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Modest thoughts #eroticon 2017

I attended my first Eroticon in 2013 and had enjoyed it so much that I was positive I’d be there a year later. But that following year, and in fact every year since, fate had intervened and I’d always been abroad. So imagine my despair when the Eroticon 2017 dates were first announced, and I discovered it was on the same weekend as a very important, pre-planned family event.

But excuses were made, plans were changed, “disappointments” and awkward questions were dodged and diverted . . . as I was so determined to journey to Camden Town for at least one day!

And so I did . . . and I had such a lovely time!!!

I’m not a writer . . . and I don’t even consider modestyablaze to be a “blog” as such . . . but I just hope that my occasional posts will make anyone who comes across them smile, or perhaps even laugh a little . . .  because I always try to approach everything I do with a sense of fun and adventure.

And, with fun and adventure uppermost in my mind, the most important thing I got once again from Eroticon this year, is that sense of “community” . . . that feeling that there ARE actually so many other people out there who share similar sex-positive, body-positive values and one’s individual rights to choose (about everything!!!)

And so to my one day, the Saturday, at Eroticon . . .

Highlights? Well the whole day was a highlight, from Sarah Brynn Holliday’s session on “Blogging as Feminism and Social Justice” right through to the “Steel and Stilettos Fitness Masterclass” with the gorgeous JetSet Jasmine and King Noire (which I felt I just had to attend after the amazing array of luncheon options sponsored by Chaturbate).

And in-between . . . having previously giggled and laughed-in-agreement all the way through both of Girl On The Net’s two books, I giggled and laughed-in-agreement all the way through her wonderfully inspirational “Pitching 101: learn to sell your ideas”. (Whispered quote from Hubby halfway through GOTN’s presentation “she’s the only other woman, apart from you, I’ve ever heard that can say so many words without pausing for breath!”).

Oh . . . and I simply must mention the lovely Pixie and Andrew in their KinkCraft Workshop for their unwavering patience in instructing me how to make a collar, knot by knot. (Was I the last to finish???)

Oh . . . and browsing the wonderful sponsor stalls at break time. Meeting the entirely lovely William from Doxy (STILL the best . . . and more on that soon!!!), swooning over my new blue Dildo from Ceramic Pleasures, feeling the pulsing, tingling #QueenBee from HotOctopuss, and marvelling at all those sparkly coloured creations from Godemiche . . . and, of course, the very different and intriguing Ruby Glow.

And, as I said, experiencing that wonderful sense of “community” from the Friday evening “Meet and Greet”, and “Saturday Night Social” . . . and all the wonderfully friendly and inspirational people there.

If you were there, you will know what I mean . . . if you weren’t then book now for Eroticon 2018 !!!

This week’s theme at Marie’s Wicked Wednesday, is “Meetings” and I’m sure there will be many more “meetings” to attend from tapping the button below!


Xxx – K


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Modesty Highlights @EroticonUK #wickedwednesday

At Eroticon March 2013.

January marked the fifth year of my blog pages here at modestyablaze.com
. . . so it seems only fitting to celebrate my 5th anniversary as part of this week’s Wicked Wednesday theme of “Highlights”.

Especially as early next month (March 4th and 5th) the Eroticon UK conference takes place here in London.

Because attending my first Eroticon back in 2013 was not only a highlight of the past five years, but one of the contributing factors in encouraging me to develop and continue my on-line adventures as Modesty Ablaze.

Up until that point I’d been a shy (modest) wallflower, occasionally posting excerpts from my “lifestyle” diary archives, curious . . . and cautious . . . and wanting to learn more!

Attending that conference not only changed Modesty Ablaze . . . but was empowering and motivational personally on so many different levels as well. Meeting like-minded people, with so many different experiences and adventures, and with such a sharing sense of “community” was simply wonderful.

It was at Eroticon that I learnt about the wondrously fun Scavenger Hunt, discovered Yes, (the world’s greatest lubricant), saw the brilliantly creative photography of John Tisbury, and viewed and listened in awe to an inspirational video-link-address by Cindy Gallop and her amazing #realworldsex vision of MakeLoveNotPorn.

