Modestly Marked #sinfulsunday

Even for one of the more extreme requests I’m asked during one of my sessions

. . . I always like to add a little fun and humour!

I think of it as leaving . . . as well as my marks . . . my own modest signature!!!

I’m sure you will find lots more marks of different kinds at this week’s
Sinful Sunday by tapping the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Eroticon 2017 – Modestly introducing myself – Meet and Greet Post

Goodness . . . in just two weeks time I will be modestly introducing myself to other Eroticon 2017 attendees at the “Meet and Greet” pre-conference drinks evening!

And I shall probably need a drink . . . or two or three . . . to overcome my shyness. But as I mentioned in my Highlights post earlier this month, my first visit to Eroticon 2013 was one of the contributing factors in continuing and developing Modesty Ablaze.

So, as part of the build-up to the weekend, Eroticon host an online Meet and Greet with the introductory questions below, so that we may all learn a little more about one another.
And I am already getting excited tingles as I answer them!!!

1) NAME (and Twitter if you have one)
K is fine, or “Modesty” if you prefer . . .  and at twitter I am @ablazingmodesty

2) What are you hoping to get out of Eroticon 2017?
Actually, I am just so looking forward to putting faces to names . . . and meeting with and listening to . . . people I admire from the blogosphere!

3) This years schedule at Eroticon is pretty full on but which 4 sessions do you already have marked down as ones you want to attend?
Having so enjoyed her two wonderful books, I’m excited about GOTN’s session; likewise Tabitha’s  . . . and how could I miss one of the Kinkcraft workshops? But I imagine that, like most things I do, I shall just play it by ear at the time.

4) Tell us one thing about yourself that not many people know?
I am rather shy when meeting new people for the first time!!!

5) If you made the papers, what would the headline be?
“Same semi-naked woman appears in multiple CCTV images all over the capital?”

6) If you could have one skill for free (I.e. without practice/time/effort) what would it be?
I’d like to have the power to give people an orgasm just by winking at them!!!

7) Complete the sentence: I love it when . . .
I’m asked . . . “another glass madam?”

Eroticon 2017


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From Bottom to Top #Boobday Friday

I had lots of fun posing for my Wicked Wednesday on Valentine’s night . . . but those little hearts just got EVERYWHERE !!!

But if you nip-on-over to Hyacinth’s today, I am sure there will be more boobalicious nipples on display, because as she says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different and powerful boobs, this and every Friday, from clicking Hyacinth’s
lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K

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From the Bottom of my Heart #wickedwednesday

I always enjoy wishing people fun and laughter . . . and lots of  love . . .
every day of the year of course!!!

But as the theme at this weeks Wicked Wednesday is “Valentines”
I just couldn’t resist the opportunity to wish you all, from the bottom of my heart, an especially happy and loving Valentines 2017.

And if you kiss the lovely Marie’s button below, I’m sure there will be lots of other fun and loving Valentines Wishes to enjoy this Wicked Wednesday!


Xxx – K


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Modesty Catches a Bus #sinfulsunday

We’ve all done it haven’t we? Moaned about waiting for a bus in the cold and damp . . . especially when one has an important appointment to keep!

But actually once inside, London Buses are usually very warm and stuffy.

And I often feel like removing my coat so as not to become too
hot and bothered!

And do you find you can’t help but listen-in to other passengers conversations? Whilst trying to look nonchalant and innocent of course!!!

Anyway, the bus is coming-up for my stop . . . so I always make sure I’ve gathered up my scarf and handbag!

And as I stand-up to get off, I always take heed of the signs and look carefully around me in case I feel I have to report something unusual that
I’ve seen on my journey.

It was quite an uneventful bus trip on this occasion, but it’s quite likely that you will find some unusual sights this Sinful Sunday when you push the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

P.S. Just before I rush off to that appointment I’m hoping my commute this morning will qualify for the “Bus” category at Jades Scavenger Hunt pages. And don’t forget, there are lots of my other Scavenger Hunt journeys at
my Scavenger Listings page . . . and now over 90 different locations on
my Scavenger Slideshow page as well!!!   

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxxx – K


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Modest Request #Boobday Friday

I seem to be receiving more and more suggestions these days about what I should wear on my pages here . . . although some of those suggestions are more practical than others of course! LOL!!!

But “that red and black with the big collars and the zip at the front”, has obviously been glimpsed from one of my previous posts so . . . to fulfill a special request . . . I popped it on again last night, especially to share here at Boobday Friday for that particular gentleman in question.

