“A Gentler Squeeze” #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

GentlerSqueezeCoverMay1615I like sex . . . in fact I LOVE sex . . . and it is always especially sexy and exciting sharing new experiences and sensations with a different lover.

But I also have to feel comfortable with that person . . . I can’t just jump into bed with anyone I meet . . . there has to be a connection, a chemistry if you like, before I can become intimate with someone new.

I have been incredibly privileged over the years to have met some wonderful lovers and had some amazingly fun times. And I have “connected” with several people who have not only become regular lovers, but regular friends as well. Lovers I may occasionally meet not just for sex . . . but for lunchtime coffee or after work drinks . . . as well.

And luckily for me several of those lovers share my excitement and enjoyment at sharing my videos of our meetings on MakeLoveNotPorn.tv.

No silly, not videos of our meetings for coffee or drinks, but videos of our wonderful “real world sex”. Those times when we really do just let ourselves go and indulge ourselves in each others company . . . and each others passions . . . and just see where our emotions take us.

And that’s what makes these “real world sex” videos at Make Love Not Porn, so special for me. They are just that . . . just REAL WORLD in REAL TIME . . . like a video diary of our lovemaking. There is no plan, no script for what we are going to do. We quickly forget about the camera and just . . . MAKE LOVE . . . and not make Porn!!!

“A Gentler Squeeze” . . . my latest video at MLNP.tv . . . is exactly one of those occasions.  It is from a new meeting a few weeks ago with Lover No.36. Although we had met for coffees on several occasions . . . we hadn’t been able to get together “intimately” . . . since the evening of our “Secondary Squeeze” video late last year. So it was really lovely to be able to arrange a new meeting . . . back at our favourite hotel . . . and make up for lost time.

GentlerSqueeze1If you’ve watchedThe Main Squeeze andSecondary Squeeze . . . my two previous videos with Lover 36 . . . you’ll know that he is one of the most “energetic” of lovers I have ever been with.

But in this new video, I think you will see a different side to our relationship . . . gentler, calmer moments of just how much we’d missed each other. Almost like getting to know one another all over again, with some sensual kissing and re-acquainting myself with his . . . rather MAHOOSIVELY thick manhood . . . and then some lovely slow fucking . . . building up to a wonderfully fulfilling ending.

“A Gentler Squeeze” is just part of our time together and perhaps if you enjoy it . . . and let me know that you would like to see more . . . I could upload a “Part 2” from the rest of the evening.

But . . . in the meantime . . . I hope you will enjoy Lover 36 and his Gentler Squeeze !!!

The recent “Make Radiant Love Not Porn” post on the MakeLoveNotPorn-blog previews “A Gentler Squeeze” as:

“Is it just me or does Modesty just get better and better? In this video, Modesty meets up with a lover that she hadn’t been able to rendez-vous with seen since late last year. Maybe there’s some truth to the statement that absence makes the heart grow fonder ’cause once they were given the opportunity, these two sure couldn’t keep their hands off of each other! Filmed by lover no. 1, hubby, this sweet reunion is filled with all sorts of ecstatic moments and a surprising downtown adventure that you’ll have to rent to see!”

There are some screen shots and Free Peek links to “A Gentler Squeeze”, and all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“A Gentler Squeeze” is my 18th video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my seventeen #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

And don’t forget, you can ask me ANY questions you like about any of my videos, or anything about MakeLoveNotPorn in the form below.

NB: Submissions from this form are emailed directly to my In-box and are NOT displayed publicly. (Alternatively, you can make public comments, in the normal way, from the “Comment” panel at the very foot of this post).

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Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze at the Hardware Store #scavengerhunt

A cloudy start to our May Bank Holiday . . . so it was off to the Hardware Store!

ModestyHardwareStore3You know me . . . I do like some “hardware” . . . and look, there are so many knobs and knockers on display!!!

ModestyHardwareStore1“I think they’re at the other end of the aisle” I’d blushingly answered when the gentleman behind me had asked if they had any towel-racks. “I don’t work here” I’d added as he walked on past, continuing his search.

ModestyHardwareStore2Anyway . . . in the hope the weather will improve . . . I thought I would browse the garden section as well.

