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Modest thoughts #eroticon 2017

I attended my first Eroticon in 2013 and had enjoyed it so much that I was positive I’d be there a year later. But that following year, and in fact every year since, fate had intervened and I’d always been abroad. So imagine my despair when the Eroticon 2017 dates were first announced, and I discovered it was on the same weekend as a very important, pre-planned family event.

But excuses were made, plans were changed, “disappointments” and awkward questions were dodged and diverted . . . as I was so determined to journey to Camden Town for at least one day!

And so I did . . . and I had such a lovely time!!!

I’m not a writer . . . and I don’t even consider modestyablaze to be a “blog” as such . . . but I just hope that my occasional posts will make anyone who comes across them smile, or perhaps even laugh a little . . .  because I always try to approach everything I do with a sense of fun and adventure.

And, with fun and adventure uppermost in my mind, the most important thing I got once again from Eroticon this year, is that sense of “community” . . . that feeling that there ARE actually so many other people out there who share similar sex-positive, body-positive values and one’s individual rights to choose (about everything!!!)

And so to my one day, the Saturday, at Eroticon . . .

Highlights? Well the whole day was a highlight, from Sarah Brynn Holliday’s session on “Blogging as Feminism and Social Justice” right through to the “Steel and Stilettos Fitness Masterclass” with the gorgeous JetSet Jasmine and King Noire (which I felt I just had to attend after the amazing array of luncheon options sponsored by Chaturbate).

And in-between . . . having previously giggled and laughed-in-agreement all the way through both of Girl On The Net’s two books, I giggled and laughed-in-agreement all the way through her wonderfully inspirational “Pitching 101: learn to sell your ideas”. (Whispered quote from Hubby halfway through GOTN’s presentation “she’s the only other woman, apart from you, I’ve ever heard that can say so many words without pausing for breath!”).

Oh . . . and I simply must mention the lovely Pixie and Andrew in their KinkCraft Workshop for their unwavering patience in instructing me how to make a collar, knot by knot. (Was I the last to finish???)

Oh . . . and browsing the wonderful sponsor stalls at break time. Meeting the entirely lovely William from Doxy (STILL the best . . . and more on that soon!!!), swooning over my new blue Dildo from Ceramic Pleasures, feeling the pulsing, tingling #QueenBee from HotOctopuss, and marvelling at all those sparkly coloured creations from Godemiche . . . and, of course, the very different and intriguing Ruby Glow.

And, as I said, experiencing that wonderful sense of “community” from the Friday evening “Meet and Greet”, and “Saturday Night Social” . . . and all the wonderfully friendly and inspirational people there.

If you were there, you will know what I mean . . . if you weren’t then book now for Eroticon 2018 !!!

This week’s theme at Marie’s Wicked Wednesday, is “Meetings” and I’m sure there will be many more “meetings” to attend from tapping the button below!

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Xxx – K

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From the Bottom of my Heart #wickedwednesday

I always enjoy wishing people fun and laughter . . . and lots of  love . . .
every day of the year of course!!!

But as the theme at this weeks Wicked Wednesday is “Valentines”
I just couldn’t resist the opportunity to wish you all, from the bottom of my heart, an especially happy and loving Valentines 2017.

And if you kiss the lovely Marie’s button below, I’m sure there will be lots of other fun and loving Valentines Wishes to enjoy this Wicked Wednesday!

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Xxx – K

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Modest Xmas Kisses #wickedwednesday

This year has simply flashed by – no pun intended! Just a blur of Fun Fridays, Saucy Saturdays, Sinful Sundays and, of course, Wicked Wednesdays
. . . and much much more!

And as this will probably be my last post before Christmas, I just wanted to send you all my Best Wishes . . . and biggest Christmas Kisses (where-ever you’d like them!) . .  . for the coming weekend.

I hope you all have a wonderful, loving, peaceful and joyful Christmas.

Raise a glass with me (your own special glass if you have one – you know, the one with your name on!!!) . . . and share some love and fun and joyful giggles with all of your nearest and dearests.

Now . . . I simply must dash-off to continue hanging my decorations and making my preparations for the 25th.

But if you tap on the lovely Marie’s Wicked Wednesday button below, you’re sure to find many more Festive Preparations for the weekend!

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P.S. The above photo is for everyone who asked to see the “whole picture” after my Boobday Friday post last week.

Xxx – K

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A Winter Warmer #wickedwednesday

Goodness it’s been unseasonably warm these past few days for this time of year.

So much so that I built-up quite a sweat on my run this morning . . . and just had to stop for a few, modest, moments to cool down.

And though most of the leaves in the park have now fallen, I found this lovely splash of red to cheer me up, before setting off again for the office.