And of course . . . meeting so many wonderfully open and welcoming . . . fellow attendees, (as I mentioned in my post-Eroticon 13 post from March 2013).

So it truly was a highlight of my years as Modesty Ablaze !!!

Now, I’ve . . . rather inconveniently . . . been abroad on vacation on every occasion Eroticon has been held since that first visit. So I am SO looking forward to attending once again this year.

Oh, and – I’m still rather shy of course . . . so if you should see me there . . . please come-up and say hello, because I’d love to hear all about your experiences and highlights too !!!

And if you tap on the lovely Marie’s Wicked Wednesday button below, you’re sure to discover Highlights from other people . . . some of whom I look forward to meeting at EroticonUK 2017!


Xxx – K


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A Modest Quickie #wickedwednesday

I’ve always enjoyed reading erotic stories . . . for as long as I can remember . . . it was always the “naughty books” that interested me much more than the sort of books I was always told I “should be reading”.

But as much as I loved to read . . . I could never write a story. An essay assignment at school was always my worst nightmare! I’d stare at a blank sheet of paper, praying for inspiration and words to appear, whilst all around me I could hear my classmates scribbling furiously into their exercise books!

FurtherCover400Aug2916But diaries? Well that was another matter. A diary was real . . . things that had happened, things that whilst I didn’t necessarily want to share (certainly NOT with my parents or family!!!) . . . for some strange, compelling . . . thrilling? . . . reason, they were things that somehow just seemed to write themselves. Often just dates and names (LOL!!!), scrawled code-words, filling pages of those little soft-covered (usually pink!!!) diary books one always seemed to be given for Christmas and Birthdays.

And the fact that I never stopped, is what . . . eventually . . . led me to be here at Modesty Ablaze Dot Com. And, after publishing my first few diary extracts here on-line, I was astounded to suddenly start receiving lots of emails suggesting I should turn them into Ebooks as well. So, over the course of the next few months I uploaded five short-diary compilations from my E-books page . . . and was part-way through compiling a sixth (“Further Adventures”) when I stopped.

Why? Well mainly because I it was just so difficult finding the time to put them together actually . . . I was too busy enjoying “new diary entries” !!!

But I do keep receiving nice messages of encouragement asking for more, so this week’s Wicked Wednesday theme of “Dear Diary” has spurred me into including one of the chapters of “Further Adventures” below. And you never know, perhaps I will . . . one day . . . find that my “new diary entries” have slowed down enough for me to find the time to complete that sixth compilation!!!

Morning Quickie . . .

One of the benefits of having a lover who is self-employed and has his own office, is that we can often meet at short-notice and on a spur-of-the-moment whim or tease.

That is exactly what happened when Lover Two called me on my way into work on Monday. He wanted to meet up sometime this week for a meal and night out but I was already committed to other (boring) things on both of the nights that he was suggesting. He teasingly said “Ok, how about coming round to the office now. I’ll switch off the phones for an hour”.

Although I much prefer a hotel room and a longer more leisurely evening, we’d had similar “quickies” in his office before, and there’s something that I must admit I do find quite thrilling and risque about occasionally letting myself go in those sort of circumstances. I told him I’d pop round “just for a little kiss and cuddle” then.

I rang into work to tell my colleagues I’d been delayed and would be an hour or so late, and quickly changed lines a few stops later. Hurrying through the rest of the tube-commuters I already felt quite excited by my “naughtiness” as the rest of the crowd were all scurrying off to their work, I was scurrying off for something entirely different! I thought about texting hubby as I exited the underground, but a taxi was right there, and it was only a short journey to Lover Two’s office . . . and the cabby was full of chat and distracting, so hubby would have to wait. It would be a nice surprise for him when he got home that night!

Lover Two met me at the main doors and led me upstairs to his office. We’d used his sofa on a few occasions before, but it still felt different and “dirty” and “exciting”. We fumbled and caressed and kissed and unclipped and unzipped each other. He pulled my knickers off completely and threw them across the room behind us. His cock was almost bursting out of his pants as I pulled and worked it free. The passion was actually quite overwhelming and I actually came in just a few minutes, just from his fingers sliding in and out of me and his lips sucking and scraping at my breasts which he’d freed from my bra and unbuttoned blouse.

