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Modesty Ablaze reviews the “Farringdon Titanium Dildo” @crownedjewels


Sometimes you can “sense” quality can’t you? Even if you are just browsing on-line and haven’t previously heard of the company, or item, in question.

It may be something as simple as the company name that first attracts your attention . . . or perhaps their branding or design “look” of the website.  Possibly the item description, or more likely the images, entice and intrigue you further. And from the moment you decide to click on that “select” button, you are waiting in eager anticipation for the package to arrive . . . only to find on receipt, that the item you were so excitedly waiting for, simply fails to live-up to the expectation you’d imagined.

Well I can happily report that that was absolutely NOT the case when my Crowned Jewels Farringdon Titanium Dildo recently arrived in my post, because . . . everything . . . about this amazing, luxury handcrafted dildo, just oozes quality, style and substance.

And over the past few weeks it has become my favourite new toy, lovingly nestled beneath my pillow case and frequently caressed and . . . well . . .  I’d better get back to that moment when the parcel first arrived in my post, otherwise I’ll get too carried away again and just won’t get this post finished!!!

So . . . The Farringdon arrived in a really strong postal tube, like the sort of thing you’d expect a picture poster to arrive in, only much stronger and more substantial, thick cardboard and with those strong white plastic caps. I’d imagined the dildo itself would probably just be packaged in a thin box, or bubble-wrap wrapping inside as I un-picked the tape from the top plastic cap and opened the tube. But I was surprised, and excited to discover a wonderfully stylish black cylindrical tube inside.


And, even more stylish and impressive, was the fact that this completely black tube had it’s own cap secured in place with a strong black ribbon running down and around the complete depth of the cylinder and sealed in place at the top with a red wax seal. You know, just like those wonderful seals you’ve seen on TV of those historical-charters and royal decrees. And, of course, to complete the look the seal was impregnated with the Crowned Jewels logo in the wax itself. It made me feel quite special, and privileged in a way, to be peeling open the seal and peeking inside.


Black tissue paper firmly filled the inside of the tube as I pulled out the layers to reveal a lovely black fabric bag with the Crowned Jewels logo printed, stylishly of course, in silver on one side.


And the instant I undid the drawstring of the pouch, and slid the Farringdon out into the palm of my hand, I knew that my “sense” of  quality was not going to be disappointed.  Just the feel, and weight, of the dildo in my hand was lovely to behold . . . and even more stylish and exciting to look at, than the pictures I had seen on the Crowned Jewels website.

I had chosen the “natural grey” colour for my Farringdon . . . more on colours, and choice, a little later . . . but the dildo was actually much more shiny, almost a silvery-chrome looking, than one might expect from the “natural grey” description. And the feel? Oh . . . just heavenly.


It is just over 7½ inches long and slighty curved along it’s length. As you can see from my photos, one end has a larger single, almost egg-shaped bulb, the circumference of which is about 3¾ inches around its widest point. It then tapers down to a narrower shaft for the next half of the dildos overall length, before widening again for the first of four more bulbs, each graduating down in size from the larger one in the middle of around 1¼ inches in diameter, to the smallest at the end, of around ¾ inch in diameter. I was excited by the shapes and feel of these as I rolled and squeezed the dildo in my hand . . . so shiny and smooth against my skin . . . but it was the weight of the dildo that I found most exciting!

The Farringdon is made of body safe, Medical Grade Titanium . . . (completely free of Nickel, Cadmium and Lead) . . . and, as such, is actually lighter than steel (half the weight apparently). But it feels delightfully weighty and substantial, both in ones hand, and also internally!

Now I am of an age where I almost always need some lubricating help nowadays for all of my other, insertable, toys. Even for my favourite “smoothest” silicone or glass dildos I have to begin by applying a coating of lube. But, as I slid that longer stem up and down between my lips and then over my clit for the first time, I immediately began to tingle and swoon. On that first touch, just freshly removed from it’s pouch, the Farringdon felt cold and instantly arousing as it slid against me. And it just seemed to effortlessly glide . . . and slide . . . inside me at the very first moment of asking. I wondered afterwards whether it was just my initial excitement and anticipation, or that first cold sensation of the titanium against me, that had made it such an immediate and easy entry. But actually, for vaginal insertion at least, I have never needed any additional help each time I have used this lovely dildo over the past two weeks. Of course, this may not be the same for everyone, but the joy of such a smooth, highly polished material, is that you can use any of your favourite water-based, oil, or silicone lubricants, should you feel the need. But honestly the shaft and bulbs of the Farringdon are so wonderfully smooth that there is none of the “drag” or texture that I would feel with even the smoothest of my glass dildos.

And that weighty-feel is most certainly not only when you hold it in your hand . . . but internally as well . . . it really does feel heavenly with the larger single bulb stimulating me in just the right spot, especially when I tense and “grip” myself against it . . . or when lying down flat on my tummy. Ooohh!!!

The other, beaded half of the Farringdon, gives some lovely feelings as well. I love laying back and having the stem slowly stroked in-and-out, slowly building up the speed and tempo, and feeling those bulbs pulling and rubbing and fucking against me. I usually, though not always, need clittoral stimulation to bring me to complete orgasm and using the Farringdon in this way with a vibrating wand, or hubby attending to my clit, has given some shuddering, ecstatic, moments since first breaking the Crowned Jewels red-wax seal.

