @chastecyclist
66 Jerusalem Mortimer: Between the Lines @JaimeMortimer
67 Naked at our Age @JoanPrice
68 Miss Ruby Reviews @MissRubyReviews
69 Emmeline Peaches Reviews @EmmelinePeaches
70 Pieces Of Jade @piecesofjade
71 Cammies on the Floor @cammiesonfloor
72 Maria Opens Up @MSM1647
73 Girl Boner @augstmclaughlin
74 Screw Taboo @screw_taboo
75 Cherrytart Blog @cherrytartblog
76 The Erotic Writer N/A
77 Blissfully Orgasmic @BlissfullyOrgas
78 Thoughts With a Dildo in Hand @thoughtswdildo
79 Sex and Psychology @JustinLehmiller
80 Sexologist Vixenne @DrVixenne
81 Joanne’s Sex Machine @joannesreviews
82 Mintie Price @MintiePrice
83 Frisky in the 916 @jackandjillcpl
84 Malflic @malflic
85 Cara Thereon @thereon_cara
86 Nicci Haydon @NicciHaydon
87 Lil Miss Shalla @spacecheetos
88 Princess Previews @PrincessPreview
89 Kore Desires @adrea_kore
90 Lana Fox @foxlana
91 Mischa Eliot @mischa_eliot
92 Fiesty Fox Films @taylorjmace
93 The Dot Spot @dorothyblack
94 Monkey in a Cage @LadyM_n_Monkey
95 Janine Ashbless N/A
96 Voluptasse Magazine @Voluptasse
97 Under Contract to My Wife N/A
98 Carnal Queen @thecarnalqueen
99 IckleBookie @ickle_bookie

100. YOU! The last spot is for the all the other awesome sex bloggers out there. It is just not possible to include everyone, I relied on the nominations to gather the list and I am sure there are people missing, but this place is for you because every single one of you counts and contributes towards this community.


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A Modest Toast to #Boobday Friday

What better way to wake-up . . . on the last #Boobday Friday of 2016 . . .
than to be served breakfast in bed.

And, of course, to give me the opportunity to offer a breakfast “Toast” to lovely hostess Hyacinth and wish her, and all of you, many more wonderful and fun Boobdays to come in 2017 . . .  because as Hy says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K


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Modesty Ablaze “Festive Friday Fun” new video @makelovenotporn.tv

We all know that Christmas is a time for goodwill, festive fun and laugher . . . and, of course, . . . sharing gifts and presents. And my newest video for MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is certainly all of those things!!!

I’ve called it “Friday Fun” . . . because it is from a Friday evening, just a couple of weeks ago, with Lover No.50 and is full of ALL of that fun and laughter . . . and much, much more!!!

It started with me gifting myself as a present for No.50 . . . wrapped in a festive bow of course . . . followed by lots of passionate kisses and cuddles. And if you’ve seen any of my previous MakeLoveNotPorn . . . #realworldsex videos with Lover No.50 . . . you will already know just how those kisses and cuddles can soon turn into a wonderfully loving . . . and pounding . . . session of orgasms and climaxes for each of us (although, on this occasion, I was spent and exhausted long before No.50 was).

But after a short relaxing rest to recover my composure and following some more gentle, spooning cuddles . . . I turned over to give No.50 some special attention of my own.

I absolutely love giving my lovers “special attention” of course . . . and I was soon lost in the moment, concentrating on his . . . very obvious . . . enjoyment of my caresses, and knowing that we were very close to that special moment that I love so much . . . when all of a sudden we were interrupted by the loud ringing of his phone alarm.

You will see, and probably laugh along with us, at the rather “inconvenient timing” of this interruption. But Hubby came to the rescue, managing to turn-off the ring-tone of the unfamiliar phone without No.50, or myself, having to move from our position. And, as I’m sure you can imagine, it didn’t take me too long to resume my special caresses and give No.50 that loving reward he so definitely deserved.

And that is what #realworldsex at MakeLoveNotPorn is all about . . . real fun, between real people, in real situations . . . just completely enjoying the moments and making the most of that loving and sensual time together.

MakeLoveNotPorn.tv previewed “Friday Festive Fun” in their special Make Holiday Love Not Porn edition as:

Modesty Ablaze knows that the holidays are a time of goodwill and generosity, so it’s only natural that she should give lover no. 50 a gift during their pre-xmas rendez-vous. And, lucky for him, she’s the present! First taking their time to ‘unwrap’ each other, Modesty, hubby, and lover no. 50 are soon having such a good time that nothing can get in the way — not even someone’s phone alarm going off at a most inopportune moment! Filled with laughter, chatter, and lots of #realworldpleasure, this brand new video is the perfect gift.

So I hope you will find unwrapping, watching . . . and sharing our fun with us . . . just as rewarding and enjoyable as we did!!!

You can view my introduction to “Friday Festive Fun” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as I mention at the end of my introduction, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean).

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“Friday F, f, fun” is my 34th video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my thirty-four #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

Make Love Not Porn

Xxx – K

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Modest Xmas Kisses #wickedwednesday

This year has simply flashed by – no pun intended! Just a blur of Fun Fridays, Saucy Saturdays, Sinful Sundays and, of course, Wicked Wednesdays
. . . and much much more!

And as this will probably be my last post before Christmas, I just wanted to send you all my Best Wishes . . . and biggest Christmas Kisses (where-ever you’d like them!) . .  . for the coming weekend.

I hope you all have a wonderful, loving, peaceful and joyful Christmas.

Raise a glass with me (your own special glass if you have one – you know, the one with your name on!!!) . . . and share some love and fun and joyful giggles with all of your nearest and dearests.

Now . . . I simply must dash-off to continue hanging my decorations and making my preparations for the 25th.

But if you tap on the lovely Marie’s Wicked Wednesday button below, you’re sure to find many more Festive Preparations for the weekend!


P.S. The above photo is for everyone who asked to see the “whole picture” after my Boobday Friday post last week.

Xxx – K


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