I have been thinking more and more recently, that I needed to get out and exercise more. You know what I mean . . . some strenuous stretching . . . and breathtaking lunging.
So . . . several Saturdays ago . . . I began a series of one-to-ones with my new “personal trainer”.
And I must say it really, really was, a most enjoyable session, for all of us !!!
You can discover more Stretches and Lunges I’m sure, by pushing . . . up
and down . . . on the Sinful Sunday lips below!
Xxx – K
Who Can Get Into Swinging?
Singles and couples alike are welcome to join a swinging community of their choice, while it’s important to note that single women are the most popular. Couples can find other couples to swap partners, but you should keep in mind that inviting a single girl to join you is also a form of swinging and the most popular one. The biggest challenge for newbies, in general, is to figure out what they like and how far they can go. Then and only then can they start looking for partners to swing with.
Soft Swing to Dip Your Toes In
A soft swing is perfect for first timers as it involves kissing and touching without going too far. You can do it with your partner present or watch him or her kiss another person or multiple people. This is a very gentle introduction into the world of swinging that is recommended as the first step before you can be sure what you’re comfortable with and what’s off the table.
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Lots of people fantasize about having sex in front of someone else or watching their partner sleep with another person. Swinging fulfills this fantasy and allows couples to watch each other get it on with someone else or have someone watch them in bed. The rules to these scenes are established beforehand and must be agreed upon by every person involved.
Peak Swap
Peak swap is what most people think swinging actually is – having sex with anyone but your partner. Certain variations are allowed, but the point is to engage in sexual activity with a new person or a regular swinging partner, just not your significant other.
Same-Sex Swinging
Same-sex swinging is more popular among women than men, but obviously, that doesn’t mean all gay women partake in swinging. They’re rather good at setting the boundaries and are open-minded to a point unimaginable by most straight couples.
Threesomes
So many men have this fantasy of having sex with two girls at a time, and swinging allows them to live out their dreams. This is precisely why single women are more sought after than single men, and this is the activity of choice of many couples who like to spice things up a little every once in a while. Others use threesomes to explore how far they want to go with swinging, watching as their partner takes another person. Alternatively, you can try having sex with someone else with your partner watching, and see if you feel comfortable enough to pursue swinging on a more regular basis.
As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE Swinging! And it’s certainly worked for me . . . LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K
Most couples, especially men and women who have been together for a long time, are always looking for new ways to keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom. Sex with another couple, better known as swinging, provides them with a chance to do exactly that. And while having sex with another couple can be rather exciting, finding the right people for this is not always easy. You can’t just go to the swingers dating site and choose the first couple that sends you a message. No, you have to get to know these people before you get into bed with them. This is why we are going to talk about the 5 things you need to know before you get into swinging.
Talk To Your Lover First
Suggesting something like this to your partner out of the blue is never a good thing. They might think that you have some problems in the relationship or that you don’t find them attractive anymore. So, if you want to talk about this with your lover, make sure you bring it up in a casual conversation. This will allow you to see where they stand on swinging. If they are okay with it, then you can suggest you try it out together.
Know Where To Look For Other Swingers
In case you and your spouse want to try out swinging, you have to know where to find other swingers in your town. You can’t just approach any couple you meet and ask them to have sex with you because this is sexual harassment. If you want to find another swinger couple, you have to visit swinger clubs in your town. There, you will find a lot of men and women who are looking for the exact same thing as you.
If One Of You Is Jealous This Won’t Work
Swinging implies that you have sex with other people and if one of you is jealous, this simply won’t work. If seeing your lover with another person makes you jealous, you won’t be able to enjoy swinging. In this case, it’s better not to try it because it can ruin what you have with your spouse.
It’s About Spicing Up Your Sex Life
One of the most important things you have to remember is that swinging is about spicing up your sex life, not an excuse to sleep with other men and women. Swinging is supposed to help you have better sex with your lover. If you are trying to find a new person to sleep with, swinging is not for you.
Be Discreet About It
You should know that most people don’t have nice things to say about swingers. So, if you don’t want to be judged in public, be discreet about your adventures.
If, however, you want to talk about it, talk, but don’t mention the names of people you are having sex with. Respect their privacy because they might not want to be known as swingers.
As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE Swinging! LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K
I know I’ve admitted before that I can be a greedy girl when the moment takes me . . . and I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who helps me indulge in those moments from time-to-time.
We hadn’t played for sometime but . . . of course . . . I always like to keep my profiles updated on our fun “friend finder” sites and so regularly receive messages and “invites”.
Often those messages don’t inspire me, but one “invite”, from what we’d found to be our best hook up site, included an unusually well composed response to my profile status and several photos that certainly piqued my interest!!!