I lay back on the sofa whilst he stood and slid off his trousers and pants, and thankfully his shoes and socks. I started to pull at my skirt, lifting my hips so that he could pull it off me, but he told me he wanted me to keep it on, and my hold-ups. He told me to turn over on my tummy and brought my knees down onto the floor so that I was actually leaning forward onto the seat of the sofa. I felt him kneeling down behind me and spreading my cheeks apart. Then I felt him pushing into me. “You’re always so wet” he was whispering into my ear. “I love it, I love you filling my juicy cunt” I groaned in response. I know he loves hearing me talk this way to him . . . and I do so love “talking dirty” when I’m really in the mood.

He was only pumping for a few minutes, and I could tell from his breathing getting louder and quicker that he was going to come. He was holding each of my hips and thrusting vigorously . . . but he knows I don’t like him coming inside. He pulled out and spun me round by my shoulders, stepping over me and pushing his erection towards my face. I leant forward and swallowed him into my mouth. He was gasping and groaning and holding my head tightly against him. I heard, and then felt him coming, swallowing it down as he continued holding my head. I knew he wouldn’t release until he’d finished his shuddering . . . finally pulling away and lifting me up to my feet. “God that was so nice” he said. Our tongues swirled in each others mouths as we kissed and clung to each other. Finally pulling away from each other we started to regain our composure. He pulled his pants and trousers back on and sat down on the sofa to put his shoes and socks back on. I’d re-adjusted my bra and skirt and started searching for my knickers behind the sofa. He found them first “let me keep them!” he teased, dodging my thrusts as I tried to get them back. “You could go commando all day” he laughed. I told him that would be very naughty and very horny, but I’d probably end up “dribbling, and that wouldn’t be comfortable”.

He called me a taxi . . . I was only going to be an hour and a half late for work . . . as I walked up the stairs to my own office I tried to compose myself and appear as normal as I could. But I couldn’t stop thinking about such an exciting start to the week, and couldn’t wait until I could tell hubby about it when he got home, and, yes, I WAS dribbling during the day.

So . . . if you’ve got down this far . . . you are sure to find lot’s more
“Dear Diary” Confessions
from tapping on the button below!


Xxx – K


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At My Feet #sinfulsunday


“Mmm, that’s lovely . . . I just don’t get to put my feet-up often enough,
after a long day at the office.”

“And this is exactly the position I like my slaves to assume
after serving me my wine.”

“Just be careful though . . . don’t knock my chair . . . I wouldn’t want any sudden moves to make me spill even a drop!!!”

I am sure you will discover lot’s more interesting positions this Sinful Sunday from gently tapping the Sinful lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Thanks and kisses to Vinylman1 for my “At My Feet” picture above.

Xxx – K


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Bottom to Top #wickedwednesday

ModestyBottomTopI’m often asked what I get “from having a blog” and people sometimes look surprised when I reply “It’s helped me feel better about myself”.

And no, I don’t mean that in a vain or boastful way . . . I actually mean that Modesty Ablaze has truly helped me discover and feel more confident about so many things, both physical and emotional, and helped me more easily accept who I am.

Modesty has been a release, and a celebration, of things that previously I may have worried about admitting or acknowledging . . . and certainly about sharing with others! (Even with those nearest and dearest to me).

Sharing in public those concerns that we all have about the way our body changes as we grow older, sharing our desires about what excites us . . . and sharing our experiences and the “interesting” discoveries we make along the way . . . has made me feel stronger and happier and given me a greater sense of self-esteem.

This week’s prompt at Wicked Wednesday is “self image” and how we feel about ourselves. So it seemed the perfect occasion to share my thoughts above on how Modesty Ablaze has contributed to my changes and experiences over the past few years.

And, of course, another very important discovery I have made since I first bared-my-soul (some would say bared-my-all!!!) across the world-wide-web, is the wonderful sense of community and the sense of belonging that has ensued.
I am constantly grateful for all the comments, emails and private messages I receive . . . offering help or advice at some question I may have posed or suggested. Or thanking me for giving strength and acceptance in the course of a statement, or situation, I may have described.