Of course I put my clothes back on silly . . . but I think if you tap on the lovely Marie’s Wicked Wednesday button below, you’ll find lots more
Winter Warmth this Wednesday!

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Xxx – K

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A Modest Necklace #Boobday Friday

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I do love choosing which beads to wear of a morning before I leave for the office
. . . and often I wish I could leave wearing . . . nothing else!!!

A big morning thank you to the lovely John Tisbury for taking this photo of me in my favourite necklace for this week at  Hyacinth’s #Boobday Friday, because as Hy says . . .

Boobday is a weekly meme for us to honor breasts of all shapes and sizes belonging to all types of folks.

All of us who are the owners of breasts know their magical powers, but not everyone gets to hear it. I hope this will become a place of support and praise.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!

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Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze “Love Bites” new video @makelovenotporn.tv

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One of the things I enjoy about meeting new friends is discovering new, different, and fun experiences. We all have different desires, different fetishes and different things that excite and arouse us. And I always find that discovering . . . and sharing . . . those different experiences with new friends can be so fulfilling and enjoyable.

And that’s exactly what makes all of the #realworldsex videos at MakeLoveNotPorn.tv so relevant and such fun . . . because it’s real-life emotions and pleasures shared with real-life people!!!

And “Love Bites”, my newest video at MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is a perfect example of that because my new young friend surprised me by begging me to indulge his passion for “Love Bites” – and not in a place where you would normally think that love bites would be . . . !!!

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. . . because, you see, he wanted me to give him love bites . . . down there!!! . . . if you know whereabouts I mean.

I wasn’t really sure I would be able to indulge him in his desires at first . . . at least not as “hard” as he seemed to want them. But he does have such a “lovely package” that I just couldn’t resist! And despite my initial reservations, I quickly began to really enjoy myself . . . and his lovely “package” . . . as I think will be obvious from this fun video!

You can view my introduction to “Love Bites” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as I mention at the end of my introduction, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. (AND, no it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality and love.

I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean).

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There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“Love Bites” is my 32nd video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my thirty-two #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

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I really do hope you get as much fun . . . and excitement . . . and wonder . . . from viewing “Love Bites” as my new friend and I,
rather obviously, had making it!!!

Xxx – K

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A Modest Cleavage #Boobday Friday

modestyablazecleavageI often envy the lovely cleavage’s on display each #Boobday Friday and wish that I was better endowed in that area.

But then I remember . . . that this is me, this is how . . . and who I am.
And after all that is, quite simply, what Hyacinth’s #Boobday Friday, is all about, because as she says . . .

Boobday is a weekly meme for us to honor breasts of all shapes and sizes belonging to all types of folks.

All of us who are the owners of breasts know their magical powers, but not everyone gets to hear it. I hope this will become a place of support and praise.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!

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Xxx – K

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Anus Interruptus #sinfulsunday

I always like to explore whenever I am away on holiday . . . and when I was told that the highest mountain on the island was Mount Ainos I just had to investigate. Especially as the locals always seemed to pronounce it as . . . well, you know,
like ones . . . bottom!!!

“Apparently the road is very narrow and very twisty, and remember it’s my first day in the car” said an obviously worried Hubby.
“But darling it sound’s like a perfect ‘Mountain Scavenger Hunt’ spot” I winked and cajoled in reply.
And as we rose higher and higher up the mountain, the view was certainly spectacular . . . but very, very windy when we finally pulled into a car parking area near the summit.

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So windy in fact that I had to lean back and steady myself against the sign.

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“Just look at the view” I shouted to Hubby above the wind. “Isn’t it beautiful!”
“Yes, it’s fantastic” he shouted back . . . even though he was facing in completely the wrong direction!

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“Come round in front of me then!” I yelled to him as I turned around to face into the wind to give him a better view of the valley below.

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“Come on then” I said, “I can see two other cars on the road below, let’s go up to the top before they get here!”

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But, as I turned away, there was another sudden gust of wind and I felt my sarong almost blown completely off me. The fabric had come undone on my left shoulder!!! Luckily the other had held fast and I caught it under my arm and then managed to wrap it back round me as we struggled back to the car.
“Drive me down to the far end, before those other cars arrive, and I’ll try to tie it back together somehow!”

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Once he’d re-parked, Hubby got out to stand by the drivers side window to shield me from view should another car pull into the car park . . . finding it all a great joke as I struggled with my knots.
He had his head inside the car and was still laughing and making fun of me when suddenly out of the corner of my eye I saw a cloud of dust above the boulders in front of us, accompanied by first a rumbling sound . . . then a strange ringing . . . like a discordant bell of some sort. Then within seconds I was horrified to see scores of shapes bounding over the rocks coming straight towards us.
“Get in the car!!!” I screamed. “We’re in a stampede!!!”

