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August 12, 2019 · 8:00 am

Top Tips on How to Meet Other Swingers

Having exciting and satisfying sex is one of the most important things in a person’s life. Not only does it help people feel better about themselves but also increases their chances of being successful in other areas of their life. Swingers seem to understand this perfectly and that’s why they lead such an interesting lifestyle. However, men and women from the swingers dating scene sometimes have a hard time finding couples who might be interested in swinging. Therefore, if you and your lover can’t find other swingers, these top tips are bound to help you with that challenge.

Go to Swingers Dating Sites

If you and your lover are new to all this, you are probably too shy to meet other swingers in person. Newbie couples usually choose this option because they don’t know how to approach other swinger couples and because they don’t want to be seen enjoying this lifestyle in public. If you have the same problems, make sure you create an account on a dating site for swingers and thus meet other like-minded couples. Once you find an interesting couple, you can meet them in person. Don’t worry; these people are very discreet.

Visit Local Swingers Clubs

In case you are not that shy, you should probably visit some of the swingers clubs in your town. People who go there are looking for the same things as you. Therefore, it’s safe to say that visiting these clubs is your best chance to meet the perfect swinger couple. All you have to do is dress nicely, be confident, and show people that you know how to have fun. This is the best way to impress other swinger couples.

Approach the Couple Casually

The best way to approach a swinger couple is by ordering them drinks and introducing yourself. However, make sure you do that casually without even mentioning sex. First of all, you want to know what they are like and whether or not you are good for each other. If you decide that you’re a good match, you can talk about the things you want to do with them.

Know How to Respectfully Bring Up the Lifestyle

Bringing up the swinger lifestyle and sex is the most important thing in this conversation. This is why you have to do it in a respectful and decent way. You can’t just say “Hey, we like you, we want to have sex with you tonight. Are you interested?” You have to be smooth about it. Say that you are new to this and ask them something along the lines of “Are you also newbies? How long have you been in the lifestyle?” This is the best way to bring up the topic without making anyone feel uncomfortable. Then, when everyone is relaxed enough, you can talk about what you like to do in bed. Also, if you want to have sex with them, you need to ask them nicely. “Hey guys, do you want to come to our home and play?” This simple invitation usually works.

As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
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So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

A Beginner’s Guide to Swinging_REALSWINGERS

Swinger hookups are not for everyone, but those who like the idea and believe in open relationships can enjoy sex with other people without feeling the guilt that follows cheating. Also, many people out there fantasize about watching their partner have sex with someone else, and swinging is perfect in this case because this fantasy can be fulfilled with a clear conscience. Check out our beginner’s guide before you enter the world of swinging so you get a better sense of what to expect.

Who Can Get Into Swinging?

Singles and couples alike are welcome to join a swinging community of their choice, while it’s important to note that single women are the most popular. Couples can find other couples to swap partners, but you should keep in mind that inviting a single girl to join you is also a form of swinging and the most popular one. The biggest challenge for newbies, in general, is to figure out what they like and how far they can go. Then and only then can they start looking for partners to swing with.

Soft Swing to Dip Your Toes In

A soft swing is perfect for first timers as it involves kissing and touching without going too far. You can do it with your partner present or watch him or her kiss another person or multiple people. This is a very gentle introduction into the world of swinging that is recommended as the first step before you can be sure what you’re comfortable with and what’s off the table.

Voyeurism and Exhibitionism

Lots of people fantasize about having sex in front of someone else or watching their partner sleep with another person. Swinging fulfills this fantasy and allows couples to watch each other get it on with someone else or have someone watch them in bed. The rules to these scenes are established beforehand and must be agreed upon by every person involved.

Peak Swap

Peak swap is what most people think swinging actually is – having sex with anyone but your partner. Certain variations are allowed, but the point is to engage in sexual activity with a new person or a regular swinging partner, just not your significant other.

Same-Sex Swinging

Same-sex swinging is more popular among women than men, but obviously, that doesn’t mean all gay women partake in swinging. They’re rather good at setting the boundaries and are open-minded to a point unimaginable by most straight couples.

