Modesty Ablaze is Checking Out #scavengerhunt


You probably won’t be surprised to learn that I quite frequently enjoy “weekends away” . . . and hotel visits up and down the country.


I usually travel light of course . . . packing just the bare-essentials one needs
for an overnight stay.


And more and more often recently, the receptionists seem to allocate me a room on the top floor! . . . so I’m quite used to going up and down, up and down . . .
I mean checking in and out of my room silly!!!

Perhaps you would like to check-out with some fun of your own at Dee’s site by clicking on the button below!
Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

You can see lots of my other Scavenger Hunt visits at my
Scavenger Hunt Listings Page !

P.S. You can also view some of my previous Scavenger Hunts at my
Scavenger Slideshow >here<!!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K

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Bottom to Top #wickedwednesday

ModestyBottomTopI’m often asked what I get “from having a blog” and people sometimes look surprised when I reply “It’s helped me feel better about myself”.

And no, I don’t mean that in a vain or boastful way . . . I actually mean that Modesty Ablaze has truly helped me discover and feel more confident about so many things, both physical and emotional, and helped me more easily accept who I am.

Modesty has been a release, and a celebration, of things that previously I may have worried about admitting or acknowledging . . . and certainly about sharing with others! (Even with those nearest and dearest to me).

Sharing in public those concerns that we all have about the way our body changes as we grow older, sharing our desires about what excites us . . . and sharing our experiences and the “interesting” discoveries we make along the way . . . has made me feel stronger and happier and given me a greater sense of self-esteem.

This week’s prompt at Wicked Wednesday is “self image” and how we feel about ourselves. So it seemed the perfect occasion to share my thoughts above on how Modesty Ablaze has contributed to my changes and experiences over the past few years.

And, of course, another very important discovery I have made since I first bared-my-soul (some would say bared-my-all!!!) across the world-wide-web, is the wonderful sense of community and the sense of belonging that has ensued.
I am constantly grateful for all the comments, emails and private messages I receive . . . offering help or advice at some question I may have posed or suggested. Or thanking me for giving strength and acceptance in the course of a statement, or situation, I may have described.

So Modesty has made me happier and more fulfilled . . . I hope she has made some of you feel the same.

 See who else is sharing from the Wicked Wednesday button below!!!


Xxx – K



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Satin & Lace #sinfulsunday


Sinful Satin & Lace – from 1986

I’ve always loved sinful Satin and Lace – even back in 1986 !
And sometimes I wish I’d known then everything I know now.

But, I tell myself that I wouldn’t have had quite so much fun discovering . . . and experiencing . . . all my sinfully fun times in all the years since!!!

See who else is being Sinful this Sunday by kissing the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Modesty Ablaze in Polaroids Past

Xxx – K


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Modesty ducking down the alley #scavengerhunt

“If you are interested in medieval forms of punishment you must visit
The Ducking Stool”
said the Tourist Information Leaflet . . . now how
could I possibly resist a description like that!!!  ModestyDuckingStool1

So, intrigued and excited, I followed the sign down the little alley . . .


. . . round the corner and out onto the walkway by the river. The Ducking Stool itself, a little wooden stool suspended over the river bank, was surrounded by other interested tourists.


So I had to content myself with reading the Plaque which explained that the stool was used for public punishment for women found guilty of verbal abuse, brawling or other anti-social behaviour.


Well !!! . . . that made me feel all flushed just thinking about it as I strode back up Ducking Stool Walk . . . hoping that my occasional flashes of fun will never be considered as anti-social.

After all, I just want to make people smile and have a little distraction and fun from the everyday norm. And I hope my stroll down Ducking Stool Walk will do that, and qualify for the Alley category at Curvaceous Dee’s Scavenger Hunt.

Perhaps you would like to join in the fun with adding some stolls of your own at Dee’s site by clicking on the button below!
Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

You can see lots of my other Scavenger Hunt strolls at my
Scavenger Hunt Listings Page !

