Spreading the MakeLoveNotPorn Love #wickedwednesday

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “Spreading The Love” . . . so I thought it appropriate to mention my favourite “love-spreading” website MakeLoveNotPorn.tv.

Make Love Not Porn

Some may argue that a pay-for-rental, “adult content” website, couldn’t possibly be included under the heading of spreading, or sharing, love. And . . . they would probably say . . . the fact that you have to register, and then actually pay to view the available content, makes MLNP no different from all of the other on-line “porn” providers. But I would completely disagree!!!

Why? Well because for me, MakeLoveNotPorn shows real people . . . people like you and I . . . indulging in . . . and sharing . . . their love and experiences. And most importantly, sharing them in a fun and completely natural and real way.

All of the videos at MakeLoveNotPorn are curated (or vetted) by the organisation itself, before they are accepted for publishing. And all require validation from all of the participants involved.

Yes there is sex, yes there are naughty bits . . . and yes, the different people indulging in different scenarios may not be to everyone’s taste. But the fact that they are all sharing their own loving and passionate moments, in a completely consensual and natural way, is what makes MakeLoveNotPorn so special.

And it is that sharing that . . . for me . . . makes MLNP the perfect vehicle for Spreading the Love. It shows us all how sex really is, or really should be. Loving, fun, giving and sharing with our lovers, partners . . . and friends! And it challenges all those myths and stereotypes of how sex is portrayed in those “mainstream” on-line porn sites with their plastic Stepford Wives actors, plastic sets and plastic storylines.

I can honestly say that my own fun times have been even more enhanced and emboldened since discovering MLNP. Finding and sharing with like-minded people and feeling part of that community in much the same way that we share here at Wicked Wednesday, makes us all feel more complete and fulfilled. More of my own thoughts and “Spreading the MakeLoveNotPorn Love” is available from my own pages >here< . . .

But FIRST and FOREMOST I would recommend everyone investigate MakeLoveNotPorn for themselves . . . and perhaps the perfect starting point is from this recent interview with MLNP’s inspirational co-founder Cindy Gallop >here< or from Cindy’s presentation at the 2012 TEDxConference >here< as she explains the ethos of MakeLoveNotPorn far more eloquently than I ever could.

So come on . . . “Spread the Love”

AND a very important PS: If you are in London this Friday, March 27th, don’t miss your chance to hear Cindy Gallop talking about MakeLoveNotPorn in person at an aftershow event at the Theatre 503 performance of “Wink”.

Friday 27 March – An Audience With – Cindy Gallop of Make Love Not Porn click >here< for more information. I hope to see you there!


You can see more Love being Spread by visiting Wicked Wednesday from
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 Xxx – K


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Modesty’s Power Lines #scavengerhunt

ModestyPower1If you’ve visited my Mistress pages you will already know that sometimes I do enjoy the “power” of feeling in control.

But that power still has to be fun . . . so how do you turn what may seem like an ugly looking Power Lines Transmitter into something fun?

ModestyPower2By adding it to Curvaceous Dee’s Scavenger Hunt of course!!!

You can see lots of my other Scavenger Hunt transmissions at my
Scavenger Hunt Listings Page  . . . and may I suggest you join in the fun with some sharing of your own at Dee’s site by clicking on the button below!

P.S. You can also view some of my previous Scavenger Hunts at my
Scavenger Slideshow >here<!!!

Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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Man Caged? #sinfulsunday


Admiring . . . in more ways than one! . . . Silverdrop’s wonderfully inspiring post this Sunday, I thought I would join in their suggestion of “More Men in Sinful Sunday”.

This twisting and turning offering from a recent play session is just a little frivolous and naughty fun. But fun is pleasurable and fulfilling . . . and actually I like to think that when I am asked to cage or chastise, it is because the subsequent “release” gives fulfillment and pleasure to both body and mind.

And, of course, fun and frivolity can be motivational and inspirational as well . . . and Silverdrop’s message certainly achieves both!

For more motivation and inspiration twist or turn
the Sinful Sunday lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K


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Modesty takes the Fort #scavengerhunt


Forts . . . I’ve always been fascinated by them. And not just because they make me think of lots of men in uniform parading back and forth.


And not just because of the 7-inch loaders and those long barrels and muzzles!!!


It’s possibly something to do with them always being so strong and solid . . .


Built to last and built to withstand invasion and . . . naked . . . aggression.


This famous fortification in the Southern Hemisphere was built in the 1880’s to protect against the threat of Russian expansion . . .


and it is such a wonderfully exciting collection of connecting storerooms, barracks and armouries . . .