And as well it’s super-smoothness, the other delightful thing I love about my Farringdon is that the titanium is just wonderful for “temperature play”. It feels naturally cold against ones skin anyway at first, but quite quickly adjusts and warms to my body temperature after a few moments. But I’ve found that fun “cold chill” can be prolonged . . . or enhanced if you like . . . by holding it under running cold water for a few minutes.  I’m not advocating, by the way, putting the Farringdon in the freezer, or even the fridge, as that might well be dangerous and getting “freezer-burns” on one’s delicate bits would not be sensible at all.
But if, like me, you do enjoy an occasional cold “tingle” against your lips, (or you may prefer warm-water instead!) then this titanium dildo is the ideal toy to play with.


Now, as I’ve mentioned, I enjoy both ends of this dildo for vaginal play . . . but as you will see from looking again at my pictures, The Farringdon Titanium Dildo is also perfectly shaped for anal insertion.

I have to be in the right frame of mind, to enjoy anal play . . . but I can tell you that on the occasions I have tried (and yes, with a thin coating of lubricant for this style of entry!) those graduating bulbs have given wonderfully intense stimulation and pleasure (again combined, with that necessary attention for me to my front bits, with my wand and helping fingers!!!)

I should point-out that as the Farringdon is so slippery smooth and seems to glide so quickly and easily inside . . . and that it does not have a wide base or stopper . . . so you must ensure that you only allow one half of the length (so 4 inches) as the maximum insertable length. But as the joy of this dildo is the sliding in-and-out, from whatever point of entry, it is quite easy for you . . . or your partner . . . to remember to keep a firm hold on one end!!!

And I will certainly be keeping a firm hold on my Farringdon . . . and often!!!

The Farringdon, like all of the Crowned Jewels range of luxury dildos, anal plugs, cock rings, probes, kegel eggs, pleasure balls and more, is handcrafted in the United Kingdom. Handcrafted to the extent that they actually offer a bespoke design service which means you can have a personal message engraved on your toy, or perhaps gemstones added to make your item even more special and luxurious.

Of course luxury and quality has a value, and whilst you will certainly find cheaper alternatives online, The Farringdon Titanium Dildo is the highest quality item of its type that I have ever experienced, and I would urge you to make Crowned Jewels the very next place you “click to“.

The Farringdon Titanium Dildo:
Modesty Rating:
 10 out of 10
Pros: Gorgeous to look at, gorgeous to hold . . . and gorgeous to use, whichever end you choose!
Cons: I honestly can’t think of any.
Material: Body safe, hypoallergenic, nickel-free, Medical Grade Titanium.
Measurements: Overall Length 7½ inches. Diameter of the larger single bulb 1¼ inches (circumferene 3¾ inches), Slim middle shaft of 3¾ inches, then four more bulbs/beads graduating in size from 1¼ inches diameter down to the smallest at the end of just under ¾ inch.
275 grams
Colour: Choose from Natural Grey (but I’d say it’s almost chrome), Blue, Bronze, Gold, Magenta, Purple.
Bespoke extras: Personal love notes can be engraved on your dildo, or you can even have gemstones added as well!!!
Lube: Minimal lubicrant required (due to that lovely highly polished, easy-slide, surface). But can be used with any type of lubricant of your choice.
Waterproof: Oh yes!!!
After-care: Obviously always wash thoroughly after use with mild soapy water or toy cleaner and dry with a soft lint-free cloth. Do not use an abrasive cleaner or you may spoil that lovely sheen!!!
Supplier Product Link: The Farringdon Titanium Dildo
Supplier Main: Crowned Jewels Luxury Handcrafted
The Modesty Video Review:
To possibly follow if you are interested!

Additional links: KinkyWishFairy at Twitter ; at Instagram . . . and I also do recommend you browse the Crowned Jewels blog pages for Helpful Tips, Product updates, and Special Offers!!!

The Farringdon Titanium Dildo was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.


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Modesty Ablaze reviews the “Button Butt Plug Silicone Anal Vibrator” at Sh!


I’ve always been intrigued and fascinated by butt plugs . . . sometimes just from the point of view of liking how they look and feel . . . and by “feel”, I mean to hold in one’s hand, not necessarily to “feel” inside one’s bottom.

It’s not something I always desire . . . and certainly not something I can immediately plunge straight into . . . because, for actual insertion and play, I do have to be absolutely in the right mood. But although I do have my favourite anal toys . . . and my favourite anal situations . . . I do still like to try something new occasionally. And, normally, to try those new toys several times over a period of time. So I was thrilled to have the opportunity to try the Button Butt Plug Silicone Anal Vibrator from the wonderful ladies at Sh! recently.

I’ve had my Button Plug for several weeks now and am happy to say that, after some initial doubts as to whether I would enjoy playing with it more than once, I’m now actually finding it rather a lot of fun!!!