So Modesty has made me happier and more fulfilled . . . I hope she has made some of you feel the same.

 See who else is sharing from the Wicked Wednesday button below!!!


Xxx – K



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A Real Neat Blog Award Post

WomenBehindWordsI have felt very flattered over the past week to have received two mentions in The Real Neat Blog Award series of posts.
Firstly by Tami at kinkybikermom and then by Catherine SassyCat at: sassycat3000.net . . . both of whom are fabulously fun and enviously prolific bloggers from America.

Neat300x180In keeping with the Real Neat Blog Award theme, they both sent me a number of questions to answer which I have set out to do as best I can below.

Tami and Sassy both: T & S:
Q: What was the reason you decided to start blogging?
A: I’ve been so lucky to have a wonderful “open-marriage” and enjoyed a polyamorous lifestyle with my Hubby for over 30 years. I’d been writing diary accounts of my liaisons with my lovers, and of our swinging experiences for almost all of that time. Initially it started as almost just a list of dates, whens and wheres . . . a way of keeping track I suppose (LOL!!!) But as time passed, and I started adding more “details” it became obvious how much both Hubby and I enjoyed flicking back through the pages from time to time. (This was before the age of home-computers!!!) It made our own next-few-nights afterwards even more fun and exciting.
But the blog itself was started almost as a joke, or dare really. Hubby and I had been idly channel-hopping on the TV and stumbled across one of those technology programs. It was all about the explosion of “normal people” using blogging sites to blog about their hobbies or interests. I joked to Hubby “I could start a blog on how much I love sex”. He said “I dare you! You could post all those diary entries you’ve been writing for years and years” . . . and a few days later Modesty Ablaze was born.
The name Modesty Ablaze came about from one of my “Cougar Moments” with an extremely energetic young man at our local Swingers Club one evening. After we emerged from the “viewing room” to a round of applause from quite a crowd of on-lookers, I blushed and giggled to my young lover “you’ve sent my modesty up in flames”. He replied “Modesty Ablaze”.

T&S: Has that reason changed throughout time?
A: I never imagined anyone would even FIND my blog, let-alone find it interesting. But within a few weeks I started receiving more and more visits . . . and some lovely flattering and sweet emails, comments and lots and lots . . . and lots . . . of questions about our lifestyle. And that really made it obvious to me just how so many people still don’t talk to their partners, or share their thoughts and desires. So I suppose I began more and more to want to say to anybody visiting Modesty Ablaze “look, it doesn’t matter whatever your age, whatever your shape, whatever your gender, whatever your relationship . . . life should be about having fun, communicating all your desires and your fantasies (especially your fantasies), sharing those moments with your loved ones and those around you”. So yes my reasons for continuing with Modesty Ablaze have changed . . . and I hope some of my posts may have helped change others (for the better!)

TQ: Are there other bloggers whose work has given you inspiration? If so, share with us the post and their post that gave you inspiration.
A: I try and follow and try to read, as many posts by as many different bloggers as I can . . . and as time allows (providing it doesn’t interfere too much with my “social life” of course! LOL!!!)  . . . and there are far too many inspirational people to list here. But if you really, really, need some clues to my most visited blogs you could see my Favourites from 2014 List that I included in a Marvellous Year at #wickedwednesday >here<.

SQ: What was the best and worst advice you received when you started your blog? What’s the advice you offer to those just starting out in the blogosphere?
A: Hubby saying “you can’t possibly blog like you talk!” is the best AND the worst advice!!!My advice to anyone starting out would be the same advice I give to ANYONE about ANYTHING “If you’re not having fun doing it, then don’t do it !!!”

TQ: If there was one question you could ask your favorite blogger what would it be?
A: How on earth do you manage your time so efficiently to blog every day ???

SQ: Where do you see yourself in 5 years of blogging? What is your ultimate goal for your blog?
A: If I’m not still having fun doing it, there won’t be Modesty Ablaze in 5 years.The ultimate goal for my blog is to: Make people smile, make people happy, make people feel good about themselves and . . . therefore make the people around them feel good about themselves!!!

