Modest thoughts #eroticon 2017

I attended my first Eroticon in 2013 and had enjoyed it so much that I was positive I’d be there a year later. But that following year, and in fact every year since, fate had intervened and I’d always been abroad. So imagine my despair when the Eroticon 2017 dates were first announced, and I discovered it was on the same weekend as a very important, pre-planned family event.

But excuses were made, plans were changed, “disappointments” and awkward questions were dodged and diverted . . . as I was so determined to journey to Camden Town for at least one day!

And so I did . . . and I had such a lovely time!!!

I’m not a writer . . . and I don’t even consider modestyablaze to be a “blog” as such . . . but I just hope that my occasional posts will make anyone who comes across them smile, or perhaps even laugh a little . . .  because I always try to approach everything I do with a sense of fun and adventure.

And, with fun and adventure uppermost in my mind, the most important thing I got once again from Eroticon this year, is that sense of “community” . . . that feeling that there ARE actually so many other people out there who share similar sex-positive, body-positive values and one’s individual rights to choose (about everything!!!)

And so to my one day, the Saturday, at Eroticon . . .

Highlights? Well the whole day was a highlight, from Sarah Brynn Holliday’s session on “Blogging as Feminism and Social Justice” right through to the “Steel and Stilettos Fitness Masterclass” with the gorgeous JetSet Jasmine and King Noire (which I felt I just had to attend after the amazing array of luncheon options sponsored by Chaturbate).

And in-between . . . having previously giggled and laughed-in-agreement all the way through both of Girl On The Net’s two books, I giggled and laughed-in-agreement all the way through her wonderfully inspirational “Pitching 101: learn to sell your ideas”. (Whispered quote from Hubby halfway through GOTN’s presentation “she’s the only other woman, apart from you, I’ve ever heard that can say so many words without pausing for breath!”).

Oh . . . and I simply must mention the lovely Pixie and Andrew in their KinkCraft Workshop for their unwavering patience in instructing me how to make a collar, knot by knot. (Was I the last to finish???)

Oh . . . and browsing the wonderful sponsor stalls at break time. Meeting the entirely lovely William from Doxy (STILL the best . . . and more on that soon!!!), swooning over my new blue Dildo from Ceramic Pleasures, feeling the pulsing, tingling #QueenBee from HotOctopuss, and marvelling at all those sparkly coloured creations from Godemiche . . . and, of course, the very different and intriguing Ruby Glow.

And, as I said, experiencing that wonderful sense of “community” from the Friday evening “Meet and Greet”, and “Saturday Night Social” . . . and all the wonderfully friendly and inspirational people there.

If you were there, you will know what I mean . . . if you weren’t then book now for Eroticon 2018 !!!

This week’s theme at Marie’s Wicked Wednesday, is “Meetings” and I’m sure there will be many more “meetings” to attend from tapping the button below!


Xxx – K


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Modestly finding #eroticon 2017

During our morning stroll last Saturday Hubby and I had discussed several different routes to Eroticon 2017 this weekend.

Well . . . I’m so happy to say . . . we made it !!!

And we had a simply fabulous time . . . attending some wonderfully fun
and interesting sessions . . . and meeting some wonderfully fun and
interesting people. I’m already looking forward to next year!!!

But, in the meantime, I hope you will join me at this week’s Sinful Sunday, by tapping the lips below, for yet more weekend fun and enlightenment!

Sinful SundayXxx – K


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Planning our route to Eroticon 2017

“It’s Eroticon next week” I said to Hubby this morning during our morning stroll. “You know we could probably walk to Camden along the towpath”.

“Or maybe even hire a canal boat . . . it’s only two or three locks away.”

“But you would need to put that bloody camera away and help me with these
heavy lock gates!!!”

“And look there’s some lovely little tunnels and bridges we’d travel under.”

“Shall we knock on one of the windows and ask if they do weekend charters?”

“Oh I suppose you are right . . . we probably have left it a bit too late to find a mooring space now. Perhaps it would be easier to take the tube or catch a bus
or cycle there on our bikes . . . or maybe even just walk there.”

But, in the meantime . . . to get myself in the mood . . . I think I’ll just stroll over to this week’s Sinful Sunday from the lips below!

Sinful SundayXxx – K

P.S. We had such a lovely stroll this morning and I hope it will be added to the “Lock” category at Jades Scavenger Hunt pages. And don’t forget, there are lots of my other Scavenger Hunt journeys at
my Scavenger Listings page . . . and now over 90 different locations on
my Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!   