ModestyHardwareStore4But in the meantime I’m hoping that our shopping trip will qualify for the Hardware Store category at Curvaceous Dee’s Scavenger Hunt . . . and that perhaps you would like to join in the fun with adding some trips of your own at Dee’s site by clicking on the button below!
Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

You can see lots of my other Scavenger Hunt trips at my
Scavenger Hunt Listings Page !

P.S. You can also view some of my previous Scavenger Hunts at my
Scavenger Slideshow >here<!!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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A Real Neat Blog Award Post

WomenBehindWordsI have felt very flattered over the past week to have received two mentions in The Real Neat Blog Award series of posts.
Firstly by Tami at kinkybikermom and then by Catherine SassyCat at: sassycat3000.net . . . both of whom are fabulously fun and enviously prolific bloggers from America.

Neat300x180In keeping with the Real Neat Blog Award theme, they both sent me a number of questions to answer which I have set out to do as best I can below.

Tami and Sassy both: T & S:
Q: What was the reason you decided to start blogging?
A: I’ve been so lucky to have a wonderful “open-marriage” and enjoyed a polyamorous lifestyle with my Hubby for over 30 years. I’d been writing diary accounts of my liaisons with my lovers, and of our swinging experiences for almost all of that time. Initially it started as almost just a list of dates, whens and wheres . . . a way of keeping track I suppose (LOL!!!) But as time passed, and I started adding more “details” it became obvious how much both Hubby and I enjoyed flicking back through the pages from time to time. (This was before the age of home-computers!!!) It made our own next-few-nights afterwards even more fun and exciting.
But the blog itself was started almost as a joke, or dare really. Hubby and I had been idly channel-hopping on the TV and stumbled across one of those technology programs. It was all about the explosion of “normal people” using blogging sites to blog about their hobbies or interests. I joked to Hubby “I could start a blog on how much I love sex”. He said “I dare you! You could post all those diary entries you’ve been writing for years and years” . . . and a few days later Modesty Ablaze was born.
The name Modesty Ablaze came about from one of my “Cougar Moments” with an extremely energetic young man at our local Swingers Club one evening. After we emerged from the “viewing room” to a round of applause from quite a crowd of on-lookers, I blushed and giggled to my young lover “you’ve sent my modesty up in flames”. He replied “Modesty Ablaze”.

T&S: Has that reason changed throughout time?
A: I never imagined anyone would even FIND my blog, let-alone find it interesting. But within a few weeks I started receiving more and more visits . . . and some lovely flattering and sweet emails, comments and lots and lots . . . and lots . . . of questions about our lifestyle. And that really made it obvious to me just how so many people still don’t talk to their partners, or share their thoughts and desires. So I suppose I began more and more to want to say to anybody visiting Modesty Ablaze “look, it doesn’t matter whatever your age, whatever your shape, whatever your gender, whatever your relationship . . . life should be about having fun, communicating all your desires and your fantasies (especially your fantasies), sharing those moments with your loved ones and those around you”. So yes my reasons for continuing with Modesty Ablaze have changed . . . and I hope some of my posts may have helped change others (for the better!)

TQ: Are there other bloggers whose work has given you inspiration? If so, share with us the post and their post that gave you inspiration.
A: I try and follow and try to read, as many posts by as many different bloggers as I can . . . and as time allows (providing it doesn’t interfere too much with my “social life” of course! LOL!!!)  . . . and there are far too many inspirational people to list here. But if you really, really, need some clues to my most visited blogs you could see my Favourites from 2014 List that I included in a Marvellous Year at #wickedwednesday >here<.

SQ: What was the best and worst advice you received when you started your blog? What’s the advice you offer to those just starting out in the blogosphere?
A: Hubby saying “you can’t possibly blog like you talk!” is the best AND the worst advice!!!My advice to anyone starting out would be the same advice I give to ANYONE about ANYTHING “If you’re not having fun doing it, then don’t do it !!!”

TQ: If there was one question you could ask your favorite blogger what would it be?
A: How on earth do you manage your time so efficiently to blog every day ???

SQ: Where do you see yourself in 5 years of blogging? What is your ultimate goal for your blog?
A: If I’m not still having fun doing it, there won’t be Modesty Ablaze in 5 years.The ultimate goal for my blog is to: Make people smile, make people happy, make people feel good about themselves and . . . therefore make the people around them feel good about themselves!!!