But, first things first . . .

modestyablazesh2As always with Sh!, the packaging is simple and subtle and nicely packaged in a white laminated cardboard box with the purple Sh! logo stylishly printed on the lid. Now I know lots of people prefer their toys to always be black, but I often like mine to be different colours, so wasn’t surprised, or disappointed, on lifting the lid to discover that their Button Butt Plug is in the Sh! signature purple as well.

Sweetly nestled on a bed of black satiny fabric, my first impression of the Button was that it looked rather like a large baby’s dummy. But as soon as I lifted it out of the box my thoughts immediately turned to it’s real purpose . . . as I just loved the feel of the smooth, silky, silicone which it is made of.

The button, or “plug”, of the toy is almost perfectly round . . . 33mm diameter in fact and attached to the base of the plug by a short neck of approximately half an inch . . . which I suppose you could say makes the insertable length just under one and a half inches. So those rather “modest” dimensions . . . if you will excuse the pun . . . make this an ideal plug if you are a “beginner” or reasonably new to anal play. (Sh! describe the Button as a “small silicone vibrating butt plug”).

The neck then spreads to the rather spherical-shaped base, which at two and a half inches wide, makes for a perfect stopper . . . cupping as it does between one’s cheeks and safely holding everything in place**.

modestyablazesh8The vibrating element of the Button Butt Plug is achieved with a firm plastic bullet which is inserted into the shaft of the plug. This bullet is 55mm in length and 17mm in diameter and is powered by three cylindrical LR44 batteries which are supplied with, and already inserted into the bullet. You will have to unscrew the top, which extends by about 15mm from the base, and remove a paper cap which breaks the contact. I must admit that I found this rather fiddly to manage at first as it is so firmly embedded within the silicone body. And once I did finally manage to get the vibrations to start I was a little under-whelmed. The vibrations are single-speed, and not particularly strong, and I found the push switch to turn on and off, didn’t always seem to respond . . . and in fact occasionally during use it seemed to turn itself off until I twisted the top to get it back on again, which was distracting or annoying in varying degrees in that first, initial, play session. But perhaps it is just a case of the connectors on my particular button were not quite correctly aligned.

And, of course, as it is completely removable, the button can be easily used for clittoral or nipple stimulation as well . . . though again the buzzing is not quite strong enough for me to enjoy in that way. But to be honest, I always find “inside” vibrations down there more of a distraction and annoyance anyway, even with much more powerful vibrations than this Button Plug achieves. So I quickly disregarded that aspect for playtime with this particular toy. But that is just me and, as we are all different, I’m sure for some of you, the mild and consistent buzzing from this bullet, will be particularly arousing wherever it is used.

modestyablazesh7However, although I’m not a great fan of the bullet, what I have come to enjoy is the lovely comforting shape (back to the baby’s dummy) of the plug itself.

As with all anal toys you will need to apply a liberal coating of (water-based in this instance) lubricant. The thoughtful ladies at Sh! have included a nice sachet of their own “Pure” brand lube with the box, just for that very purpose. As well as coating the plug itself, I also always pre-finger lube myself . . . or have my partner “help” me with that with their own fingers . . . before gently inserting anything into my bottom.

And . . . provided I’m in that right mood that I earlier mentioned . . . and despite not having a longer, more tapered point like some of my other anal plugs, this button is surprisingly easy to slip in. Of course, it’s only common sense to be slow and gentle (for both insertion and removal), but oohh, it does then feel quite lovely . . . and quite “full-filling” if you know what I mean.

Especially, for me at least, for double-penetration play . . . whether with one’s lover, or a vaginal toy . . . because the Buttons size and unobtrusive shape means it doesn’t get in the way, even during a quite active play session. And that is why . . . as I mentioned earlier . . . that I have been finding it a lot of fun and I’m sure it will be one of my favourite toys for whenever I’m in “that” sort of mood in the future.

The Button Butt Plug Silicone Anal Vibrator:
Modesty Rating: 6 out of 10
Pros: Firm but delightfully smooth and rounded silky silicone button. Easy to insert and nice anchor-style base for safe play-time fun.
Cons: The removable bullet has quite low vibrations and I had problems turning on and off.
Material: Non-porous silicone and ABS Plastic. 100% body safe and free of phthalates and latex.
Measurements: Button diameter 33mm at it’s widest point; Insertable Length 38mm; Base/Handle/Stopper width 66mm (about 2.5 inches): Bullet Length 55mm; Bullet diameter 17mm.
Vibration Intensity: Low, single-speed only
Noise: Quiet
Colour: Sh! Purple
Batteries: Three LR44 (included)
Lube: Water-based lubes only (sachet of Sh! Pure) is included.
Waterproof: No.
Before and After-care: Obviously always wash with mild soapy water after, and before, use (I use anti-bacterial wipes as well!), or a silicone-friendly toy cleaner. Rinse and dry before popping back into it’s box.
Supplier Product Link: Sh! Small Silicone Vibrating Butt Plug
Supplier Discount: Simply enter “ModestyButton” into the Discount Coupon Code box at checkout for a 10% discount.
The Modesty Video Review: To possibly follow if you are interested, just let me know!!!

Additional links: Sh! at Twitter . . . and I also really do recommend you browse the Advice pages at the Sh! Website for some excellent links and Q&A postings, and the Our Story  pages for the wonderfully empowering and inspiring history of Sh!