And that interest grew as our fun exchange of teasing messages continued over the course of the next few days.
Often the young men from whom I receive those initial invites are quickly put-off once they realise that my “Mature lady seeking energetic young play-partners for occasional cuckolding fun” actually means always having Hubby present and involved (if not physically . . . or at least, not always physically! LOL!!!).
So, once I’d made that perfectly clear, it would be the last I would hear from many of them. But this young man was different.
His responses were just as teasing as mine, and the nature of his banter intrigued me more and more. Especially as he assured me that Hubby’s presence would be exciting rather than off-putting!
And then there were those photos !!!
Of course, meeting someone “in-the-flesh” is completely different to chatting with them on-line. So we now have a fixed routine of agreeing to meet any potential play-partners for a “first-off chat just to see how we get on”, at a
quiet-ish downtown bar that we . . . by now . . . know very well.
Unbeknown to them, we will have already booked a hotel just around the corner, in the event (hope), that I will be happy for our “chat” to progress further. There have been times when I’ve decided that I actually didn’t feel comfortable enough to progress, and I have politely had to say “it’s been lovely to meet you. Hubby and I will talk about things and let you know how we feel about perhaps meeting again in the next few days”.
Pre-booking is never wasted of course, as it’s always lovely fun . . . in a different, indulgently-decadent way . . . to frolic ourselves on those crisp, freshly pressed, white hotel sheets.
But, on this occasion . . .
We arrived early, as always, in order to get one of our favourite tables with a view of the entrance in from the street. But, shortly before our agreed time, my young man texted to say he was running late! “Not a good start !!!” I texted back.
So, by the time we did see him arriving, I was already on my second glass of wine. But within minutes of his welcoming hug . . . and confident looking handshake with Hubby . . . I knew we would definitely be sharing our pre-booked room!!!
Xxx – K
The theme this Wicked Wednesday is “Social” . . . which seems to go hand-in-hand, with this week’s Food For Thought Friday questions, so . . .
Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?
I have been incredibly blessed to have been with the same partner for over 38 years, and over the course of our wonderfully loving relationship, I have been able to indulge in and enjoy . . . and in fact still enjoy . . . all of the experiences mentioned above.
They didn’t all happen immediately, nor all at once of course, but even in the first few months of our marriage we were able to talk-about and express our desires and fantasies.
I did find it awkward at first to overcome those feelings that we all have in our early years that one should feel “guilty” about having sexual thoughts. That sex should be “lights-out and private” and only to procreate and certainly not to admit that it was actually enjoyable!
But, to be honest, and perfectly clear about putting this post into true perspective, it wasn’t until I unexpectedly and unexplainably, “strayed” into an office affair . . . and Hubby’s reaction to that . . . that I was suddenly, and completely, able to release myself from all of those shackles and fears and become true to myself . . . and to our marriage.
So, to answer the question above specifically, our open and honest lifestyle has allowed us to enjoy all of those experiences to the full.
And yes, on the one hand, they are all different . . . and yet all based on the same (for us) principle of just talking to each other, expressing our “interest” and both agreeing that each of us is completely happy with the situation(s) we find ourselves in.
What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?
Apart from that earliest office acquaintance, we have met most of our friends at Clubs or Party Events . . . so all of them have been “interesting” in one way or another.
Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?
Whilst a lot of those experiences have been one-off adventures, we have been incredibly lucky to have formed several long-lasting regular relationships with a number of people whom have become friends in every sense of the word, not just in the sexual context. And those sort of friendships only evolve if one feels totally at ease and comfortable with each person involved.
How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?
Whenever, or however, I am approached . . . whether singly or by a couple . . .
I always immediately tell people about my relationship with Hubby and that everything is always completely open and straightforward, and I explain exactly what my expectations and “rules” are.
Over the years I suppose I have grown into the more dominant role in our own situation, (particulary since discovering, and enjoying, my FemDom fun), so now I will only switch, just occasionally, with one long-standing, friend.
As I mentioned earlier, our relationship just seemed to naturally evolve from one adventure to the next . . . and it still continues to do so . . . with new people we meet and new experiences we share.
And that is what makes it so wonderfully fulfilling.
If your relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?
I would describe our relationship as “open and fun” and the principal dynamic is that, nowadays, we always play together.
We do have small circle of reasonably regular friends . . . and whilst they may not all personally know one another, they will all know of each other.
What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?
My ideal relationship is most definitely the one I am already in. And it often looks . . . and always feels . . . like fun !!!
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Xxx- K
If you’ve visited my pages here before . . . you will probably know that I enjoy a little bit of BDSM fun from time-to-time.
