Tag Archives: Wicked Wednesday

Modest Times Past #wickedwednesday

As I mentioned on New Years Eve, Time is something we can’t stop, or even pause . . . but it would be fun to turn-back-the-clock, just occasionally!

Modesty Ablaze Polaroids Past 1990

Modesty Ablaze – 1990

To younger days, when I know I could never have imagined the distances
I would travel . . . and the adventures I would experience . . .
28 years on into the future!!!

Modesty Ablaze – 2018

I suppose . . . with the benefit of hindsight . . . there are some things I would have liked to change, or do differently. But “hindsight” will always be an
after-thought, never an actuality. And I know that all those twists and turns,
bumps in the road and ups-and-downs . . . especially those ups-and-downs!
. . . are, for me, what the real world is all about.

Our journey through time is one we all have to travel, to shape us and make us who we are today. And actually, I really wouldn’t change a thing!!!

For more travels through time visit today’s Wicked Wednesday by pushing the rainbow button below!



Modesty Ablaze in Polaroids Past
e Proud of Who You Were . . . and Be Proud of Who
You Have Become!

Join me at my #polaroidspast slideshow.

Xxx – K


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A Modest Formula #wickedwednesday

Probably the question that I have been asked most often over the past two years, and one that I have not added to my  “Questions You Have Asked Me” pages . . . is what “satisfaction” do I get from my Mistressing adventures.

Most people seem to assume that it is just a simple “enjoyment” from administering pain. It is an easy assumption to make, given most people’s view of Domination and Submission, but actually for me nothing could be further from the truth.

Whilst I had always had a fascination for the “fashionista” imagery associated with Fem Dominatrices, I had also long been curious myself about the emotions and desires of both sides of the relationship for those involved. Surely it couldn’t all just be about the giving, and receiving, of pain . . . I knew there had to be more to it than that.

But for many years, it remained just fascination and curiosity . . . until, during a visit to Sh! my favourite women’s shop in London’s Hoxton, I read about an event they were hosting by Madam Caramel, one of London’s most well known dominatrix.

Fortified with lots of glasses of wine, and accompanied by my lovely friend SheLover, I was immediately captivated and entranced by Caramel’s larger than life personality, her wonderful candour . . . and most of all her engaging sense of “fun” as she explained her experiences and views on her role as a Fem Domme.

My curiosity and interest was instantly aroused. I just had to learn more, and soon discovered that the equally legendary, Miss Kim Rub, held Mistress Workshops nearby. I enrolled for one of her Saturday afternoon sessions . . . and a whole new world of understanding, and adventure, suddenly opened-up before me.

Like everything in life, the power of the dominant/submissive relationship, is different for everyone . . . but for me it is much more about the connection, the chemistry of the psychological aspect of the interaction, rather than just the physical.

And most importantly, it has to be fun . . . on both sides . . . for it to work and be enjoyable for me. Every situation has to be completely consensual . . . and have that fun-factor . . . because being able to fulfil another person’s strongest desires and fantasies, and share in their enjoyment of that fulfilment, is what gives me that sense of “satisfaction”.

And even three years on, I am still continually amazed and intrigued at the different requests I receive . . . and the relationships I continue to build with a growing list of eager submissives.

Because of course, domination and submission is not all about impact, and whether I am requested to “stamp-me-vitals”, or am asked for a “firm hand-spanking”, or a “judicial caning”, or perhaps just sit back and receive a 15 minute “foot massage” or “toe-sucking foot worship” . . . there must always be that interaction, that special chemistry.

For more Chemical Reactions . . . gently smack the rainbow button below!!!


Xxx – K


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Modesty’s “Further Adventures” #wickedwednesday

When I first began posting pages here at the end of 2011, the purpose of my Modesty Ablaze blog was almost as a form of therapeutic release.

Well . . . release AND celebration.

Release, because I can’t deny that it was a thrill to satisfy that exhibitionist streak within that we all have, and finally be able to share “anonymously” some of the personal diaries that I’d been writing for years and years.

But also a celebration, because I so often wanted to shout-out to many of my “normal” friends, that one shouldn’t be ashamed of, our sexual feelings or desires. And that if we all talked about, and expressed those more openly with our partners, it just may lead their relationships to places they’d never imagined
. . . as it had for myself.

At that time I didn’t actually have the courage to tell any of my friends that for years I had been meeting several different lovers, all over the same period of time, and with the complete knowledge and acceptance of my Hubby. And that I had been keeping a record of every meeting in my diaries . . . but sharing some of those diary entries on my blog, made me at least feel as though I had told them.