And of course for anyone else visiting Boobday Friday because as Hyacinth says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different and powerful boobs, this and every Friday, from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K


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Modesty Ablaze reviews the “Sex Bondage Kit” from

Whatever ones thoughts on the merits of the Fifty Shades phenomenon, there is no denying that it certainly  brought the subject of BDSM out of the “shadows” and into the mainstream. And with the second film in the series about to be released here in the UK, it is sure to arouse yet more interest again.

So I was pleasantly surprised when a quite substantial Sex Bondage Starters Kit arrived in my mailbox recently. Not that I’m a “starter” of course . . . if you’ve been visiting me here over the past few years you will know how much I enjoy my BDSM-side . . . but it’s always nice to experiment with new and different play-things. Particularly when those playthings are from PinkB.O.B., the manufacturer of my all-time favourite Rechargeable Wand Vibrator The Lust (see my review from October).

The Sex Bondage Kit is from PinkBob’s reasonably new Master Kink range and contains eight different items (at an amazing price) which is sure to provide lots of fun, and lots of adventures, whether you are indeed a “starter” or, a more “experienceed” kinkster.

Now, I firstly wanted to say that all of the items here appear to have been made in China. But don’t you dare throw up your hands in disgust and tell me that that must mean “low quality”, because that is far from the case! The quality, and strength, of all of the items here (and YES I have already tested all of them in more than one session) is actually very impressive.

All the actual measurements of each item are available from the manufacturers Amazon page links below (in my normal Specifications Panel), so I won’t list them again all individually, but my favourite item is the Black Mini Flogger.  It is just the perfect weight and size for some close-up and personal (I’m sure you know where) flogging. The handle is just over 4 inches in length and about ¾ inch diameter and fits perfectly in ones hand. It is very light and comfortable to hold, and the fifteen thin leather strands (each just over ½ inch wide) make for a lovely stinging sensations when “in use”. I have used it now on several occasions over the past few weeks and it has become one of the first items I reach for from my “Mistress Cabinet” when I am packing for a new session. In other words, it can make more of an impression than you might at first think . . . but equally makes an ideal first-impact-toy for kinky bedroom foreplay as well.

As in fact, do all the items included in the Master Kink Bondage Kit. And, as I mentioned, the kit price is just amazing when you consider it includes The Flogger, two Wrist Cuffs (with a detachable chain link), a quite lovely Black Leather Mask, a Breathable Ball Gag (which I have already previously reviewed in May 2016), a strong Black Bondage Rope, Nipple Clamps, a Black Leather Collar and a Black Leash (which can clip onto either the Collar itself, or the Wrist Cuffs).

And, a nice touch as well, is the inclusion of a small fold-out leaflet of the “Master Kink Official Guide to Bondage” . . . although I would have liked more information to have been included with each item on material details and after-care.

As well as the eight items included in the Bondage Kit itself, Master Kink (which seems more appropriate for me to use in this context rather than PinkB.O.B.) also sent me a Hog Tie Restraint, a thicker Black Leather Collar & Chain Leash, and some Chain Nipple Clamps.

If you’ve never used Hog Tie Restraints before I can assure you they are certainly lots of fun. The soft faux fur material, and velcro fastening, make them easy and comfortable to apply. They really are ideal for some naughty bedroom fun and perfectly safe to use.

As are the Chain Nipple Clamps which are rubber tipped and non-piercing and non-abrasive, and have a sliding catch for adjustable “pressure”, but still easily and quickly removed. So you get all the pleasure and arousal of nipple play without any lasting  pain.

And finally, that thick Black Leather Collar and it’s Chain Leash. With it’s main leather neck strap of 2 ¼ inches wide and attached thinner restraining strap (1 ¼ inch wide and chrome buckle and double rivet holes) it is adjustable from 12 to 17 ½ inches. It has a strong chrome D-ring attachment at the front to which one can attach the supplied Chain Leash. The leash itself is 31 inches long so ideal for leading ones submissive around the Dungeon, (or as I did last week, on a Fetish-Club night out).

As I’ve mentioned already, all of these items are available at quite amazing prices from Master Kink’s Amazon pages from the links below. I don’t think they ship internationally, but if you live within the US, I highly recommend you make Master Kink your first-stop Fetish shop!!!