And I do stress the word “fun” . . . because like everything I do . . . I always want all of my friends to be having fun and completely enjoying themselves as much as I am.
But I think that many people assume that BDSM, or FemDom play . . . has to involve pain or some sort of extreme physical treatment . . . but from my point-of-view, that is simply not what domination and submission is all about.
For me both of those things are about being able to completely release one-self in the company of like-minded people . . . and share each-other’s desires and kinks
. . . and . . . just have fun !!!
And quite often there may not even be any physical contact at all . . .
But, I do admit that whether I am actually touching someone or not . . . I usually find myself becoming more “tingly” . . . and more aroused as the session goes on.
And that is exactly what happens in my newest video at Make Love Not Porn. It is from a recent session at one of my favourite dungeons . . . which just so happens to have a very interesting leather swing.
I’d been . . . gently, of course . . . teasing Hubby with my soft-leather flogger . . . when his rather obvious arousal led to me becoming very tingly and very aroused as well.
So I instructed Hubby, and another of my “submissive” gentlemen friends present . . . to worship at my feet as I reclined . . . and gently rocked back and forth on that kinky swing.
Well gently at least for a little while . . . you’ll just have to watch my “Dungeon Swing” to see what I mean . . . but at least being in the company of two willing gentlemen I was able to instruct one to clean up the other’s mess.
You can view my introduction to “The Dungeon Swing” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.
I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean.
There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.
“The Dungeon Swing” is my 58th video released on Make Love Not Porn with more to cum soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.
It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my fifty-eight #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!
Xxx – K
Part 5 of my personal diaries, “My Cougar Moment”, along with my earlier
“A Naughty Surprise” (Part 4) . . . are both still available for a limited time, to download from my Gumroad profile at the amazingly “modest” cost of just $1.
Simply click here to visit my Gumroad profile page to view these, and my other available Diary stories.
An extract from “My Cougar Moment” . . .
Normally when Hubby and I have a night out at our Swingers Club we will spend the first hour or so sitting at the Bar chatting to staff or to other couples, or singles, that we have met previously.The atmosphere is always very friendly and relaxed and it is really just very nice to unwind in a different, and far more exciting environment, than we would on a normal evening out with normal friends.
And, of course, I love being able to wear something sexy and naughty. And Hubby enjoys me dressing like that and watching me take an occasional stroll away from the bar to investigate what may be happening in the play areas, or viewing rooms . . . and then walking slowly back . . . “strutting my stuff” as he calls it.
There have been occasions when we’ve not met or played with anyone at all during the evening. Or perhaps we may have just chatted and exchanged numbers with a couple, or interesting single guy . . . but for one reason or another, we’d not indulged with further.
But on one of our recent visits, I did something I’d never, ever done before . . . and it turned into one of the most exciting evenings we’ve ever enjoyed there.
We’d arrived early and had been sitting at the bar on our own sipping our drinks chatting to one of the lovely barmaids. A simply gorgeous young man entered from reception and came up to the bar to order a drink. He wasn’t close enough for us to hear him ordering his drink, but our eyes met briefly as he glanced around the bar whilst he waited for his glass. As he walked off towards the main room I saw him glance briefly back in our direction, before he disappeared around the corner. Our barmaid came back to roll her eyes and tell me “Wow. He’s hot!” I nodded my agreement and asked her where she thought he was from and if she’d seen him here before. She told me he was definitely a newbie . . . and possibly Spanish or Italian.
A few minutes later he returned to the main room and was standing by the wall on the opposite side of the bar to us. “God he is gorgeous isn’t he” I giggled to our barmaid. Hubby put his arm around my shoulder to pull me closer and whispered into my ear “why don’t you go and introduce yourself and offer to show him around.” I giggled with nervous excitement at his suggestion and replied, “I can’t, I wouldn’t know what to say.”
Usually, couples or singles would approach us first and we’d chat (sometimes for quite awhile) before I would nod to Hubby that I was “interested.” And then it would be him that might make the suggestion to our new friends . . . if they hadn’t asked us first.
But now not only was Hubby suggesting that I make the first move, he was suggesting that I do it on my own.
My heart was racing and I felt my excitement levels rising by the second. “Go on, you’ve got nothing to lose. Talk to him before someone else gets in first,” Hubby was urging in my ear.
I got down off my stool and started to walk slowly over towards him. I felt like I was shaking so much with nerves that it must look as though I was about to fall off my high-heels. He wasn’t even looking in my direction as I stopped beside him and managed to stammer out something like “Hi, are you new here?” (Yes, really original, I know!)