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But Hubby had heard, and seen them as well, and was already scrambling in through the door as what seemed like hundreds of goats streamed past us on either side of the car.

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As we recovered our composure . . . and I’d pulled my torn sarong up over my
chest . . . we noticed a goat herder walking along the road at the side of the
car park scattering food of some sort into the ditch.

And, as the occupants of those other two cars I’d spotted on the road below us, pulled into the car park and jumped out with their own cameras, we decided it was an appropriate moment to set off back down the hill to find a quieter spot for me to try to re-dress.

I’m sure there will be lots more dressing and undressing fun at this week’s
Sinful Sunday from clicking the lips below!

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Xxx – K

And as I’d almost inadvertently had my own flag flown at the top of Mount . . .
I still giggle every time I say it . . . Ainos . . . I would like to add this as a “Mountain” notch to Pieces of Jade’s, fun Scavenger Hunt meme.

And, if you are interested, you can discover lots more of my Scavenger Hunt submissions at current Scavenger Hunt page or visit my
Scavenger Slideshow!!!   

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Xxxx – K

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Je vous remercie La Bauge littéraire

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It’s always very nice when someone says flattering things about you, especially so when those words come from someone with similar interests . . . in this case erotic literature . . . and even more so from someone for whom English is not their native language.

So I was thrilled to receive a lovely email two weeks ago from the gentleman who publishes at La Bauge littéraire (a site dedicated to erotic literature) to tell me about his review of my Ebook  The Modesty Diaries – Part 1 The Journey on his site. Now although I’m multi-lots-of-things (as you can probably imagine), I’m afraid multi-lingual is not one of them . . . although I just swoon at the sound of a French accent, my schoolgirl french is not good enough to read more than a few words!.

However La Bauge has just re-published his review in English which he has very graciously allowed me to re-publish in full below. Several other posts from La Bauge also have English translations and I really urge you to visit the wonderful world of Amber Jahn and discover some of her amazing paintings at: A Radiant Artist. They are quite simply stunning!!!

Thank you once again to La Bauge . . . and, as I have already said to him . . . his words below have motivated me to try to find some time to compile more of my (lots and lots) diary scribbles over the past few years, into a new Ebook Edition as soon as I can.


Katie Ellison, The Modesty Diaries, t. 1 « The journey »

The article you are about to read on the Modesty Diaries has first been published in a French version on my website dedicated to erotic literature, La Bauge littéraire. As the French still have difficulties coping with the idea that there are things worth saying in other languages than their own, this original feature on Katie Ellsion and her Modesty Diairies has remained without any attention. Which is rather sad, as Katie and her excellent texts are worthy of being discovered by a larger public. So I decided to publish an English translation in order to reach a bigger audience, for the sake of these diairies, its saucy details and its human dimension which extends far beyond the boundaries of physical love-making.

As you all know, literature is a kind of a game at the crossroads of reality and fiction. While some texts don’t seem to have any connection whatsoever to the world we all live in, others try to render it in the most accurate way or are destined to give an account of someone’s (for example the author’s) life and his reflections on it. Regardless of this consideration, literature is always fictional, never the real thing entirely. Conscious of this state of things, I was not able to exclude the idea of the Modesty Diaries being some kind of literary hoax. Something rather common and not to be rejected as false or dishonest, just a way of making literature out of something. Since the initial publication of this feature, I have chatted on multiple occasions with this diary’s author, and I am convinced now that the woman behind it all is in fact real. As for the actions related, I am of course not an eye-witness and I can by no means guarantee the veracity of every single detail, but I am convinced that the episodes of her life she has chosen to integrate into this stunning text – those that have led the author on her path to an enlightened – and profoundly human – sexuality – are indeed genuine. This being said, we should of course not forget that, having been transformed into literature, these experiences have acquired an additional dimension  and a veracity that extends beyond that of a single person.

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Those who come and visit the den of literature’s wild boar on a regular basis know all about the terrible thirst of this beast of the Teutonic forests for all things related to literature, a thirst that pushes it to transgress all bounds in its search for something to quench the fire in its guts, a fire nourished by its lust for literature and sex, a lust so measureless that it makes him forget all decency, a longing to push to the heart of even the strangest phantasms. You can easily imagine that such a longing is difficult to satisfy, and this is one of the reasons that pushes the wild boar to take a good look over the fence, to see what treasures there may possibly be in other languages. After Barbara Shumway, an American author presented recently with two features, it is now the turn of Katie Ellison, an English writer that I met, just as Barbara, on about.me, a site that built its business case around the notion of egotism, a kind of virtual visiting card that seems to exert a particular attraction on writers of erotica.