And to my absolute surprise, within the first month of those initial postings, I began receiving emails asking for more . . . and then several suggestions that I should self-publish them as Ebooks. I originally replied that my posts were just journal entries that probably wouldn’t best suit the format of a proper book, but after being assured that they surely would . . . I decided to “at least give it a try”.

It took me a little while of course . . . but eventually I had three short diary compilations on Amazon, and was amazed to start receiving regular requests to publish more.

I kept promising myself . . . and all those responders who kept asking over the following (three !!!) years . . . that I would publish more from my “archives” just as soon as I could find the time.

I did manage to publish several, short, diary excerpts on Gumroad. But despite several “starts” at compiling a longer, more complete book from my diaries, I just couldn’t get one finished. Life seemed to get busier and busier . . . not just with the normal everyday routines of work and family . . . but with new adventures and fun experiences to explore!

However last year I received a lovely series of emails, and subsequently a wonderfully flattering review on a French literature website La Bauge littéraire, that made me determined to publish another compilation of my diary entries “before the year was out”.

I failed of course! But . . . eventually and finally . . . “Further Adventures – Part 6 of The Modesty Ablaze Diaries” . . . has made it up into the ether-world of Amazon and Gumroad.

And, unlike my previous compilations which were random excerpts, “Further Adventures” is a chronological, virtually “cut and pasted”, sequence of diary entries from the same period as “Part 1 – The Journey”.

And, featuring as it does, several of my earliest “acquaintances” . . . it fits perfectly with today’s theme at Wicked Wednesday of “Ex-Lovers” (although one of the gentlemen mentioned remains a close friend to this day).

But . . . for much more recent thoughts on “Ex-Lovers” than mine . . . simply tap on the rainbow button below!!!


Xxx – K


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Modest Toys #wickedwednesday

I’ve never been one for Gadgetry . . . but I do love my Toys!

Especially when I know they can give so much pleasure!!!

But as “Gadgets” is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday I’m sure there will be lots more wires being flexed, and buttons being pushed, to be discovered by tapping on the big button below!!!


Xxx – K


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Neighbourly Love #wickedwednesday

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “Neighbours” and it got me thinking this morning, not so much of the people next door, but rather neighbours as in a sense of community and like-mindedness. A sharing of thoughts and experiences, trials and tribulations, adventures and celebrations with people of, broadly speaking of course, similar interests.

I started Modesty Ablaze-ing here, all those years ago, for just those very reasons . . . to celebrate the wonderful sense of empowerment and enjoyment my “lifestyle” had given me. I wanted to shout to all who may listen, that it shouldn’t matter what size and shape we are, what different desires or fantasies we may have . . . or what we may feel the expectations or pressures from those around us are. I wanted to scream out that we all have the right, the necessity actually, to enjoy those things that make us feel good. To enjoy our sexuality . . . to embrace and express it. And, that as long as our relationships and interactions with our “neighbours” were honest and consensual . . . and responsible . . . then we shouldn’t feel ashamed about having fun.

And over the years those feelings have been strengthened through this wonderful neighbourly community . . . meeting on-line, and in-person, some simply lovely people . . . so I wanted to take this opportunity to say “thank you for sharing” to just some of them.

So, in no particular order of excitement . . .

@kay_jaybee  – the most arousing and evocative erotic writing I have ever read and re-read . . . and read all over again!

Cindy Gallop of @Makelovenotporn  – the most inspirational and motivational public speaker and advocate of sexual freedom of expression, I have ever heard.

@holden_cammie – stylish and inspiring photo-shoots and backdrops.

@girlonthenet  – always entertaining, amusing and wonderfully direct “wordage”.

@Exposing40  – constantly creative and empowering photos.

@RebelsNotes  Marie Rebelle and Molly @Mollysdailykiss  for their fun Meme’s and awesome energy and ability to post daily on so many different views and subject-matter.

@TabithaErotica  for her passionate writing, artistry and photos on all things erotica.

@BibulousOne  his Pain as Pleasure postings are so intelligently descriptive of not just the physical, but more importantly, the psychological and emotional aspect of submission and domination.

@sassycat38  for her fun, and inspiring, approach to her photos . . . oh and those incredible eyes (and amazing collection of shoes).

@ZenNudist  aka @Kilted_Wookie   – interesting, intriguing, insightful writings . . . and, I’m not normally one for a hairy-chest, but this gentleman’s photo-posts often prove the exception to my rule.

@ElliottHenry5  of The Life of Elliott – general naughtiness and sense of fun
. . . and “penile-adventurousness”

So, if you are not already familiar with any of the above Neighbours, I urge you to investigate and introduce yourself!!!

