Category Archives: Swinging

For Her and Him #Boobday Friday


My #Boobday post today probably isn’t what you were expecting from the title, but . . . whenever I’m entertaining “special friends” . . . I do like to offer special choices. After all, sharing is nice isn’t it and I think you’ll probably find lots of other sharing boobies at Hyacinth’s Boobday page today, where:

Boobday is a weekly meme for us to honor breasts of all shapes and sizes belonging to all types of folks.

All of us who are the owners of breasts know their magical powers, but not everyone gets to hear it. I hope this will become a place of support and praise.

I totally, totally agree . . . and I’m sure you will LOVE seeing different boobs this, and every, Friday from clicking Hyacinth’s lovely cleavage below!


Oh . . . and P.S. The Her’s and His cards are courtesy of The Fantasy Box . . . and it certainly is a Fantasy I’ve actually enjoyed . . . on lots of occasions!!!

Xxx – K


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It matters to me #wickedwednesday


This Wednesday’s theme at Marie’s #wickedwednesday is “Nothing Really Matters”. Based around a recent song of the same title . . . but a statement that can be interpreted in lots of different ways.

Because . . . of course . . . so many things in our world do, and should, matter!

BUT . . .  sometimes when one is caught in a particular moment of fun and enjoyment, or love and lust, or attraction and affection . . . it is a wonderful release to just completely give-in to those feelings. To let yourself go and to give your whole being to that precise moment in time . . . moments when nothing else really matters at all. Just to share and enjoy, and to give back to those you are with, the pleasure and fun you are experiencing.

And, as you can probably gather from the snapshot above,  for me at this particular moment in time, nothing else mattered at all!!!

And I expect you will discover lots of other things that matter . . . or not, as the case may be . . .  by visiting Wicked Wednesday from the button below!!!


P.S. The snapshot above is the “prequel” of the “sequel” I shared last weekend at Sinful Sunday. Both of which are taken from a new video which I hope to tell you about  soon on my Modesty Ablaze Videos page.

 Xxx – K


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Sinfully Swinging @ #sinfulsunday


It’s been so, so busy lately . . . but I still managed some “Girl On A Swing” fun on a very, very Sinful Sunday!!!

And it really was such (sinful) fun that I may just soon share the . . . prequel . . .
if I’m asked nicely!

You are sure to see lots more sinful fun at this weeks Sinful Sunday from pushing on the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Marie Rebelle’s “A Splash of Red” – 2009 #polaroidspast

Marie Rebelle's Splash of Red 2009

Marie Rebelle’s “A Splash of Red” 2009

One of the experiences I’ve enjoyed most in my three years of posting here at Modesty Ablaze, has been discovering and meeting people with a similar outlook on life.

Similar experiences, similar stories . . . and similar fetishes (LOL!!!)

And one of those people has been the lovely Marie Rebelle. Not only is Marie one of the most prolific bloggers of all things erotic at her rebellious Rebel’s Notes . . . and the creator and curator of the delightfully wicked Wicked Wednesday . . . she also has an envious collection of biographical images and photographs. Such as her lovely “A Splash of Red” photograph from 2009.

And it is so lovely . . . and so in-keeping with my Polaroids Past theme of  “looking back at ourselves and celebrating the person we were . . . AND the person we have become”.

I loved Marie’s image and post so much that I just had to ask her if she would allow me to re-post it here. And I am so thrilled that she said “yes”. And, judging by the fact that she has made it one of her #febphotofest series, I suspect there will be many more exciting splashes at Rebel’s Notes to come.

If you would like to join Marie and I in celebrating your own #polaroidspast please do get in touch by clicking on the Polaroids Past image below.
(Now, who can that be???)


Xxx – K



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A 1988 Office Affair #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Office Affair

Polaroids Past – Modesty in the office – 1988

Oh dear, all our Festive Fun is definitely well and truly over! Back in the office and back to the stresses and strains of “normal” office life.

But have you ever found yourself tempted at the office . . . into an office affair? That is just what Marie is asking at this week’s Wicked Wednesday!!!

“Office Affair. Did you ever have one. Or wished you had one with the hunk of the office or the sexy secretary? Do you have a fantasy about someone at the office? If you have or had an office affair, how did it start? And how did it end? Why did it end?”

