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Modestly In2mate . . . because today is National Orgasm Day

As you may have noticed from my posts during this past week, I’m only just back from my (wonderful!) summer hols and am still catching-up on my inbox.

But today, Monday July 31st, is National Orgasm Day . . . so I could hardly let a day celebrating one of my favourite pastimes go without a mention could I ???

And one of several messages mentioning National Orgasm Day, to have arrived in my inbox whilst I was away, which really caught my eye was a post about a NEW intimate skincare range.

It caught my eye because as I said in my Modest Lubrications post last March, I’ve found that as I’ve “matured” over the past few years, I really do need more lubrication than I used to. It’s just a natural consequence of growing a little older of course. The desire is still there . . . but as our bodies change, particularly through menopause, we produce less natural juices.

Now, I haven’t had the opportunity to personally try any of the In2mate products yet but having read the details below, I certainly intend to over the next few weeks. I will of course report back here then, but in the meantime I think today is the perfect time to re-post the information I received about In2mate.

In2mate is a NEW intimate skincare range with almost 100% natural ingredients to help rejuvenate, repair, detoxify and lubricate vaginal skin.


Vaginal skin is affected by age like any other area of skin on the body. It receives a high level of wear and tear due to sex, childbirth and tampons, so it’s even more important to preserve skin in this delicate area, and for this, antioxidants are key.

In2mate products are among the first to contain a patented antioxidant called PROTEOLEA® which has been proven to help rejuvenate delicate areas of skin by slowing down age-related oxidised cellular waste degradation, by optimising cellular recycling. This process helps improve flexibility and moisturisation for a more radiant appearance and healthier feel.


Healthy bacterial balance in the vagina is crucial for maintaining good vaginal health. The humid and airless environment of the vagina combined with sexual activity, makes for an ideal place for the breeding of bad bacteria and fungus.

In2mate skincare contains a patented probiotic Biolin®, proven to help increase the good flora in the vagina while inhibiting the growth of bad vaginal bacteria that can lead to bacterial vaginitis, thrush and other l infections and imbalances.

Biolin® also repairs and strengthens vaginal skin damaged by age-related thinning, chafing and abrasions.

In2mate products also contain Jujube extract, a natural wound healing tonic for helping to repair and strengthen damaged skin.


The vagina is particularly vulnerable to bad bacteria and so extra defences against toxic build up help protect the vagina from infections.

In2mate products contain Oleuropein, a mild and natural anti-bacterial and detoxifying plant polyphenol, derived from olive trees. Suitable for vaginal skin, it helps shield against the build-up of bad bacteria and also detoxifies vaginal skin leaving it cleaner and purer.


All skin loses moisture with age, but in particular the thin vaginal skin begins to lose moisture when female sex hormones begin to deplete in the run up to the menopause.

In2mate products contain Levan, a natural plant fructose that protects plants against damage from frost and drought by locking in moisture via the formation of a natural micro film over the plant’s surface. Used on the skin it does the same thing, helping lock in moisture and giving skin a smoother more slippery feel.

The right pH?

In2mate products keep the vagina at a pH of 4.5 or below. Normal skin is not as acidic as the vagina. Any product whether it’s a moisturiser, lubricant or wash will also be in contact with skin near the vagina. So In2mate have struck a healthy balance between the skin around the vagina and the tissue within. 4.5 is the perfect pH ‘balance’ because it’s not too high for the vagina and not too low for the skin.

The In2mate skincare range is over 99% natural and includes a gentle, non-perfumed intimate wash, a light non-sticky non-perfumed intimate moisturiser and a natural-feeling non-perfumed rejuvenating lubricant.

The In2mate complete skincare range costs £19.95 (or each item can be bought individually). Visit:

There are no affiliate links used within this review.

And, as I say I will report back here on my own personal experience of the In2Mate Skincare range just as soon as I can.

Xxx – K

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Top 50 Sex-Positive Websites @Lubezilla

It’s always nice when people say lovely things about you . . . and it was especially nice for me recently to be mentioned in Lubezilla’s “Top 50 Sex-Positive Websites listings.

Because . . . as I’ve said before . . . the over-riding reason for me posting here as Modesty Ablaze, has always been to encourage people to make their lives and experiences “fun and natural and sharing”. Not to suppress, or feel guilty about one’s sexual thoughts and desires, but rather to celebrate and enjoy those feelings and express and share them within their own relationships, and their own everyday emotions.

I always feel that, as in every aspect of our lives, sharing smiles and laughter,
and embracing all of our emotions and passions, makes all of us better people. Not just ourselves . . . but those around us, and who may come in contact with us, whether it be in person . . . or by stumbling across these pages in the wider world beyond.

This is not to belittle all those important issues of sexual equality and education and dispelling prejudice, but there are many Lifestyle Bloggers (I prefer that term to that of just “Sex Bloggers”) far more eloquent than I, and much better than I, at addressing and discussing all of those subjects.

But for me, if I can just make people giggle for a few minutes, or perhaps embolden people (through myPolaroids Past pages) to accept that we all change as we “mature” and that we should just embrace those changes and be proud of who we are, where we have come from, and all the fun and good times we have all achieved along the way . . . then I will be happier too.