TQ: Did you ever see yourself as any type at all blogger? (The underline is for whatever label you give your blog. Sex, kink, dating, etc.)
A: No !!!

SQ: What are some adjectives you would like your readers to use to describe your blog and why?
A: Sexy and Fun !!! (Because “If you’re not having fun doing it, then don’t do it !!!”)

TQ: What website on the entire web, besides your own, do you spend the most time on?
A: Make Love Not Porn at: https://makelovenotporn.tv/

SQ: How important are blog stats, page ranks and comments for you?
A: I don’t have enough time to investigate or worry about stats or page ranks (what are they even?). But it is always nice to receive comments and email messages (I still try to answer every sensible one).

TQ: Gotta ask one toy question. Name your absolute favorite sex toy. (More than one is fine.)
A: Hubby !!!

SQ: Describe a typical blogging day for you. (What you do first, etc.)
A: Try to write down what happened the night before!!!

TQ: Last one is just for fun. Who is your favorite superhero and why?
A: Mistress Modesty Ablaze of course! . . . Why ? . . . LOL! Can’t you guess!!!

SQ: What is your favorite blogging meme to take part in and why?
A: Scavenger Hunt of course! . . . Why ? . . . It’s thrilling and FUN!!!

So, thank you so much to Tami and Sassy for asking me those questions above. It was actually quite a fun, and easy part of this Real Neat Blog Award. The difficult part is choosing who to ask some questions of my own because, as I mentioned before, there are so many blogs I love visiting to read so many arousing and erotic words . . . and . . . gaze with envy at so many lovely, arousing and erotic photographs!!!

But . . . You know I am ALWAYS curious to know from other people, two of those same questions that both Tami and Sassy asked me.
1.  What made you start blogging? (Yes, I know it is a recurring question, but it is interesting to know isn’t it!)
2.  Has that reason changed throughout time?
But also things I am always curious about whenever I’m scrolling through a new blog or posting.
3.  How did you come about your blog name?
4.  Do you share your blog with your partner / special friend before you make each post?
5.  Your lifestyle obviously influences your blog, but has your blog, or reading other blogs you have discovered via your own, influenced your lifestyle?
6.  How on earth do you manage your time so efficiently to blog?

And the people I’d most like to ask those questions of?

Well . . . and I realise that some of them may have already been nominated, or participated, so they may not thank me for asking . . . but I would actually like to ask those questions of:
Xxx –  K

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Modesty’s memories of Desire #wickedwednesday

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “Desire” . . . the very emotion that first set my Modesty Ablaze and started Hubby and I on our amazing journey that has brought us here.

So I thought it an appropriate moment to share an excerpt from my diaries at the time. Diaries that I wrote initially to share only with Hubby . . . then became brave enough to share in short posts on my first attempts at blogging here at modestyablaze.com . . . and then, at the suggestion of several early followers, to publish as short autobiographical ebooks.

The excerpt here is from my first diary “The Journey”.

S had been texting and calling me for a week suggesting we meet for “an early Valentines”. As the weather had been so bad over the past few days, and negotiating the streets and finding parking in Hampstead can be difficult even in normal circumstances, we agreed to meet directly at our normal hotel. S suggested we could order room service and just soak in the bath whilst we waited.

He’d reminded me it would be an “anniversary” of sorts (he’s always coming up with “anniversaries” of different meetings, places or events of our times together) . . . so I decided to impress him by packing the red bra, panties and suspenders set he’d bought me last year into my “work bag” as I left for the office in the morning. I’d shown James of course as we got ready to leave for work. We always kiss our goodbyes even more passionately in the morning when he knows that I’ll be meeting S after work, but knowing that I was taking “special undies” made him even more passionate than normal.

The, by now, depressing routine of nine hours plus at the office was made more bearable during the day by my tingles of excitement that I’d be having an evening out after work! I freshened-up in the washroom as all my colleagues disappeared one by one, and I locked myself in my office to do my nails and begin changing. I knew I had loads of time before I needed to call a taxi, so decided to do my toenails as well. As I sat with my tissue dividers between my toes waiting for them to dry I got more and more excited thinking about “dressing-up” for my meeting. I’d already changed into my bra and suspenders and panties and was sitting on my chair with just my jacket draped around my shoulders whilst waiting for my nails to dry. I decided that perhaps I didn’t need my blouse or skirt after-all . . . that perhaps I could just arrive with my grey woollen overcoat and scarf . . . and nothing else at all apart from my lacy red undies. I was sure he’d really appreciate seeing his gift displayed so quickly as I took-off my coat!