The Button Butt Plug Silicone Anal Vibrator was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

(**Please do check my retrospective A Cautionary Tale Update” addition to one of my very first bottom-approach reviews from 2014, for an important point about “safety”).

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

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Modest Jewels #sinfulsunday


It has been such a sinfully busy week . . . well two weeks actually . . . and yes,
the evidence will possibly be posted here soon-ish. LOL!
And I am just rushing out again this morning for more!!!

But I thought I would pause to show you the modest jewels I have just put on for my journey. I’m sure they will be appreciated . . . and sinfully removed . . . later on this afternoon!!!

And I am also sure that you will be able to appreciate lots and lots more
sinful toys and accessories at this week’s Sinful Sunday from gently
touching the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Modesty Ablaze reviews the “Trinity Vibes 11-inch Inflatable Dildo” @UberKinky


You probably already know that I like Black . . . Black and Big !!! So I was very excited to receive this Trinity Vibes 11 Inch Inflatable Dildo to review from my favourite on-line Kink store Uberkinky.


I must admit that the outer box isn’t particularly impressive when you first remove the package from the Postal Jiffy Bag, and bubble-wrap, that the parcel arrives in. It’s a thin glossy cardboard box with a rather unflattering design and rather garish (for my taste anyway) colours. But once I opened the top and pulled out the inner plastic bag containing the Trinity, I quickly forgot about it’s packaging . . . because it is . . . certainly BIG!!!

Eleven inches long from tip-to-toe, nine-and-a-half inches of which is actual “insertable” length. And . . . getting straight to the point . . . I can tell you that having shared my bed for the last two weeks, it is absolutely ideal for those moments when I just can’t get the “real thing”, because it’s actually quite realistic in both looks, and “feel”, with a smoothly curved and shaped head . . . and lovely ridges running down the shaft.

The Trinity is made of a soft rubber and is quite pliable and flexible in it’s “flaccid, floppy” state. At this point it’s under two inches in diameter. But, once you start giving it a few little squeezes on it’s hand pump, it soon starts to become quite . . . “erect” . . . and quickly becomes quite firm. Mmm . . . just how I like it!!!


Because it is completely hollow and doesn’t have any core, or shaft inside, I found the best way to play with Trinity was to give him a few squeezes on the pump . . . just to get him started . . . apply some lube (water-based, rubber friendly only of course) and then slowly slide him inside. I then start gently squeezing the hand pump (I imagine it’s his balls I’m playing with) and I can soon feel him swelling and getting bigger and definitely firmer inside and quite quickly filling me up. And, as we all know, it’s a lovely feeling to have that sense of being filled-up inside!!!

Just how filled-up? Well I can’t take any measurements “internally” of course, but just holding the Trinity in my hand, I’ve been able to coax him to well over 8 inches in circumference, and I’m sure you’ll agree, that’s quite “big”.


Unfortunately as the connecting tube attaches into the base of the dildo, it means you can’t actually stand him up on a table or chair or something, or sit down over him. But I suppose if I’m being honest, the only way I could really enjoy something of this length . . . and girth . . . is to be laying down on my back and completely losing myself in some lovely sliding and stroking. That’s much more comfortable than I’d be able to manage if I was trying to sit-down onto it. And the tube which connects the hand pump to the dildo is also 11 inches in length, so it’s quite easy to manoeuvre, even when one is lying back and getting completely lost in “pumping” him up.

The pump is easy to use and even after a few gentle squeezes you can certainly feel the dildo “growing” and you will soon find your own “comfort” level. And should you feel you quickly need to release some of his “size”, just a squeeze on the quick-release valve will immediately shrink the Trinity, just-a-little with a short squeeze, or if you hold the button down, the dildo will deflate completely in a flash. So there is no danger of you getting stuck if you get over-excited.


The Trinity can also . . . apparently . . . be used anally as well. But I haven’t tried that, because I think it’s size would be a little too much for me to feel comfortable with. And besides which, my pussy has been enjoying playing with him so much that I’m perfectly happy with that for the moment . . . thank you very much.

But, if you enjoy being stretched anally . . . as well as vaginally . . . I’m sure you’ll find this impressive dildo will more than fill your needs.

Of course, which-ever entrance you use your Trinity in, you’ll obviously need to give him a thorough cleaning all over with warm soapy water afterwards. I leave it to dry naturally rather than wiping it dry as I find the rubber picks up fibres otherwise. And once dry, I pack my Trinity away back in it’s box to keep it separate from my other rubber or latex toys for the same reason.

Now, I know I keep mentioning that the Trinity is big (certainly big-enough for me) but UberKinky do have even bigger members available at their Dildos page.

But, as I said earlier, I’ve become rather fond of my Trinity Inflatable and I’m sure he’ll be a regular playtime companion in the Modesty Boudoir.


