If you have visited me here occasionally before, you will know how much fun I have in my regular evenings with one of my younger lovers.
So my curiousity . . . and attention . . . was immediately drawn by the “More Than Just the Sex: 5 Reasons Why Younger Men & Older Women Are the Perfect Match” article I was recently sent (see below), and which I find myself nodding along in agreement to, as I read. Not to mention becoming aroused all over again at so many pleasant memories!
Well, okay, it is partially about the sex.
Times, are changing. LGBTQ rights are making progress and younger women are dating men on television. Consider Alicia Florrick’s one-night stand with her campaign manager (gasp, a double-whammy) from the ever popular legal drama, “The Good Wife”.
For the rest of us mid-life mortals still biting our lips every time a pretty young (male) thing walks by, you hereby have scientific and actual permission to go after what you want.
Or, at least, 5 reasons worth considering, if satisfaction and happiness are something you’ve been taught to just deny, deny, deny.
But, everyone needs to start somewhere.
- Lasting Longer
For all you newbies and monogamy converts, there’s something in it for you: those dates and encounters that start casually between an older women and younger man are much more likely to end up turning into a lasting relationship. While “4ever” may not be quite forever, there’s a greater chance, according to studies for the symbiotic affinity younger men have for older women to transform the connection into a long-term relationship.
- Millennial Men Are Setting a New Standard
It’s not just women’s social status, attitudes and expectations that are changing alongside their newfound power and professionalism. It’s also the status of younger guys. There is a lot more flexibility and younger men are more likely to be “open-minded” – and this doesn’t only have to do with their youth. It’s also because millennials, as a group, tend to be more self-reliant, highly educated and entrepreneurial. So if she’s dating a millennial man, he’s more like “young money”.
- The Tables Have Turned
Usually, older women who date younger men are painted as desperate to cling on to a notion of youth that’s long passed them. Or else, they’re just closet-dominatrixes. After all, popular culture has a Maddona-Whore complex in the age of the 2010s for a reason, okay? But, now, it’s younger men who are actively attracted to older women, specifically singling them out as potential dating material – and are more than willing to take commitment to the next level with them. And it’s not because they have mommy issues, either. It’s because older women in this day and age tend to be financially and emotionally stable.
- Baggage Check – It’s no secret: older men tend to have baggage – and masks for hiding the baggage. The baggage is usually a couple of (failed) marriages, losses in life, emotional stagnation, teenagers and alimony. And their masks have been perfected over a century. Younger guys are not only less likely to have accumulated these fodder-for-a-therapist issues, they’re also less likely to internalize them so deeply or have it affect them as intensely as older men. Seriously though, younger guys have a greater tendency to roll with the punches – for now. So make hay while the sunshines.
- Older Women Make Younger Men Feel…Sexy! Another myth we’re turning inside out, folks: it’s actually younger men who end up feeling way sexier in a relationship with older women. See, older women who are confident enough are confident enough to go for younger guys. They don’t need a man, they want a man. They’ve lived with their beautiful bodies for long enough to know what they’re capable of, what their best features are and why they should respect themselves. Which means they’re more willing and able to tell their younger male counterparts how sexy they find their bodies, or their minds, or their voices. It’s often the younger man that will blush and feel shy and yet delighted at the genuine attention and care an older woman showers him with.
What’s the Big Deal, Anyway?
As an older woman, you’re likely to encounter many “boy toy” comments. And they’ll mostly come from other older men or (particularly judgemental) younger women. This happens because these groups feel threatened.
So consider this spin: you’re so in charge of your own desires, it actually threatens others who secretly want what you want but are “too afraid” to go and get it.
Let that really sit for a moment. Now, if you’re feeling more mischievous and inspired than ever before, head online to Milf Area, gather a few close girlfriends and head to a local clubbing event dressed to the nines or chat up that cutie in the gym.
After all, what is that all those younger guys are saying?
“YOLO”: You only live once, right?
I am so happy to enter into such a fun collaboration with Milf Area because . . . as I mentioned in my opening paragraph . . . I find myself nodding along in agreement with much of the above. With the rider of course that, as with ANY relationship, the key factor should always be open and honest communication between both (or in my case, all) parties involved. For as long as one’s desires, intentions and expectations are clear good, and fun things, normally happen!!!
Xxx – K