. . . and, of course, gun turrets and observation posts overlooking the harbour below! Although armed and ready throughout both World Wars, the guns here were never fired in anger, so in the 1950’s these fortifications became a public reserve and a popular exploration and tourist point.

So popular that it was quite difficult to pause between fellow tourists to claim this particular Fort as a Scavenger Hunt because . . . you know me . . . I would never wish to upset any passers by with an unexpected or unwelcome confrontation, especially in such a historical location.

You can see lots of my other Scavenger Hunt explorations at my
Scavenger Hunt Listings Page  . . . and may I suggest you join in the fun with some sharing of your own at Dee’s site by clicking on the button below!

P.S. You can also view some of my previous Scavenger Hunts at my
Scavenger Slideshow >here<!!!

Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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Modesty’s Toy Review Round-Up: HedoVibes#83 & The Uberkinky Spiral Steel Male Chastity Device

stainless-steel-butt-plug-review-forbidden-obsessions-14Photo courtesy of Cara Sutra

Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition start with the guidelines, then use the submission form.

Want to read more reviews? Check out HedoVibes for a list of the latest reviews and stellar reviewers. You can also follow on twitter for the latest round ups. HedoVibes is also accepting photo submissions for each edition.












View my latest Video Review of The Uberkinky Spiral Steel Chastity Cage >here<!

View my previous Video Review of The RO-Zen Vibrating Butt Plug >here<!

View my previous Video Review of The Diamond Dream Glass Dildo >here<!

View my previous Video Review of The Infiniti Dual Stimulation Vibrator >here<!

View my previous Video Review of Yes Natural Organic Lubricants >here<!

Visit my Sex Toys page for some of my favourites!

Xxx – K

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Modesty’s “Passionate Kisses” newest #realworldsex video @mlnp


New experiences, new situations and new passions are always fun for me. And my brand new video . . . with a brand new lover . . . at  MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is a wonderful example of that.

Discovering new touches, new smells, new caresses and letting that “new-ness” just develop naturally, feeling happy that you can enjoy such new emotions through a lovers touch . . . and that you can give that same joy and happiness back to someone in return.

And I think it will be obvious from this video just how much fun we both had . . . and I hope you will be able to feel part of our evening together.

There are some screen shots and Free Peek links to “Passionate Kisses”, and all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<. And much more on just why I love the whole concept of MLNP and all of the other Real World People enjoying their own Real World Sex . . . or, you can view my introductory video >here<.

“Passionate Kisses” is my fifteenth video released on Make Love Not Porn and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my 15 #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

And don’t forget, you can ask me ANY questions you like about any of my videos, or anything about MakeLoveNotPorn in the form below.

NB: Submissions from this form are emailed directly to my In-box and are NOT displayed publicly. (Alternatively, you can make public comments, in the normal way, from the “Comment” panel at the very foot of this post).

Make Love Not Porn


Xxx – K

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Modesty Makes Her Exit #sinfulsunday


As I’m sure you can imagine, I much prefer coming . . . rather than going!


But when I do have to make my exit . . . I always try to make it a sinfully fun one!!!


You are sure to see lots more sinfully fun, comings and goings, at this weeks Sinful Sunday from kissing the lips below!

Sinful Sunday

Xxx – K

P.S. I’m hoping that my latest goodbye will qualify for the “Exit” category at Curvaceous Dee’s Scavenger Hunt.

You can view some of my previous Scavenger Hunt entrances and exits at my
Scavenger Slideshow >here<!!!

Come on, it is such funLet’s all Dare to Bare !!!

Scavenger Hunt Platinum Award

Xxx – K


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Skimpy but not Pinky @CliveServes #polaroidspast

@CliveServes 1983

@CliveServes 1983

One of the lovely things about blogging is discovering lots of new people sharing their own fun and their own interests and experiences.

I think that learning of different people’s kinks and what gives them enjoyment and excitement gives us all a much wider perspective on life . . . and that makes me smile and feel good.

And one of those bloggers that always makes me smile and feel good is @CliveServes and I was so thrilled when he recently posted one of his own #polaroidspast from 1983.

You can read Clives “Skimpy but not Pinky” post . . . and browse more of his delightful and fun blog >here<.

And fun is what #polaroidspast is all about. A fun and natural way of celebrating our bodies and reminding ourselves that not only are we all different shapes and sizes, and live different lives and different relationships, but we all change and grow in every aspect as the years pass by. That is just how we all naturally develop and change.

If you have some memories . . . words or pictures . . . of your own that you would like to share, then I would LOVE you to join in.