Well, I have to honestly answer Marie’s question that . . . Yes I did. A long time ago . . . 1988 actually. So Marie’s prompt brought back (nice for me) memories. I’m  not going to share all the details here, but just couldn’t resist including one of my Polaroids Past” photographs from that very year which seems to perfectly fit the Office-Affair theme.

What I can tell you is that the affair had an amazing impact on my marriage . . . and life since (see The More I Have”).

BUT, But, but . . . I was very, very lucky and I would never suggest that one’s work-place is really the right environment for indulging in extra-curricular activities. But I’m sure there will be quite a wide variety of different answers, anecdotes and memories . . . to be found by tapping on the Wicked Wednesday  button below.



Xxx – K



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Marvellous Year #wickedwednesday

ModestyAblazeCollar3This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is ushering in the New Year . . . so it seems fitting to look back on the last twelve months as well as looking forward to the year ahead.

2014 really has been a busy . . . and simply marvellous year!!!
A year in which I’ve made many new friends . . . and continued to have marvellous times with existing ones.


A year in which I have had a number of new . . . and fun . . . videos released at my favourite entertainment site, including more of an exhausting but sexciting session with Lover No.36, a wonderfully spontaneous, special moment with She Lover, and a return to the Dungeon for more bondage fun with Lover No.14.

I really do love . . . and I love being part of it . . . (I try to explain just why in my YouTube video above).

DiamondDream2I was also delighted to be asked to review a number of new sex-toys during the year including items from Lelo, Lovehoney, Nomi TangUberkinky and A Touch of Glass.

So I wanted to say a special “thank you” to those people who sent me those items for review. My Toy Reviews page has more information on these . . . and you can view my video reviews for The Infiniti Dual-Stimulation Vibrator >here< or The Diamond Dream Glass Dildo >here<.

The Perfect SubmissiveThis year was also very exciting for me as it marked publication of the second and third instalments of my all-time favourite erotic read “The Perfect Submissive”, written by my all-time favourite Erotic Authoress, Kay Jaybee. Kay writes the most erotically charged, and arousing, collection of words I have ever read. Every chapter of “The Perfect Submissive Trilogy” left me wanting more but just having to put the book down to . . . well you know why!!!

And, STOP PRESS, even more sexciting news! Xcite Books announced just last month that they have asked Kay to write one final instalment in the series. Due to be published in 2015, I am tingling already!!!

Mistress Modesty Ablaze

2014 was also the year in which I really began to enjoy the fun and excitement of my BDSM and Femdom experiences.

Largely of course from the encouragement of Lover No.14 and our wonderful time at The Hoxton Dungeon Suite.

Since that first dungeon-night I’ve been lucky enough to have had several more dungeon sessions booked for me in order to indulge in, and expand on, my Domme experiences. I’ve also enjoyed visiting a number of BDSM and Fetdom club nights around London . . . and I certainly hope to be exploring these fun “alternatives” even further in 2015.

Modesty Ablaze & Curvaceous Dee at One Tree Hill

And, of course, 2014 was also the year I managed to meet-up with the wonderful Curvaceous Dee, in her home town, and indulge in some fun Two-For-One posts at one of my favourite pastimes >Scavenger Hunt<!

Not only is it great fun, but it is also a celebration of expressing ourselves and our sexuality. I truly do encourage you all to join in and Dare to Bare!!!

Polaroids PastAnd 2014 was also the year of “outing from my wardrobe” our photo-album collection from years gone by.

Lot and lots of naughty-but-fun photographs from the past 30 years, which Hubby has been laboriously scanning into his computer and turning into my occasional Polaroids Past archive.

It’s been fun re-living the memories, but also reminding myself that we all have to accept the way our body just naturally changes and develops throughout the course of our lives.

But from sharing all of that fun and excitement of the past year here on my blog,  I truly hope that I have also been able to have given you all lots and lots of good reasons to smile and giggle and feel some sense of fun as well.

Because that is why I blog . . . just in the hope that my posts may bring a smile to peoples faces, make them feel happier . . . and perhaps even inspire someone to open-up and express and share their own desires and expectations within their own day-to-day lives and relationships.