TQ: Did you ever see yourself as any type at all blogger? (The underline is for whatever label you give your blog. Sex, kink, dating, etc.)
A: No !!!

SQ: What are some adjectives you would like your readers to use to describe your blog and why?
A: Sexy and Fun !!! (Because “If you’re not having fun doing it, then don’t do it !!!”)

TQ: What website on the entire web, besides your own, do you spend the most time on?
A: Make Love Not Porn at: https://makelovenotporn.tv/

SQ: How important are blog stats, page ranks and comments for you?
A: I don’t have enough time to investigate or worry about stats or page ranks (what are they even?). But it is always nice to receive comments and email messages (I still try to answer every sensible one).

TQ: Gotta ask one toy question. Name your absolute favorite sex toy. (More than one is fine.)
A: Hubby !!!

SQ: Describe a typical blogging day for you. (What you do first, etc.)
A: Try to write down what happened the night before!!!

TQ: Last one is just for fun. Who is your favorite superhero and why?
A: Mistress Modesty Ablaze of course! . . . Why ? . . . LOL! Can’t you guess!!!

SQ: What is your favorite blogging meme to take part in and why?
A: Scavenger Hunt of course! . . . Why ? . . . It’s thrilling and FUN!!!

So, thank you so much to Tami and Sassy for asking me those questions above. It was actually quite a fun, and easy part of this Real Neat Blog Award. The difficult part is choosing who to ask some questions of my own because, as I mentioned before, there are so many blogs I love visiting to read so many arousing and erotic words . . . and . . . gaze with envy at so many lovely, arousing and erotic photographs!!!

But . . . You know I am ALWAYS curious to know from other people, two of those same questions that both Tami and Sassy asked me.
1.  What made you start blogging? (Yes, I know it is a recurring question, but it is interesting to know isn’t it!)
2.  Has that reason changed throughout time?
But also things I am always curious about whenever I’m scrolling through a new blog or posting.
3.  How did you come about your blog name?
4.  Do you share your blog with your partner / special friend before you make each post?
5.  Your lifestyle obviously influences your blog, but has your blog, or reading other blogs you have discovered via your own, influenced your lifestyle?
6.  How on earth do you manage your time so efficiently to blog?

And the people I’d most like to ask those questions of?

Well . . . and I realise that some of them may have already been nominated, or participated, so they may not thank me for asking . . . but I would actually like to ask those questions of:
Xxx –  K

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Modesty’s “Cane Love” #realworldsex video @makelovenotporn

ModestyCaneLoveVideoEven though Caning & Spanking is talked about more openly than ever before, I think a lot of people still feel that it is always about trying to hurt someone.

Well, I’ve always enjoyed spanking and bondage play in my relationships as a way of introducing FUN and extra excitement. Something different that I never take too seriously. And whether I am the one giving, or the one receiving, I actually find it to be a really strong, loving and sharing experience. And that can be a huge and wonderfully all-consuming emotion. And I hope you will agree that my new “Cane Love” video at  MakeLoveNotPorn.tv illustrates that perfectly.

It is from a lovely hotel-evening early in March, with Lover No.1. Starting out with some gentle caning with my new Manila Cane from Uberkinky . . . and a spanking-induced orgasm for my submissive . . . I soon commanded him to give me those deep loving kisses I do so really, really love.

Urging him on with my Riding Crop and then my throbbing Doxy Wand . . . more multi-orgasms for us both followed, before a wonderful finale of a loving and relaxing foot massage.

And I was so thrilled when the lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn mentioned “Cane Love” in their latest blog post:

“In this delicious new video, Modesty Ablaze showcases something we’d love to see even more of – a woman turning the tables and dominating her man in the context of a loving relationship! Excited to try out her brand new cane on her more than willing sub, Modesty teases her husband, allowing the whacks to build in intensity, much to his delight. Continuing to steer the action and ‘get hers’ by way of lover no. 1’s tongue and fingers (operating a Doxie wand) Modesty comes and comes before proceeding to pass out completely. I just love that she left in the gentle snoring at the end of this video, and I think you will too!”