Then reality kicked-in and I realised how dangerous, and naughty, it would be to be sitting in the back of a taxi all the way from the West End to the other side of Hampstead with virtually nothing on except for a coat and scarf. I’d walked, in the middle of the night, the few streets to and from S’s house like that, but travelling miles and miles in the back of a black cab . . . that was an entirely different matter!

The more I thought about it though, the more tingly I became. I thought about calling James and asking him, but I knew he’d be on his way home and, anyway, I knew what he would say of course!!

I removed the tissues and pulled on and fastened my stockings. I pulled on my coat and scarf and sneaked down the corridor to the washroom. The mirror isn’t full-length but I stood back as far as I could to see if it “looked unusual”. As I slipped back to my office I knew I’d have to be phoning for a cab soon anyway, so I had to make up my mind. I could hear my voice almost trembling as I phoned. Here I was ordering a taxi on the business account . . . arranging to meet a lover not a client . . . and I was hardly dressed appropriately for company travel . . . Would the radio-controller be able to tell from my voice, would the cab-driver know ?

Fifteen minutes before the cab would arrive and I took off my coat and started to put on my skirt . . . several times!

I was excited . . . and then sensible . . . and then excited . . . and then nervous again. Then my phone rang. Security from reception to say my taxi had arrived !! I pushed my blouse and skirt into the bottom drawer of my desk, tightened my scarf as tightly as I could . . . and, almost floated, to the door of the lifts.

I have sunbathed topless in Spain and Greece, streaked naked for a few hundred yards through Epping Forest in the pouring rain, spent a day at the Tennis Championships with no panties beneath my dress . . . but I have never felt so tingly and so naughty . . . and so aroused as I felt sitting in the back of that taxi. As we crawled along Edgware Road and I gazed out of the window at everybody bustling by and the other cars next to us in the traffic, I felt hot flushes rather than chilly as I thought I might. The taxi-driver had his heater on of course, but it was my tingling that was making me feel hot, and I was sure my face must have been as red as my nails and lipstick. The driver was jovial and talkative . . . and I was polite and conversational in return, but all the time my mind was racing about what James would think when I told him later of how I’d left the office. We were still ten minutes away from the hotel when S texted to tell me he’d arrived and gave me the room number. I replied that he could “start running me a bath” and that I would be there soon.

I certainly felt the chill as I stepped out of the taxi outside the hotel and thanked the driver . . . but I felt a completely different sensation as I strode across the foyer and stepped into the lift !!

I found the room easily and tapped lightly on the door. S kissed me lightly on the cheek as he let me into the room, telling me “your bath is ready madam”. But as I twisted off my scarf and unbuttoned and opened my coat he just stood for a few seconds, his face changing from a smile to almost a gasping look . . . “wow, incredible, simply incredible” . . . before stepping forward and pulling me into a squeezing embrace. His hands were running all over my back and his kisses almost stiffling me. I had to pull away and extricate my arms from the sleeves of the coat before he was pulling me into him again and kissing down my neck to my breasts. He unclipped my bra and was then sucking at my nipples . . . all seemingly within a few seconds. We were still standing just inside the door of the room. “Do you remember these?” I asked him as I helped him slide the straps of the bra from my shoulders. “Of course. I can’t believe you came just like this”.

“Mmm. I can’t believe I did either, but it’s made me feeling very naughty!” We continued kissing, still standing in the same spot. He had slid both his hands inside my panties, squeezing my bum cheeks and kissing from one nipple to the other. He pulled my panties down, dropping down onto his knees as he pulled them to the floor, and nuzzling into my pussy. As I opened my legs to step out of the panties and shake them off each ankle, his tongue was licking between my lips and he was pulling me into his face as he kissed and licked more. He stood up and led me across to the bed, sitting me down and then kneeling down by the side of the bed to continue licking at me more. I was already tingling all over but protested I should “have my bath first”. He lifted away to say I tasted so sweet and sexy that he didn’t want to stop. He pulled off my shoes as he continued to lick at me and then as I lay back a little more onto the bed, I felt  . . .