Modesty Rating: 9 out of 10
Pros: Big and fill-filling! And, of course, he does exactly what I command him to do when, where and how hard I want him. Never talks back . . . and when I’ve had enough, he’s completely deflated at the push of a button.
Cons: I’m thinking . . . still thinking . . . Oh, well perhaps it would be nice if the air tube joined horizontally into the base, rather than vertically. And maybe he could have a suction cup there on the base instead. Just for when one does feel a bit more “adventurous”.
Material: Rubber.
Measurements: Circumference (unpumped) 6.25 inches, (pumped) 8.25 inches. Diameter (deflated) 1.9 inches, (inflated) 2.5 inches. Overall Length 11 inches, Insertable Length 9.5 inches. Air-tube Length 11 inches; Hand Pump & Valve Length 4 inches; Circumference 6 inches.
Adjustable: Oh yes!!!
Noise: Squeezing air noise, and lots of gasps and moans!
Colour: Black.
Lubrication: Yes you’ll definitely need some! Water-based, Rubber friendly only!
Batteries: Not required.
Waterproof: Yes.
After-care: Obviously always wash with hot soapy water after, and before, use.
Supplier Product Link: Trinity Vibes 11 Inch Inflatable Dildo
Additional Links: Dildos at UberKinky
The Modesty Video Review: View my Video Review of the Trinity Inflatable Dildo >here< or from the Preview Screen below!


The Uberkinky Trinity Vibes 11 inch Inflatable Dildo was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

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The Modesty Ablaze Valentine’s Day Bulletin No.1

Valentine’s Day . . . you all know it’s coming soon don’t you . . . don’t you? . . . Well, just in case you might forget, I’ll be reminding you over the next week or so. Starting gently, from today and then slowly building to a crescendo . . . and you know just how much I REALLY LOVE slowly building to a crescendo!!!


So, to help start things off, the lovely people at The Fantasy Box, who I reviewed >here< before Christmas, have just launched a series of Special Edition Boxes just in time for Valentine’s day!

You can see them all on their site at www.thefantasybox.com

ModestyAblazeFantasyBoxMisdirectThere are four different Special Edition Fantasy Boxes to choose from . . . I’d like to try them all of course, but I’m especially intrigued by the sound of the ‘Valentine’s Day Mis-Direction – it’s Payback time’ box . . . after all, I do often enjoy some naughty and fun payback time!!!

But whichever option you choose . . . and why not choose ALL FOUR, one for every other night of the whole Valentine’s week (with an evening’s rest and recuperation in between!) . . . oohh where was I before I got all excited? Oh yes, they tell me you must be quick because you need to order this weekend (by the 31st) to be sure of getting your box(es) in time.

And they’ve even given us a special code to use to get 10% off

Order now to ensure it arrives in time, and get 10% of with the code 

Oh, and look, one of the other boxes is for a Valentine’s Day Red Party! Perhaps if you are good, and do as I ask, I might just invite you all to a Red Party of my very own soon.


So . . . clickity quick . . . don’t miss this wonderful opportunity to gift your loved one a special, sexprising, Valentine’s Treat. You’re bound to make a big impression!!!

You may get a little hint of what you will find when you open your choice of Fantasy Box, from my Video Review of the Fantasy Box concept at the beginning of December by clicking the screen below.


Now off you go . . . get clicking on that 10% OFF Voucher Code . . . and keep yourself up-to-date with all the new “Fantasy Boxes” on their website www.thefantasybox.com . . . and although I don’t do FB (well I do, but not this sort of FB) . . . I believe they also have an FB page at: https://www.facebook.com/uk.thefantasybox/

Bye for now . . . I expect you all to be reporting back though!!!
Xxx – K

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Modesty’s Toy Review Round-Up: HedoVibes#83 & The Uberkinky Spiral Steel Male Chastity Device

stainless-steel-butt-plug-review-forbidden-obsessions-14Photo courtesy of Cara Sutra

Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition start with the guidelines, then use the submission form.

Want to read more reviews? Check out HedoVibes for a list of the latest reviews and stellar reviewers. You can also follow on twitter for the latest round ups. HedoVibes is also accepting photo submissions for each edition.












Visit my Sex Toys page for some of my previous Video Sex Toy Reviews!

Xxx – K

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Lovely Latex from Honour.co.uk & Lacey Lingerie @ Buttress & Snatch

I know we are all comfortable with buying clothes and accessories on the internet nowadays, but I still find it’s nice to have a personal recommendation or to physically see and touch and feel something. At least it is for me . . . and especially so when it comes to my latex and lingerie.

ModestyHonour1So I was really excited to discover two new (to me anyway) companies during my visit to The Great British Tatoo Exhibition recently.

I love latex, but for me it is just one of those items that I just have to see and feel so that I know it is right for me. It always looks so pretty and stylish in those on-line photographs with all those slim and shapely young models. But however much I may like the look,  I am never confident if it would actually be “right” for me. So it was wonderful to discover that Honour had a booth at the show . . . and this “Glamour Corselette” immediately caught my eye.

Lilly, one of the charming young Honour girls, was extremely helpful and suggested a size that she assured me would be the perfect fit. And I’m happy to say she was right . . . it just felt so wonderful to slide into and I just loved the stylish little bow-tie. Sometimes latex can be difficult for me to easily get in and out of (my bumps are not in the right places!) but with a liberal sprinkling of talcum powder, or my “special latex-friendly body moisturiser”, I’ve never had any problems when I’ve worn it since. The shoulder straps are adjustable and it has underwired bust cups which just seem to fit so comfortably and make it feel as though it could have been custom-made especially for me.