P.S. You can also view some of my previous Scavenger Hunts at my
Scavenger Slideshow >here<!!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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Modesty’s Toy Review Round-up: HedoVibes#97 & The Leather Slapper Paddle @UberKinky

IMG_3375-e1433881512678Photo courtesy of Carnal Queen

Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition start with the guidelines, then use the submission form.

Want to read more reviews? Check out HedoVibes for a list of the latest reviews and stellar reviewers. You can also follow on twitter for the latest round ups. HedoVibes is also accepting photo submissions for each edition.











View all my Sex Toy Video Product Reviews >here<!

Xxx – K

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Sitting comfortably #sinfulsunday


“Are you comfortable No.1? . . . I know I certainly am.”

“Now don’t move, not a flinch . . . or it’s ten swipes for every twitch!!!”

There’s simply bound to be more Sinful Sunday simple comforts from swiping the Sinful lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Thanks and kisses to Vinylman1 for my “Sitting Comfortably” picture above.

Xxx – K


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Contagious enthusiasm, energy and passion for @mystery_vibe



Enthusiasm, energy and passion are contagious emotions aren’t they . . . at least they are for me! And whilst those pure emotions don’t necessarily translate into a successful new product or business start-up, after speaking with Soumyadip Rakshit, Mystery Vibe‘s charming CEO recently,  I have a feeling that in this case they most certainly will!!!

Even in the muted lighting of his Berlin hotel room, after a long day of conference sessioning, our 45-minute Skype video conversation was lit-up with Soumyadip’s enthusiasm and passion as he talked about his Crescendo vibrator “the world’s first truly personal adult toy”.

Now, for me, everything is ALWAYS in the eyes!!! Yes, the eyes are my personal barometer . . . I engage with someone, feel intrigued, interested by someone in how their eyes seem to interact with mine. Then I hear their voice, their words  and I feel their enthusiasm and energy . . . and their passion. And Soumyadip’s eyes intrigued and captured me in the same way that Cindy Gallop talking about @makelovenotporn did.

And so, I watched and listened as Soumyadip explained, with obvious passion and belief, his vision of a truly personal and individually adaptable vibrator.

And so much of what he was saying to me does . . . from my own (quite long LOL!!!) experience of sex toys of all different shapes and sizes . . . ring true. One size, one shape, doesn’t fit all. And in fact for me, quite often I find that it’s not just the shape or intensity of the toy that “does it” for me, it is also about the moment or the things running through my head at the time. And sometimes I want my toy to do something . . . some angle, or speed, or vibration . . .  that it can’t do, but is what I actually want at that specific moment. Something that I didn’t want or need, or hadn’t been dreaming about, on the last occasion I had been playing with that very same toy.

crescendo-introThe Crescendo has been designed to, apparently, change those sort of situations. It can be bent into any number of shapes and forms. So in theory, whether I am lying on my back, or perhaps curled up on my side, or possibly squatting on the floor . . . or even (oohhh) . . . moving through all of the above with my partner of the moment, I can twist and bend the Crescendo to touch and vibrate against parts of me (or us!!!) that I want . . . right here, right now!

And, even more exciting sounding, is that there are sex (sorry six! I’m getting too excited typing about it!) uumm, where am I . . . oh yes, six different motors spread at intervals along the length of the Crescendo. And all of them can be individually programmed with different patterns with the Mystery Vibe smartphone app.

MysteryAppNow, I do like gadgets, but sometimes in the heat of the moment reaching for ones phone may not be the most practical endeavour, so I was happy to be told that there are simple switch buttons on the side of the Crescendo for instant, manual control. But Soumyadip’s persuasive and descriptive enthusiasm of the Smartphone App certainly makes that sound exciting and wonderfully inventive as well.