The Sex Bondage Kit from Master Kink:
Modesty Rating:
8 out of 10
Pros: Well made and strongly manufactured. Amazingly priced for my North American readers.
Cons: Minimal individual product information supplied (though some measurements etc are listed on the buy-links below).
Supplier Product Links:
The Sex Bondage Kit

Chain Nipple Clamps

Black Collar Leash with Chain
Hog Tie Restraint Kit
The Modesty Video Review(s):
To possibly follow, so just let me know if you are interested!

Additional links: PinkB.O.B. at Instagram  . . . and I also recommend you browse the PinkB.O.B. Blog for helpful hints and tips!!!

The Sex Bondage Kit, Chain Nipple Clamps, Black Collar Leash with Chain and the Hog-Tie Restraint System  were all sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.


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Modesty Ablaze “A Sensual Massage” new video

I’m often asked which of my #realworldsex videos at is my favourite . . . and I normally just have to reply . . . “Well, the latest one of course!”

That’s because they are usually still fresh in my mind . . . and I still have that warm happy feeling of elation and enjoyment that comes after those moments of lovely passion and fun. But I think my newest video  . . . “A Sensual Massage” . . . may actually remain as a personal favourite for a long, long time!!!

It’s from an evening with Lover No.50 that began with me, innocently, just giving him a soothing back massage. I’d told him I’d recently been given some “sensual massage oil” as a gift . . . and that it would be the perfect way for me to give him some attention and help him relax and unwind after a hard day and a long journey to our hotel.

But, of course, as is often the way when I spend time with Lover No.50 . . . that special chemistry that we’ve had right from the very first occasion we met . . . slowly took over and turned into a completely different “Sensual Massage” altogether.

Now I must apologise in advance . . . for my bad language in the early part of this film. I do realise it is rather un-ladylike at times . . . but I always feel so relaxed in his company that I just forget myself, so I hope you will excuse my lack of Modesty !!!

Anyway, as you will see, after quite some time spent massaging 50’s back and legs, he insisted that he give me a massage in return. Well . . . I could hardly refuse could I !!!

And his attentions quickly turned into a Massage Masterclass. I can always tell him exactly what I like, and exactly what I want of course, even when he gets just a little too greedy. But his fingers and tongue soon had me writhing in passion, and gushing and squirting my juices . . . and having it spread everywhere!

I don’t think I’ve ever wanted to come so badly and when it finally came . . . feeling as though I’d had every last breath of air virtually sucked out of me . . . all I could do was gasp and collapse into his embracing cuddle.

So, I hope you will enjoy “A Sensual Massage” because I think it is exactly what #realworldsex at MakeLoveNotPorn . . . is all about . . . just being able to completely lose oneself in the moment . . . and let ones emotions overwhelm and engulf you. previewed “A Sensual Massage” in their special Make Gutsy Love Not Porn edition as:

When Modesty meets up with Lover No. 50 the chemistry is undeniable. What starts with a slow and sensual massage back massage for Lover No. 50 soon turns into him massaging her and then that turns into a whole other kind of body massage. You’ll love watching these two get totally blissed out!

So I hope you will find watching . . . and sharing our fun with us . . . just as rewarding and enjoyable as we did!!!

You can view my introduction to “A Sensual Massage” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as I mention at the end of my introduction, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean).

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“A Sensual Massage” is my 35th video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my thirty-five #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

Make Love Not Porn

Xxx – K

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Modestly Lounging #sinfulsunday

Modesty Ablaze Lounging – 1982

This week’s theme on this Sinful Sunday is “Minimalist – a moment in time, or an artistic perspective, with simplicity and grace”.

Well, I’m not sure about the “grace” . . . and I clearly hadn’t yet discovered waxing . . . but this photo from my #polaroidspast collection, brings back lovely memories from a moment in time in 1982.

For more moments in time, and probably far more artistic perspectives this Sinful Sunday, just kiss the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Modesty Ablaze in Polaroids Past
Be Proud of Who You Were . . . and Be Proud of Who
You Have Become!

Xxx – K


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Modesty’s High Tea #Boobday Friday

One expects to be served tea and breakfast in bed every morning . . . in fact
I insist upon it!

And, whilst most take “High Tea” in the afternoon or early evening, I prefer mine to start the day.

After all, afternoon’s and evening’s are for a glass of wine . . . or two . . .
aren’t they? And for visiting Hyacinth’s, Boobday Friday whilst I tipple,
because as she says . . .

Boobday is a body-positive meme where women share images of their bodies in order to show that there is beauty in all of us.  With confidence comes power and with power comes confidence.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Xxx – K


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