ModestyHonour4Hubby was transfixed by lots of the other items on display . . . but I told him I WANTED “this one” . . . and I  received lots of nice compliments when I wore it out to one of our club-visits recently. It has suspender clips attached at the hem (I have them tucked-up here for these photographs) so I wore it with simple black stockings.

And then imagine my delight when just two stalls along from Honour, I discovered the absolutely wonderful lingerie and swimwear of Buttress & Snatch.

ModestyStairsSnatchBumI just LOVE clothing that is different, and fun, and stylish!!! And it’s not very often that I find all three of those elements combined. But finding the Buttress & Snatch stall was like discovering a treasure trove of all sorts of wonderfully colourful and intriguing garments that made me just want to stop and feel them all.

Buttress and Snatch Tassle Skirt Knickers

Hubby’s initial reaction was that the clothing seemed “out-of-place” at such an event and he wanted to lead me straight past. But I exclaimed that they “were all so sexy” . . . and I immediately fell in love with a pair of beautiful black lace knickers with a tassel-skirt attachment. “These are lovely, so unusual” I showed him.

Rachel, the wonderfully friendly owner, explained that the garments were all custom-made . . . normally to order, and that this was the first time she had exhibited at a show of this nature.

I was completely enthralled and enchanted by so many of the unique items hanging from her stall . . . they had an almost vintage, retro look about them, yet every item seemed to exclaim “I am a one-off, I am yours, no-one else will look like this”. Rachel explained that her company had been making lingerie for almost 15 years and that her garments had been worn by people like Madonna, Neneh Cherry, Kate Upton and Kate Moss.

But I wanted those knickers . . . before any other Kates (or Katies) came along!

And they are so lovely. They have this wonderful tassle-skirt which can be worn at the front (see my picture above) for those more “modest” moments . . . or reversed to cover one’s bottom (as in my photo below) and display the delightful sheer black lace at the front, and . . . encourage me to wiggle my bottom more!

Buttress and Snatch Lingerie

I just LOVE them . . . they make me feel special . . . and unique, whenever I wear them.

And even better for me having met Rachel, albeit very briefly, I immediately felt at ease in her company and knew I was talking to someone who has a passion for what they do. I love her story (Our Way) and the history of her Buttress and Snatch.

I’m sure I will ordering more from Rachel’s sewing machine very soon.

So, if like me, you like something a little different and unusual . . . I certainly do recommend you explore both of these exciting Latex and Lingerie companies.



Buttress and Snatch.co.uk


The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me sexy clothes and lingerie . . . and sexy toys . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.


Xxx – Katie


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My Bondage Boutique Slim Riding Crop

What’s to review about a riding crop you may ask?

Well actually . . . despite it not having many moving or detailed parts to describe . . . this has become one of my most favourite, and most used, toys over the past few weeks. So much so, that I thought I just had to share my excitement and enthusiasm with you here.

And what has made it even more exciting is that it arrived totally by surprise as a gift from one of my followers via my “Wishlist page”.

I have owned one cane before (from a-n-other toy supplier) but it had snapped after just a few sessions, and quite mild usage really. So I’d just added the Bondage Boutique Crop from Lovehoney to my wishlist more out of mild curiosity and “when I have the time”, rather than “a must have” item.

So I was intrigued when a long, brown corrugated-cardboard box arrived at the office . . . and then absolutely delighted, and so flattered . . . when I opened it up and unravelled all the white tissue wrapping and packing, to discover a long black riding crop, in it’s sealed clear plastic bag, staring up at me from inside the box.

I just couldn’t wait to get it home and try it out. And, of course, my lovely and ever-willing Hubby, was only too pleased to submit!

Modesty's Bondage Boutique Riding CropThe crop is 27 inches long from tip to tip, including it’s strong wooden handle (5½ inches long and 3/4 of-an-inch in diameter) with a lovely-to-feel 4½ inch long and 1½ inch wide leather slapper at the “business end”. That means 17 inches of a delightfully flexible, but surprisingly strong, shaft.

The crop is just wonderful to hold as the grooved handle seems to fit just naturally (lol!!!) in the palm of my hand, giving me immediate tingles of command and being in control. There is a thin leather strap attached to the handle, where it joins the shaft, which you can slide over your wrist if you wish, although I haven’t felt the need for that because, as I say, the handle just feels as though it “belongs” in my hand. (But I have actually found the strap very useful for hanging the crop up in my wardrobe after I’ve had my fun).

Modesty Ablaze holding the Bondage Boutique Riding CropIf just holding the crop makes me tingle, you can imagine how excited I feel as I begin to administer those first few strokes (gentle to begin with of course!!!). The “swishing” sound it makes as it swings through the air is wonderful . . . and then hearing, and watching, that smacking sound as the slapper makes it’s impact on my submissives bottom is simply thrilling. I just love it . . . and watching it swat from cheek to cheek with the shaft springing and bending in time to the sounds gives me an amazing feeling. It is command, and power I suppose . . . but fun as well, as I know (from his whimpers and then rising gasps) that my submissive is also loving every stroke.