There is more of course . . . but I wouldn’t want you to become bored . . . SO, So, so . . . for more thoughts, memories and experiences of “Desire”, this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday, simply click the button below!!!


Xxx – K

P.S. – If you would like to read the conclusion of this excerpt, “The Journey” my first auto-biographical diary is availabe as an E-book PDF >here<.



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Modesty’s Toy Review Round-up: HedoVibes#92 & Pink Intimate Lubricants for Women

Doc-Johnson-Fisting-Dildo-Cara-Sutra-Review-14Photo courtesy of Cara Sutra

Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition start with the guidelines, then use the submission form.

Want to read more reviews? Check out HedoVibes for a list of the latest reviews and stellar reviewers. You can also follow on twitter for the latest round ups. HedoVibes is also accepting photo submissions for each edition.














View my Video Review of Pink Intimate Lubricants for Women >here<!

View my Video Review of The Uberkinky Manila Skinned Spanking Cane >here<!

View my Video Review of The Uberkinky Spiral Steel Chastity Cage >here<!

View my Video Review of The RO-Zen Vibrating Butt Plug >here<!

View my Video Review of The Diamond Dream Glass Dildo >here<!

View my Video Review of The Infiniti Dual Stimulation Vibrator >here<!

View my Video Review of Yes Natural Organic Lubricants >here<!

Visit my Sex Toys page for some of my favourites!

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews The Cleopatra Clit Jewellery Set from Uberkinky

CleoPurpleBack600x450I’ve always had a sneaking envy for “personal” jewellery . . . No not just earrings and necklaces and bracelets – though I do love those of course! But I mean those more “personal” more permanent jewellery accessories . . . such as nipple and clit piercings. I’ve always been curious about those . . . but have never been brave enough to get anything like that added to my own personal bits.

So this Non-Piercing . . . Non-Permanent . . . Cleopatra Clittoral Crystal Jewellery set from . . . my favourite on-line Toy Shop, Uberkinky . . . is an ideal addition to my jewellery collection.

CleoPackedThe Cleopatra is nicely packaged in a thin, clear-plastic, sleeve . . . and it’s vacuum-shaped outline in the plastic itself makes it perfect to neatly store-away if you prefer, rather than dropping loose into one’s jewellery box.

It is non-piercing because the extending arms, (see my picture), allow you to attach and gently clamp the Cleopatra over your clitoris with the crystal “jewels” dangling below.

CleoHandsIt is just under three inches long, with the curling crown at the top . . . which is what clips over one’s clit . . . about half an inch across. The translucent crystals themselves are one and a half inches in length.

I found it slightly tricky to actually attach initially . . . so for the first few occasions you will probably need to practice in front of a mirror, as I did, to find the best way of fixing it in place. Once it is on though, the pinching sensation, as it squeezes around your clitoris is quite arousing . . . I certainly found it so anyway!!!

The metal arms are made from a nickel-free, non-tarnishing metal, so are quite safe to wear . . . as long as you clean thoroughly after each time you have worn it.

I do love the way the Crystals sparkle in the light and they feel quite light to the touch . . . but you do notice a slight feeling of weight when they are attached. It’s the sense of their dangling movement as I walk around . . . coupled with the gentle squeezing of one’s clit . . . that is quite an arousing sensation. I suppose it’s also to do with the fact that you KNOW you are actually wearing them and you are more conscious of the slight tinkling sound as you push your shopping trolley down the ailses at the supermarket!

As I say they are a bit fiddly to get on at first. I had to experiment with a few different methods and angles . . . and found the most comfortable way for me, is to slide it in under my labia lips and then open the arms at the end . . . so that I can manoeuvre the rounded clip over my clitoris.

ModestyCloserCleopatraI think you, obviously, have to go “commando” to get that full “swinging” sensation, so I certainly wouldn’t wear them with knickers on. I have worn them out during a shopping expedition or two . . . but did notice that over a period of time . . . with my mind wandering to other “normal” things . . . that they did begin to slip down a bit. Perhaps as my clit became a little more used to the squeezing, and my muscles down there relaxed. And also I suppose from the movement of walking about, sitting down to drive the car and so on.