***You can do so by completing the (confidential) submission form below:

Or, if you prefer, simply grab the Polaroids Past logo below and publish a post on your own blog with #polaroidspast as part of the title, and a link from the logo back to my Polaroids Past page >here<. You can submit your Blog Post URL (if you have one) by completing the form, or enter your contact details in the form and I will reply with further details asap.
NB: The form is completely confidential and your details / comments are not displayed.

Come-on . . . Dare to Bare . . . Be Proud of who You have Become!

Modesty Ablaze in Polaroids Past

Xxx – K

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Uberkinky Stainless Steel Chastity Device reviewed by Modesty Ablaze

As I’m sure you’ll know if you are a regular visitor here, I do love seeing one of my submissives wearing cock and ball rings, or “accessories” of some sort “down there”. But although I’ve often thought about it I’ve never had the opportunity to lock one of my slaves up in a chastity device before.

So you can imagine how thrilled I was when Uberkinky (where it’s not just a fetish – it’s a way of life) offered me the chance to try one out.

But of course . . . just like the Ro-Zen Cock and Ball Ring and Vibrating Butt Plug that I reviewed here last month . . . I haven’t got the necessary “equipment” to actually try it out myselfBut, luckily, I had several willing assistants desperate for the chance to help me actually physically test the device . . . and more on that in a moment!!!

Now, for the purpose of this review . . . AND in my video review (see below) as well . . . I just can’t keep referring to The Chastity Device as a “device”. Sorry Uberkinky, it’s probably just me, but “device” makes me think of some sort of automated, mechanical road-sweeper or TV satellite dish! So to me it’s a “cage” . . . a lovely cage, but a cage all the same.

Lovely glossy presentation box

So . . . the chastity cage arrived in a lovely strong, glossy white box . . . after removing it from it’s discreet plain brown corrugated cardboard delivery package, of course.

The box has an almost magnetic flap that snaps nicely closed so it can quickly and easily be stowed away in your toy drawer . . . the box that is, not the Chastity Cage itself, as I’m sure you’ll be wanting that to be out of the box . . . and in use more often than not. I know I was !!!

Now . . . I’ve seen a number of different designs of chastity cages being worn when I’ve been at various Fetish events and Club nights . . . or hanging up on the racks at several dungeons I’ve held sessions at. But what immediately caught my eye when I first saw this one on the Uberkinky website . . . was it’s open design. It just gives a real impression that the wearer will be truly locked behind bars! With his cock completely caged in it’s own little prison cell . . . and I rather liked that idea!!!

The Chastity Cage is made of body-safe stainless steel and comes with a choice of three different cock rings . . . to suit different sizes of ones cock and balls obviously!

Supplied with 3 different cock rings.

The rings have a protruding shaft, which extends horizontally from the top, with a hole at the end for securing the lock once the cage is position. The larger of the three rings has a restricting diameter of 5 centimetres . . . the middle one is 4 and a half centimetres . . . and the smallest one is 4 centimetres. So there is plenty of choice for the best fit and comfort for the wearer . . . not that we would want him to be so comfortable as to completely forget what he was wearing, now would we girls???

Anyway, the sub pushes his cock , and then pulls his balls one-by-one through the ring so that he is gripped tightly enough around the base of his cock and under his scrotum to hold everything in place.

The stainless steel is perfectly smooth and seamless and . . . I was assured by my testing-assistant . . . doesn’t cause any chafing or rubbing. Even after being worn for several days.

The Spiral Cage itself has an accommodating space . . .  or “cock room” as I call it . . . . of 9 centimetres inside and despite being really strong and robust, it actually feels quite light in ones hand.

The inner diameter is 3 and a half centimetres wide. So even your “largest” submissive should be able to easily slide his cock into the cage, which then slots onto the cock ring’s protruding shaft, positioned directly above his cock obviously. The shaft is 2 and a half centimetres long and gives just enough space for the wearers balls to hang through below. There are also two thin pins which slot snugly into corresponding holes to help secure the cage onto the cock ring.

And then . . . of course . . . there is the lock! It’s a small brass lock, just like the sort you would use as suitcase or luggage lock when you’re going off on holiday. Mine was supplied with three keys. The lock clips easily through the hole on the cock ring shaft . . . and his manhood is then completely caged!!!

Strong and yet surprisingly light.

