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A Modest Formula #wickedwednesday

Probably the question that I have been asked most often over the past two years, and one that I have not added to my  “Questions You Have Asked Me” pages . . . is what “satisfaction” do I get from my Mistressing adventures.

Most people seem to assume that it is just a simple “enjoyment” from administering pain. It is an easy assumption to make, given most people’s view of Domination and Submission, but actually for me nothing could be further from the truth.

Whilst I had always had a fascination for the “fashionista” imagery associated with Fem Dominatrices, I had also long been curious myself about the emotions and desires of both sides of the relationship for those involved. Surely it couldn’t all just be about the giving, and receiving, of pain . . . I knew there had to be more to it than that.

But for many years, it remained just fascination and curiosity . . . until, during a visit to Sh! my favourite women’s shop in London’s Hoxton, I read about an event they were hosting by Madam Caramel, one of London’s most well known dominatrix.

Fortified with lots of glasses of wine, and accompanied by my lovely friend SheLover, I was immediately captivated and entranced by Caramel’s larger than life personality, her wonderful candour . . . and most of all her engaging sense of “fun” as she explained her experiences and views on her role as a Fem Domme.

My curiosity and interest was instantly aroused. I just had to learn more, and soon discovered that the equally legendary, Miss Kim Rub, held Mistress Workshops nearby. I enrolled for one of her Saturday afternoon sessions . . . and a whole new world of understanding, and adventure, suddenly opened-up before me.

Like everything in life, the power of the dominant/submissive relationship, is different for everyone . . . but for me it is much more about the connection, the chemistry of the psychological aspect of the interaction, rather than just the physical.

And most importantly, it has to be fun . . . on both sides . . . for it to work and be enjoyable for me. Every situation has to be completely consensual . . . and have that fun-factor . . . because being able to fulfil another person’s strongest desires and fantasies, and share in their enjoyment of that fulfilment, is what gives me that sense of “satisfaction”.

And even three years on, I am still continually amazed and intrigued at the different requests I receive . . . and the relationships I continue to build with a growing list of eager submissives.

Because of course, domination and submission is not all about impact, and whether I am requested to “stamp-me-vitals”, or am asked for a “firm hand-spanking”, or a “judicial caning”, or perhaps just sit back and receive a 15 minute “foot massage” or “toe-sucking foot worship” . . . there must always be that interaction, that special chemistry.

For more Chemical Reactions . . . gently smack the rainbow button below!!!

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Xxx – K

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Modestly Nursed #sinfulsunday

“I’ve been feeling under the weather lately. Tired and lethargic” he said.
“Circulation! . . . Probably a lack of exercise and stimulus.” I replied. “Let’s be having a look at you then!”

“Hmm . . . you do seem to have a temperature though!” I said as I began my preliminary examination.

“I suspect too much blood rushing to your . . . um . . . head!!!”

“I think we need to slow down . . . and re-direct some of those red blood cells!”

“Let’s get them moving round a bit . . . wake-up some of those other important places shall we !!!”

“Circulation . . . and stimulation . . . that’s the answer! I’ll soon have you
re-energised and hopping around like a jack-rabbit again!” And, he soon was!!!

And I imagine there will be lots more circulation . . . and stimulation . . . to be discovered at this week’s Sinful Sunday by smacking on the lips below!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

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Modest Toys #wickedwednesday

I’ve never been one for Gadgetry . . . but I do love my Toys!

Especially when I know they can give so much pleasure!!!

But as “Gadgets” is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday I’m sure there will be lots more wires being flexed, and buttons being pushed, to be discovered by tapping on the big button below!!!

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Xxx – K

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Modest Favourites #sinfulsunday

Favourite things . . . we all have them don’t we? And this week’s theme at
Sinful Sunday
seems the perfect opportunity to share three of mine.Starting with my favourite . . . and rightful . . . Position!

And then those special things that no lady can be without . . . Shoes !!!

And my favourite colour?  Well . . . RED of course!
(And as I’m sure you can imagine, there was actually quite a lot more Red
than just my Shoes over the following hour this afternoon).

But having kicked my shoes off, it’s now time to sit down to relax, unwind
and discover lots of other thoughts on my favourite colour at this week’s
Sinful Sunday by stepping gently on the lips below!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

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Modestly Spilt Milk #sinfulsunday

Whenever I entertain at my table, I make it quite plain . . .

. . . that I don’t expect to hear any body crying . . .

. . . over spilt milk !!!

(Spilt wine??? Well now that would be another matter altogether!!!)

But speaking of Fluids . . . that very subject happens to be this week’s theme at Sinful Sunday.
Soak it up by sipping on the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modestly Ticklish #sinfulsunday

“I think it’s always so important . . . in everything one does and whatever situation you may find yourself in . . . to try to have fun and make people
giggle and laugh!!!”

“Wouldn’t you agree sweetie? . . . Sorry, I can’t hear you! . . . Louder !!!”

For more Sinful fun this Sunday, I suggest that you
sit down gently on the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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A Modest Kneed #sinfulsunday

Sometimes . . . when one’s submissives have purposefully, and willfully, misbehaved . . . there is nothing else for it but a firm, over-the-knee spanking!!!

And, once I’ve finished here, I shall visit this week’s Sinful Sunday, from smacking the lips below, to check-out everyone else’s needs and desires.
Though only . . . as I say . . . once I’ve finished here!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

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A Modest Punch #sinfulsunday

After a relaxing and very indulgent summer . . . I thought it was time to start getting back into shape!

So I spent several hours this afternoon . . . re-acquainting myself with my
favourite Punch Bag!!!

Taking great enjoyment from sharpening my reflexes and practicing some
of those jabs and uppercuts!!!

It was a rather intensive and quite exhausting (but Sinfully fun) workout!!!

And now that I’ve had a chance to catch my breath, I think I shall just unwind and check-out what everyone else has been up to by jabbing those naughty Sinful Sunday lips below!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

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Modestly Tender #sinfulsunday

It’s important to know when one should be tender and soothing sometimes!!!

Especially after a long, hard session of prodding, stamping, kicking . . .
and squeezing!!!

And I am sure there will be lots more tender-ness to be found by prodding
. . . gently please . . . on the Sinful Sunday lips below!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

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Modest Domination #sinfulsunday

After a busy few weeks it was fun to get out and do some flex-ing again!!!

Which rather fits in with the “D” theme at  Sinful Sunday this week, where I’m sure you will find lots more Dominant flexing by slapping on the lips below!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

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