He went on to explain that the Crescendo’s seamless design means that, as well as being waterproof, it comes with it’s own wireless charging pod so it doesn’t have to be plugged in to charge. The prototype has been completely designed and manufactured in the UK in conjunction with two of the world’s leading design and innovation specialists (Seymourpowell for the production aspect and Fueled for the design and development of the App). And Soumyadip has been travelling extensively worldwide over the past months presenting, talking and networking at various technology and innovation conferences receiving a huge amount of positive interest and press coverage for what truly does sound an intriguing and different approach to a personal vibrator.

And part of that different approach has been to engage with us, the end users so to speak, by embarking on a crowd-funding campaign at to seek support and feedback on the Mystery Vibe. And the fact that the Born campaign has already surpassed their funding goal is testament to Soumyadip and his teams vision.

I can’t wait to experience the Crescendo myself and I am confident from that enthusiasm, energy and passion that was so evident in my Skype conversation with Soumyadip, that I won’t be disappointed . . .

. . . and in the meantime I urge you to investigate and become a supporter of Mystery Vibe yourself . . . but hurry because if you do so before 2 p.m. UK time on Sunday June 21st you can pre-order the Crescendo for half of it’s final selling price!!!

You should view a recent short interview with Soumyadip >here< (scroll down the news article a little bit) for some information about the Crescendo in his own words!!!.

Or watch the videos below for inspiration and intrigue of your own.

Or . . .


Don’t miss the Mystery . . . become part of the Vibe now  . . . via Mystery Vibe or from @mystery_vibe

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews “The UberKinky Leather Slapper Paddle”

UberKinkyLeatherSlapperPaddleI was really surprised when I received my post from Uberkinky three weeks ago. Not surprised because I’d received a parcel from them . . . after all they ARE my favourite, first-choice on-line supplier for all things Kinky . . . but surprised at the size of the item inside as I unwrapped the bubble-wrapping.

I knew I’d ordered the UberKinky Leather Slapper Paddle, and I had read the measurements information . . . but I obviously hadn’t visualised those measurements correctly because as the Slapper Paddle emerged from it’s wrapping I was surprised at it’s length, and it’s width at the . . . slapping end.

Don’t worry though, my surprise was one of excitement and definitely not disappointment . . . and I simply couldn’t wait to try it out.

UberKinkySlapperLooseSo that very night I ordered my No.1 submissive to disrobe and “assume the position” bent over the edge of the bed. And I’m happy to report that neither of us were really disappointed and it has quickly become a regular starting point for all of our sessions since.

Just a “starting point” I hear you ask? Well, I will explain . . . but first more about those measurements and the Paddle itself.

UberKinkySlapperWideThe leather of the strap, or the slapping part, is actually like a long folding loop with each half, if you like, about 2mm thick. The leather is lightly textured . . . feels lovely when you rub the softness of your finger over it . . . and quite firm and rigid, and yet quite supple at the same time. The length of the strap is 15 inches from the handle to the fold of the loop (so that is 30 inches of leather before it is folded over and secured back into the handle).

UberKinkyPaddleStretchAs you can see from my photographs the strap tapers out from it’s narrowest point of one and a half inches at the handle to an impressive four and a half inches at the end where it folds over and runs back to the handle again. And it is that folded element of the design that gives it such a wonderful, springing (stinging?) smack . . . and a wonderfully loud whacking sound, which I absolutely love, as it smacks against soft skin. Obviously the air moving between the two folds of the strap as you swing is what gives it that wonderful, and addictive, slap!!!

As you can probably tell, I love using the Leather Slapper Paddle to warm-up my submissives . . . and get us both into that special energy and excitement-rush of an impact session. The wide leather leaves a lovely warm and rosy glow on the subs bum cheeks, without the welts or stripey marks that my Uberkinky Cane does. And my subs, on whom I have administered it, seem to love it too . . . as the sensation is, apparently, a stinging and pleasant pain without the intensity of some of my other implements.