But the thing about clit jewellery of course, is that they are not really designed for normal everyday things are they? They are much better for wearing in a more intimate situation. Perhaps to surprise your lover as he slowly unzips your skirt . . . or lifts your negligee over your head . . . to suddenly discover two sparkling crystal jewels dangling from your pussy lips. I know that I certainly had a wonderfully appreciative reaction when I wore them in just that sort of situation recently!

And my lovers excitement led to ME getting VERY excited as his fingers and tongue started playing with my already squeezed and tingly clit.  He wanted to take his excitement further of course, but I did find that I couldn’t take full penetration as the arms of the Cleopatra became uncomfortable and obstructive as his excitement mounted.

I have tried some solo play sessions with one of my favourite vibrators and . . . again . . . whilst penetration doesn’t work for me, the heightened squeezing of the Cleopatra does mean that even the gentlest of vibrations over my clit brings me to a hugely intense, possibly even too quick, orgasm.

But as well as looking lovely . . . I think the Cleopatra Clit Jewellery is quite fun to wear . . .  and a lovely accessory to add to one’s jewellery!

Stop Press Update: I made a little unintentional blooper during my video review of the Cleopatra Clit Jewellery . . . so the lovely people at Uberkinky have donated a Cleopatra-set for the first person to spot that blooper. Simply tell me what I said wrong in the (completely confidential) form below to receive the Cleopatra with our compliments! (But be quick, there’s only one, first correct answer wins . . . and I will email you how to arrange delivery!)

Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: Fun, non-piercing and non-permanent “personal” jewellery.
Cons: Fiddly and tricky to attach.
Does Not Include: Phthalates, Nickel.
Measurements: The arms measure just under three inches in length whilst the Crystals themselves hang for one and a half inches.
Available Colours: The metal arms are gold. The crystals are translucent clear.
Waterproof: I would think so but would probably avoid wearing them at the seaside.
After-care: Clean thoroughly with a damp cloth and dry before storing away in your jewellery box.
Supplier Product Link: Cleopatra Clit Jewellery
Similar at Uberkinky: Clit Clamps

You can watch my Video Review of the Cleopatra Clit Jewellery by clicking the title screen above!

The Cleopatra Clit Jewellery was sent to me, free-of-charge, by Uberkinky for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

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Burlesque Fun #sinfulsunday

ModestyCloserCleopatraJust returned from a wonderfully fun evening at London Burlesque with our favourite friends . . . wish I’d worn my special swinging jewellery!!!

See just who else is sinfully swinging this Sinful Sunday by kissing
the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Modesty Ablaze reviews Pink Intimate Lubricants for Women

ModestyAblazePinkGroupAs I’ve begun to get just a little bit older over the past two years or so, I have realised that I don’t get quite so naturally “wet” as I used to. It’s nothing to do with a lack of desire or arousal, of course . . . in fact I’m finding thatI get more easily aroused than ever!

It’s more to do with just the natural changes in one’s body as we . . . “mature” . . . a little more. Our bodies produce less hormones, or estrogen, and so our “lady bits” tend to not get quite so moist as they used to. That’s why it’s important to have a nice lubricant close at hand for whenever the need may arise.

So I was absolutely thrilled to receive a parcel from Empowered Products in Los Angeles with their range of Pink personal lubricant products.

As I hope you will be able to see in my video review, or from the pictures here, the individual dispensers are just wonderfully presented. And what I particularly like is that as well as the twist-to-open, and twist back to lock-closed, nozzle to actually dispense the lubricant . . . each bottle is also supplied with a pull-off and then push back on, protective cap which means the bottles can be stored away after use without any dribbles . . . or unexpected ejaculations on their own accord.

Now all of the Pink Lubricants use a variety of botanical ingredients (including Aloe Vera, Ginseng and Vitamin E) specially selected to help minimize irritation and add protection to your skin tissue and private moving parts and membranes. These can also help increase blood flow and heighten sensations during those special moments.

And by using different combinations of these ingredients, Pink have six different products to try . . . all colour coded to make it easy to remember which one is best for you.