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxxx – K


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Marking Milestones #wickedwednesday

Life is full of milestones . . . and I think we probably worry far too much about many of them. Especially reaching that mystical No. 50 !!!

But actually my recent Highlights  Wicked Wednesday post . . . and the fact that Eroticon 2017 is just two weeks away . . . reminded me of when I reached that particular milestone!

Because it was at Eroticon 2013, after attending his wonderful “Erotic Photography Session”, that I nervously approached John Tisbury and asked him if I could commission a private session with him. It was to be Hubby’s birthday gift to me (or one of them!!!) . . .  and it marked what turned into a simply wonderful year.

A year which far from marking an “all downhill from here” sort of feeling, turned into the start of wonderful new adventures and experiences which have developed and continued and in fact spiralled onwards and upwards ever since.

A year in which incredible friendships blossomed and bloomed into what I’m sure will be life-long relationships and liaisons.

And a year in which my modesty really seemed to be set fully ablaze.

So “Frightening 50?” became “Fabulous and Fun 50!” . . . and it just get’s better and better as every year passes.

And as “50” is this week’s theme at, lovely birthday girl, Marie’s Wicked Wednesday, there’s bound to be lots more Fabulous and Fun 50’s to discover by tapping the button below!


Xxx – K

Oh and P.S. – Huge thanks to the lovely, lovely John Tisbury for one of those 50th Birthday photos above!!!


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Modesty Ablaze reviews the “Rimba Bondage Belt” @UberKinky

Whilst it’s always fun to simply handcuff one’s submissive’s wrists together, or perhaps attach their arms to a fixed frame or St Andrews Cross, there are often times when I want them to be more mobile. To be able to lead them around and have unhindered access to their bum or back in one moment . . . and then spin them around to have some fun pinching nipples and, of course, whatever else is available . . . the next!

And this Rimba Bondage Belt and Handcuff set, from my favourite on-line Kink store Uberkinky, is ideal for those exact moments.

The Rimba Bondage Belt arrived quite modestly packaged in just a zip-lock plastic bag with a cardboard insert with one photograph and the manufacturers logo. (Delivered in a discreet manilla postal jiffy bag of course).

But the strong leather manufacture and simple design need no other explanation or packaging as the purpose and intention of the belt is perfectly obvious.

The belt itself is 2 inches wide and made from high quality Black Leather with stitched edging and a large chrome buckle firmly attached with two chrome rivets. It comes in two sizes, to fit Small to Medium waist, or Medium to Large. Each side of the belt has a large chrome D-ring attached (again with double chrome rivet attachments) to which the wrist cuffs are attached with chrome carabiners-clips.

Also made from strong black leather, the wrist cuffs have the 1¼ inch wide, and 12 inch long leather tongue attached to the 2 inch wide bands themselves with 4 strong chrome rivets. Once again the buckle is a strong chrome fixing, as is the D-ring which, with it’s carabiner clip, attaches one to each side of the belt.

For it’s first use, I was able to attach it quickly and easily to my submissives belt, which after my firm instruction, he had already buckled himself up into.

And it certainly does what it is intended to, as I began our session. The D-rings on the cuffs are large enough to allow rope and other attachments to be clipped on as well . . . as my willing (always willing!) submissive soon found out. I had him attached quite differently to how he would normally be restrained and that in itself led to heightened levels of intensity. I sometimes worry if I have a subs arms stretched up above his head, or cuffed behind his back for too long a time. But . . . apparently this arms-by-the-side restraint is much more comfortable. Even if my administrations to his back . . . and front . . . were far less so.

So I am delighted with this latest addition to my sessioning equipment and can highly recommend this Rimba Bondage Belt and Handcuff set from Uberkinky. And don’t forget there are many more Bondage items and accessories available at their Bondage Gear page >here<.

The Rimba Bondage Belt with Hand Cuffs:
Modesty Rating:
9 out of 10
Pros: Easy to put the belt on and quickly clip ones submissive’s wrist cuffs to the waist band.
Cons: I think the wrist cuffs would benefit from another D-ring on the other side of the cuff, near the buckle, to make additional fixtures/restraint easier.
Material: Good quality black leather with chrome metal finishing and D-ring attachments.
Measurements: Belt sizes of Small to Medium Size to fit 75 – 90cm; or Medium to Large Size to fit 90 – 105cm. Main belt width of 2 inches. The Wrist Cuffs are just under 12 inches long and 1¼ inch wide.
Colour: Black.
Waterproof: No.
After-care: As with normal leather products they should be cleaned with a damp cloth and dried immediately afterwards.
Supplier Product Link: The Rimba Bondage Belt with Hand Cuffs
Additional Supplier Links: Uberkinky Bondage Gear
The Modesty Video Review:
To possibly follow, so just let me know if you are interested!