But . . . and there is always a but isn’t there . . . it is the handle that for me is my one area of disappointment and the one reason I can’t keep using it for too long during a session. If you look closely at my photographs you will see that the handle is not really rounded. Perhaps because of the practicality of the production process, or to make the moulding and stitching of the handle into the leather strap, the handle has a flattened edge on each side as you grip it. And I found that makes it quite uncomfortable to use for any length of time because it seems to judder, and jar more against the palm of my hand each time I make a strike. And the harder I swing and smack, the more I feel it jarring against my grip. So although my submissive might be begging for harder and more extreme smacks, I find it becomes more painful and uncomfortable for me, the longer and harder I try to use it.

UberKinkyHandleSo, although every session is meant to be a combination of pleasure and pain . . . and I definitely enjoy the pleasure of hearing those loud “smacks” and seeing those rosey cheeks becoming redder and redder . . . I just find that I can’t wield it for as long as I (or my subs) would like.

Hence the reason why I said earlier in this review that the Slapper had become my regular “starting point” for one of my impact sessions. But, of course, we all like to change our positions . . . and change our implements as each session progresses don’t we, so aside from my reservations about the handle, I simply LOVE the Uberkinky Leather Slapping Paddle and would highly recommend it as the perfect addition to any dommes punishment box.

Modesty Rating: 9 out of 10
Pros: Wonderful smacking sounds and leaves lovely red blushes.
Cons: The handle shape is uncomfortably constructed for my delicate palms.
Material: Leather.
Measurements: Overall Length 62cm (24.5 inches) from the tip of the handle to the top of the (folding) strap. The Handle itself is 24cm (9.5 inches) in length. The width of the strap at it’s widest point is 11.5cm (4.5 inches). Width of the handle is 3.5cm (1.38 inches).
Noise: Wonderfully loud smacking sounds!!!
Available Colours: Black.
Does not include: Latex, Phthalates.
After-care: I wipe it clean with hot soapy water after use.
Supplier Product Link: UberKinky Leather Slapper Paddle
Additional Links: Paddles

The UberKinky Leather Slapper Paddle was sent to me, free-of-charge, by UberKinky  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Bondage Gear, Restraints, Electro Sex and Fetish Gear at UberKinky

Xxx – K




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Modesty re-cycling responsibily #wickedwednesday #scavengerhunt

We all know how important it is to re-cycle and conserve our energy resources these days. I certainly try to do my bit . . . like 3 (or 4) in a bed . . . or sharing my shower as often as I can!

But they do make it difficult sometimes by not having all those re-cycling bins in the one place!


Why just this morning I had to come here to recycle my general waste . . .


And then here for my glass . . . I will admit, I had quite a few empty wine bottles to dispose of!!!


And then onto here for my clothes and laddered stockings  . . . And NO those are not mine left in that pile!!!


It does make me cross when people just leave things on the footpath like this!

ModestyRecycle5Anyway . . . finally . . . onto here for my empty shoe and toy boxes!!!


And . . . just like at home . . . I always seem to end up tidying-up
after everyone else!!!

Things that make you cross, or riles or upsets you, is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday. So I thought it might help me to get things off my chest
. . . so-to-speak . . . by sharing my post with you here.

 See who else is sharing from the Wicked Wednesday button below!!!


P.S. I also find that indulging in a Scavenger Hunt from time-to-time can be a fun and therapeutic release from cleaning and tidying-up after people!!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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Stained Steel #sinfulsunday

For all you Sinful people who asked for more pictures of my Stainless Steel Abrasive Paddle that I mentioned in Wicked Wednesday during the week.


I’d commanded my Submissive No.1 to buy it for me at last Sunday’s  London Alternative Market from the TrussedUK  stall . . . and I’d been dying to try it out on his bottom all week.

Of course he wasn’t quite so keen . . . but last night I told him
“I’ve waited long enough. Over my knee!!!”

ModestyCheeseGrater2 And to my surprise he actually enjoyed it almost as much as I did. Almost!!!

“Now off you go . . . boiling hot soapy water please. No, not your bottom,
my paddle!!!”

You are sure to discover lots more Sinful Sunday enjoyment from slapping
the Sinful lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

Oh & P.S. – The pretty patterns are still just as clear this morning!!!


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