There are some screen shots and Free Peek links to “Cane Love”, and all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . or, you can view my introductory video >here<.

“Cane Love” is my sixteenth video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my 16 #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

And don’t forget, you can ask me ANY questions you like about any of my videos, or anything about MakeLoveNotPorn in the form below.

NB: Submissions from this form are emailed directly to my In-box and are NOT displayed publicly. (Alternatively, you can make public comments, in the normal way, from the “Comment” panel at the very foot of this post).

Make Love Not Porn


Xxx – K

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Nominations are open for the Top Sex Bloggers of 2014

Modesty Ablaze CuffedDoes October make you feel blue, bored, blasé . . . with the fun of your summer holiday already a fading, distant memory . . . and are thoughts of the pressure and chaos of Christmas already crossing your mind? 

Well here’s an ideal opportunity for some exciting and titillating distraction and enjoyment . . . not one, but two, Top Sex Bloggers of 2014 Nomination Websites for you to peruse and investigate!!!

Every year both Kinkly and Between My Sheets offer their readers the opportunity to nominate their favourite on-line reading, most sexciting, most sexformative, most-visited bookmarks in their browser.

Not only is it a great way of passing on a little thanks to some of the people that have entertained and informed you throughout the year . . . or who, perhaps unknowingly, may have given you strength and self-believe in sharing thoughts and experiences similar to your own . . . but I also find it is a wonderful way of discovering yet more interesting and fun erotic people and their blogs!

Blogs and experiences that you may otherwise have never come across . . . blogs and experiences that strike a chord, reinforce feelings and desires that you share . . . blogs and posts that make you laugh out loud in agreement (or sometimes wonder!)

So, I really do recommend that you follow both of the above links . . . because I am sure you will find fun times within.

And fun times, for me, is what life should be all about . . . so go on, click and enjoy.

Oh, and yes, I will feel flattered, and honoured should you wish to mention, or include, www.modestyablaze.com during your travels >here< at Kinkly or >here< Between Rori’s Sheets . . . but most of all, I hope you find fun times!!!

Xxx –  K

Oh, and p.s. – Huge thanks, as always, to the wonderful John Tisbury (see my sidebar) for the picture of me above!

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Book Review: “My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” by Girl On The Net

My recent, all too short, holiday allowed me the opportunity to catch-up on some relaxing . . . and exciting . . . reading.

Whilst I do try to spend every free commuting moment to and from work each day buried in my kindle, there is something so much more relaxing and rewarding about lounging by the pool completely lost in a new book. With only the occasional interruption . . . requesting “more sun-screen please, oh and whilst you’re up, I’d like a wine top-up as well!” from Hubby, or needing an hourly, 15-minute dip, in the water to cool me down (from the book as well as the sun!!!) . . . I was able to completely finish three new books during our time away. Each different in their own right, and each certainly very, very naughty and very, very exciting!

I’d brought two books with me . . . and was surprised (and delighted) to find another, very interesting book, on the communal bookshelf in the downstairs outside-lobby of our small apartment complex (See below: Does this count as a “Library” Scavenger Hunt Dee? LOL!!!). But more on that later . . .

ModestyBookcaseFull. . . BECAUSE, now that I’ve caught your attention . . . !!!

One of those two books I’d brought with me was “Girl on the Net: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” (Kindle Edition) by one of my most frequent click-to-visit bloggers Girl On The Net.

If you have read even just a few of her always direct and often intriguing blog-posts (and if you haven’t I urge you to visit NOW!!!) you may think you will know what to expect from Carina’s autobio-so-far-ography. But actually it is so, so much more than, certainly I, and I think probably most readers, would have expected!

If I tell you that on one of the most wonderful, relaxing, sexciting, fulfilling holidays . . . in one of the most beautiful and relaxing locations, I’ve ever experienced . . . reading “Girl on the Net: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” was one of the highlights of my vacation, then you may, just may, sense a tiny amount of the enjoyment I got from losing myself almost completely in Carina’s story.