Pink240x300The first of that range, the “Pink” Pink . . . is available in four different sizes. 200 millilitres, 120ml, 100ml and 50ml. It is a silicone blend which Pink say is their most lubricating and long-lasting formula. It is water-resistant . . . so you can move into the shower, or even the pool, if you feel inclined! And like all of the Pink range, it is unscented and flavour-free (so none of that false sickly strawberry flavoured taste that I just don’t like at all !!!) It doesn’t contain any Glycerins or Parabens at all and is safe to use with most toys, but not recommended for any of your porous silicone ones.


The next bottle I tried . . . and actually my favourite . . . is “Pink Water”. As the name suggests, it is water-based and feels slightly “wetter” and lighter in texture than the silicone Pink. But it is still very smooth and slippery and doesn’t dry out. “Pink Water” has a nice subtle pale blue branding and has added extracts of Aloe Vera and Oat to minimize irritation, and Ginseng to increase blood flow and enhance sensation. It is available in three sizes of 200ml, 100ml and 50ml, free of Glycerin and is safe for use with all of your toys.


Indulgence240x300“Pink Indulgence” is also available in 200ml, 100ml and 50ml sizes and it’s unique combination of pure-water and crème emulsifiers . . . with a touch of silicone added . . . gives it an ultra soft and silky smooth feel, which makes it ideal for both lubrication AND foreplay massage (or perhaps, AFTER-PLAY massage if you’re like me and just love some “unwinding-time” massage on your back or feet after you’ve just enjoyed your ultimate pleasure!!!) “Indulgence” is free of Glycerin and is safe for use on all toys.


How about “Hot Pink”??? Pink say that this lubricant has their own, patented, warming agent that combines with your own natural lubrication to give an exciting and thrilling sensation that both parties will be able to sense. I must say that you don’t necessarily feel that when you squirt it onto the palm of ones hand . . . but both I, and one of my lovers I recently used it with, did notice a different sensation during play. So . . . !!!

“Hot Pink” is available in two sizes, 100ml and 50ml, and is not recommended for use with silicone toys. (It’s just a little too-hot for those toys!!!)

Frolic240x300But “Pink Frolic” is safe for all toys because it is a purified water-based lube that has a thicker, longer-lasting feel than most other standard water-based lubricants. It is highly-concentrated and so is ideal for applying specifically to the spot(s) just where you want it as it quite thick and not so “watery” as the other bottled lubricants in Pink’s range.
“Frolic” comes in either 100ml or 50ml.



Now, as I said . . . I love the twisting dispenser caps to unlock and lock the bottles, but if during the heat of the moment you would prefer to be able to reach for a larger pop-top tube lubricant, then “Pink Unity” is probably the Pink Lubricant for you.

“Unity” is a hybrid silicone gel which combines silicone molecules and purified water to produce a satiny-smooth slippery-ness, so it is ideal if you feel you really do need extra lubrication. And I can certainly tell you that it does really seem to stay slippery for a long, long time! The tube is 100 millilitres and like the bottled Pink lubes, it is unscented and flavour free. Because it does contain some silicone it is not recommended for porous or silicone toys.

Sparkle240x300And speaking of toys . . . and I’m sure you all enjoy having some toy-time fun occasionally . . . Pink also have their very own Foaming Toy Cleanser . . . called “Sparkle”.

It is alcohol free and contains anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties to properly and safely disinfect and sanitize . . . and it’s soft foamy-spray content makes it really easy to evenly apply all over your favourite toys. And because it is foam-based, Pink tell me that it goes twice as far as most of the regular spray or liquid type toy cleaners you might be more familiar with.

You can see just how easy it is to use on my video! After you’ve applied it you should always wipe your toys over with a clean cloth and rinse with water and dry before re-using. “Sparkle” is available in 200mls or 50mls . . . and I really LOVE it!!!

I’ve mentioned when talking about lubricants in the past that I do think it is really, really important that what we put onto our private bits is safe and not going to cause any discomfort or infection. As you would expect, all of the ingredients are clearly listed on the labels of each of Pink’s products. But if you are like me and don’t have a degree in chemistry or biology . . . those lists can often be more confusing rather than enlightening. So I tend to base my acceptance of a product on the way it “feels” and looks to me . . . and I think all of Pink’s samples I was sent, do just “feel” and “look” right. The packaging of the lubricants themselves is stylish and professional . . . and the product catalogue that accompanied my “Pink Pack” is crammed full with information on all of the ingredients and elements used. And also has a really helpful “Frequently Asked Questions” section and information on the difference between Silicone, Hybrid and Water-based lubes.