“Yes it is my first time in London,” he replied in a wonderful deep and rich accent. I can’t remember anything of exactly what I said next. Just that conversation seemed to flow quite easily and naturally for the next few minutes . . . and that he was becoming ever more gorgeous with every word!
Just as I found myself struggling to think of what to say next, he asked if I was alone. “Oh, no. I’m with my husband. Please come and meet him,” I managed to reply with a huge sense of relief. And excitement!
I took him by his hand, not sure if I was trying to steady myself and keep my balance to counteract my excitement . . . or to parade him to the other ladies in the room! “This is J. He’s from Spain,” I gushed to Hubby. They shook hands and Hubby asked me “Shall we see if the Private Room is free?” “Oh yes . . . LETS,” I nodded excitedly.
Click here to download, and read the rest of “My Cougar Moment” . . .
or here for “A Naughty Surprise”.
The other editions of my “personal diaries” are available from my Ebooks page, along with links to several short audio readings as well.
Xxx – K
I’ve called my newest #realworldsex video at Make Love Not Porn, “Giggling Persuasion”, because . . . as you will see . . . it features lots of giggling, and lots of gentle persuasion!!!
It is from Day 2 of an amazing weekend visit to Lover No.14’s lovely hotel and carries on directly from my “Sticky, Wet and Sweet” video, featured here on my Make Love Not Porn pages recently.
We’d had a short break, re-energising ourselves after our earlier exertions, with some “unusual” chocolate treats.
I then wanted to give No.14 some special kisses . . . as he’d thoroughly spoilt and exhausted me with his own, very special kisses earlier.
But of course, he insisted my kisses would be far more “satisfying” standing right in front of his hotel windows, overlooking the busy railway station below . . . with the curtains still wide open!!!
He was soon quite excited though, so I was happy that we moved away from the windows and back on to the bed . . . for the sake of my modesty . . . and to rest my knees!
But in his excited state, No.14 wasn’t going to let me rest any other parts of my body as he slowly began to renew his explorations, and with lots of “different” kisses . . . and patient and fun persuasion . . . we were both soon locked in wonderful, passionate, and quite “energetic” embraces.
So energetic that he soon had me convulsing in another lovely, and exhausting, orgasm.
We’d been playing on the bed for so long . . . and after all that champagne earlier . . . that I was desperate for a widdle, so I hope you won’t mind that “Giggling Persuasion” ends rather abruptly as I had to dash off to the bathroom to relieve myself.
But there is still more fun to come from this wonderful evening . . . so Part Four (which I think I will call “Special Splashes”!!!) will be “coming soon”.
MakeLoveNotPorn.tv previewed “Day 2 – Starting Over” in their special Make Flourishing Love Not Porn edition as:
Modesty Ablaze had so much fun showing up at lover No. 14’s hotel suite wearing nothing but a trench coat, that she decided to do it all over again — this time with the added excitement of riding the train all the way there! Once en suite, Modesty quickly disrobes and No. 14 sets about doing what he does best — tying Modesty up and making her delirious with delight! Totally focused on Modesty’s pleasure, this video has the same charming banter we’ve come to enjoy from Modesty’s other videos with hubby and Lover No. 14. I just love how polite they all are while indulging in exhibitionism, bondage, and some intense #realworldorgasms!
You can view my introduction to “Giggling Persuasion” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no, it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.
I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean.
There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.
“Giggling Persuasion” is my 53rd video released on Make Love Not Porn with more (much more) to come soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.
It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my fifty-three #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!
Xxx – K
I’m just on my way out for a Sinful Saturday date night this evening,
and I always hope to make an impression . . . from the moment I arrive . . .
. . . to the moment I leave !!!
. . . and, of course, for all of the moments in-between !!!
See who else is having Sinful fun this weekend by smacking the lips below!!!
Xxx – K
Filed under 3 somes, Hotwives, Sinful Sunday, Swinging, womens Erotica
It really has been a busy year already . . . and the coming week is just as busy . . . so I thought I’d wish you all an early Happy and Sexy Valentines Day for this cumming Friday.
And . . . as a special Valentines bonus . . . if you buy just one of my “Modesty Ablaze Diaries“ during the next two weeks, I will email you any two other books of your choice completely FREE.
Details of all my current E-Diaries are available on my E-books page and they can be downloaded from my Amazon, Smashwords and Gumroad profiles. (You can hear me reading a short extract from two of my books at my Modesty Speaks page).
So, three kisses for one!!!
And I hope you have . . . and give . . . lots and lots more sexy and fun kisses over the next few days.
Xxx – K
P.s. Thank you to the wonderful John Tisbury (see my sidebar) and, of course, the lovely Hubby . . . for their pictures above.
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