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Mistresses Pleasure #wickedwednesday

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“On Your Knees” is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday . . . and I often feel it is a Mistresses Pleasure to command one’s submissive to kneel and offer the type of Body Worship I most enjoy!!!

I’m sure there will be lots more offerings to be found from
worshipping the circle below!

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Xxx – K

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Laying the table #sinfulsunday

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Laying the table for the final #mistressmodestyablaze session of the month
. . . and a very sinful session it was too.

And if you . . . gently and responsibly please . . . smack the lips below, I’m sure you will discover lots more sinful sessions this Sunday!!!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews “The Carpet Beater” from @UberKinky

ModestyAblazeCarpetBeaterNone of us actually beat our carpets or rugs to clean them any longer do we? That’s something we do with a vacuum cleaner nowadays isn’t it? Or rather something we have done for us by a willing submissive with a vacuum cleaner!

But having recently received The House of Eros “Carpet Beater” (above and below) from my favourite Toy Shop Uberkinky . . . I would certainly recommend you still make a place for one in your closet . . . or more likely your bedroom wardrobe!!!

ModestyAblazeCarpetBeaterCompleteWhen I first came across it’s very distinctive shape on the Uberkinky website, I thought it looked like a giant pretzel . . . and so was immediately intrigued, and curious, to find out more. Especially as I am always interested in adding more “impact” toys to my armoury!!!

Although I could tell it was quite a big implement from the measurements given on the Uberkinky product page . . . it wasn’t until the Postman turned-up on my doorstep with the carefully wrapped package, that I realised just how big it actually is.

ModestyAblazeCarpetHeadThe Carpet Beater measures 29 and a half inches from the bottom of the handle to the top rim of the spanking paddle. It is 8 inches across at the widest part of the paddle, and the reed-spokes are each about 8mm wide.

The diameter of the handle is about 1 and a half inches and is reasonably easy to grip. In fact, despite it’s size it is surprisingly light to handle because it is made from willow reeds.

The willow is nicely varnished so it is smooth to the touch when you rub ones fingers over it.

And, as you can see from my photographs, the way the reeds are interwoven around each other looks quite intricate and makes for an interesting design. It feels quite firm as well . . . so when I first unwrapped it . . . and ran the palm of my hand over the paddle . . . I was imagining with delight, the pretty patterns it might leave on my submissives bottom when I gave him his first spanking.

But that first session . . . a few days after opening my parcel . . . did leave me a little disappointed because in practice I felt it was actually a bit cumbersome to use, compared with my normal spanking canes and paddles.

Not because of the weight . . . as I mentioned it is actually reasonably light to hold . . . but I think possibly because of the width and shape of the paddle it is just not quite so easy for me to wield and swing.

And the harder . . . or more forceful . . . I tried to make the impact, the less control I seemed to have. And . . . as you can imagine . . . I do like to have complete control!!!

I was also a little disappointed that it didn’t make the patterned shapes that I had hoped it would . . . probably because I wasn’t able to land the paddle in exactly the same place with each smack. But it did leave lovely red blushes!

ModestyAblazeCarpetBeaterTwistMy submissive though . . . well he loved it . . . “It has a slightly springy-stingy impact” was the way he described it . . . without the intensity or immediate pain that my usual cane apparently does. And he was also able to take lots more strokes on each cheek than he could normally stand from my normal canes. That is probably because the shape and weave of the head “spreads” the impact rather than one specific thin stroke of a canes rod . . . and the spring of the willow-weave is far less rigid than a similarly shaped, hard wooden paddle.

So, as I say, I did find the Beater less comfortable and less natural for me to use at first. But . . . because he enjoyed it so much and has actually requested it in our two sessions since . . . I am becoming more and more proficient each time I use it.

I’m also experimenting with the way I hold the handle . . . even trying a two-handed grip to give the blows more force. And I do love the swishing sound it makes as I swing it . . . and then, of course, the smacking sound it makes as it whacks against his bum cheeks.

But I do wish I could get it to leave those lovely swirly-shaped patterns on his reddening bum!!! Still . . . you know what they say . . . “Practice makes perfect” . . . and I’m intending on practicing a bit more with a different submissive next week. So watch this space for regular updates . . . and, in fact, do keep checking my Video Channel at Clips Fatale regularly over the next few weeks as The Carpet Beater may well feature in my next video there (possibly chasing my sub around the living room swatting it against his naked bottom as he vacuums the rugs! I think I’ll entitle the video . . . “The Carpet Beater” (LOL!!)

So . . . would I recommend The House of Eros Carpet Beater as a worthwhile addition to your spanking sessions? Well it’s certainly different, and as with lots of House of Eros items, is certainly lots of fun . . . so yes . . . I most certainly would!

Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: Impressive and interesting shape and completely different from my “normal” spanking toys.
Cons: Unusually wide size makes it difficult to pack into a toy bag or carry-case when travelling to one of my dungeon visits.
Material: Willow wood reeds with gloss varnish finish.
Length: Approximately 29.5 inches.
Width (at widest part on paddle): Approximately 8 inches.
Handle/shaft Diameter: Approximately 1.5 inches.
Vibration: Only when it immediately strikes it’s target area.
Lubrication: Not required.
Noise: Subtle swish on swinging. Nice smacking sound on impact.
Available Colours: Wood Brown.
Waterproof: Should not be used in the bath or shower.
After-care: Wipe thoroughly with cleaning cloth after use.
Supplier Product Link: Uberkinky House of Eros Carpet Beater
Additional Useful Link: House of Eros
Twitter feed: @UberKinky

ModestyAblazeCarpetBeaterCoverYou can watch my Video Review of the House of Eros Carpet Beater from Uberkinky by clicking the title screen above!

The House of Eros Carpet Beater was sent to me, free-of-charge, by Uberkinky  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx – K

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Sitting comfortably #sinfulsunday

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“Are you comfortable No.1? . . . I know I certainly am.”

“Now don’t move, not a flinch . . . or it’s ten swipes for every twitch!!!”

There’s simply bound to be more Sinful Sunday simple comforts from swiping the Sinful lips below!

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Thanks and kisses to Vinylman1 for my “Sitting Comfortably” picture above.

Xxx – K

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Stained Steel #sinfulsunday

For all you Sinful people who asked for more pictures of my Stainless Steel Abrasive Paddle that I mentioned in Wicked Wednesday during the week.

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I’d commanded my Submissive No.1 to buy it for me at last Sunday’s  London Alternative Market from the TrussedUK  stall . . . and I’d been dying to try it out on his bottom all week.

Of course he wasn’t quite so keen . . . but last night I told him
“I’ve waited long enough. Over my knee!!!”

ModestyCheeseGrater2 And to my surprise he actually enjoyed it almost as much as I did. Almost!!!

“Now off you go . . . boiling hot soapy water please. No, not your bottom,
my paddle!!!”

You are sure to discover lots more Sinful Sunday enjoyment from slapping
the Sinful lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

Oh & P.S. – The pretty patterns are still just as clear this morning!!!

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You need not beg #wickedwednesday

TrussedSteelAbrasivePaddleYou need not beg . . . to make me !!!
To make me use my Steel Paddle.
You need not beg . . . but you must bow!!!
To feel it’s scraping swipes across your bottom now!!!

We had a lovely time at London Alternative Market on Sunday and, of course, I just had to make some purchases from the wonderful TrussedUK. One of which was the Stainless Steel Abrasive Paddle above . . . or
the “cheese grater” as it is  now, not-so-affectionately known,
by my No.1 submissive!!!

But after it’s first use last night it seemed so fitting for the “Make Me” theme at this weeks  #wickedwednesday. Curious to find out about more “Make Me’s”???  Then simply swipe the Wicked Wednesday button below!!!

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Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze “Retribution & Reward” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

ModestyRetribution4HeartI’ve always enjoyed a little role-play in my play sessions, especially if it involves bringing out my Fem-Dom tendencies. And in this latest video my No.1 submissive had told me he wished to be spanked and flogged up against the wall by a Mystery Masked Dominatrix.

So, as long as it is fun and completely consensual, I always try to fulfil my submissives desires and fantasies. And as you will see, my slave got very excited at receiving my flogger and riding crop . . . and that got me excited too.

So, what started out as a fun FemDom spanking session . . . with lot’s of blushing red consequences . . . eventually turned into much, much more. Retribution AND Reward for the both of us!!!

My previous Mistress Modesty #realworldsex video has been one of my most popular films at MakeLoveNotPorn.tv . . . so if you enjoyed the role-play fun and deep-throated milking passion then . . . I am sure you will enjoy “Retribution & Reward” just as much!!! 

The recent “Behind Closed Doors” post on  MakeLoveNotPorn previews “Retribution & Reward” as:

“Ever wonder what kind of sexy fun your neighbors are up to behind closed doors? One minute they’re out front trimming the hedges or walking the dog, and the next they could be inside with the curtains drawn, having the best #realworldsex of their lives!

If you’re familiar with MLNPsuperstar, Modesty Ablaze, then you’ll know she’s the perfect example of a professional by day who turns into a sexual adventurer at night. In this brand new video, shot in her bedroom while the lights are low, Modesty explores her dominant side.”

