Today I’m “opening-up” to this weeks prompt of “monogamy” at Wicked Wednesday . . . the popular definition of which (from Marie’s source) is: “Monogamy is a form of relationship in which an individual has only one partner during his or her lifetime or at any one time . . .”
Opening-up because, If you’ve visited me here before, you might be surprised to hear me say that I have been in a completely . . . and wonderfully fulfilling . . . monogamous relationship for over 33 years (31 of them married).
Monogamous? . . . How??? . . . when, from almost the very beginning of those 33 years, I have indulged in “extra-marital partnerships” with lots and lots of different lovers, many of whom I still regularly meet with . . . and many of whom have become wonderful friends as well as wonderful lovers.
Now I know that many people may describe the partnership I share with my Lover No.1, as an “open relationship” and completely the opposite of a monogamous relationship. But I would disagree . . .
Because . . . for me at least . . . I would define monogamy very simply as sharing absolutely everything with one special person.
And by “absolutely everything” I mean every emotion, every desire, every touch, every sensation, every want . . . and every need . . . completely and exclusively with someone in your life that you just know you would never want to be without.
So, whilst my own relationship may not match that “only-one-partner” of the conventional definition of Monogamy. . . for me, my “only-one-partner” makes for a truly Monogamous Modesty Ablaze.
And as with everything in life, I believe that every description and every convention, should have a different and entirely individual meaning for all of us.
We should all be happy to be who we are . . . and not what the conventions of society would have us be!!!
You can read lots of other thoughts on Monogamy this Wednesday by tapping the button below!!!
Xxx – K
I absolutely love your view on monogamy and I love that there are so many views on it and totally agree that we should all have our own definitions for it. Lovely post 🙂
Rebel xox
Loved this. I like that you have your own meaning for the word and that you are owning it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. HGG. xx
This is beautiful. I agree with you, about being who you are. There really are no rules for relationships, but society says there are. I think it’s wonderful that you have the marriage you want, there are so many couples who are miserable in their marriages.
Obviously there are multiple definitions for every term that we use in these kind of relationships and such, but damn, it sometimes makes discussions hard ’cause everyone is meaning something different. lol. I started using the term mutual monogamy to differentiate between mono/poly and mono/mono relationships. I think I need some more qualifying terms.
But, I’m ever an advocate of the individualist approach and not shoving things into tiny boxes.
Your final couple of sentences really sums the subject up. Everyone’s situations are different and we should do what is right for us!
You are a true inspiration!
Your husband sure is the luckiest guy ever! 😉 😉 😉
I just love this definition! There will only be one person who knows every little piece of me even if one day we are in the right place to share parts of ourselves with others.