Now, as I said, I had several willing volunteers who wanted to be my “body-tester” for the Spiral Chastity Cage . . . but for my first occasion of being a “key-holder” I wanted to be able to monitor my new cage at close-quarters. So I commanded my “not quite so willing” Hubby to be my assistant for . . . “well let’s just try it for a day shall we ? . . Just to see how you get on with it!” I told him!!! Being a “chastity virgin” he showed some concern initially, reminding me that I often lose my keys in my bottomless handbag, or put them down somewhere and forget exactly where . . . but with a little not-so-gentle persuasion . . . he agreed to be locked-up for the day. (You can see the evidence, if you are sure you really want to, on one of my Mistress Modesty pages >here<).

Now, although I’ve always been curious about being a “key-holder” . . . I never expected to enjoy it quite as much as I did! It was actually quite empowering and I loved looking at it . . . making him spend all of our time indoors that day, completely naked.

And I was enjoying it so much that I decided to add a little customisation to the cage by attaching a little bell that I just happened to have to hand. (Obviously Uberkinky doesn’t supply a bell with the device but perhaps they should consider it as an optional extra!) I just loved hearing him moving around and the tinkling getting louder as he brought me my glasses of wine . . . or knelt down to massage my feet!

TwoHandsBut I’m sure you want to know how long it kept him chaste . . . and how it felt for him???

Well . . . he found it quite comfortable to wear. And, whilst always being conscious of the tightness around his balls, he said he actually enjoyed the feeling of moving about and having it knocking against him as he walked or sat down or stood up. He did have difficulty at first whenever he had to have a pee . . . spraying everywhere apparently . . . but with some careful practice he soon mastered that art.

I’ve now extended that first-day “trial” to several days in a row . . . although I have let him take off the bell each morning as he goes off to work. And I can report that my “assistant” has had no problems with showering and cleaning . . . or even sleeping . . . apart from just the obvious discomfort of his “morning glory” . . . so from that point of view it certainly works.

And from my own point of view it works as well . . . because I love feeling empowered and even more in control of my submissive . . . literally holding the key to his chastity . . . and his “erectile” freedom.

So much so that I think I’ll soon be ordering two or three more of my submissives to purchase  one of their own to send me.

And . . . if any of you other boys reading this are looking for a “key-holder” . . . I would be more than willing to offer my services . . . with BELLS on of course!!!

Modesty Rating: 9 out of 10
Pros: Light weight Stainless Steel and lovely “cage” design so all his lovely bits are clearly visible.
Cons: I haven’t found any yet.
Material: Body-Safe Stainless Steel.
Does Not Include: Latex or Phthalates.
Size: Length of Cage 90mm. Inner Diameter 32mm.
Cock rings (3 different sizes) – 40mm, 45mm, 50mm.
Available Colours: Silver Stainless Steel
Power: Does not require batteries.
Lubrication: Does not require lubricants.
Waterproof: Yes
After-care: Once . . . eventually . . . removed, it should be washed with hot soapy water and dried before storage (or in the ever-so-short periods you allow it to be removed).
Storage: Strong, glossy white cardboard box supplied.
Supplier Product link: Spiral Stainless Steel Male Chastity Device
Uberkinky: Chastity Devices
Additional Information: Beginner’s Guide to Male Chastity

You can also find Uberkinky on Twitter @UberKinky.

Modesty reviews The Uberkinky Stainless Steel Chastity Device

You can watch my Video Review of the Uberkinky Spiral Stainless Steel Male Chastity Device by clicking the title screen above!

The Spiral Stainless Steel Chastity Device was sent to me, free-of-charge, by Uberkinky for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

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It matters to me #wickedwednesday


This Wednesday’s theme at Marie’s #wickedwednesday is “Nothing Really Matters”. Based around a recent song of the same title . . . but a statement that can be interpreted in lots of different ways.

Because . . . of course . . . so many things in our world do, and should, matter!

BUT . . .  sometimes when one is caught in a particular moment of fun and enjoyment, or love and lust, or attraction and affection . . . it is a wonderful release to just completely give-in to those feelings. To let yourself go and to give your whole being to that precise moment in time . . . moments when nothing else really matters at all. Just to share and enjoy, and to give back to those you are with, the pleasure and fun you are experiencing.

And, as you can probably gather from the snapshot above,  for me at this particular moment in time, nothing else mattered at all!!!

And I expect you will discover lots of other things that matter . . . or not, as the case may be . . .  by visiting Wicked Wednesday from the button below!!!


P.S. The snapshot above is the “prequel” of the “sequel” I shared last weekend at Sinful Sunday. Both of which are taken from a new video which I hope to tell you about  soon on my Modesty Ablaze Videos page.

 Xxx – K


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