Modesty Bondage Boutique Slapper

The flexibility and strength of the shaft can, so I’m told (lol!!!), create quite an intense stinging . . . so I always pause after every dozen or so strokes to smooth my partners bum cheeks with the palms of my hand.

CropAndBumHis cheeks feel perfectly smooth and warm . . . and have a wonderfully red glow (which the picture below doesn’t really do justice too).

Modesty Ablaze Red BumAnd the slapper also seems just the perfect size and shape to teasingly slide, gently at first, and then “slap” with increasing firmness, against my submissives hanging balls as I command him to “lift your bum, come-on, up on your knees”.

In the two weeks or so since it arrived, I’ve had four or five evenings of fun which have begun with me pulling the Bondage Boutique Riding Crop from my wardrobe and ordering my submissive to “assume the position . . . NOW!!!”

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Feels wonderful to hold . . . and to use !!!
Cons: I can’t think of any.
Material: Wood, plastic and leather.
Size: 27 inches from tip to tip.
Weight: Manageable . . . and strong!!!
Noise: Depends how hard you strike.
Ease of Use: Very easy.
Waterproof: I don’t know, but I wouldn’t put it in the bath.
Lube: Not required . . . but Arnica Cream might be helpful!
Cleaning: I would imagine just a wipe over with a clean cloth.

Buy Link: Lovehoney

NB: I was sent the Bondage Boutique Riding Crop anonymously by one of my followers ordered from my Lovehoney Wishlist . . . if it was you, please email me because I just might have a special, surprise, gift for you in return**.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me sexy clothes and lingerie . . . and sexy toys . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Xxx – K


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The Lelo Ora . . . oral sex simulator

I was so excited when I was asked if I would like to review the Lelo Ora . . . as amongst the (quite extensive LOL!!!) collection of vibrators in my toy drawer, I’ve never had one designed to simulate oral sex.

And my excitement and anticipation rose even more as I unpacked the parcel and ran my fingers over that lovely Lelo silicone for the first time.

Lelo Ora Modesty AblazeThe packaging is just exquisite! The glossy outer sleeve (complete with short descriptive informative text in six languages on the side) opens at the top to allow one to slide out the luxurious inner box. The dark black, heavy matt cardboard lid lifts off almost like a jewellery box to reveal the Ora itself nestled in it’s black foam base. A neat fold-over thinner (but matching colour and feel) black card, with the Lelo logo printed stylishly in black foil, masks the white charging unit and cable neatly contained in it’s own pocket.

Lelo Ora Modesty AblazeThis Lelo toy is available in Black, Midnight Blue and Deep Rose. Mine was the Midnight Blue and lifting the intriguingly, almost sculptured, shape of the toy from the box I was almost immediately swooning at the feel and contour of it’s shape. That wonderful silicone moulding of the outer ring with a silver metallic-type casting for the inner grip (with the Lelo logo on either side) just oozes class and style. Take a look at my pictures above, and below, and you will see just what I mean . . . and it does feel just as good as it looks.

The almost circular shape is interrupted and flattened for a few centimetres . . . 4cm actually . . . not to act as a base to stand the Ora up, (although it does serve that purpose as well as I’m looking at it now sitting on my bedside table), but rather as a more flexible membrane housing the “tongue” of the toy itself.

Further around the outer “wheel” is the small, discreet, jack-hole for charging (but this toy is 100% waterproof so you don’t need to worry about trying to avoid the hole when cleaning . . . or using excess lube!!!).

And further around again, at what I suppose would be the “top” of the Ora if you imagine it “resting” on it’s base, are the three operational buttons inconspicuously and, stylishly of course, moulded into the silicone and marked by an almost-entwined, lovers knot design, type of groove.

Modesty Ablaze and her Lelo OraAs I connected and plugged-in the charger I almost swooned again as those lovers-knot grooves began to blink with a pretty neon-blue light. But I resigned myself to the practical necessity of noting from the product information that it would require 2 to 3 hours for a first full-charging . . . but that would then allow for a full hour of “user time” . . . and I surely wouldn’t need a “full hour” would I ???

Now . . . I love almost anything sexually and I’m still finding new things that are exciting and enjoyable and satisfying. And I have certainly ALWAYS loved oral sex. And yes, I can climax just from being lovingly licked and kissed around those lips . . . but !!!

But, actually, the most erogenous of all my erogenous zones is not anywhere on my body, but inside my . . . head!

You see, I just have to be in the right frame of mind, the right environment, the right mood to be able to really enjoy, really let myself go, and really, really indulge ALL of me in that special moment in time . . .

And something I have discovered since trying to write about, or “review” my feelings about a certain toy, is that it can be a bit like baking a cake for the first time. (Yes really!!!) Just following that recipe for the first time, preparing all the right ingredients, reading and following all the instructions. By the time the cake is baked it just doesn’t seem to taste as I’d hoped, or expected, it too.

And so it proved with my Ora !!!