Threesomes

So many men have this fantasy of having sex with two girls at a time, and swinging allows them to live out their dreams. This is precisely why single women are more sought after than single men, and this is the activity of choice of many couples who like to spice things up a little every once in a while. Others use threesomes to explore how far they want to go with swinging, watching as their partner takes another person. Alternatively, you can try having sex with someone else with your partner watching, and see if you feel comfortable enough to pursue swinging on a more regular basis.

As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE Swinging! And it’s certainly worked for me . . . LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

5 Things You Need to Know before You Get into Swinging

Most couples, especially men and women who have been together for a long time, are always looking for new ways to keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom. Sex with another couple, better known as swinging, provides them with a chance to do exactly that. And while having sex with another couple can be rather exciting, finding the right people for this is not always easy. You can’t just go to the swingers dating site and choose the first couple that sends you a message. No, you have to get to know these people before you get into bed with them. This is why we are going to talk about the 5 things you need to know before you get into swinging.

Talk To Your Lover First

Suggesting something like this to your partner out of the blue is never a good thing. They might think that you have some problems in the relationship or that you don’t find them attractive anymore. So, if you want to talk about this with your lover, make sure you bring it up in a casual conversation. This will allow you to see where they stand on swinging. If they are okay with it, then you can suggest you try it out together.

Know Where To Look For Other Swingers

In case you and your spouse want to try out swinging, you have to know where to find other swingers in your town. You can’t just approach any couple you meet and ask them to have sex with you because this is sexual harassment. If you want to find another swinger couple, you have to visit swinger clubs in your town. There, you will find a lot of men and women who are looking for the exact same thing as you.

If One Of You Is Jealous This Won’t Work

Swinging implies that you have sex with other people and if one of you is jealous, this simply won’t work. If seeing your lover with another person makes you jealous, you won’t be able to enjoy swinging. In this case, it’s better not to try it because it can ruin what you have with your spouse.

It’s About Spicing Up Your Sex Life

One of the most important things you have to remember is that swinging is about spicing up your sex life, not an excuse to sleep with other men and women. Swinging is supposed to help you have better sex with your lover. If you are trying to find a new person to sleep with, swinging is not for you.

Be Discreet About It

You should know that most people don’t have nice things to say about swingers. So, if you don’t want to be judged in public, be discreet about your adventures.
If, however, you want to talk about it, talk, but don’t mention the names of people you are having sex with. Respect their privacy because they might not want to be known as swingers.

As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE Swinging! LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

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June 26, 2019 · 8:52 pm

Modestly Swinging #KOTW #wickedwednesday

My earliest experience of swinging was over 30 years ago, shortly after our marriage had blossomed into our “open relationship” fun as a consequence of my “The More I Have” experience.

I’d told Hubby of my curiosity about Swinging as part of our “as long as it’s fun for both of us” desires and fantasies. This was before the days of the internet of course, but we had come across details of a Private and Exclusive Swingers Club in one of the Sunday papers I believe.

It was held at a disco-type night club in Kensington and so Hubby and I, very nervously, decided to apply. I remember we sat in the car several streets away for almost an hour on that first night, trying to build-up the courage to go along and knock on the door.

The club itself was actually quite stylish, with a quiet upstairs bar and a larger dance floor area downstairs. The DJ alternated the lighting in sync with the music he was playing . . . so bright and flashing for the more upbeat songs, and darker and more subdued for the slower music. And once an hour I think, he would announce a “lights down” sequence of around 15 minutes when the lights went almost off completely!

We seemed to be the youngest couple there and despite being interested in some of the scanty outfits on display, I felt awkward and uncomfortable and not at all flattered, or tempted, by any of the couples that approached us. Everyone was polite and and quite friendly, but neither of us felt at-ease enough, nor aroused enough, to wish to engage in anything more than just polite replies or general conversation (when that was even possible above the music, at least downstairs). And I certainly didn’t want to stay on the dance floor when the lights went out!

