I do feel at home in a good Vault … though sadly this one was devoid of wine-racks … but there is just something refreshing about the aire isn’t there?
That feeling of freedom and release … expressing one’s inner rebel … I wonder if you might note the connection !!!
For more enlightenment and fresh-aire, take a sip from this week’s
Sinful Sunday lips below.
Xxx – K
“No you may not !!! … I know you’re excited, but we have at least another hour yet, and I have a lot more in mind for you!”
“Perhaps if you’re a good girl … and if I feel that you really deserve it … then
we shall see”.
There is bound to be much more excitable fun at this week’s Sinful Sunday to be discovered from tapping the lips below.
Xxx – K
For years and years marking was something that would never have entered my head during my playtime fun with Hubby . . . or any of my other lovers.
In fact as I tend to bruise quite easily, I would always be horrified at picking up even the slightest of bruising or scratching.
But since I began experimenting and developing my more “kinky” hobby four or five years ago, that has all changed. Not from the point of view of being marked
. . . but, instead, to being the “marker”.
Now initially when I began my “Mistressing” I would always be careful to restrict my disciplining fun to hand-spanking or perhaps using soft floggers and paddles that would only blush or temporarily redden my gentlemen’s bottoms and backs. I had neither the experience, nor the inclination, to mark them further. And anyway, my earliest gentlemen “friends” mostly seemed to be very anxious not to have any noticeable markings after leaving my chambers. (Probably for obvious reasons, but which it is never my place to ask about).
I quickly came to enjoy administering my hand-spanking sessions more and more, and soon had many gentlemen returning for “more of the same please Mistress”. It was some months though before I had my first request for a
“severe caning”.
Caning is something, if you’ll excuse the pun, not to be taken lightly, and requires practice and care . . . both for the recipient, and also for the canes themselves. (I always use my own to ensure they are properly cleaned after use).
So I approached my first such sessions with some degree of nervousness and caution, explaining that “severe” was open to interpretation and should be undertaken with gradual progression.
Since those early days however, as with my hand-spanking, I have grown to enjoy those special requests more and more.
Because if a gentleman asks and clearly really, really does desire to leave with my marks imprinted for a day, or several days, across his cheeks . . . then I take that as a compliment. A sign of his fulfilment and enjoyment of our time together.
And, I must confess, I now really do love receiving selfies from my gentlemen during the course of the following day, (or several days), of the progression and healing, of those welts and bruises.
So from my point of view, I’m definitely a “mark-er” and not a “receiver”.
For many other interesting views on “Marking” just spank
the KOTW lips below.
Xxx- K
If you are lucky enough to be summoned . . . you had better not be late!!!
For more important instructions this Sinful Sunday you have
my permission to smack the lips below !!!
Xxx – K
With so few sessioning days left until Christmas . . . I’ve already started my
wrapping in earnest.
And around my table at least, “pigs in blankets” are always popular morsels!!!
There may well be other preparations already in progress this week to be discovered by squeezing the Sinful lips below !!!
Xxx – K
Occasionally . . . just occasionally . . . I let a Sub choose the implements he would most like me to use. And sometimes I’m pleasantly surprised.
But . . . of course . . . I always have the last say !!!
To see what other people have to say this weekend, just smack those tempting Sinful Sunday lips below!
Xxx – K
I received a new dress from one of my Wishlists last week . . . and it does feel rather lovely against my nipples when I first zip it on.
And, when I move about in it !!!
It also seems perfect for a Boobday Friday photo as well, don’t you think?
Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us. With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.
Be sure to visit . . . and why not join-in . . . Boobday sharing, this and
every Friday, by clicking on Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!
Xxx – K
When I first decided to explore my Femdom “hobby” from just the sort of
home-play fun that I’m sure lots of couples indulge in, to a . . . shall we say . . . wider range of participants, I knew I had to properly research the etiquettes and sensible, codes of practice that would be required.
I was extremely lucky to attend a number of classes and events organised by
two of London’s most experienced Mistresses . . . the wonderfully fun and motivational Madame Caramel, and the beautiful and inspirational Miss Kim Rub.
From each of them I learnt the standard norms of safety and behaviour not just to safeguard myself, but also to safeguard those who may wish to submit to . . . my own style(s) . . . of female domination.
And the importance of safe-words and perceived, and actual, limits of all those involved was always the first consideration for organising . . . and implementing
. . . a meeting / session.
But, of course, as with all things in life, it is from the actual physical experience of participation in something, that one gains the most knowledge and feelings. And I quickly realised that for many of the subs with whom I session with, the actual sense of begging to “stop” is often all part of the huge release and extreme pleasure that they feel. They want to keep gasping “Oh, Mistress please stop” when actually they wish for the experience, and the pleasure, to continue.
So Yes, a safe-word is always necessary, and responsible for both parties, to have set and agreed upon, before a session begins. But, as well as words, I have found from my own experiences, that it is more than a word from which I can sense that enough is enough. It is often from that feeling of personal connection, communication, that leads me to slow, or stop completely, when I know that my submissive has reached that blissful summit.
And whilst at the beginning of my fun Femdom journey, I visited numerous events at ClubRub, Pedestal, ClubBlackWhip, Torture Garden et al . . . nowadays, I much prefer the experience of sessioning with just one, or two, submissives in the Chambers of my choice, rather than the loud and more impersonal surroundings of a club event.
Because it is from that more personal interaction, that the most enjoyable moments of submission and domination . . . for all of those involved . . .
can be experienced.
For more Safe Words, at this week’s Food For Thought Friday simply
smack the button below.
Xxx- K
It often gets quite stuffy in one’s Dungeon during a session . . . especially
when I’m giving a prolonged “tapping” . . . so I find it’s always important to
have adequate ventilation.
And this is one of my favourite outfits, which this rather excited gentleman suggested I should share for a Boobday post.
I don’t often follow the advice of one of my submissives, but on this occasion . . .
Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us. With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.
Be sure to visit . . . and why not join-in . . . Boobday sharing, this and
every Friday, by clicking on Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!
Xxx – K
“Yes, I did have a lovely holiday . . . and no, I’m not happy to be back.
In fact I’m quite unhappy actually. Unhappy and grumpy!”
“So let’s see if you’re still looking so smug and pleased with yourself in
an hour shall we ???”
To see what lots of other Sinful people have been up to this weekend,
simply scratch the lips below!
Xxx – K
Click on my "Further Adventures" cover above, for more information on all my Modesty Ablaze Ebook Diaries, and FREE "Balcony Members" access.
Click my Cover above for printable PDFs of my diaries at Gumroad.
The Modesty Ablaze Diaries