Modest Thank You’s – 2014

My End-of-Year, Must-Visit Blogs List has been so difficult to compile this year. Just as I’ve discovered new interests (LOL!!!) and new friends, I’ve also discovered new bloggers and new blog pages.

So I thought I would just simply list, in no-particular order of preference, the pages that have given me the most fun and giggles . . . or most inspiring moments of 2014.

A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind Bobbie Morgan’s site is packed full of fun and interesting as well as educational stories, images and links.

Curvaceous Dee . . . home of the Scavenger Hunt, but many more fun and interesting posts besides.

Girl On The Net . . . irreverent, funny, opinionated, enlightening . . . and always entertaining.

Beck And Her Kinks  .  . . toy reviewer, inspiring meme contributor, and surely the busiest sex-blogger ever.

Penny For Your Dirty Thoughts . . . Always amazingly creative, and naughty, photography . . . and wonderfully informative toy reviews galore.

Rebels Notes . . . Curator of Wicked Wednesday, Kinky Submissive, Erotic Writer . . . I’m in awe of her daily posts.

Molly’s Daily Kiss . . . Creator of Sinful Sunday, Host to The Pussy Pride Project and E-Lust Memes, Erotic Photographer extraordinaire, Erotic Writer . . . and more!

Tiny Nibbles . . . Violet Blue’s blog is THE most comprehensive Sex and Erotica news-site you could ever wish for. Links and stories of sex and scandals, and rights and wrongs from all over the world.

A Sexy Woman of A Certain Age . . . I’ve only come across Erica’s wonderful blog in the latter half of this year. But her classy and stylish blog features so many inspiring posts that always seem to resonate for me.

And I could go on . . . and on . . . as there are of course, so many other inspiring and delightfully fun and entertaining blog pages I try to visit as often as I can . . . far too many to add here.

But that’s part of the fun of exploring isn’t it . . . and if you would like to recommend a blog or website that inspires and motivates you and would like to recommend it to others, please do let me know!!!

Finally . . . I would like to thank everyone who has commented on some of my posts during the year . . . or especially taken the time to email me personally with thoughts, comments and questions. I really, really do appreciate all of your messages and I hope I’ve been able to answer everyone who has contacted me.

I wish you all a Happy, Healthy, Fun
and of course . . . Sexy . . . 2015.

May all your hopes and desires be fulfilled!!!

For more thoughts and hopes and desires for the New Year, just stroke Marie’s Wicked Wednesday  button below.


Xxx – K



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Hair to Bare #wickedwednesday

Hair . . . or Bare? It is of course a matter of personal preference . . . and certainly back in 1985 it had never crossed my mind as to be anything other than “au naturel”!!!


Polaroids Past . . . Modesty au naturel in 1985.

And yet as soon as my “personal hair” had started growing, I’d always shaved my armpits . . . because as mother had told me “nice girls do”!!! But there was never any mention of shaving “further down below”.

It wasn’t until I discovered Nina Hartley, and her wonderfully fun and liberating movies, that I was tempted to shave my pubic hair.

Both Hubby, and my regular lover at the time (No.1), declared they loved it.
The smoothness of the “look” . . . and the smoothness of the “feel”. And so I continued.

But as time went by, I found the daily maintenance required to be tiresome . . . and time-wasting! So I began booking regular waxing appointments . . . and have just continued to do so. All of my lovers over the past years have seemed to comment approvingly . . . and so I remain . . . bare below.

Valentine kisses from Modesty Ablaze

Bare kisses from Modesty Ablaze – 2012

But, as I say . . . I know it is really a case of personal preference and I am sure you will find many diverse, and interesting, opinions on the subject at this week’s Wicked Wednesday from the button below.



Xxx – K



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Exorcising Modesty’s Skeleton . . . #wickedwednesday

WomenBehindWordsI’m sure we all have “Skeletons in the Closet”, some so personal and private that we would never wish for them to be disclosed.

But opening up my own skeleton (this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday) led to the most wonderful, emotional release that changed my life forever . . . and for the better!