We lasted three or four hours, before agreeing it just wasn’t for us. And that was the end of our “swingers clubs” experience . . . though not the end of our other fun! . . . for over 20 years.

But our other fun did continue to evolve. Firstly just me sharing the accounts of my “fun nights out” with Hubby when I returned home, (as chronicled in my Modesty Ablaze Diaries), into eventually inviting him along quite regularly to join-in with one of my particular lovers who was quite happy for three-some play-fun as well.

And it was those wonderful evenings that often had us talking again about re-visiting our Swingers experience. No, not at the same club . . . but 20 years on and searching on the internet . . . we found that there was one particular club within easy reach!

So . . . still nervous, but no longer having to sit in the car for an hour beforehand, we took the plunge and . . . over the coming months . . . got very wet!

So much so, that for the best part of that year, it became almost our regular Saturday night out.

The club itself was admittedly more tacky than our Kensington experience,
but . . . older and wiser . . . my own perceptions and expectations had changed so much, and we both felt much more at ease. The hosts were welcoming and laid-back, the clientele seemed much more of our own age, and the no-pressure atmosphere just made it a much easier and more natural-feeling experience.

We had the especially good fortune that our “meet and greet newcomers chaperone”, was a really gorgeous and lovely blonde lady that had both of us swooning. And although we just mingled and chatted, without indulging on that first night, she was the first reason we went back . . . and back . . . and back.

And it was here that we first met some really lovely, fun people, both couples and single-gentlemen . . . and experienced some amazingly fun playtimes with . . . some of whom we still see today. The photograph at the top of this post, which I have used on my pages here before, is a wonderful example of one of those special friendships that just keeps on keeping-on.

I do realise though that Swinging is not for everybody and my advice for anyone curious about making those first initial steps is . . . of course . . . to talk openly and honestly with one’s partner about every possible scenario or worry you may have, before you actually visit your first club or event. It’s just common-sense really . . . but, if something doesn’t feel comfortable then, obviously, just say “thank you, but not tonight”.

In my experience, people always understand that “no means no” and won’t take offence or keep on asking. And there will always be a member of staff you can speak to if you did feel under pressure or that you were the subject of unwanted attention.

At our “local”, most of the attendees are other couples, though they do allow entrance to a few “selected single males”. Occasionally single ladies do attend alone as well.

It’s often difficult when meeting and chatting with couples for the first time, for both partners of each couple to feel interest and attraction. So I am very lucky in that Hubby is often happy to take the role of voyeur without necessarily needing to participate fully. But there have still been occasions when he has said that “thank you, but not tonight”, before I have, on my behalf.

And that is the golden rule for us . . . if one or the other of us is not comfortable . . . chatting and polite conversation is as far as it will go. And that is the beauty of a club, it allows one to mingle and move around . . . and move on. Although we have visited a private party as opposed to a club, that has only been through people we have previously met in the club situation.

Some of my club, and party, experiences are mentioned in my “Unmasked” edition of “The Modesty Ablaze Diaries” and I do have a “Swingers Club” page . . . many of which I haven’t visited, so can’t vouch for personally or even be sure they are still current, but all have been mentioned to me in the past by “friends” or visitors to my pages here. So, if you have any recommendations of your own, please do let me know !!!

You can read . . . and share . . . more experiences and thoughts on “Swinging”
at the current KOTW from kissing the lips below.

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by clicking on the button below !!!

Xxx- K

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May 15, 2019 · 7:00 am

Modestly Spreading a Little Love #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze reading The Big Penis Book

This week’s Food 4 Thought Friday is about highlighting five blogs within the “Sex Blogging Community” that we particularly enjoy . . . and therefore by definition . . . that we find inspiring.

Pick five blogs that you follow at random and tell us what it is about them that you particularly enjoy. How did you find out about them?

Well, as you may have gathered from my occasional postings here, I am definitely more “visual” in the way I approach . . . well, life in general really . . . and that is usually reflected in not just my own posts here, but also in the blog sites I follow and most regularly visit.