And I know you will find lots more like-minded people as you scroll through Lubezilla’s wonderful list, who will inspire and motivate you . . . I urge you to click the link below, and have lots of fun exploring!!!


Top 50 Sex-Positive Websites

NB: Thank you, as always, to the lovely John Tisbury (see my sidebar!!)
for taking my photo above!

Xxx – K

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Modest Lubrications @Lubezilla

They say Great Sex is made from Great Communication . . . and whilst that’s certainly always been true for me, I would like to add another line to that mantra . . . “great sex is made even greater by great lubrication”.

Because as I’ve found as I’ve “matured” over the past few years, I really do need more lubrication than I used to. It’s just a natural consequence of growing a little older of course. The desire is still there . . . but as our bodies change, particularly through menopause, we produce less natural juices don’t we.

If you’re a regular visitor here you will know that I’ve been happily non-monogamous for a long, long time. (And I stress the happily . . . and long
. . . LOL!!!!) And in the earlier years of our open-relationship lifestyle I was actually very naïve about lubricants. And possibly even quite dismissive . . . as I simply didn’t ever seem to need any additional wetness.

The only time I would ever think about lube was during swingers evenings when, of course, it was a mandatory accessory . . . but as I say, I was naïve and yes, I will admit, probably uninterested.

What changed my mind? Well . . . nature changed my body . . . and my body changed my mind. So, over the past few years lubrication has been a new, and necessary accessory to my lifestyle.

And as it became more “necessary” . . . So it became much more important for me to think more about exactly what it was that was being spread on to my personal bits.

In the first instance(s) of course, I could sense what I liked and what I didn’t. Not from reading the label or asking for a detailed ingredients breakdown as it was about to be applied. After all in the “subdued” lighting of the couples room at Swingers-4-Fun et al, it was hardly the environment or appropriate moment(s) to enquire. But I could “feel” the sticky, tackiness (sic!!!) . . . or smell . . . or taste, the residue or after-burn! So I suddenly decided that I needed to take much more of an interest in lubricants and what they contained or what they were made of. After all, we are all much more careful nowadays of the additives and ingredients in the food we eat, and the deodorants, soaps and shampoo we use . . . so surely we should be just as careful about the personal body-products we use. In fact even more so !!!

Of course it was easy . . . very easy . . . to quickly shun the straight-off-the-supermarket-shelf, seemingly universally popular and well-known brand-name make. You know the one, the one that looks like cough-mixture and has that consistency of a slow-drying glue!

But where to go from there? After all, each of us are different! And each of us react in different ways and different situations. And nowadays there are just so many different sorts and different styles of lubricating options available.

Ok, well perhaps still not, in one’s local supermarket. But certainly on-line!!!

Water-based, silicone based, oil, hybrid . . . lubricants for anal play, naturally organic lubes, flavoured lubes, non-flavoured lubes. And what about all those ingredients, what are Parabens? Glycerins?

So many options and so many questions . . . it can be confusing and overwhelming even just thinking about them. But don’t worry, I’m not going to go into all those sorts of details here . . . you know me, I’m not the most technically-minded at the best of times.

But I don’t have to be . . . and you don’t either . . . because has the most incredible, fully-descriptive and comprehensive lists and links for anything and everything to do with lubricants, that I’ve ever come across.

This amazing website at is like a wonderfully wicked-pedia online-resource for what seems like almost every brand, and every type of lubricant, one could ever imagine. And browsing their fabulous website you can’t help but be impressed by the detail and research, and the obvious amount of time and effort that has gone into it’s development.

The layout is clear and easy to read and every link and every product seems to have an amazingly detailed description of  lubricant type, size, content, and ingredient-list of just what it’s made from.

AND every item has it’s own 1-minute-plus, descriptive video with product demonstrations and concise information about the particular brand and it’s uses. They are simply fabulous!!!

The Lubezilla 101 section of the site features blog-style postings covering a huge range of interesting and informative stories and helpful hints and answers to all those Frequently Asked Questions that one might have about not just Lubricants, but Condoms, sexual health and best practices.

AND . . . I’m getting all “lubricated” the more I talk about it . . . . . . doesn’t just stock lubricants, they also offer an absolutely huge range of Adult Toys and Accessories and an equally large range of Body and Beauty and Sexual Hygiene products.

For my North American readers has free delivery on all orders over $50 . . . BUT don’t worry, they do ship internationally as well, and the packaging is discreet and noted as “novelty products”.

As I say, I’ve become quite excited as I’ve been sitting here typing away about . . . and I’m sure you will soon be thrilling to learn more about lubrication . . . and more . . . as well.  So I truly urge you to start with their lovely welcoming video by clicking on the link above (or >here< if you’re already too excited to be able to scroll back up the page!!!) I know you won’t be disappointed.

Lubezilla Dot Com:
Modesty Rating:
10 out of 10
Pros: Easy to navigate and superbly comprehensive and informative pages and links.
Cons: I honestly can’t think of any!

Additional links: At Twitter  . . . and I really do recommend you browse their Lubezilla 101 pages for wonderfully comprehensive information and FAQs!!!

There are no affiliate links used within this review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

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