And I should also tell you that Hubby would often have to tap me on the shoulder and whisper “Sh!” as I burst out into loud giggles of laughter, or exclamations of “yes, yes!!!” . . . so much so that other guests lounging by the pool would, apparently, lift themselves off their sunbeds, or look-up from their own books (or worse, remove their headphones) to enquire “she must have a good book???” as I rolled and shuffled and wriggled in shock, delight and (most often) agreement . . . and (occasionally) “oh no” disagreement . . . of the words as they jumped, squirmed and snaked from my Kindle screen.

To say that Carina’s words are direct, honest and straight-to-the-point, would be an understatement LOL! (there you see, I’m doing it again!!!) . . . but THAT is this book’s strength, appeal and, (dare I say it???), charm.

My life is seemingly completely the reverse of her own . . . I’d never set foot in a university until accompanying my own children on their first exploratory visits, never embarked on my first “fling” with another partner until after 10 years of marriage, never visited swinging or fetish clubs until another 10 years had passed . . . and yet every word, every emotion, every up . . . and every down . . . had me nodding in understanding, wonder and, yes, in agreement.

GirlOnTheNetCoverGirl On The Net’s frank and open narrative of her journey from those first discoveries of those private-bits that we all have, those feelings of doubt, guilt, enjoyment . . . those pressures from parents and peers alike . . . are simply wonderful to see recalled and described in such a simple, emotive and REAL manner.

Through first boyfriends, first loves, first orgasms, first heart-breaks . . . all whilst still at school!!! No preaching, no cry for help, no excuses made, nor expected, as we move chapter by chapter through Girl’s lovers (and loves), gains and losses, highs and lows. Some may be shocked by the language here (and by that I mean both in it’s form and description) . . . and at times I would pause from my nodding in agreement and ask myself “we have a son and daughter not too-much younger, would I be happy . . .?”

But do you know what !!! . . . these words make me think . . . “Yes, yes, I would”. Because?

Because Carina’s words, and emotions, and experiences . . . are real. Emotions that we all feel and experience . . . and yet her directness, her honesty, show an understanding, acceptance, maturity, that far too many people (parents with far too-short memories?), will admit to.

Reading “My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets” left me feeling I had been invited to share not just Carina’s story, but all of our stories, described in a way that most of us would be too introverted, worried, or “ashamed” to admit. Difficult, confusing, challenging, worrying . . . incomplete (both figuratively and literally in this case) . . . this book is all of those things and yet it is compelling reading, inspiring and questioning. It states the obvious in a very LOUD voice that demands to know why can’t we see, or admit to, the obvious! It cajoles and challenges with a wonderful sense of wit and humour, dry sarcasm . . . and yes, wisdom . . . that seems to shout “I know, I accept, who I am, but do YOU?”

If I haven’t prefaced the story, described the timeline, mentioned the principles, teased you with the climax . . . that is because I want you, challenge you, to read this book. To ask yourself if you don’t, really, truly, see at least a part of yourself amongst these pages . . . and to hope that in that realisation you, (we all), may think a little differently about how we see, accept or judge both ourselves and those around us.

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Realworld language, honest, direct, humorous & witty, yet informative & compelling reading.
Cons: I can’t think of any.
Pages: 260pp
Buy Link: Girl on the Net: My Not-So-Shameful Sex Secrets (Kindle Edition)
Blog: Girl On The Net


The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adapt at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.


Xxx – K


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“Knowing Her Place ” by Kay Jaybee . . . the THRILL is in the Detail !!!

You must know the feeling . . . quite by some unexpected twist of fate you’ve discovered a wonderful album by a completely new (to you) musician. Or perhaps a debut movie by an unheard of actor (or actress). Or maybe a book by an author you’ve never come across before. And the surprise and enjoyment of your discovery leaves you craving for more . . . that next album, that next movie, that next book . . .

. . . only to find when it arrives in your excitedly expectant hands that your sense of anticipation as you begin to listen, watch or read, is replaced instead by a flat feeling of disappointment and let-down.