For more sharing thoughts and experiences of Neighbours visit this week’s Wicked Wednesday by knocking on the button below!!!


Xxx – K


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A Modest Whisper #wickedwednesday

Sometimes those spur-of-the-moment . . . moments . . . are the most exhilarating and most exhausting!!!

Loud, twisting and thrashing gasps and screams and then . . . at that moment of orgasm . . . just rolling over onto one’s side, shuddering and collapsing onto the sheets with quiet groans and whispers!!!

For more quiet whispers at this week’s Wicked Wednesday simply tap
on the button below!!!


Xxx – K


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A Modest Muse #wickedwednesday

“Look there’s another sofa left on the side of the road” Hubby said as we walked down the hill from the Taverna towards our apartment on the beach.

“Good, I need a rest-stop” I replied. “Even at this time of night, it’s still hot and sticky!” But just as I began to get comfortable . . . !!!

“What do you mean you didn’t hear it???” I hissed as the car, slowly, passed us by. “How could you not have seen it coming round the corner???”

“BECAUSE . . .” Hubby stammered “it’s such a tight bend, and I was looking through my camera. You didn’t hear it either! Did you!!!”

I eventually calmed down of course as we walked on, especially as Hubby promised another cocktail at the beach bar below.

But I’m sure there will be some much more relaxing and calming stories at
this week’s Wicked Wednesday theme of “muse”.
Just tap on the button below to enjoy.


Whilst it was a rather short rest-stop at the time, it is fun remembering
it now, and fun to add the experience to my
Abandoned Furniture  Exposé Vŭ pages here.

Xxx – K


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Modest Geography #wickedwednesday

My yearly reports at school were never very satisfactory. “Lacks concentration and attention to detail”. “Can’t seem to grasp the importance of punctuation”. Or, “Simple calculations seem challenging”.

But I did love Geography !!!

Dreaming about far-off and exotic places, deserted beaches, hot sun and feeling warm sand between my toes. And of course, strange and interesting rock formations!

So I am definitely looking forward to brushing-up on my Geography lessons at this week’s Wicked Wednesday by pushing on the button below!!!


Xxx – K


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A Modest Maze #wickedwednesday

“Well if they can find their way out, I’m sure we’ll be able to manage it!” Hubby said as we pondered the entrance to the Maze.

“Come on then” I said. “I suppose we could always use your GPS to find
our way around”.

“That would be cheating!” he said. “But we’d better get started, there’s another couple at the end of the path thinking about it as well I think”.

“Oh look, I’ve found that hole looking out that we noticed earlier!” I called out
as I walked down the first pathway.

“But these paths all look the same after a while don’t they!” I said as we
wandered on.

“Well, this one is a complete dead end. We’ll have to turn back in the direction we just came!”

“It must be that way” I exclaimed. “I can see the spire of a house in the distance!”

“See, I knew this was the right way out!” I grinned, feeling proud of myself at having led ourselves back to the main gardens. “Yes I know there’s lots of people around. I’m putting my dress back on, alright!!!”

And although we didn’t have to use any satellite navigation aids on our fun adventure, I understand there will be lots of texting . . . and sex-ting I’m sure . . . at this week’s Wicked Wednesday because this week’s theme is “Telephone”
. . . just dial below!!!


P.s. I’m hoping that my wandering around above will qualify for the “Maze” category at Jade’s wonderful and fun Scavenger Hunt pages!

Lots of my earlier Scavenger Hunts can be found at my Scavenger Listings page . . . and now over 100 different locations on my
Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!   

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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Building Sites Modestly Re-visited #wickedwednesday

This week’s theme at Marie’s Wicked Wednesday is all about memories . . . and it’s always fun when I am away on my holidays to remember, and re-visit, previous sites and excursions. Such as returning to several Building Sites we first visited last year, to check on their progress in the 12 months since.

So it was quite encouraging to see the beginnings of new work on what was just a series of rods sticking up here last summer.

And the work on the lower level round the corner was coming-on as well.

As some brickwork has clearly been added to what was entirely
open walls last year.

But then just further on down the hill . . . near one of our favourite little bars
. . . this site didn’t look to have changed at all.

Well, except for perhaps moving the cement-mixer from one side to the other.

I’m hoping that when we return in 2018, I will be able to report on more progress and development. It gives me something to look forward to.

But, in the meantime, there will be more looking forwards . . . and re-living fond memories . . . by tapping the button below!!!


And to help me remember to re-visit these same building sites next year,
I shall add them to my Exposé Vŭ pages here.

Xxx – K


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