And I don’t know about you, but for me everyday life just seems to actually get busier and more and more hectic as every year passes. So that often makes it difficult to keep up with, and visit, everyone’s posts as regularly as I’d like to. And there are simply so many wonderfully exciting, entertaining and insightful blog pages within the “community” that it seems almost churlish in a way to single-out just five. But, I do like rules . . . usually making them, and often breaking them . . .

So . . . I always take enjoyment from the following wonderful websites:

Rebels Notes – Marie’s blog was one of the first “sex-blogging” sites I came across when I started wondering about, and joking with Hubby about, “publishing” my own experiences in the form of a blog page of my own. The honesty, sincerity and directness of Marie’s writings about her journey, and lifestyle, immediately struck a chord. And the more I read, the more in awe I became . . . and have remained ever since. And not just of her posts, but also of her regular photographic updates of her tattoos and piercings.

And it was through following Marie’s Rebels Notes that I soon discovered . . .

Sinful Sunday – Now as I said, I am a “visual” person so discovering Molly’s weekly home for “sinful” photo-erotica was an absolute joy. And it has since become one of our weekly highlights to browse through the collection of fun, clever, beautiful and artistic photos and pictures. And as well as the exciting tingles, and the fun giggles and gasps, it is the expression of positivity about our bodies and our sexuality that resonates so strongly with my own feelings that brings me so much joy at Sinful Sunday every week.

And on the subject of beautiful and clever photo-erotica . . . Sinful Sunday guided me directly to Exposing 40.

Don’t you find that sometimes you know immediately, on seeing that first photo, on hearing that first song, that you will just love everything that person does. Always. Well that is how I felt on my first viewing of Exposing 40 . . . and that is how it has remained. She just seems to have a natural eye for capturing her subjects so perfectly, every time. And yet it is not just her photos that inspire, or have me nodding in agreement, it is the insight and commonsense-ness of her posts that I so enjoy as well.

Another linking click-through from Sinful Sunday sometime ago, led me to If Sex Matters the home of the wonderfully cheeky and exciting May More.

At first it was her gorgeous, and fun, photos that drew me in. But soon, in much the same way as the connection I felt with Marie’s Notes, I felt an empathy and admiration for May’s writing and openness of her experiences and background. And, more recently, an almost voyeuristic attraction to her erotic stories . . . and I am sure that you will find the same!

And finally, but never ever last-ly !!! . . . you know how I keep saying I’m more “visual” and how much I love the erotic in photo-erotica and it is usually the photos that capture my eye before the words? Well that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy erotica in my reading time as well.

And there is one person, one website, that always inspires me to make special reading time . . . because “Everyone Needs a Bedtime Story” and Kay Jaybee is certainly the most erotic, and exciting, writer I have ever read.

I had randomly picked a book from the shelf on my first visit to Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium in Hoxton, and knew instantly as I read one, then two, then three paragraphs on the page I had flicked to, that I needed to take it home with me. “Buy me this, now!” I whispered hoarsely as I thrust ‘The Perfect Submissive’ into Hubby’s hand.

And I’ve had the same, tingly, reactions with every one of Kay’s books since. Always exciting, always imaginative . . . and always, always erotic . . .

Pick five posts/pages from your own blog that you are particularly proud of and include the links in your post.

As I always say, my pages here have grown from a joke and a dare to just indulge in a little bit of “anonymous exhibitionism” about my lifestyle and experiences, to suddenly feeling that we all have a right, a need . . . a duty even . . . to express our beliefs in one’s sexuality and freedom to choose.

So, although neither myself, nor Hubby, have the artistic skills for photography as displayed every week at Sinful Sunday, I am happy and ever hopeful that my occasional Scavenger Hunt adventures, and our memories of Polaroid Pasts, go someway to illustrate how important I feel it is to accept ourselves, for who and what we are. And, to have as much fun as we can as we naturally change and develop throughout lifes’ journey!!!