Additional links: UberKinky at Twitter  . . . and I really do recommend you browse the UberKinky Essential Guides for wonderfully comprehensive information on all things Kink!!!

The Rimba Bondage Belt with Hand Cuffs set was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

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Modestly Marked #sinfulsunday

Even for one of the more extreme requests I’m asked during one of my sessions

. . . I always like to add a little fun and humour!

I think of it as leaving . . . as well as my marks . . . my own modest signature!!!

I’m sure you will find lots more marks of different kinds at this week’s
Sinful Sunday by tapping the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Eroticon 2017 – Modestly introducing myself – Meet and Greet Post

Goodness . . . in just two weeks time I will be modestly introducing myself to other Eroticon 2017 attendees at the “Meet and Greet” pre-conference drinks evening!

And I shall probably need a drink . . . or two or three . . . to overcome my shyness. But as I mentioned in my Highlights post earlier this month, my first visit to Eroticon 2013 was one of the contributing factors in continuing and developing Modesty Ablaze.

So, as part of the build-up to the weekend, Eroticon host an online Meet and Greet with the introductory questions below, so that we may all learn a little more about one another.
And I am already getting excited tingles as I answer them!!!

1) NAME (and Twitter if you have one)
K is fine, or “Modesty” if you prefer . . .  and at twitter I am @ablazingmodesty

2) What are you hoping to get out of Eroticon 2017?
Actually, I am just so looking forward to putting faces to names . . . and meeting with and listening to . . . people I admire from the blogosphere!

3) This years schedule at Eroticon is pretty full on but which 4 sessions do you already have marked down as ones you want to attend?
Having so enjoyed her two wonderful books, I’m excited about GOTN’s session; likewise Tabitha’s  . . . and how could I miss one of the Kinkcraft workshops? But I imagine that, like most things I do, I shall just play it by ear at the time.

4) Tell us one thing about yourself that not many people know?
I am rather shy when meeting new people for the first time!!!

5) If you made the papers, what would the headline be?
“Same semi-naked woman appears in multiple CCTV images all over the capital?”

6) If you could have one skill for free (I.e. without practice/time/effort) what would it be?
I’d like to have the power to give people an orgasm just by winking at them!!!

7) Complete the sentence: I love it when . . .
I’m asked . . . “another glass madam?”

Eroticon 2017


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From Bottom to Top #Boobday Friday

I had lots of fun posing for my Wicked Wednesday on Valentine’s night . . . but those little hearts just got EVERYWHERE !!!

But if you nip-on-over to Hyacinth’s today, I am sure there will be more boobalicious nipples on display, because as she says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different and powerful boobs, this and every Friday, from clicking Hyacinth’s
lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K

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From the Bottom of my Heart #wickedwednesday

I always enjoy wishing people fun and laughter . . . and lots of  love . . .
every day of the year of course!!!

But as the theme at this weeks Wicked Wednesday is “Valentines”
I just couldn’t resist the opportunity to wish you all, from the bottom of my heart, an especially happy and loving Valentines 2017.

And if you kiss the lovely Marie’s button below, I’m sure there will be lots of other fun and loving Valentines Wishes to enjoy this Wicked Wednesday!


Xxx – K


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Modesty Catches a Bus #sinfulsunday

We’ve all done it haven’t we? Moaned about waiting for a bus in the cold and damp . . . especially when one has an important appointment to keep!

But actually once inside, London Buses are usually very warm and stuffy.

And I often feel like removing my coat so as not to become too
hot and bothered!

And do you find you can’t help but listen-in to other passengers conversations? Whilst trying to look nonchalant and innocent of course!!!

Anyway, the bus is coming-up for my stop . . . so I always make sure I’ve gathered up my scarf and handbag!

And as I stand-up to get off, I always take heed of the signs and look carefully around me in case I feel I have to report something unusual that
I’ve seen on my journey.

It was quite an uneventful bus trip on this occasion, but it’s quite likely that you will find some unusual sights this Sinful Sunday when you push the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

P.S. Just before I rush off to that appointment I’m hoping my commute this morning will qualify for the “Bus” category at Jades Scavenger Hunt pages. And don’t forget, there are lots of my other Scavenger Hunt journeys at
my Scavenger Listings page . . . and now over 90 different locations on
my Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!   

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxxx – K


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