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You can view my short introduction to “Retribution & Reward” by clicking the screen above . . . and there are some screen shots and Free Peek links to “Retribution & Reward”, and all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“Retribution & Reward” is my 19th video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my nineteen #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!


And don’t forget, you can ask me ANY questions you like about any of my videos, or anything about MakeLoveNotPorn in the form below.

NB: Submissions from this form are emailed directly to my In-box and are NOT displayed publicly. (Alternatively, you can make public comments, in the normal way, from the “Comment” panel at the very foot of this post).

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Enjoy!!!

Xxx – K

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How to . . . dress appropriately #wickedwednesday

In my teens I was always being chastised for “not dressing appropriately” . . .
so, of course, that always made me want to find something even more inappropriate to wear!!!

InappOneFinalSo imagine my delight when I recently discovered the wonderful Inappropriately Dressed website . . . and it’s amazing collection of sexy and revealing Lingerie, Corsets, Hosiery . . . and, of course, the most interesting for me . . . outrageously Sexy Clubwear!!!

InappTwoFinalAs you can see above and below, I’ve already bought several outfits. This montage is from just two Fridays ago trying to decide what to wear for our visit to Torture Garden that evening. Can you guess which one I went for in the end?

InappThreeSo, if like me, you can never have too many dresses or body-stockings in your wardrobe, I would certainly recommend you browsing the pages of Inappropriately Dressed . . . they have a huge range of items and accessories to choose from and I know I will certainly be returning for more!!!

You can also find even more from the Inappropriately Dressed range >here< or from their Facebook page >here<.

For more appropriate, or possibly inappropriate, “How To’s” this Wicked Wednesday, simply click the button below!!!

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Xxx – K

Oh, and P.S. – If you’d like to see more photographs of a particular outfit just let me know and I will see what I can do !!!

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Modesty’s “Cane Love” #realworldsex video @makelovenotporn

ModestyCaneLoveVideoEven though Caning & Spanking is talked about more openly than ever before, I think a lot of people still feel that it is always about trying to hurt someone.

Well, I’ve always enjoyed spanking and bondage play in my relationships as a way of introducing FUN and extra excitement. Something different that I never take too seriously. And whether I am the one giving, or the one receiving, I actually find it to be a really strong, loving and sharing experience. And that can be a huge and wonderfully all-consuming emotion. And I hope you will agree that my new “Cane Love” video at  MakeLoveNotPorn.tv illustrates that perfectly.

It is from a lovely hotel-evening early in March, with Lover No.1. Starting out with some gentle caning with my new Manila Cane from Uberkinky . . . and a spanking-induced orgasm for my submissive . . . I soon commanded him to give me those deep loving kisses I do so really, really love.

Urging him on with my Riding Crop and then my throbbing Doxy Wand . . . more multi-orgasms for us both followed, before a wonderful finale of a loving and relaxing foot massage.

And I was so thrilled when the lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn mentioned “Cane Love” in their latest blog post:

“In this delicious new video, Modesty Ablaze showcases something we’d love to see even more of – a woman turning the tables and dominating her man in the context of a loving relationship! Excited to try out her brand new cane on her more than willing sub, Modesty teases her husband, allowing the whacks to build in intensity, much to his delight. Continuing to steer the action and ‘get hers’ by way of lover no. 1’s tongue and fingers (operating a Doxie wand) Modesty comes and comes before proceeding to pass out completely. I just love that she left in the gentle snoring at the end of this video, and I think you will too!”

There are some screen shots and Free Peek links to “Cane Love”, and all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . or, you can view my introductory video >here<.

“Cane Love” is my sixteenth video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my 16 #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!


And don’t forget, you can ask me ANY questions you like about any of my videos, or anything about MakeLoveNotPorn in the form below.

NB: Submissions from this form are emailed directly to my In-box and are NOT displayed publicly. (Alternatively, you can make public comments, in the normal way, from the “Comment” panel at the very foot of this post).

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Enjoy!!!

Xxx – K

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Cane Spanking #sinfulsunday

Swish! – “You’re making me sinfully late for this weeks Sinful Sunday” – Swish! – And you know what happens when I get cross, don’t you!!!” – Swish!

CaneSwishIt’s been SUCH a busy week . . . including a wonderful #wink and after-show Q&A on Friday evening . . . and a fun and enlightening Mistress Workshop at the lovely  @KimClubRUB  on Saturday.

And, of course, I just had to put some of those Mistress tips into action last night
. . . so I’m very late with my sinfulness this Sunday . . . Swish!!!

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So . . . with a Cupping Smack . . . someone just had to be a little red-cheeked for my lateness, didn’t they!

So . . . Swish!!! . . . just time for one more Smack!!! . . . before I swish over to see all the other people being Sinful this Sunday from smacking the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

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