I lay back, confident in how lovely the Ora felt to hold with my fingers curled perfectly through the grip-hole, and began experimenting with the plus button (for increasing the vibrations) and the minus button (for, obviously, slowing down the intensity). I pushed, and held that middle button (for “3 seconds” – so I counted 1-2-3,1-2-3) for the 30% increase in the intensity of the vibrations that I’d read about in the information sheet. I paused to apply more lubricant (water-based only please!) and turned it off and on again to slowly push (but not hold) the middle button to scroll through the quoted “10 different simulation modes”. I lifted it away intermittently to check what pattern, or rhythm, the nodule, or “tongue”, beneath that thin membrane was actually doing . . . what direction, or rotation, it was performing. (It has a complete circular stroking motion or a back-and-forth, sort of car-windscreen-wiper type motion).

Unfortunately though, whatever the setting I was choosing, it just wasn’t happening for me. The sound of the vibrations (and it is actually quite quiet compared to most of my other vibrators) began to distract me. I couldn’t concentrate on the matter in hand (so to speak!). I wanted to slide my fingers inside, feel something pushing, probing, stroking. After 15 minutes of frustration and worry, I reached across the bed for Hubby saying “I think I need something else”.

But . . . and this is the moral of not ONLY this story/situation . . . but probably for me, the moral of all situations . . . the next morning!!! . . .

. . . I was awakened, far too early for a Sunday morning, by Hubby’s alarm. He was getting up to watch “the rugby” from the other side of the world. I cursed at him “at least bring me up a cup of tea at half-time!!!” . . .

And, as I turned over . . . cursing still . . . my tired eyes spied that beautifully shaped Ora staring back at me from my bedside table.

I reached over and swooned again as I ran my fingers over that lovely silky silicone. I picked it up and slid my fingers through the grip. It felt smooth, almost welcoming and enticing, in my hand. I pushed the “plus” button. The gentle vibrations that had seemed to upset my concentration the night before, suddenly seemed to empower me. I wanted to “feel” that tongue on me, feel the sound of the vibrations “touching and licking” at me.

I slid the Ora down over my tummy . . .

. . . and suddenly last night didn’t exist, hadn’t happened!!!

Modesty Ablaze with the Lelo OraAnd did the thought that this wasn’t Hubby’s tongue (or anyone else’s tongue for that matter!) swirling around and around over my clit enter my head??? YES it did enter my head, it WAS in my mind. In fact, the very fact that I KNEW this was the Ora flicking itself over me was arousing me more and more . . . and it’s vibrations driving me to that wonderful, lovely, twisting, turning explosion. In only a few minutes my cake had not only been baked, but well and truly eaten and consumed!!!

So, can I say that either of my (so far) two experiences with the Ora would happen for you??? No of course I can’t. Rather like cakes , we all like different things at different times . . . and sometimes we won’t enjoy the taste of the same cake tomorrow that we loved so much last night.

But what I can tell you is that I’m sure I will be reaching for my Ora again!

The Lelo Ora has all the quality of manufacture that you would expect from a Lelo product. It is absolutely beautifully packaged, with a satin storage pouch if you don’t want to place it back into the custom-cut-out shape of that lovely box. It is 100% waterproof and comes with a 12 month Lelo warranty.

The Ora may not suit all tastes (LOL!!!) and certainly for those who only enjoy penetrative sex this toy will not do it for you. But if, like me, you do enjoy different sensations on different occasions . . . or sometimes different sensations on the same occasion . . . you may find yourself curling your fingers through the Ora from time to time.

Modesty Ablaze with the Lelo OraTechnical information on The Lelo Ora is as below:

Modesty Rating: 5 out of 10
Pros: Wonderful shape and lovely to feel and hold. Beautifully packaged and so, so stylish.
Cons: Operation makes it difficult to use in conjunction with any form of penetration at the same time.
Material: Silicone (FDA approved body safe) / ABS Plastic
Size: 75 x 43 x 80mm / 2.9 x 1.7 x 3in.
Weight: 117.5g / 4.1oz.
Powered: Mains re-chargeable
Noise: Reasonably quiet
Supplied with: Charging cable and mains plug, Satin Storage Pouch, Instruction Manual, 1 Year Warranty
Ease of Use: Takes practice and patience to find the right setting for you.
Waterproof: Yes
Lube: Water-based
Cleaning: Hand-wash with warm water and mild soap.

Buy Link: Lelo.com


NB: I was sent the Ora by Lelo, free of any charge, for my honest and unbiased opinion of the product.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me sexy clothes and lingerie . . . and sexy toys . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Xxx – K


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Addressing recent complaints . . .

Complaints? Well, perhaps more a case of lots of email messages asking why I hadn’t posted a video review of my recent toy-review-post . . . about my Diogol Jewelled Butt Plug.

It has actually been, on the one hand, quite flattering to be asked . . . and on the other hand, almost worrying . . . LOL???

Holding the Diogol Jewelled Butt Plug

But I do love my Diogol and because I myself felt more . . . comfortable . . . in looking at, and seeing the Diogol, in-the-flesh, so to speak, I thought it might actually be useful to make a review video after all . . .

So . . . if you are of a similar mind, please email me directly and I will see if I can send you your own exclusive video!!!

In the mean-time there are several of my video-reviews (if you are interested) at my Toy Review page.


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Xxx – K

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