Such was my worry as I shakingly began to renew my acquaintance with Jess Sanders in “Knowing Her Place” the third book in Kay Jaybee’s “The Perfect Submissive” trilogy***.

"Knowing Her Place"

“The Perfect Submissive” had not only been my introduction to Ms Jaybee’s writing, but had quite simply been the first book I’d ever read that I just didn’t want to put down until I’d finished.

Of course I physically had to stop reading from time-to-time (from excited exhaustion!), but just couldn’t wait to resume at the earliest possible moment.

The words just jumped from the page with almost electrical emotion and arousal, perfectly expressing all those enthralling and erotically exciting scenarios that I’m sure we all desire in our moments of passion.

For me that is the beauty and power of words, more than any other medium, that they inspire and stimulate your imagination and bring them into your world . . . and yours into theirs.

That was the effect of “The Perfect Submissive” and Jess’s story. I shared her journey, her emotions and her discoveries . . . and I am thrilled (in so many ways!!!) to be able to say that far from a disappointment or let-down, “Knowing Her Place” builds on the excitement and the anticipation of The Fables of “The Perfect Submissive” and the Fairtasia of “The Retreat” to a tumultuously tingling and erotically explosive Finale.

Jess’s journey in “Knowing Her Place” begins with her departure in Scotland from “The Retreat” and continues with five erotically-charged stopovers throughout England towards her final destination. And though the different situations, and different company, she finds herself in all have that (often unstated) reference back to her previous adventures, such is the descriptive beauty and power of “Knowing Her Place” that it stands as a wonderfully exciting and erotic journey in its own right (or write, so-to-speak!)

And that beauty and power is due to the way every sentence seems to balance, so wonderfully, the ability to describe and yet ask one to imagine the story unfolding before you.

For me the thrill is in the detail . . . the detail of the surroundings, the very being (the scent, the smell) of the people my heroine encounters. The feel of the fabric of every piece of clothing. The touch, weight and proportion of the props and implements Jess is asked to endure.

And just like any adventurous journey there are many unexpected and surprising twists and turns, acts of treachery and betrayal, denial and fulfilment.

Yes, the thrill is in the detail . . . but the detail is not gratuitous not forced, it begs to be imagined, to be drawn and touched and felt by all of ones senses.

That is what sets “Knowing Her Place” and the previous two books apart from any other erotica I have read. It is that wonderful ability that Ms Jaybee seems to find so natural.

Every page seems to flow, to inspire, to stimulate . . . and excite.

So, if you’ve felt disappointment, or let-down . . . or unsatisfied . . . by any other erotica you have read, I challenge you to take Jess Sanders journey. I am sure your imagination will take a new and exciting journey of it’s own.

Buy links for “Knowing Her Place”

***As I said . . . “Knowing Her Place” is a wonderfully exciting and erotic journey in its own right . . . but perhaps to get the most fulfillment and satisfaction from following Jess’s adventures, you could first indulge yourself in even more excitement by devouring the first two instalments in the Trilogy. After all, we all enjoy foreplay don’t we???

Needless to say I loved both of them . . . you can see my 5-star post on Goodreads from last year on “The Perfect Submissive” >here< and my review of “The Retreat” in March of this year >here<. So “Knowing Her Place” just couldn’t come quickly enough for me . . . because of course you just know how much I enjoy a three-some . . . sorry I mean, a trilogy!!!

So, go on, treat yourself . . . or tantalise and tease your nearest and dearest . . . to “The Perfect Submissive” and “The Retreat” by clicking on the respective covers below.


"The Retreat"










P.S. –  I just HAVE to mention the cover designs for all three of these books in “The Perfect Submissive Trilogy” series . . . and I’m knot saying this just because I have a thing about rope . . . I’m saying so because the lovely and subtle graphic binds (sorry!) each book to the other in a sort of simple, but powerful theme of submission and devotion. A theme so perfectly brought to life by the magical and enchanting stories within!!!

And, once you’ve regained your composure but left desperate for more . . . as I’m confident you surely will . . . visit Kay Jaybee on-line to discover more of the most arousing erotica I think you will ever find!!!

Xxx – K


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