Similarly, I hope that by sharing my enthusiasm for the “Real World Sexual Values” of fun and adventure, at my Make Love Not Porn pages, will show how important I believe it is to embrace and be proud of our sexual desires and fantasies . . . and to communicate those feelings about what we like, or might like to try, to our partners-in-life.

And, although I can never, ever write erotica in the way that Kay or May can, I do hope that by sharing some of my own lifestyle experiences from the Diaries that I have kept for years and years (and years!), it may possibly help others accept that sexual feelings, attractions . . . and desires . . . are not only normal but one’s personal right to explore and enjoy . . . without guilt or shame !!!

But whichever pages, or posts, people visit here, or at any of the Five websites above . . . or indeed any sites in the “Sex Blogging Community” . . . I’m sure we all share one thing in common. The hope that all our visitors will be able to smile and feel better than when they arrived !!!

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Xxx- K

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May 11, 2019 · 6:55 pm

Modestly Swinging #sinfulsunday

No, not that sort of “Swinging” silly . . . that’s possibly for later this evening!

But, still with my feet raised in the air, swinging of a more relaxing, less energetic, kind . . .

. . . from a lovely, and relaxing, southern summer earlier this year.

Visit this week’s Sinful Sunday . . . to see just how lots of other people have been relaxing recently!!!

Xxx – K

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April 24, 2019 · 7:52 pm

Modestly Getting Things Going #F4TFriday

As this week’s Food For Thought Friday so correctly says . . . “the type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.”

I couldn’t agree more . . . so my responses to the following questions, would be:

When you are in the mood, do you initiate sex, or do you wait for your partner to do so?

I’m a great believer in letting things just develop, or happen, naturally. Quite often the best, and most fulfilling, of liaisons occur quite spontaneously without particularly planning or desiring something in particular. And if the chemistry, and the situation I find myself in, is right . . . then lovely things often just happen of their own accord.

What are your preferred means of letting your partner know that you are in the mood?

For me it is always through laughter and subtle touches . . . suggestive comments and recalling previous fun situations. And then probably reaching out for the others hand, stroking their arm or a gentle squeeze or cuddle.

What methods of foreplay do you most enjoy?

Kissing . . . it must always start with a kiss. Casual and teasing at first, slowly becoming more and more passionate . . . and then !!!

What methods of foreplay would you like more of or more often?

Well . . . once those passionate kisses have got me going, I tend to forget about foreplay!!!

What was the most daring/risky quickie that you have ever had, and how did it come about?

I had to really think about this question as I’m not a fan of a “quickie”.
I much prefer to not rush things, but to take ones time and relax into those special moments of togetherness.

But I suppose the most “risky” liaison I have had, was some years ago on a
night-out for “just for a drink” with one of my lovers. We’d decided to take a detour through our local park . . . and pause for a “rest” on a bench on one of the pathways. As was usually the case, I’d gone without knickers, so was able to easily sit astride his lap . . . and quickly get carried away with myself, thinking about how much Hubby would enjoy me telling him all about our “rest” . . .
as soon as I got home!!!

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Xxx- K

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March 26, 2019 · 7:31 am

A Modest Hook-Up

I know I’ve admitted before that I can be a greedy girl when the moment takes me . . . and I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who helps me indulge in those moments from time-to-time.

We hadn’t played for sometime but . . . of course . . . I always like to keep my profiles updated on our fun “friend finder” sites and so regularly receive messages and “invites”.

Often those messages don’t inspire me, but one “invite”, from what we’d found to be our best hook up site, included an unusually well composed response to my profile status and several photos that certainly piqued my interest!!!

And that interest grew as our fun exchange of teasing messages continued over the course of the next few days.

Often the young men from whom I receive those initial invites are quickly put-off once they realise that my “Mature lady seeking energetic young play-partners for occasional cuckolding fun” actually means always having Hubby present and involved (if not physically . . . or at least, not always physically! LOL!!!).

So, once I’d made that perfectly clear, it would be the last I would hear from many of them. But this young man was different.

His responses were just as teasing as mine, and the nature of his banter intrigued me more and more. Especially as he assured me that Hubby’s presence would be exciting rather than off-putting!