I left home and moved in with my husband-to-be at just 19, not long out of school . . . but swept off my feet. Life was fun and fulfilling and we married two years later. Pre-children, and with Hubby working seven days a week starting a new business, I slowly began finding myself bored with my evenings-alone home-making and decorating our new flat. And with more and more time on my hands

. . . a new job of my own gave me new interests and new friends, one of whom was rather dishy! Lunchtime coffees, turned into after-work drinks. And after-work drinks turned into after-work meals . . . and, somehow, after just a few weeks, I suddenly found myself involved in an extra-marital affair.

It wasn’t that I’d fallen out of love with Hubby, it wasn’t that our own sex had become unfulfilling or routine . . . it was just that someone else desired me, flattered me, interested me and I found that interest, and flattery exciting and entrancing . . . and I just couldn’t resist.

Of course I felt terribly guilty after each meeting . . . telling myself each time that it would be the last. But I couldn’t stop myself and the affair continued. After all, it wasn’t as though I expected, or even wanted, a permanent relationship with my new lover. I didn’t want to change my life, or his. We both knew the times we were together were just something different and exciting and just-for-the-moment. And the fact that sex with Hubby immediately after a meeting with my lover, seemed to reach new heights of lust and passion, just added to the excitement of my secret life.

But . . . as time passed and the excitement of our lover-liaisons began to assume almost a normalcy of their own . . . those nagging feelings of guilt began to return. I was cheating on someone I truly loved . . . I was living a lie. I knew it wasn’t right, it wasn’t how it was supposed to be.

I can still remember the evening I told Hubby I was having an affair . . . still remember the song he was playing on the stereo as I sat down beside him on the sofa . . . still remember his question “Well, do you want to tell me something?”

I blurted out my “confession” . . . thinking all the while that it would shatter our world, that he would explode with feelings of betrayal and that it would be the end of our marriage. But INSTEAD Hubby told me he’d suspected it for months, not knowing the who or where, but suspecting the when and how often.

And to my amazement, he said he not only understood my feelings of flattery and excitement . . . and my giving-in to temptation . . . he actually wanted me to continue the relationship, to continue to enjoy the freedom and excitement of what was mine, and only mine, to give. The fact that he wasn’t jealous, wasn’t outraged or upset . . . was just the most wonderful, emotional and loving feeling I had ever felt.

That moment changed our lives and I truly believe, made our relationship EVEN stronger and more loving and more fulfilling than either of us could ever have imagined.

That day was over 27 years ago! The affair with Lover No.1 continued, with Hubby and he meeting and becoming friends. And over the years since there have been many more lovers . . . and many more wonderful and incredible adventures . . . and new chapters that still continue to open before us.

And when I often . . . very, very often . . . think how wonderfully fun, and loving, and exciting our years together have been, I thank God that I did open my Closet Doors and exorcise that Skeleton!!!

You are sure to find many more Skeletons in The Closet by gently knocking on Marie’s button below!


Xxx – K



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Modesty’s Back Pages . . . #wickedwednesday

This week’s Wicked Wednesday theme is “Looking Back” and, of course,
I just couldn’t resist “looking back” with one of my Polaroids Past photographs from 1982.

But, I really, really, really don’t want to bore you all . . . so, if you are growing tired of faded, old (and hairy!) photographs from my Back Pages . . . please look away now!!!

My Modest Apron 1983

This picture is especially for the lovely She Lover . . . a picture of me modestly modelling my apron in my “brand-new kitchen” in 1983!!!

You are sure to find lots more people Looking Back by gently tapping on Marie’s button below!



Xxx – K



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First Times? . . . Keep having them!!! #wickedwednesday

MistressModestyRedWheelThis week’s Wicked Wednesday theme is “First Times” . . . remembering one’s first-time experiences in love, lust and sexual adventures.

But . . . when you get to my age . . . remembering “first-times” can often be a bit of a blur. Especially as there have been so many first times! LOL!!!

So . . . my advice . . . is to keep having First Times! Try new things, new experiences, new adventures!

I did just that this past weekend! Having a new submissive hire a dungeon, just for me, to worship (and lovingly massage) my feet, to feel my crop, to have me strap them to the Bondage Wheel (wow!!!), and to beg . . .

MistressModestyWheel1. . . for my strap-on!!!

So, as I say, my advice is to Keep Having First Times . . . it’s so much more fun that way!

And I’m sure you’ll find lots more about First Times by slapping on Marie’s button below!


Xxx – K



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