So after having “tested” . . . quite thoroughly I might add . . . all of the different “Pinks” here, I can thoroughly recommend them all!

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Wonderfully packaged and easy to use.
Cons: I haven’t discovered any yet.
Does Not Include: Glycerins or Parabens.
Measurements: Various (see individual product specifications from weblink below).
Available Colours: Colour coded for individual products.
Waterproof: See individual product specifications from weblink below.
After-care: See Pink Sparkle Toy Cleanser.
Pricing: Individually priced at extremely reasonable prices!!!
Supplier Product links: Empowered Products

You can also find Pink on Twitter @pinkforus.



You can watch my Video Review of Pink Intimate Lubricants for women by clicking the title screen above!

The Pink range of Intimate Lubricants for Women was sent to me, free-of-charge, by Empowered Products for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.


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Modesty & “The” Pedestrian Crossing

Hubby has always had this thing about a pedestrian crossing . . . not just any pedestrian crossing, but “The” Pedestrian Crossing!!! It was one of the first places he just had to visit when he first arrived in London and, for the past 35 years, he has been trying to get me to walk across it. So . . . I finally did . . . !!!

BUT . . . neither of us realised that, unlike when he first strolled across it alone all those years ago, there is NOW a video camera there! It was only after my Sinful Stroll . . . that we realised we were on film!!!


“I suppose we shouldn’t be too surprised” he said after our discovery.  “After all, it is probably THE most famous pedestrian crossing all across the universe.”


Still, had I’d known about the videocam beforehand, I’m not sure I would have been able to act naturally as I stepped out onto the crossing.


Because, although it’s not on a long and winding road, it was still quite busy . . .


 . . . with cars,  buses, taxis and other pedestrians . . . here there and everywhere!


And I’m sure I sensed a taxi slowing down and the driver offering a ticket to ride!


So you can imagine why I let out a shout when I reached the other side!!!


But, do you want to know a secret? I found every little thing about my stroll wonderfully exciting and fun.
So much so that I wanted to share it with you here . . . from me to you!!!


And, as Hubby says, it may not be something your mother should know, but hopefully when I’m sixty four, I’ll look back at these photos . . . and that video . . . and feel glad all over.

Join all the other people feeling glad all over this Sinful Sunday
by crossing the Sinful lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

P.S. You can view some of my previous Scavenger Hunts at my
Scavenger Hunt Listings Page  . . . and may I suggest you share some strolls of your own at Dee’s site by clicking on the button below!

Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K





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“Steamy Kisses” #realworldsex video @makelovenotporn

ModestyAblazeSteamierKissesI had such a wonderful night of “Passionate Kisses” with Lover No.50 on our first evening together, that I just couldn’t wait to arrange another meeting. And I was so thrilled when he said he felt the same way! And that second meeting . . . on International Happiness Day . . .  was even more passionate than the first!

Starting with a steamy, soapy shower together, this is the longest of any of my MLNP videos . . . fifty minutes long in fact! But it was all so lovely that I just didn’t want to leave anything out. With multiple orgasms from all three of us (yes Hubby comes out from behind the camera on several occasions) I think the wonderful, fun, #realworldsex we all enjoyed, will be obvious throughout our Steamy Kisses“.


The latest “MakeCheekyLove” post on the MakeLoveNotPorn-blog previews “Steamy Kisses” as:

“Modesty Ablaze’s longest MLNP submission to date starts out with some #showertime fun. Because, as we’re sure Modesty knows, getting someone nice and slippery in the shower also provides great lubrication for some steamy #handy action! Things then heat up on the bed between her and Lover No. 50, with hubby filming the entire rendezvous. He eventually joins in, much to everyone’s delight, leading to a menage-a-trois filled with giggles, orgasms, and a raw candidness that’s incredibly real, hot and mesmerizing to watch.”

There are some screen shots and Free Peek links to “Steamy Kisses”, and all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP . . . and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . from my “Why I Love Make Love Not Porn” introductory video (from March 2014) >here<.

“Steamy Kisses” is my seventeenth video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my seventeen #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

And don’t forget, you can ask me ANY questions you like about any of my videos, or anything about MakeLoveNotPorn in the form below.

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Xxx – K

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