We should perhaps start by asking ourselves in what measure Katie Ellsion is about literature. Her texts are presented as excerpts from her diary, first published on a blog destined to be some kind of report of her discovery of – and slow progression toward – polyamory and a swinging life-style, of her first steps in this new world whose doors so often remain closed to the common mortal, caught in the conventions of a society that professes some sort of serial monogamy.

« These extracts are not fiction, but real life accounts of her occasional affairs, swinging adventures and encounters over the past decade. »1

Having never met the author elsewhere than in her writings, it is of course entirely possible that this is some kind of literary hoax, something rather common since the romantic ages, a trick that consists in creating fake biographies with all the appearances of the real thing. Whatever it may be in this case, as we talk (almost) exclusively literature in the wild boar’s den, and as this one has the habit of reaching out to those that offer him the possibility to travel the minds of writers, we are going to give credence to Katie’s story and delve into her texts, The Modesty Diaries, as if these really were the true confessions of a woman fulfilled by the experience of her openly assumed free sexuality.

As one would expect in a diary, everything is written from a first person perspective. As one follows the plot, one discovers a woman that nothing seems to make any different from the ordinary twenty-first century woman, married with kids, doing well in the job and at home. A woman whose first steps in the discovery of the sentimental and sexual aspects of life are those of the biggest part of her contemporaries. Up to the day where she starts (or lets herself get into) an affair, with all those mixed feelings that come along with it:

“Someone else found me attractive! Wanted me! Aroused me! Excited me! I just couldn’t help myself… even the complete feelings of guilt and shame in the aftermath, couldn’t stop me. I enjoyed it… and yes, I wanted it, I needed it.”2

A not very original experience that many have lived through, torn between fulfilment and shame, and that many have not been able to prevent from letting it destroy their marriage. But here lies the difference : The main character of this very intimate diary had the chance of being married to a man that not only understands her but actively encourages her to take more lovers, at the sole condition of telling him everything about it, up to the most saucy details. And that has been the start of a series of encounters that the author has chosen to present on her blog, which has later become the basis of the three volumes of her Modesty Diaries.

The episodes inspired by the rich sexual life of Katie E. (yes, this should remind you of the work of another famous sexual egotist, The sexual life of Catherine M.) have all one thing in common (at least in the first volume I just finished reading), a certain naiveté that, despite the open indecency of the characters and certain of their practices, makes for a refreshing sense of innocence. An innocence that largely contributes to make even more credible the allegations of the chief protagonist who professes the extra-literary, non-fictional character of herself and her texts. The things happening between Modesty (aka Katie) and her lovers are not out of the ordinary, and every person with a healthy sexuality is sure to have enjoyed it in some form: Modesty loves to suck cock, gets her nipples played with, enjoys head-jobs and passionate french-kissing. As I said, nothing out of the ordinary. There are no transgressions apart from the main one that lies at the heart of the matter, polyamory (rendered even more spicy by a big dosage of cuckolding). Apart from that, the sexual habits of Modesty Ablaze are those of about 99% of the population, and no-one would find anything wrong with that.

So, nothing special as for this matter, if it were not for the sincerity of the narrative that contributes to make Modesty Ablaze a real human being, a fellow, a person one would love to meet, not only to enjoy her open-mindedness and her excellence in all matters sexual, but to bask in the all-to-human warmth that she irradiates, a warmth so contagious that it makes exceptional beings out of those who just cross her path, beings that get into the readers’ heads and continue to live there. All thanks to the writing skill of Katie Ellison. And I hope you understand that this is an exploit so outstanding I just had to single it out.

If I have chosen to present to you, my faithful readers, the works of Katie Ellison, it is first and foremost for the profound humanity that lies at the heart of her writing, a humanity we all have a great need for in these times of obscurantist terror, a humanity that expresses itself precisely by what makes us human in the first place, tenderness and love, feelings that lead us into the arms – and between the legs spread wide open – of our fellow humans. This being said, I cannot stress enough how much the indecent encounters of Katie E. can be arousing! A reading adventure that guides those who let themselves be tempted from sexual heat to human warmth, an exploit that makes the diaries of this woman – a woman in the most profound of ways – such a remarkable read.

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Republished here with permission from La Bauge littéraire (a site dedicated to erotic literature)

Xxx – K

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My English Rose #sinfulsunday

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A Sinful Request for a special person who wishes to remain anonymous . . .
but who “worships from afar” and begins every flattering email he sends with
“To my English Rose”.

In his most recent message he asked that I show more of
“that delightful derrière” . . . so how could I resist!

You are sure to get to the bottom of much more delights at this week’s
Sinful Sunday by, politely please, patting the lips below!

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