And then there were those photos !!!

Of course, meeting someone “in-the-flesh” is completely different to chatting with them on-line. So we now have a fixed routine of agreeing to meet any potential play-partners for a “first-off chat just to see how we get on”, at a
quiet-ish downtown bar that we . . . by now . . . know very well.

Unbeknown to them, we will have already booked a hotel just around the corner, in the event (hope), that I will be happy for our “chat” to progress further. There have been times when I’ve decided that I actually didn’t feel comfortable enough to progress, and I have politely had to say “it’s been lovely to meet you. Hubby and I will talk about things and let you know how we feel about perhaps meeting again in the next few days”.

Pre-booking is never wasted of course, as it’s always lovely fun . . . in a different, indulgently-decadent way . . . to frolic ourselves on those crisp, freshly pressed, white hotel sheets.

But, on this occasion . . .

We arrived early, as always, in order to get one of our favourite tables with a view of the entrance in from the street. But, shortly before our agreed time, my young man texted to say he was running late! “Not a good start !!!” I texted back.

So, by the time we did see him arriving, I was already on my second glass of wine. But within minutes of his welcoming hug . . . and confident looking handshake with Hubby . . . I knew we would definitely be sharing our pre-booked room!!!

Xxx – K

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February 6, 2019 · 8:30 am

A Very Social Relationship . . . #wickedwednesday & #F4TFriday

Modesty Ablaze reads "Behind The Blinds"

The theme this Wicked Wednesday is “Social” . . . which seems to go hand-in-hand, with this week’s Food For Thought Friday questions, so . . .

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

I have been incredibly blessed to have been with the same partner for over 38 years, and over the course of our wonderfully loving relationship, I have been able to indulge in and enjoy . . . and in fact still enjoy . . . all of the experiences mentioned above.

They didn’t all happen immediately, nor all at once of course, but even in the first few months of our marriage we were able to talk-about and express our desires and fantasies.

I did find it awkward at first to overcome those feelings that we all have in our early years that one should feel “guilty” about having sexual thoughts. That sex should be “lights-out and private” and only to procreate and certainly not to admit that it was actually enjoyable!

But, to be honest, and perfectly clear about putting this post into true perspective, it wasn’t until I unexpectedly and unexplainably, “strayed” into an office affair . . . and Hubby’s reaction to that . . . that I was suddenly, and completely, able to release myself from all of those shackles and fears and become true to myself . . . and to our marriage.

So, to answer the question above specifically, our open and honest lifestyle has allowed us to enjoy all of those experiences to the full.

And yes, on the one hand, they are all different . . . and yet all based on the same (for us) principle of just talking to each other, expressing our “interest” and both agreeing that each of us is completely happy with the situation(s) we find ourselves in.

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Apart from that earliest office acquaintance, we have met most of our friends at Clubs or Party Events . . . so all of them have been “interesting” in one way or another.

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

Whilst a lot of those experiences have been one-off adventures, we have been incredibly lucky to have formed several long-lasting regular relationships with a number of people whom have become friends in every sense of the word, not just in the sexual context. And those sort of friendships only evolve if one feels totally at ease and comfortable with each person involved.

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

Whenever, or however, I am approached . . . whether singly or by a couple . . .
I always immediately tell people about my relationship with Hubby and that everything is always completely open and straightforward, and I explain exactly what my expectations and “rules” are.

Over the years I suppose I have grown into the more dominant role in our own situation, (particulary since discovering, and enjoying, my FemDom fun), so now I will only switch, just occasionally, with one long-standing, friend.

As I mentioned earlier, our relationship just seemed to naturally evolve from one adventure to the next . . . and it still continues to do so . . . with new people we meet and new experiences we share.

And that is what makes it so wonderfully fulfilling.

If your relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

I would describe our relationship as “open and fun” and the principal dynamic is that, nowadays, we always play together.

We do have small circle of reasonably regular friends . . . and whilst they may not all personally know one another, they will all know of each other.